7 Stages Of Marriage

• 1. 7 Stages of Marriage
  • Presented in the

• Council for Relationships

2. Timeline of Marriage Embrace Change

• Every marriage is unique.

• Change never, ever stops.

• Incredible, inevitable journey

• Live your stage.

• Cultivate love

3. Whats in Store

• Understand the core mission of your marriage.

• Develop new strengths for the journey ahead.

• Sidestep advice that could threaten your marriage.

• Avoid time and effort-wasting wrong moves.

4. What difference does a Stage make?

• . Life experience is dynamic, changing and dimensional

• Life cycle development is predictable

• Life cycle development is individual, interactional, and intergenerational

• Life cycle development is marked by the passing of time

5. What is unique about the7 Stages?

• Developmental issues and tasks have been identified

• Normative events are described

• Practical exercises and activities useful in educational workshops and counseling practice

6. The Benefit of Knowing the 7 Stages

• Provides a roadmap for today and tomorrow

• Normalizes the experiences of marriage

• Knowing the missions for the stages provides focus

7. Marriage Today

• Marriage is a value

• What the State tells us

• The Reader's Digest Survey

• The Benefits of Marriage

8. Readers Digest Survey The Survey Says..

• Marriage Isnt Broken

• Its Really About Trust

• Laughter is More Important than Sex

• Guys Get Gushy About Marriage, Too

• Challenges Make Us Stronger

9. 7 Stages at a Glance

• Passion

• Realization

• Rebellion

• Cooperation

• Reunion

• Explosion

• Completion

10. Measuring Your Marriage Life Long Journey

• Stages dont have start times or ending dates.

• Two stages can overlap.

• You can repeat or revisit an earlier stage.

• You can use the lessons of an earlier stage to enhance your current stage.

11. PASSION

• The Love Cocktail Know the essential ingredients

12. The Missions

• Mission 1 Savor the Passion

• Mission 2 Forge a Sense of We

• Mission 3 Learn your Love Languages

• Mission 4 Build Emotional Intimacy

• Mission 5 Expand Your Sexual Vocabulary

13. REALIZATION

• The rose-colored glasses come off now differentiation begins

14. The Missions

• Mission 1:Understand your Expectations

• Mission 2:Open, Honest Talking

• Mission 3:Learn Empathetic Listening

• Mission 4:Be Friends

• Mission 5:Split Household Chores Fairly

• Mission 6:Become a Money Team

15. REBELLION

• Me, Me, Me!

• Growth through conflict- from control

• to compromise....

• on to negotiation

16. The Missions

• Mission 1:Turn Power Struggles into Acceptance

• Mission 2:Move from Conflict to Problem- Solving

• Mission 3:Set and Pursue Healthy Personal Goals

• Mission 4:Renew Your Spirituality

• Mission 5:Recover from Infidelities

• Mission 6:Forgive Your Spouse and Yourself

17. COOPERATION

• Lots to do work, family, friends, future planning

• Not enough time

• Not enough money

• Not enough sexual intimacy

18. The Missions

• Mission 1:Let Parenthood Strengthen Your Marriage

• Mission 2:Settle Conflicts and Connect as Friends

• Mission 3:Invite Romance Back into Your Marriage

• Mission 4:De-Stress and Make Love Again

19. REUNION

• The First Stage of the Rest of Your Marriage strengthening mutuality

20. The Missions

• Mission 1:Shift Your Focus Back to Your Marriage

• Mission 2:Get off Autopilot

• Mission 3:Welcome Boomerang Kids Without Neglecting Your Marriage

• Mission 4:Use Your Marriage to Create Good Health

21. EXPLOSION

• Random Crises

• Health -physical/emotional

• Work

• Family

• Trauma

22.

• Caring for Aging Parents

• Mission 1:Make Care giving a Team Effort

• Mission 2:Enjoy Your Marriage

23.

• Depression

• Mission 1:Fight the Depression

• Mission 2:Protect Your Marriage and Yourself

24.

• Job Loss

• Mission 1:Set a New Budget and New Priorities

• Mission 2:Support Each Other

25.

• Weight Gain

• Mission 1:Feel Good about Your Body

• Mission 2:Take care of your health and reduce your spouses anxiety

26. COMPLETION

• Recreating and Enjoying Life

• Continuity and Loss

27. The Missions

• Mission 1:Keep Your Marriage Growing

• Mission 2:Play And Be in the Moment

• Mission 3:Share a New Sense of Meaning and Purpose and Prepare for Loss

• Mission 4:Reorganize Your Time, Your Territory, Your Tasks

28. Applications for Workshops

Applications in Counseling Couples 29. Thank you!

• The 7 Stages of Marriages provide a lifelong guide to identifying and exploring the missions, challenges and rewards of the stages of marriage.

• Congratulations

• WISH YOU A HAPPY MARRIED LIFE