Anger, Aggression , Assertiveness and Emotional Literacy

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Anger, Aggression ,Assertiveness andEmotional Literacy



Emotion….

• An emotion is a mental and physiological state associated with

, ,a wide variety of feelings thoughts

.and behavior•

• Emotions may manifest themselves as,subjective experiences often

, ,associated with mood temperament,personality and disposition



Emotional Literacy

• m otion al li tera cy is the bil ity to ident ify ,

understand , nd e spon d t o

mot ions in ones elf nd o ther s in a

.ealt hy m anner

•

••



HOW TO STUDY



Activity 1Pair-Think-Share

• a ir with a partner

•

• Identify the emotions associated

( )with each face identify emotions•

• hink ( )about why understand emotions

• Share your thoughts

•



Conti…..

• Identify emotions – Which emotions do the following faces

express?

• Understand emotions – How do you know?



Identify, Understand Emotions



Day to Day emotions

, , , ,Happiness fear anger affection, , , , ,shame disgust surprise lust sadness, , , ,elation love frustration anxiety,failure achievement etc.

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:There are TWO dimensions of emotions

Physiological side‘ ’ ,Emotion is a complex state of human mind

involving bodily changes of widespread, ,character such as breathing pounding heart

, , ,flushed face sweating palms pulse rate

, .gland secretions etc

Psychological side A state of excitement or perturbation

.marked by strong feelings

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Emotions and feelings

• Anger : , , ,outrage resentment annoyance.hostility

• Love : , , ,acceptance friendliness trust, .kindness infatuation

• Shame : , , , .guilt humiliation regret• Fear : , , .anxiety nervousness terror

• Enjoyment : , , ,happiness joy relief, .contentment pleasure

• Sadness : , , ,Grief sorrow cheerlessness.gloom

• Surprise : , ,Shock astonishment amazementwonder



What is exactly EQ

Emotional intelligence or Emotional Quotient:is simply defined as

• , ,knowing what feels good what feels bad

.and how to get from bad to good• Knowing your emotions and knowing emotion.of others

• It refers to emotional management skills which provide competency to balance

emotions and reason so as to maximize .long term happiness

•



Emotional Intelligence

It is the ability of an individual to respond to the variety of emotions

Emotional intelligence constitutes three psychological dimensions such

as

• ,m otion al co mpet enc y

• m otion al ma turi ty and

• m otion al se nsit ivi ty ,•



1. Emotional Competency

• Tackling Emotional Upsets

• -High Self esteem

• Handling Egoism

• Handling Inferiority Complex

•



2. Emotional Maturity

• -Self Awareness

• Developing Others

• Delaying Gratification

• Adaptability and Flexibility

•



3. Emotional Sensitivity

• Understanding Threshold of Emotional Arousal

• Empathy

• -Improving Inter personal Relations• Communicability of Emotions

•



“ Anyone can b

e angry — tha t

is easy.

Bu t to be angry wi th the

righ t person,

to the righ t degree,

a t the righ t tim

e,

for the righ t pu

rpose,

and in the righ t way

tha t is no t eas

y.”



Anger

• ,Anger is a natural emotion just like so many of the other emotions that

- -you go through in your day to day

.life

• .Anger in itself is not a problem The real problem is how you handle your

anger.



Tips to handle anger

• Analyze why you are angry???

• Analyze what makes you angry???

• Analyze where you get angry???

• ….Express anger constructively



Anger and health

• Anger can have a negative impact on your overall— , .health physical emotional and psychological Getting angry often or aggressive expression of

.anger can be harmful Pent up anger can affect.you too

• Most common health problems associated with:destructive anger are

q , , ,headaches sleeplessness digestive problems

q , ,high blood pressure eating difficulties

q - ,stress and stress related problems

q ,deep sadness if your reason for getting angry is not adequately addressed and uncontrolled anger can sometimes lead to a heart attack in people





Anger? Love? E-IQ TestEmotional Intelligence Test

-Other E IQ tests I have examined seem not to talk much.about the emotions themselves This emotional

.intelligence quiz does What about Love in relationship? Hate in relationship?

Grief? Terror? Anger? Jealousy? Shame? Etc? -This E IQ emotional intelligence test will show you where

(&your emotional intelligence responses those of many) (in this culture might be stuck and need work via- ).self help or therapy

, -Unlike an IQ test there is no scoring of this E IQ emotional intelligence test that compares you with

.others

The below questions were selected because each would be- - .answered in a less than optimum way by millions of us: - - (Note this E IQ test is thought provoking and

).offensive to some

•



. / ...1 T F I do not get angry when.verbally attacked

. / ...2 T F I am comfortable with others'

,grief even those in close relationship.to me

. / ...3 T F I get angry or fearful when

.physically threatened . / ...4 T F I am able to decide to love.another and then do so

. / ...5 T F I am comfortable with others'

.anger and hate . / ...6 T F I worry regularly in some

.circumstances



. / ...7 T F At times and in some.circumstances I feel shame

. / ...8 T F My anger keeps coming back

in certain situations or with specific.people

. / ...9 T F For some things I have done

, .in the past I feel guilty . / ...10 T F At times I feel degraded.and humiliated

. / ...11 T F Regularly I get anxious

.about some situations•



. / ...12 T F Sadness keeps recurring for.me over specific issues

. / ...13 T F Jealousy is sometimes a

.part of my life . / ...14 T F I get blue or depressed

.regularly . / ...15 T F In my life is stress that

.never ends . / ...16 T F I am comfortable hugging

.other adults of either sex . / ...17 T F I regularly allow my own

.wracking sobs and tears

•



. / ...18 T F With a particular partner I.am able to express all the emotions

. / ...19 T F Once my sobs and tears have

, .been released I feel great . / ...20 T F I am comfortable saying the

" " ,words I love you to men women and.children in a feeling way

•



Answers…

• -Question 1 5 TRUE

• -Question 6 15 FALSE

• -Question 16 20 TRUE

Calculate the emotional intelligence by measuring

……your score



Aggression

• It refers to behavior between members of the same species that is intended to

.cause pain or harm

• Predatory or defensive behavior between

members of different species is not" ."normally considered aggression

• Aggression takes a variety of forms

among humans and can be

, , .physical mental or verbal

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Conti..

• Aggression should not be confused with,aassertiveness although the terms are

often used interchangeably among, . .laypeople e g an aggressive

.salesperson• There are two broad categories of

.aggression

1)Hostile, ,affective or retaliatory

aggression and2)Instrumental, , -predatory or goal oriented

aggression



A Fact..

• ,Across many different human cultures men are more likely than women to express

aggression by means of direct physical.violence

• Women are more likely to instead express aggression through a variety of indirect

.or nonphysical means

•



Attempting To Control Your Anger And Other Emotions

,make a list of your enemies type of people.,you hate possible incidents that may

.provoke you

/Think yourself and or discuss with others

to find a justification for all these.things

. Write them in a book

.Read them in every weekend

.Update your list every month

•



Definition of Assertiveness

An honest, direct, and

appropriate expression of

one's feelings, thoughts, and beliefs.

A r e sp on s

e t o t h e qu

e s t i on s in

d i c a t e s

an a s s er t i v

e appr o a c h

.



Test Your Assertiveness of 3)

u Can you express negative feelings about other people and their

behaviors without using abusive

language?

u Are you able to exercise and express your strengths?

u Can you easily recognize and

’compliment other people s

achievements?



Test Your Assertiveness

u Do you have the confidence to ask for what is rightfully

yours?u Can you accept criticism without

being defensive?u Do you feel comfortable

accepting compliments?u Are you able to stand up for

your rights?



Test Your Assertiveness (

u Are you able to refuse unreasonable requests from

, , -friends family or co

workers?

u Can you comfortably start and carry on a conversation

with others?u Do you ask for assistance when

you need it ?



Why Assertiveness Is Important?

u Effective communication brings about the

achievement of individual

/ .and or shared goals

u Assertiveness increases your ability to reach these

goals while maintaining

.your rights and dignity



The Myths About Assertiveness

u ’Other people s feelings and rights.are more important than yours

u You are not important

enough to express your feelings and

.rights

u You will offend other

.people by being assertive



Assertive Rights

.You have the right to be assertive You have the right to request that others change their behavior if

.they are infringing on your rights You have the right to use your own time

.to answer questions You have the right to express your

needs even if they are illogical.

Be aware that there are responsibilitiesattached to all these rights!



Remember

´ .You do not live in isolation´ .Your actions impact everyone

´ .You are in control of your behavior

´ Your response to a situation must be

guided by ascertaining your rights and responsibilities and

.following through



What’s Keeping You FromBeing Assertive?

´ .Fear of change

´ .Refusal to admit their submissiveness

´ Fear of ruining relationships if you

.speak your mind´ .Lack confidence in your ability







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