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Make a positive change:

If you're reading this article, your baby has probably just started hitting you. Maybe you havetried a few things (yelling, ignoring, redirecting) and they haven't worked. My husband and Itried everything with our 14 month old and finally found that creative redirection worked best.What do we mean by creative redirection? Well, you know it as a "high five"!#2

When the baby strikes:When your baby hits you, keep calm and know that she's not trying to hurt you. As best as youcan, ignore what she just did.#3

The High Five:Then, immediately start this new activity. Hold out your hand and teach your baby how to do ahigh-five. This works best if you have another parent or caregiver to model the high-five. Cheerand praise when your baby gets the high-five right. She'll want to high-fives over and over again.Keep doing it! And keep cheering!#4

Reinforcing:Now, whenever you feel like doing a high-five, do it! That will help your baby remember how to

high-five, and help her associate happy feelings with high-fives. The next time she hits you, ask ifshe wants to high-five. Then do as many high-fives as she wants. Your baby will start to equatehigh-fives, with lots of positive attention. She will prefer to high-five than hit your face (whichreceives little to no attention).

If your toddler is hitting you or other people and you just don't know how to stop it - then I haveyou good tips for you! Many parents hit back and it's not the method I recommend you no matterwhat - he is only a child, not a criminal! Don't even think about spanking him - it will only addfuel to the fire!

First of all you have to understand that your toddler is hitting you or others not because he wishes

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babyhittingface.txtto hurt someone, but because that it's probably the only way for him to make social contacts withpeople! Since he still probably can't talk then the best way for him to get attention is with physicalcontact!

Most of the times this simple method will work - just gram his little hands and don't him move for10-20 seconds! Look him in the eyes and tell him that hitting is unacceptable for you! Mostparents who use this method still do one mistake - they are not consistent! One time they will do it,another time they will scream at the child, third time they will ignore - you must repeat it timeafter time until your child learns!

You can also teach him other methods of communication. Tell him that if he wants something hecan touch you gently. When he does it give him some sort of prize - ice cream, candy or a stronghug and kiss! That way he'll understand, after few times, what works better for him and use thegentle way to get attention!

One more thing - it's very important not to overreact. Since you do understand the real reasonbehind the hitting then you don't have to get angry! I hope I helped you, good luck!

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babyhittingface.txt* Tell your child to clap his hands whenever he feels an urge to hitthis gives him an outlet for

his emotions.* If you have a child who has trouble controlling his physical acts, avoid wrestling and other

physical play at home.

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Children resort to aggressive behaviors because of a lack of wisdom and self-controlit is not asign that they are hateful or mean. Here's how to teach your child to handle his frustration andanger in appropriate ways.1. Intercede Before Your Child Acts Out

Watch your child during playtime. When you see him becoming frustrated or angryintervene.Coach him through the issue by teaching him what to do, or modeling what he should say to hisfriend as opposed to lashing out. If he seems too upset to learn, redirect his attention to anotheractivity until his emotions level out.2. Teach Your Child How to React

It's one thing to step into an argument and solve it yourself, but it's another thing entirely to teachhim what to do in advance of the next problem. This can be done through role-play, discussion,

and reading a few children's books about angry emotions.3. Examine Hidden Causes

Is your child hungry, tired, sick, jealous, frustrated, bored, or scared? If you can identify anyfeelings driving his actions, then you can address those along with the aggressive behavior.4. Don't Reward Bad Behavior with Extra Attention

Often the child who hits gets so much attention that the action becomes a way of gaining thespotlight. Instead, give more attention to the child who was hurt. Simply say: "No hitting!" Then,turn and give attention to the child who was wronged.5. Teach Positive Physical Touching

Show your child how to hold hands during a walk, or how to give a back rub or foot massage.6. Clap Off

Tell a child to clap his hands whenever he feels an urge to hit. This gives him an immediate outletfor his emotions and helps him learn to keep his hands to himself.7. Give your Child a Time Out

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When a child acts out aggressively, immediately and gently take him by the shoulders, look him inthe eye and say: "No hurting others-time out." Guide the child to a chair and tell him: "You mayget up when you can play without hitting." By telling him that he can get up when he's ready, you

let him know he is responsible for controlling his own behavior. If he gets up and hits again, say:"You are not ready to get up yet," and direct him back to time out.8. Avoid Play Hitting and Wrestling

Young children who roughhouse with a parent or sibling during playtime may be tempted to usethese same actions during non-wrestling times. It can be hard for them to draw the line betweenthe two. If you have a child who has trouble controlling his physical acts, then avoid this kind ofplay.9. Don't lose control

It's easy to get angry when you see your child hurting another child. This won't teach your childwhat he needs to learn: i.e. how to control his emotions when others are making him mad. Whenyou're mad, your child will be watching how you handle your anger.10. Don't focus on punishment

More than anything your child needs instructions on how to treat other human beings,particularly during moments of anger or frustration.

Correcting Toddler Behavior - Biting, Hitting, & Throwingby Danielle Haines(22 Comments)

Shocking as it may be, aggressive behaviors, such as biting, hitting, and throwing things are anormal part of your toddler's development. It is a part of a child learning self-control. Usually,toddlers phase out of bad behaviors by age four. Still-emerging language skills, a fierce desire to

become independent, and undeveloped impulse control make children this age prime candidatesfor getting physical. That doesn't mean you should ignore it, of course. Let your toddler know thataggressive behavior is unacceptable and show him other ways to express his feelings.

Biting

While it is crucial to accept the premise that biting is an age-appropriate behavior for toddlers, it

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babyhittingface.txtis just as important to accept that biting is not an acceptable behavior. Adults must help toddlerscontrol their urge to bite other children by responding quickly and firmly.

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First, the biting child should be stopped with a firm no!. At the same time that the adult speaks,the adult should act. Ideally, one adult steps in to help the victim while another stops the bitingchild. Where this is not possible, the biting child should usually be dealt with first. Discipline fortoddlers is most effective when it occurs immediately after the unacceptable action. The bitingchild should be removed from the situation in the form of redirection of attention or time-out.

Preventing biting before it happens is better than dealing with it after it occurs. Consequently,adults should carefully observe the moods and needs of toddlers. When a child is exhibiting lowtolerance for frustration, or when a child has a history of biting, or when a child is teething, adultsmust pay especially close attention to the potential-biting child.

Hitting

Toddlers are fascinated with what they can make happen over and over and they are also curiousabout how people react in different situations. Hitting people satisfies both of these interests.Furthermore, toddlers see the world only from their own point of view and therefore dontunderstand that other people have different ideas and feelings than they do.

Don't be afraid to let your child know you are angry. Use it as a teaching moment. You are not

trying to frighten or browbeat the child into submission. You are trying to express angerconstructively, so your child will know how it's managed.

1. Stop the physical aggression immediately. If your child has hit you, don't let him/her hit yourepeatedly. Grip their wrist firmly, and say with equal firmness, "No hitting. You do not hit me.You can be angry, but you may not hit."

2. Expect compliance. Do not let go of the wrist until you can feel the tension leave the child. If youmisjudge, and they swing at you again when you let go, repeat the step above, and hold longer.Wait for him/her to relax. Repeat your words. Keep this up for as long as it takes. Be gentle, befirm, but be unyielding.

3. When they begin to relax, praise/encourage them.

4. When the child is no longer coiled to strike, praise them again. Give, and receive, a hug with thechild. This is not letting them away with it. They need to know it's all right to be angry, that theycan be angry, they can express it in other ways, and that they're still loved, even if they experienceanger.

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5. Quickly move on to the next thing.

Remember, that just as your child has the right to expect you to treat them respectfully, you have

the right to be treated respectfully by your child. If this is your consistent response, you willgreatly reduce or even entirely eliminate hitting in a matter of weeks.

When Your Toddler Says No

Saying the word no is a necessary part of being a toddler. Kids this age are driven by the need tomake their own decisions, to be autonomous, and to control their world, and the way they expressthese needs is through the word no. If you're the parent of a toddler, you'll hear it morning, noon,and night.Don't try to talk your little one out of it, and don't forbid it. No is not optional. Kids this age canbe worked with, however. If you encourage their feelings of autonomy and power, you'll lessen thenumber of no's in your family. Here are a few suggestions:

* Give your child choices so she feels a sense of control over her world. Apple juice or carrotuice? Would you like me to help you into your stroller, or do you want to do it yourself?

* Encourage independence by letting them do things for themselves, and setting up theirenvironment so they can. This may mean putting toys in bins, keeping cups for water on lowshelves, putting stools near sinks, and generally making your home more child-friendly. Enrollyour child as your assistant. Let your child be a participant in family work and she'll feel neededand powerful in her ability to help.

* Don't expect your child to always be nice, and don't take her no personally. Your child isnot defiant, angry, or negative-she's a toddler saying no.

When Your Toddler Throws Things

Toddlers are delighted by cause-and-effect relationships. By dropping and throwing objects, yourbudding scientist is discovering gravity just as Sir Isaac Newton did some 300 years ago. Spoonsclatter, cups crash, but Cheerios make almost no sound at all. Each of these revelations is magicalto your little one. Part of his delight comes from being able to relive the discovery over and over.Here's what to keep in mind so you survive this stage:

He's not acting out. Your pitcher-in-training's predilection for tossing is not an act of defiance or

aggression. Sometimes it's your preverbal toddler's only means of communication. An emptysippy cup thrown on the floor could mean he's still thirsty and wants more. Become attuned towhat's being thrown and you might learn to better understand his needs.

You can set limits. Tell him what may and may not be thrown (balls good, food bad), and wherethrowing is okay, preferably outdoors and not from his high chair. Gently say "No throwing," andshake your head firmly with a serious look on your face. If he persists, tell him: "If you want to

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babyhittingface.txtthrow, I'll take you out of the high chair and we'll go in the backyard and play catch." Thenfollow through. As long as you're calm and consistent, he will learn.

All toddlers will exhibit all of these inappropriate behaviors, so do not feel like you are alone.

Your toddler is beginning to express himself, show independence, and experiment with limits.Your job is to redirect the behavior, and show him that these bad behaviors are not appropriateand will not be tolerated. With time, patience, and by following through your toddler willeventually outgrow this phase.

How Can We Stop Our Toddler From Hitting?

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Hitting is a common problem among toddlers. However, it is important to understand why a childhits before trying to stop your toddler from hitting.

Toddlers are still developing their concept of themselves and their concept of others. At that stageof development, it is difficult for a toddler to understand exactly how hitting might harm anotherchild or another person. Often times, a hit is not made out of aggression on the part of yourtoddler; it is more often a way for your toddler to try to make their point, or to expressthemselves. In some cases, hitting is just a part of toddler experimentation with ideas about causeand effect. If he hits his sister, your toddler gets to hear her scream, for example. For othertoddlers, hitting is often just the result of regular playing gone bad.

Some tips to help stop your toddler from hitting include:

Dont hit your child back. Generally, your toddler isnt trying to hurt his playmate. He needs tobe told that the action is wrong, and if you hit your toddler back, it sends a mixed message to himthat hitting is OK sometimes.

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babyhittingface.txt Give her the benefit of the doubt. Again, your toddler may not be trying to misbehave. Explainthat it is wrong to hit someone and offer a time out or other appropriate punishment.

If your toddler is hitting to make a point or out of frustration, help him explore other options to

solve the problem. If he hits a playmate that takes a toy, show him how to use words to get the toyback rather than his fist. Give him alternatives to hitting.

Be aware of the signs. Your toddler will often repeat certain patterns; if you see that yourtoddler is getting angry or frustrated, stop him and redirect him before he gets to the hitting stage.

Explain why biting is wrong. Do it simply and firmly. Look her in they eye and tell her thathitting hurts. We dont hit. Tell your friend that you are sorry.

Dont reward hitting with attention. Give more attention to the child who has been hit.

Toddlers are at a difficult state in their lives. They are experiencing new freedoms, independenceand abilities, but they also have a strong need for security. The way that you handle hitting andother inappropriate behaviors can make the difference on whether they continue theinappropriate behavior.

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