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There are many questions that we need to ask - of our clients, but also of ourselves.

The first of which is why?

Why do we do what we do?

Because we are the protectors.

We are the educators,

We are the change makers,

We are the deliverers of HOPE.

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Asking why we do what we do is important; however – the most vital question is:

HOW do we do what

we do ?

It Takes a Village… Every Generation faces new Challenges – the villages we

need to RAISE our children are not as

strong, Aren’t as vibrant, & don’t

always have the skills needed to pass

on to the next generation –

This is what we do – this is the POWER OF US…

We are the Justice League!

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Are you realizing your full potential?

What are you doing with your power?

HOW DO YOU PROTECT YOUR POWER?

Because if you don’t….

… you burn out

Burnout is the #1 killer of empathy and the destroyer of “good helpers”

Much like kryptonite,

It drains us of our powers,

sometimes without us even

knowing it….

Been There, Done That!

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Instead this is a little more accurate…

Symptoms of Burnout & Stress:

�  Characterized by over-engagement or disengaged

Emotions are over-reactive or blunted �  Produces urgency and hyperactivity or

Produces helplessness and hopelessness �  Loss of energy

Loss of motivation, ideals, & hope �  Leads to anxiety disorders

Leads to detachment & depression �  Primary damage is emotional

May make life seem not worth living

“  To  the  dull  mind  all  nat/re  is  leaden.  To  the  illuminated  mind  the  whole  world  sparkles  with  light…”    

                                                                                                                                                                                           Ralph  Waldo  Emerson  

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It’s not just our clients who need a village!!!

Happiness  can  be  found  in  the  darkest  of  places  if  only  one  

remembers  to  t/rA  on  the  light…                          ~Albus  Dumbledoor  

 

 

 

 

 

Clients KNOW! If clients don’t feel like

they can connect with you – especially kids – many shut down further.

For some they will not seek additional services.

What you do with and for clients –

BOTH POSITIVE AND NOT

transfers over to the rest of us. TALK ABOUT

POWER!

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YOU    SEE,  MOST  CLIENTS  WON’T  THINK  OF    ONE  PERSON.  

THEY    SUPER-­‐IMPOSE    THEIR  INDIVIDUAL  EXPERIENCE  ON  TO  AN  AGENCY  AND  SOMETIMES  THERAPY  

AS  A  WHOLE  …  

How do we maximize

our powers to use for the

greater good?

By Harnessing What it Means to Be a Leader!

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“In  everXone’s  life,  at  sometime,  our  inner  fire  goes  out.  It  is  then  burst  into  flame  by  an  encounter  with  another  human  being.  We  should  all  be  thankf/l  for  those  people  who  rekindle  the  human  spirit.”    

         ~  Alber[  Schweitzer  

Being a leader and lighting the way for ourselves and others starts in developing and maintaining specific habits.

Habit  #1  ~  Self-­‐Care  :  

You must secure your own mask before you

can assist other passengers!

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What does self-care look like?

- Knowing your Limits & STAYING WITHIN THEM

-  Setting a tone of respect and respecting yourself, teaches others how to treat you

-  Move your body, feed yourself in a variety of ways

-  Have people to talk to -  Take your vacation days

Habit  #2  ~  Education:  

It gets harder to get bored and burnt out when you are a learner of life.

Take classes, go to trainings, read, GOOGLE - talk to others about what they are passionate about , tell others about what you are passionate about! This benefits both you and your clients ~

passion & enthusiasm are infectious!

Habit  #3  ~  Be  Clear  &  Deliver:  

“Say what you mean, mean what you say” Are you able to take on a new client and do it

WELL? Do you need more time to finish a report?

Can you continue to take on more responsibility Are you saying “yes” when what you really mean is “no way!!!”

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Habit  #4  ~  Be  Consistent:  Trust is paramount in what we do – if you don’t show up, act consistent and

hold consistent goals, people don’t know what to expect of you. When others don’t know what to expect of you – they will not be consistent for

you, either. This goes for clients, co-workers, supervisors, family members and every relationship that we have.

What  does  consistency  look  like?  1.) Be yourself - easy advice that’s hard to

follow! 2.) Decide on your life-game rules, share

them, then always follow them. 3.) Tell others what you expect of them,

ask what they expect of you and check in often.

Consistency is having a clear goal and doing things daily to

meet the goal.

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Habit  #5  ~  Be  Present:  There  will  always  be  paperfork,  but  your  client  will  not  always  

be  with  you.  You  never  know  when  your  last  session  with  a  client  will  be.      

EverX  client,  EverX  session  –  make  them  feel  impor[ant,  listen,  and  

always  give  1  or  2  things  for  them  to  walk  away  with.  

Habit  #6  ~  Be  Compassionate:  

If you are present, but lack

compassion, what’s the point?

Beyond the basic needs of every

person is the need to feel heard,

understood and appreciated.

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Habit  #7  ~  Have  a  Personal  Moko:  

Never underestimate the power of words –

but words without actions are

meaningless.

Do the Next Right Thing

“The beginning of a habit is like an invisible thread, but every time we

repeat the act we strengthen the strand, add it to another filament until it becomes a great cable &

binds us irrevocably, thought & act.” ~ Orrison Swett Marden

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The strength of our

Character Determines

what Type of hero

we Will be.

Inspire… Create…

Remember.