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Chapter 8Conversations
Chapter 8Conversations
Inter-Act, 13th Edition
Chapter Objectives2
Discuss the characteristics of conversationDescribe the ways in which conversations
may varyIdentify the general guidelines to become a
more effective conversationalistSummarize how culture and technology affect
conversation
Characteristics of Conversations
InteractiveExtemporaneousLocally managedSequentially
organized
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Variation in Conversation4
29 different distinct types of conversation common in friendships and romantic
relationships
Small talk: exchanging messages about inconsequential (small) topics to meet social needs of participants with low risk
Gossip: exchanging messages about other people who are not present
Structure of Conversation5
Purpose: what the conversation is intended to doSequence:
Turn-Taking: alternating between speaking and listening
Scriptedness: using routine conversational phrases or preplanned conversations
Tone: emotional, relational quality and degree of formality
Participants: intended or unintended audienceSetting: physical and emotional environment
Guidelines6
Develop an other-centered focus.Engage in appropriate turn-taking.Maintain conversational coherence.Practice politeness and face-saving.Protect privacy.Engage in ethical dialogue.
Ethical Dialogue7
Authenticity: direct, honest, straightforward information and feelings
Empathy: understanding another’s point of view
Confirmation: affirming others as unique individuals (not necessarily approving of views)
Presentness: taking time, avoiding distraction, being responsive, risking attachment
Equality: treating others as peers, regardless of status
Supportiveness: encouraging participation by praising efforts
Starting a Conversation8
Five ways to open a conversation:Make a commentAsk a questionIntroduce yourselfPay attention to nonverbal cues
Sustaining a Conversation9
• Use free information: information volunteered during the conversation
• Ask questions
Closed-ended: “yes” or “no” answers Open-ended: more elaboration,
explanation• Seek out topics of interest to the other person• Self-disclose appropriately
Actively listen
Closing a Conversation10
Notice and use leave-taking cues (nonverbal behaviors that indicate someone wants to end the conversation).
Verbalize your desire to end the conversation.
Ask to see the person again if appropriate.Close with a brief stock message.
Cultural Variations11
Low-Context Cultures Include categorical
words such as certainly, absolutely
Relevant comments that are directly to the point
Speaking one’s mind Silence is
uncomfortable
High-Context Cultures Include qualifiers
such as maybe, perhaps
Indirect, ambiguous, and less relevant comments
Creating harmony Silence indicates
truthfulness, embarrassment, disagreement
Digital Conversation Skills12
Awareness of audienceDegree of conversational spontaneity Abruptness of disengagementMultiplicity of conversationsAcceptance of interruptionsNotions of privacy
Homework13
Actively choose a conversation partner that you’ve never met or with whom you have had little contact. Practice the communication skills you’ve targeted as your goals, but use the guidelines for holding effective conversations from Ch 8 as well. Write a one-page paper critically thinking about your experience. For example, were you able to hold an effective conversation? Were you able to practice the goals you’ve set for yourself to become a more effective communicator? Why or why not? What factors influenced your communication? What areas would you like to work on more? Follow your rubric, give examples, and discuss applicable areas from your text.