of 29 /29
7 Stages of Marriage Presented in the Council for Relationships •1

7 Stages Of Marriage

Embed Size (px)

DESCRIPTION

 

Citation preview

Page 1: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

7 Stages of Marriage

Presented in the

Council for Relationships

•1

Page 2: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

Timeline of MarriageEmbrace Change

• Every marriage is unique.

• Change never, ever stops.

• Incredible, inevitable journey

• Live your stage.

• Cultivate love

•2

Page 3: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

What’s in Store• Understand the core mission of your marriage.• Develop new strengths for the journey ahead.• Sidestep advice that could threaten your marriage.• Avoid time and effort-wasting wrong moves.

•3

Page 4: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

What difference does a Stage make?

. Life experience is dynamic, changing and dimensional

• Life cycle development is predictable

• Life cycle development is individual, interactional, and intergenerational

• Life cycle development is marked by the passing of time

•4

Page 5: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

What is unique about the “7 Stages”?

• Developmental issues and tasks have been identified

• Normative events are described• Practical exercises and activities useful in

educational workshops and counseling practice

•5

Page 6: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

The Benefit of Knowing the 7 Stages

• Provides a roadmap for today and tomorrow

• Normalizes the experiences of marriage

• Knowing the missions for the stages provides focus

•6

Page 7: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

Marriage Today

• Marriage is a value• What the State tells us• The Reader's Digest Survey• The Benefits of Marriage

•7

Page 8: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

Reader’s Digest SurveyThe Survey Says…..

• Marriage Isn’t Broken

• It’s Really About Trust

• Laughter is More Important than Sex

• Guys Get Gushy About Marriage, Too

• Challenges Make Us Stronger

•8

Page 9: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

7 Stages at a Glance• Passion

• Realization

• Rebellion

• Cooperation

• Reunion

• Explosion

• Completion

•9

Page 10: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

Measuring Your MarriageLife Long Journey

• Stages don’t have start times – or ending dates.

• Two stages can overlap.

• You can “repeat” or revisit an earlier stage.

• You can use the lessons of an earlier stage to enhance your current stage.

•10

Page 11: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

PASSION

The Love Cocktail – Know the essential ingredients

•11

Page 12: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

The Missions • Mission 1 – Savor the Passion

• Mission 2 – Forge a Sense of “We”

• Mission 3 – Learn your Love Languages

• Mission 4 – Build Emotional Intimacy

• Mission 5 – Expand Your Sexual Vocabulary

•12

Page 13: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

REALIZATION

The rose-colored glasses come off now – differentiation begins

•13

Page 14: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

The Missions• Mission 1: Understand your Expectations

• Mission 2: Open, Honest Talking

• Mission 3: Learn Empathetic Listening

• Mission 4: Be Friends

• Mission 5: Split Household Chores Fairly

• Mission 6: Become a Money Team

•14

Page 15: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

REBELLION

Me, Me, Me!

Growth through conflict - from control

to compromise....

on to negotiation

•15

Page 16: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

The Missions• Mission 1: Turn Power Struggles into Acceptance

• Mission 2: Move from Conflict to Problem- Solving

• Mission 3: Set and Pursue Healthy Personal Goals

• Mission 4: Renew Your Spirituality

• Mission 5: Recover from Infidelities

• Mission 6: Forgive Your Spouse and Yourself

•16

Page 17: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

COOPERATION

Lots to do – work, family, friends, future planning

Not enough time

Not enough money

Not enough sexual intimacy

•17

Page 18: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

The Missions• Mission 1: Let Parenthood Strengthen Your Marriage

• Mission 2: Settle Conflicts – and Connect as Friends

• Mission 3: Invite Romance Back into Your Marriage

• Mission 4: De-Stress – and Make Love Again

•18

Page 19: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

REUNION

The First Stage of the Rest of Your Marriage – strengthening mutuality

•19

Page 20: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

The Missions• Mission 1: Shift Your Focus Back to Your Marriage

• Mission 2: Get off Autopilot

• Mission 3: Welcome Boomerang Kids – Without Neglecting Your Marriage

• Mission 4: Use Your Marriage to Create Good Health

•20

Page 21: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

EXPLOSION

Random Crises

Health -physical/emotional

Work

Family

Trauma

•21

Page 22: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

• Caring for Aging Parents

• Mission 1: Make Care giving a Team Effort

• Mission 2: Enjoy Your Marriage

•22

Page 23: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

• Depression

• Mission 1: Fight the Depression

• Mission 2: Protect Your Marriage – and Yourself

•23

Page 24: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

• Job Loss

• Mission 1: Set a New Budget – and New Priorities

• Mission 2: Support Each Other

•24

Page 25: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

• Weight Gain

• Mission 1: Feel Good about Your Body

• Mission 2: Take care of your health and reduce your spouse’s anxiety

•25

Page 26: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

COMPLETION

Recreating and Enjoying Life

Continuity and Loss

•26

Page 27: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

The Missions• Mission 1: Keep Your Marriage Growing

• Mission 2: Play – And Be in the Moment

• Mission 3: Share a New Sense of Meaning and Purpose and Prepare for Loss

• Mission 4: Reorganize Your Time, Your Territory, Your Tasks

•27

Page 28: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

Applications for Workshops

•28

Applications in Counseling Couples

Page 29: 7 Stages Of  Marriage

Thank you!

• The 7 Stages of Marriages provide a lifelong guide to identifying and exploring the missions, challenges and rewards of the stages of marriage.

• Congratulations• WISH YOU A HAPPY MARRIED LIFE

•29