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7 Stages of Marriage Presented in the Council for Relationships •1

7 Stages Of Marriage

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  • 1. 7 Stages of Marriage
    • Presented in the
  • Council for Relationships

2. Timeline of Marriage Embrace Change

  • Every marriage is unique.
  • Change never, ever stops.
  • Incredible, inevitable journey
  • Live your stage.
  • Cultivate love

3. Whats in Store

  • Understand the core mission of your marriage.
  • Develop new strengths for the journey ahead.
  • Sidestep advice that could threaten your marriage.
  • Avoid time and effort-wasting wrong moves.

4. What difference does a Stage make?

  • . Life experience is dynamic, changing and dimensional
  • Life cycle development is predictable
  • Life cycle development is individual, interactional, and intergenerational
  • Life cycle development is marked by the passing of time

5. What is unique about the7 Stages?

  • Developmental issues and tasks have been identified
  • Normative events are described
  • Practical exercises and activities useful in educational workshops and counseling practice

6. The Benefit of Knowing the 7 Stages

  • Provides a roadmap for today and tomorrow
  • Normalizes the experiences of marriage
  • Knowing the missions for the stages provides focus

7. Marriage Today

  • Marriage is a value
  • What the State tells us
  • The Reader's Digest Survey
  • The Benefits of Marriage

8. Readers Digest Survey The Survey Says..

  • Marriage Isnt Broken
  • Its Really About Trust
  • Laughter is More Important than Sex
  • Guys Get Gushy About Marriage, Too
  • Challenges Make Us Stronger

9. 7 Stages at a Glance

  • Passion
  • Realization
  • Rebellion
  • Cooperation
  • Reunion
  • Explosion
  • Completion

10. Measuring Your Marriage Life Long Journey

  • Stages dont have start times or ending dates.
  • Two stages can overlap.
  • You can repeat or revisit an earlier stage.
  • You can use the lessons of an earlier stage to enhance your current stage.


  • The Love Cocktail Know the essential ingredients

12. The Missions

  • Mission 1 Savor the Passion
  • Mission 2 Forge a Sense of We
  • Mission 3 Learn your Love Languages
  • Mission 4 Build Emotional Intimacy
  • Mission 5 Expand Your Sexual Vocabulary


  • The rose-colored glasses come off now differentiation begins

14. The Missions

  • Mission 1:Understand your Expectations
  • Mission 2:Open, Honest Talking
  • Mission 3:Learn Empathetic Listening
  • Mission 4:Be Friends
  • Mission 5:Split Household Chores Fairly
  • Mission 6:Become a Money Team


  • Me, Me, Me!
  • Growth through conflict- from control
  • to compromise....
  • on to negotiation

16. The Missions

  • Mission 1:Turn Power Struggles into Acceptance
  • Mission 2:Move from Conflict to Problem- Solving
  • Mission 3:Set and Pursue Healthy Personal Goals
  • Mission 4:Renew Your Spirituality
  • Mission 5:Recover from Infidelities
  • Mission 6:Forgive Your Spouse and Yourself


  • Lots to do work, family, friends, future planning
  • Not enough time
  • Not enough money
  • Not enough sexual intimacy

18. The Missions

  • Mission 1:Let Parenthood Strengthen Your Marriage
  • Mission 2:Settle Conflicts and Connect as Friends
  • Mission 3:Invite Romance Back into Your Marriage
  • Mission 4:De-Stress and Make Love Again


  • The First Stage of the Rest of Your Marriage strengthening mutuality

20. The Missions

  • Mission 1:Shift Your Focus Back to Your Marriage
  • Mission 2:Get off Autopilot
  • Mission 3:Welcome Boomerang Kids Without Neglecting Your Marriage
  • Mission 4:Use Your Marriage to Create Good Health


  • Random Crises
  • Health -physical/emotional
  • Work
  • Family
  • Trauma


  • Caring for Aging Parents
  • Mission 1:Make Care giving a Team Effort
  • Mission 2:Enjoy Your Marriage


  • Depression
  • Mission 1:Fight the Depression
  • Mission 2:Protect Your Marriage and Yourself


  • Job Loss
  • Mission 1:Set a New Budget and New Priorities
  • Mission 2:Support Each Other


  • Weight Gain
  • Mission 1:Feel Good about Your Body
  • Mission 2:Take care of your health and reduce your spouses anxiety


  • Recreating and Enjoying Life
  • Continuity and Loss

27. The Missions

  • Mission 1:Keep Your Marriage Growing
  • Mission 2:Play And Be in the Moment
  • Mission 3:Share a New Sense of Meaning and Purpose and Prepare for Loss
  • Mission 4:Reorganize Your Time, Your Territory, Your Tasks

28. Applications for Workshops

Applications in Counseling Couples 29. Thank you!

  • The 7 Stages of Marriages provide a lifelong guide to identifying and exploring the missions, challenges and rewards of the stages of marriage.
  • Congratulations