ANAND KARAJ AnMd kwrj

•According to Bhai Kahn Singh in Mahan Kosh AnMd:

•^uSI(Bliss)

•rwg rwmklI iv~c ie~k ^ws bwxI•is~K Drm Anuswr ivAwh dw nwaN

ANAND KARAJ AnMd kwrj

• What is AnMd kwrj?

•It is the Sikh Wedding Ceremony

•Performed in the Gurduara in the presence of Guru Granth Sahib

•Only Sikhs should be married with this process

•First started by Guru Amardas ji

•Formalized Lavaan(4) by Guru Ramdas Ji

•Guru Arjan Dev ji–first Guru to be married by Lavaan

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• Key Points from Sikh Rehat Maryada:•Wedlock for Sikh man & woman without caste/status consideration

•Performed in the Gurduara in the presence of Guru Granth Sahib

•Sikhs of marriageable age only

•No engagement ceremony or other horoscope consultation rituals

•No dowry / monetary consideration

•Ceremony should be according to Anand Karaj process (details in next slide)

•Widow or Widower may re-marry

Actual Ceremony:•Held in Gurduara•First Ardas for bride/groom and Family•After Hukam, explanation of duties and obligations to bride and groom•The father of the bride hands the sash (Palla) of the groom to the daughter (bride) •This is followed by the reading of the 4 Lavaan, during each Lavaan the bride and groom go around the Guru Granth Sahib• Afer the Lavaan, the following shabad is read:

vIAwhu hoAw myry bwbulw gurmuKy hir pwieAw]gwau gwaurI dulhnI mMglcwrw]

myyry igRh Awey rwjw rwm Bqwrw]1] rhwau]•Ardas•Hukamnama

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Summary of 4 Laavan

• In the first round, I have obtained instructions to be followed in marital life. By doing the right things in life and reciting Vaheguru’s name, all sins of the past will be washed away. Vaheguru’s name brings happiness and is soothing to the mind. Now, my marriage ceremony has begun.

• In the second round, with Vaheguru’s grace, I have now met the True Guru. With the fear of Vaheguru in my mind, worldly fears are gone, ego has been removed from the mind and His praises are being sung. He is everywhere, within us and outside. His praises are sung and heard by His devotees. In this second round, divine music is heard.

• In the third round, the mind is filled with praises of Vaheguru. In the company of saints, by singing and praising I have found Vaheguru. Now, love of Vaheguru has been awakened in my heart.

• In the fourth round, the mind understands the knowledge of Vaheguru and He is realized within. He is so wonderful and sweet and I have become pleasing to Him. He fills my thoughts day and night. Now I have obtained what I really desired and that is Vaheguru.

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• hir pihlVI lwv privrqI krm idRVwieAw bil rwm jIau ] • hy rwm jI! mYN qYQoN sdky hW [ (qyrI imhr nwl gurU ny is`K ƒ) hir-nwm jpx dy Awhr ivc ru`Jx dw kMm inScy krwieAw hY (qwkId kIqI hY) [ iehI hY

pRBU-pqI nwl (jIv-iesq®I dy ivAwh dI) pihlI sohxI lWv [• In the first round of the marriage ceremony, the Lord sets out His Instructions for performing the daily duties of married life.

• bwxI bRhmw vydu Drmu idRVhu pwp qjwieAw bil rwm jIau ] • hy BweI! gurU dI bwxI hI (is`K vwsqy) bRhmw dw vyd hY [ ies bwxI dI brkiq nwl prmwqmw dw nwm ismrn dw) Drm (Awpxy ihrdy ivc) p`kw kro (nwm

ismirAW swry) pwp dUr ho jWdy hn [• Instead of the hymns of the Vedas to Brahma, embrace the righteous conduct of Dharma, and renounce sinful actions.

• Drmu idRVhu hir nwmu iDAwvhu isimRiq nwmu idRVwieAw ] • hy BweI! prmwqmw dw nwm ismrdy rho, (mnuKw jIvn dw ieh) Drm (Awpxy AMdr) p`kw kr lvo [ gurU ny jo nwm ismrn dI qwkId kIqI hY, iehI is`K vwsqy

isimRiq (dw aupdyS) hY [• Meditate on the Lord's Name; embrace and enshrine the contemplative remembrance of the Naam.

• siqguru guru pUrw AwrwDhu siB iklivK pwp gvwieAw ] • hy BweI! pUry gurU (dy ies aupdyS ƒ) hr vyly cyqy r`Ko, swry pwp ivkwr (ies dI brkiq nwl) dUr ho jWdy hn• Worship and adore the Guru, the Perfect True Guru, and all your sins shall be dispelled.

• shj Anµdu hoAw vfBwgI min hir hir mITw lwieAw ] • hy BweI! ijs mnuK dy mn ivc prmwqmw dw nwm ipAwrw l`gx l`g pYNdw hY, aus v`fy BwgW vwly ƒ Awqmk Afolqw dw suK imilAw rihMdw hY [ • By great good fortune, celestial bliss is attained, and the Lord, Har, Har, seems sweet to the mind.

• jnu khY nwnku lwv pihlI AwrMBu kwju rcwieAw ]1] • dws nwnk AwKdw hY—prmwqmw dw nwm jpxw hI pRBU-pqI nwl jIv-iesq®I dy ivAwh dI pihlI lWv hY [ hir-nwm ismrn qoN hI (pRBU-pqI nwl jIv-

iesq®I dy) ivAwh (dw) mu`F b`Jdw hY [1[• Servant Nanak proclaims that, in this, the first round of the marriage ceremony, the marriage ceremony has begun. ||1||

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• hir dUjVI lwv siqguru purKu imlwieAw bil rwm jIau ] • hy rwm jI! mYN qYQoN sdky hW [ (qUµ imhr kr ky ijs jIv-iesq®I ƒ) gurU mhw purK imlw dyNdw hYN[• In the second round of the marriage ceremony, the Lord leads you to meet the True Guru, the Primal Being.

• inrBau BY mnu hoie haumY mYlu gvwieAw bil rwm jIau ] • mn (dunIAw dy) swry frW vloN infr ho jWdw hY, (gurU aus dy AMdroN) haumY dI mYl dUr kr dyNdw hY—iehI hY pRBU-pqI nwl (jIv-iesq®I dy ivAwh dI) dUjI

sohxI lWv [• With the Fear of God, the Fearless Lord in the mind, the filth of egotism is eradicated.

• inrmlu Bau pwieAw hir gux gwieAw hir vyKY rwmu hdUry ] • hy BweI! (jyhVI jIv-iesq®I haumY dUr kr ky) prmwqmw dy gux gWdI hY, aus dy AMdr (pRBU-pqI vwsqy) Awdr-sqkwr pYdw ho jWdw hY, auh prmwqmw ƒ

Awpxy AMg-sMg v`sdw vyKdI hY [ • In the Fear of God, the Immaculate Lord, sing the Glorious Praises of the Lord, and behold the Lord's Presence before you.

• hir Awqm rwmu pswirAw suAwmI srb rihAw BrpUry ] • pRBU Awpxy Awpy dw pswrw pswr irhw hY, Aqy auh mwlk-pRBU sB jIvW ivc ivAwpk ho irhw hY [• The Lord, the Supreme Soul, is the Lord and Master of the Universe; He is pervading and permeating everywhere, fully filling all spaces.

• AMqir bwhir hir pRBu eyko imil hir jn mMgl gwey ] • AMdr Aqy bwhr (swry jgq ivc) isr& prmwqmw hI (v`sdw id`sdw hY), swD sMgiq ivc iml ky auh pRBU dI is&iq-swlwh dy gIq gWdI rihMdI hY [• Deep within, and outside as well, there is only the One Lord God. Meeting together, the humble servants of the Lord sing the songs of joy.

• jn nwnk dUjI lwv clweI Anhd sbd vjwey ]2] • hy dws nwnk! dUjI lWv (jIv-iesq®I dy ivAwh dI) qor id`qI hY, (ies Awqmk AvsQw qy phuMcI jIv-iesq®I dy AMdr pRBU) is&iq-swlwh dI bwxI dy, mwno,

iek-rs vwjy vjw dyNdw hY [2[• Servant Nanak proclaims that, in this, the second round of the marriage ceremony, the unstruck sound current of the Shabad resounds. ||

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• hir qIjVI lwv min cwau BieAw bYrwgIAw bil rwm jIau ] • hy rwm jI! mYN qYQoN sdky hW [ (qyrI imhr nwl) vYrwgvwnW dy mn ivc (qyry imlwp leI) qWG pYdw huMdI hY,qIjI sohxI lWv hY [

• In the third round of the marriage ceremony, the mind is filled with Divine Love.

• sMq jnw hir mylu hir pwieAw vfBwgIAw bil rwm jIau ] • hy BweI! ijnHW v`fy BwgW vwly mnu`KW ƒ sMq jnW dw imlwp hwsl huMdw hY, auhnW ƒ prmwqmw dw myl pRwpq huMdw hY, (auh mnu`K jIvn ƒ) piv`qr krn vwly pRBU dw imlwp

pRwpq krdy hn,

• Meeting with the humble Saints of the Lord, I have found the Lord, by great good fortune.

• inrmlu hir pwieAw hir gux gwieAw muiK bolI hir bwxI ]

• sdw pRBU dy gux gWdy hn, Aqy mUMh nwl prmwqmw dI is&iq-swlwh dI bwxI aucwrdy hn, auh vf-BwgI mnu`K sMq jnW dI sMgiq ivc pRBU-imlwp pRwpq krdy hn [

• I have found the Immaculate Lord, and I sing the Glorious Praises of the Lord. I speak the Word of the Lord's Bani.

• sMq jnw vfBwgI pwieAw hir kQIAY AkQ khwxI ]

• hy BweI! Ak`Q pRBU dI is&iq-swlwh sdw krdy rihxw cwhIdw hY, (ijhVw mnu`K pRBU dI is&iq-swlwh krdw rihMdw hY,

• By great good fortune, I have found the humble Saints, and I speak the Unspoken Speech of the Lord.

• ihrdY hir hir hir Duin aupjI hir jpIAY msqik Bwgu jIau ]

• ihrdy ivc sdw itkI rihx vwlI pRBU-pRym dI rO c`l pYNdI hY [ pr, hy BweI! prmwqmw dw nwm (qdoN hI) jipAw jw skdw hY, jy m`Qy au~qy cMgw Bwg jwg pey [

• The Name of the Lord, Har, Har, Har, vibrates and resounds within my heart; meditating on the Lord, I have realized the destiny inscribed upon my forehead.

• jnu nwnku boly qIjI lwvY hir aupjY min bYrwgu jIau ]3]

• hy BweI! dws nwnk AwKdw hY qIjI lWv smy (jIv-iesq®I dy) mn ivc pRBU (-imlwp dI) qIbr qWG pYdw ho jWdI hY [3[

• Servant Nanak proclaims that, in this, the third round of the marriage ceremony, the mind is filled with Divine Love for the Lord. ||3||

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• hir cauQVI lwv min shju BieAw hir pwieAw bil rwm jIau ] • hy sohxy rwm! mYN qYQoN sdky hW [ (qyrI myhr nwl ijs jIv-iesq®I dy) mn ivc Awqmk Afolqw pYdw ho jWdI hY,

• In the fourth round of the marriage ceremony, my mind has become peaceful; I have found the Lord.

• gurmuiK imilAw suBwie hir min qin mITw lwieAw bil rwm jIau ]

• aus ƒ qyrw imlwp ho jWdw hY [ (ieh Awqmk AvsQw pRBU-pqI nwl jIv-iesq®I dy imlwp dI) cOQI sohxI lWv hY [

• As Gurmukh, I have met Him, with intuitive ease; the Lord seems so sweet to my mind and body.

• hir mITw lwieAw myry pRB BwieAw Anidnu hir ilv lweI ]

• hy BweI! gurU dI srn pY ky (pRBU-) pRym ivc (itk ky, ijs jIv-iesq®I ƒ pRBU) iml pYNdw hY, (aus dy) mn ivc (aus dy) qn ivc pRBU ipAwrw l`gx l`g pYNdw hY [

• The Lord seems so sweet; I am pleasing to my God. Night and day, I lovingly focus my consciousness on the Lord.

• mn icMidAw Plu pwieAw suAwmI hir nwim vjI vwDweI ]

• auh mnu`K sdw pRBU (dI Xwd ivc (AwpxI) suriq joVI r`Kdw hY, auh mnu`K pRBU-imlwp dw mn-ie`Cq Pl pRwpq kr lYNdw hY [ pRBU dy nwm dI brkiq nwl (aus dy AMdrsdw) cVHdI klw bxI rihMdI hY [

• I have obtained my Lord and Master, the fruit of my mind's desires. The Lord's Name resounds and resonates.

• hir pRiB Twkuir kwju rcwieAw Dn ihrdY nwim ivgwsI ]

• hy BweI! pRBU ny, mwlk-hrI ny (ijs jIv-iesq®I dy) ivAwh dw au~dm SurU kr id`qw, auh jIv-iesq®I nwm ismrn dI brkiq nwl (Awpxy) ihrdy ivc sdw AwnMd-BrpUrrihMdI hY [

• The Lord God, my Lord and Master, blends with His bride, and her heart blossoms forth in the Naam.

• jnu nwnku boly cauQI lwvY hir pwieAw pRBu AivnwsI ]4]2]

• dws nwnk AwKdw hY—pRBU-pqI nwl jIv-iesq®I dy ivAwh dI cOQI lWv smy jIv-iesq®I kdy nws nwh hox vwly pRBU dw imlwp pRwpq kr lYNdI hY [4[2[

• Servant Nanak proclaims that, in this, the fourth round of the marriage ceremony, we have found the Eternal Lord God. ||4||2||

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Message from the Four Lavaan, Soohi Mehla 4:

• They explain the journey of the souls toward the Almighty, tells us of the duties that a person undertaking life of marriage should perform.

• In the first Lavaan, Guru Sahib explains:

•Commit to righteousness

•Renounce sinful actions

•Remember, mediate and embrace Naam

•Worship the one Vaheguruand all your sins will vanish

• In the second Lavaan, Guru Sahib explains:

•Have fear/love of God and your ego will disappear

•Sing God's praises and feel His presence

•God is everywhere, outside and within, sing in Joy

• In the third Lavaan, Guru Sahib explains:

•Divine Love is felt by meeting the SadhSangat

•Recite Gurbani and sing the Glorious Praises of the Lord

•The Naam will vibrates and resounds within your heart

• In the final Lavaan, Guru Sahib says that the partners mind become peaceful and they will have found the Lord:

•God's Will seems sweet to these Gurmukhs

•You will lovingly focus your consciousness on the Lord, day and night

•All your desires will be fulfilled

•The Souls will blend with Vaheguru and only Naam will occupy your heart.

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How does Guru Sahib explain a husband and wife relation?

mÚ3 ]Dn ipru eyih n AwKIAin bhin iekTy hoie]They are not said to be husband and wife, who merely sit together.

eyyk joiq duie mUrqI Dn ipru khIAY soie]3]They alone are called husband and wife, who have one light in two bodies. ||3||

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• Many shabads in Guru Granth Sahib explain the relation with Vaheguru as:

vIAwhu hoAw myry bwbulw gurmuKy hir pwieAw]• My marriage has been performed, O my father. As Gurmukh, I have found the Lord.

gwau gwaurI dulhnI mMglcwrw]myyry igRh Awey rwjw rwm Bqwrw]1] rhwau]

• Sing, sing, O brides of the Lord, the marriage songs of the Lord. The Lord, my King, has come to my house as my Husband. ||1||Pause||

ausqiq inMdw nwnk jI mY hB v\weI CoiVAw hBu ikJu iqAwgI ]• I have totally discarded praise and slander, O Nanak; I have forsaken and abandoned everything.

hBy swk kUVwvy ifTy qau plY qYfY lwgI ]1]• I have seen that all relationships are false, and so I have grasped hold of the hem of Your robe, Lord.

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