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My Father’s Body in Nine Drawings (Francesca Rendle-Short)Posted on September 23, 2010 by verityla in Being Sure
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My father is not yet dead. People whoknew him say there is a likeness in this drawing. I can still see him breathing, can you? I still feel warmth when Ibend to kiss his head in salutation; I feel a pulse through his skull against my lips. I imagine his gaze on me. Hello Ihear him say, do I know you?
He doesn’t have long now to live. It is only a matter of hours. He dies the next day.
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Maurice Blanchot once wrote: Lookagain at this splendid being from which beauty streams: he is, I see this, perfectly like himself. And someone says to
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me, kindly: Francesca, he’ll be tangle free you know, when he’s gone he’ll be at peace.
Death skewers the heart of those left behind, no matter what the age of those who are dying. One minute I have afather and he’s with me in the flesh. The next minute he’ll be gone, really gone, disappeared. All breathing stopped.
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These images of my father’s body spantwo notebooks. You can see the ordinariness of the lines and checks on the paper I’ve drawn across. When I wascalled to his beside in Toowoomba, I didn’t think I would be drawing his figure as he lay dying: I thought he wouldbe already dead. I didn’t think there would be enough room for me to spread out around his bed, not room enough tomeasure stillness like this. There are too many of us for that. We fill up his room, bodies everywhere. Nurses stayaway.
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Did you know, with six children in afamily there are six children trying to say goodbye to six fathers? In mathematical terms, there are 720 different sortsof relationships the six of us can have – a multiplication of 1 x 2 x 3 x 4 x 5 x 6. Add my father into the equation andmultiply that figure by seven, to take it to 5040 combinations and permutations.
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I draw fast, turning a page every fewminutes. I don’t have long.
I draw him with a pencil found at the bottom of my bag.
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Was it John Ruskin who said: but only draw what you see?
I watch my father find breath with my marks. The nurses tell me, when checking respiration, it is important to alsonote whether a person has any difficulty breathing.
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Breath is involuntary. If you think aboutit too much your lungs hurt.
Did you know that on average we take 15 to 20 breaths per minute? That’s 900 to 1200 breaths per hour and 21600to 28800 breaths per day. If we think of a year, we take 7884000 to 10512000 breaths in those 365 days – millions inother words. For my father who is 90 he has taken 709560000 to 946080000 breaths until now, to these, his very last.
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My father is dying and I wonder what heis thinking, is he thinking at all. Does he still wish he will go to heaven to be with Angel, my mother? Is that hisdream? Or has his Alzheimer’s clouded his view of any possible a f t e r l i f e?
I read once: in death, the rictus is an oddly painful unexpected ugly fact. The mouth is all wrong.
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My father died when he was ninety. Inmathematics, the number nine is at the end of the primary series beginning with one and finishing with 10. It denotesa complete circle, 360 degrees or, to put it another way, 3 + 6 + 0 = 9.
In French, the word neuf means both nine and new.
Nine is a lucky number.
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I draw my father with my lucky ring on,from Hanoi. I call it lucky because it is in nine pieces – a silver ring with the palest of white Halong Bay pearlsshaped in a grid of 3 x 3. I sometimes think of it as my noughtsandcrosses ring.
Thinking of my father I think of kissing him goodbye for the final time – with these nine pearls, these nine kisses,and with my story in nine drawings.
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This requiem for my father in nine drawings complements a photo-essay I wrote for Overland entitled ‘My father’sbody: creation, evolution and Alzheimer’s disease’.
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