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John Holen 12/16/2014
Marriage Trouble
“The bourgeois sees his wife a mere instrument of production.”-Karl Marx
“We often say that the single person suffers from solitudebecause he is suspect of being an unsuccessful or rejected
husband.” -Michel Foucault“Marriage runs contrary to two of the primary goals of the
lesbian and gay movement: the affirmation of gay identity andculture; and the validation of many forms of relationships”-Paula
L Ettelbrick"Marriage is a wonderful institution, but who wants to live in an
institution?" - Groucho Marx
I. Marriage as the Foundation of Society
For a large number of contemporary theorists there has been
assumed a legal or judicial notion of marriage through which a
coherent relational subject emerges and which constitutes a
stable political field through which to demand representation.
But a coherent subject and the political are terms that are not without
their contradictions. On the one hand, the coherent subject is the
means through which political rights are conveyed; on the other
hand, a coherence contains normative implications. For queer
activists, a stable, socially consistent institution has been
viewed as necessary for the emergence of a culturally accepted
sexual body. This has seemed especially important due to the
cultural repression of nonconforming sexual orientations.
As of late, the prevailing notion of stable categories of
relationship has been called into question by a number of queer
theorists. The category of the legally married and unmarried
individual is increasingly less consistent. Many have
problematized the relationship as the ultimate site of the
emancipatory struggle for rights and, eventually, equality.
Additionally, many have questioned the limits and coherence of
the category of juridical marriage. Legal categories of
acceptability produce the requirements that a sexual body must
posses to attain representational status.
This notion of legal categories of relations is derived from
Foucault’s conception of juridical power, which posits that
coherent identities come into being from within systems of
power.1 This emergence is from the regulations and prohibitions
placed upon bodies and the choices they produce. In other words,
legally salient identities gain their status with society only
via options and limits that exist upon them within the legal
framework. If the notion of a coherent or acceptable
relationship emerges from this system, then that relationship
will always be premised on what has been excluded, that is, what
is legally possible is premised on there also being a legally
unacceptable configuration. Such a system is suspect when it
produces relationships that are only coherent when they are
conjugal and excludes relationships that fail to meet its
1 See The History of Sexuality Vol 1 for further discussion of both juridicalnotions of power as well as Foucault’s early conceptions of marriage.
prescribed standard. Thus, any appeal to a stable notion of
“legal marriage” is self-defeating to a queer emancipatory
struggle as the category of codified marriage implicitly excludes
many that the movement seeks to empower.
Despite that fact that heteronormativity does not possess
the same privileged status as it once did, the concept of a
stable marriage status, an important piece of that framework, has
been more resilient. There has, of course, been many questions
raised: Is there some natural marital status towards which the
human animal is always striving? Is there some inherent virtue
within the category of marriage that lends itself to
desirability? Is there really a “queer sexuality” that escapes
traditional conjugal definitions of relationships, or are these
sexualities ultimately just practices that have yet to be
integrated into the category of marriage? The married/unmarried
legal binary produces the very means through which these
behaviors and practices can be understood. It defines boundaries
that relationships must conform to if they wish to gain legal
status and become culturally intelligible and acceptable.
My belief is that presumed universal applicability of
judicially defined marriage is impaired due to the legal
exclusion it is premised upon. That is, for marriage to exist as
a legally defined status, there always must be an identity that
exists externally to the married subject in the form of the
unmarried or the single individual. This exclusion is what
forecloses the option of legal marriage as a temporary,
“strategic” goal for queer liberation as it necessarily is
premised on a simply more refined exclusion of some sexualties.
Without this contrasting omission, however, the juridical notion
of conjugal relations begins to lose much of its meaning.
Clearly the objective is not a rejection of all social
coupling-such a task would likely be impossible. Social couplings
outside of legal structures are a strongly entrenched aspect of
many cultures. Though conjugal relations has been put into effect
as a source of regulation within society, it is not an inherent
feature of these relationships and, in many ways, it is only
where there is a constitutive “inside” and “outside” that the
system gains the capability to exclude and legislate sexual
orientations.2 As such, the point of departure is at these regimes
of sexuality as Mark Blasius has termed it.3 Thus, criticism occurs
at the emergence of a legally defined relationship status. The
objective of a critique of marriage is to disentangle the legal
framework from categories of relationships that it attempts
formalize, limit and prohibit.
To follow the emergence of the juridical category of
marriage a queer genealogy of marriage is necessary. By
problematizing the status of marriage a discourse may be created
that eliminates the grounds of marriage equality as a valid site
of struggle. How are nonconforming relational statuses precluded
by the call for marriage? Legally defined conjugal relations
should not be the site of resistance if the possibilities for
subjective formation of sexualities are, at least partially,
excluded within these relational categories. As such, the notion
of true equality before the law only become possible when the
goal of juridical marriage is no longer the aim of activism.
2 The History of Sexuality, Volume 3, The Care of the Self, by Michel Foucault trans. Robert Hurley (New York: Pantheon 1986) originally published as Le souci de soi (Paris: Gallimard 1984) p. 1553 Ibid., p. 184
II. The Coupling/Reproductive Imperative
Frequently, an unquestioned, unitary concept of privileging
juridical marriage is invoked to provide a common ground for the
struggle for queer liberation. Originally intended as the means
to increase visibility and rights within legal structures, these
critiques of “traditional” marriage have now exposed the ultimate
inadequacy of attempting to define the nature of intramarital
relations as a legislative category within rights frameworks. The
sufficiency of the limits are called into question with the
multitude of relational practices that not only exist but have
gained increasing visibility within cultural practices.
Marriage is the cultural practice through which reproduction
and relationships are conflated and gain cultural
intelligibility. Historically, it has been part and parcel to the
perceptual formation of a complete feminine subject. As Simone de
Beauvoir posits:
If as wife she is not a complete individual, she becomes
such as mother: the child is her happiness and her
justification. Through the child she is supposed to find
self-realization sexualliy and socially; through
childbearing, then, the institution of marriage gets its
meaning and attains its purpose.4
Traditionally, marriage paired with reproduction has been
key to women’s acquisition of the status of a fully constituted
being. Furthermore, she accurately observes that the unwed mother
is not only seen as an “offense” to the traditional order but
also encounters repercussions for her failure to conform to
juridicially mandated conjugal relations.
The naturalness of this configuration is called into
question, however, at a few crucial junctures. First, is a
problems that de Beauvoir identifies in the fact that happiness
is not the universal, natural consequence of reproduction within
marriage. If the pairing of legal marriage and maternity were the
natural order of things then happiness would be the universal
consequence. However, the presence of beings that derive no
pleasure from pregnancy within legal marriage troubles the
coherence of this category.5 The site of conflict is closely
4 It is worth noting that Foucault, in outside interviews, would eventually posit that the expansion of the category of marriage would be sufficient to solve its harms. An interesting stance considering that it seems to lack any clear ability to resolve itself against his already stated notion of the juridical and the division of bodies.5 See Friedrich Engels, The Origin of Family, Private Property and the State (Newtown: Resistance Books, 2004) p. 84
related to a second rupture in the marriage-reproduction
conflation: that many individuals are prone to attain the legal
status of marriage without ever fulfilling, or even intending to
fulfill, the supposed reproduction imperative that comes with it.
Were the association between marriage and reproduction as natural
as the sexual regimes wish to posit, there would be no other
conclusion for the married pair beyond the creation of new
beings. However, that individuals exist, and in increasing
numbers, who, not only choose to not engage in this system, but
also seem to suffer to psychological consequences of their
avoidance inherently calls into question the purpose of the
initial combination of the two social processes. The third, and
final, point of consideration in the process of dismantling the
historical unity of reproduction and legally defined relationship
status is especially important to a queer critique of marriage:
that sexual practices are
Thus, it follows that these institutions do not necessarily
require one another. The logical conclusion of the failure of
this artificial conflation is that there is no pre-legal unity
between reproductive bodies and the married subjects.
This division between reproduction and the relational gives
rise to a new set of issues. Can we speak of a legally defined
romantic relationship without using a normative discourse in
relation to sexuality, desire and reproduction? Does legal
codification of marriage have its roots in the legal,
reproductive, interpersonal, economic, or religious? Does
institutionally supported marriage have a history? Do various
types of marriages and sexual relationships each have their own
histories in context of the law? Is the coupling of the marital
to the law a factor that emerges from societal constructions that
serve the aims of the legal structures that define them? If the
intelligibility of marriage laws are called into question, then
the usefulness of the institution as legal category capable of
fostering equality must also be called into question; indeed the
category seems to lack any non normative, nonreproductive
meaning. How, then, does marriage as a legal category come into
existence and how might it service the institutions of power?
III. Marriage: The Incomplete Shell of Contemporary Debate
Is there a singular unifying model of marital relationships that
can be said to represent all sexual relationships within the law?
What is meant by the legal conjugal relationship? What forces in
society have given rise to the codification of intramarital
relations? It would be wrong to think of these factors that both
create and guide legal codification of marriage as being entirely
separate from the totalizing sociopolitical institutions that
originally placed it within the law. Indeed, they are often
nearly inseparable.
Michel Foucault suggests, in The History of Sexuality Volume 3 that
“Marriage is one of those duties by which private existence
acquires value for all.”6 In this he means that the normalization
of the practices associated with marriage functions as a form of
“control” that reifies and supports broader societal aims. Is
institutional marriage as insidious as Foucault alludes to? Is
“control” always implicitly negative? While there is an
6 This is not even to mention the intersectional feminist approaches that would understandably seek the emphasize the importance that various orientations of social relationships plays within specific social contexts. Assuch, a queer movement seeking greater inclusivity would face a significant problematization of its objectives were it to call for the abolition of all social couplings (or triples, quadruples etc.) as it would require the exclusion of some cultural practices and the universalization of the western queer experience.
inevitable debate over the definition and nature of control,
Foucault is clear that it is both present in marriage and
supportive of dominant discourses. He traces the history of the
concept through the prohibitions placed on certain sexual acts.
These prohibited acts constitute that which is “outside” of
marriage. He writes:
Doubtless this principle, which tends to exclude, even for
men, sexual intercourse outside marriage, and to authorize
it only for certain definite purposes, will be one of the
anchor points for a subsequent “juridification” of marital
relations and sexual practices. Like that of women, the
sexual activity of married men will, in theory at least,
risk coming within the provisions of the law.7
Foucault sees this juridification as specifically occurring
in regards to a dual system of relations and practices. Since the
coherence of these two ideas emerges only through cultural
practices, their conflation is an act of juridification of
7 I use the phrase regimes of sexuality to refer to the point a which law, tradition and social institutions converge to produce a culturally intelligible relationship and self regulating institution. Moreover, these regimes are specifically designed to reproduce a particular sexed body which refers to both their gendered orientation and capacity for pleasure. See “Regimes of Sexuality” by Mark Blasius for further discussion of these systemsand the implications they have for political scientists.
relationships. Thus, marriage contains an inherently normative
function in Foucault’s mind that stems from the immaterial
cultural norms which give rise to material conditions.8
Friedrich Engels provides an alternative history and
critique of marriage. In The Origin of Family, Private Property and the State
he traces the notion of marriage through a series of three
historical epochs. Each of these reflecting a different set of
social practices that were inextricably tied to historical eras
of human development and modes of production. Engels starts with
the “savagery” of group marriage and progresses through the
“barbarian” pairing marriages before concluding with
“civilization” which he sees as tied to monogamy. For Engels, the
modern incarnation of marriage is defined by property
considerations. He explains:
And when, with the predominance of private property over
common property, and with the interest in inheritance,
father right and monogamy gain the ascendancy, marriage
becomes more than ever dependent on economic considerations.
8 The Second Sex, by Simone de Beauvoir trans by H.M. Parshley (New York: Vintage1974) p. 540. Originally published as two volumes: Le Deuxieme Sexe: I. Les Fais et Les Mythes, II. L’Experience Vecue (France: Librairie Gallimard 1949)
The form of marriage by purchase disappears, the transaction
itself is to an ever increasing degree carried out in such a
way that not only the woman but the man also is appraised,
not by his personal qualities but by his possessions9
To engage in legal marriage is, for Engels, to engage in
capitalism and the rules that govern marriage are means of
assuring the continuation of this system. They normalize, by
legal practice, the process of property ownership and
transference and the placing of valuations upon the body. In this
way, marriage is seen as having been politically codified in a
certain way so as to guarantee the reproduction of a certain
system and set of acts. As such, Engels’ account offers an
history that traces the material aspects of production’s role in
the immaterial creation of culture.
A final recount of the historical imperative to marry comes
from Simone de Beauvoir. She traces the institution through a
feminist lense that occupies a sort of middle ground between the
accounts of Foucault and Engels. For de Beauvoir, there is not
9 This is not even to mention those bodies that derive pleasure from reproduction outside the bounds of legal marital status, as is increasingly common in the contemporary era. Which further proves that, for many, the unnaturalness of this coupling becomes apparent through experience.
only an obvious material aspect to marriage contained within
conjugal relations as already discussed, but also is a material
consideration due to the monetary advantages that marriage
affords as, due to wage disparities and discrimination “marriage
is a more advantageous career than many others.”10 She progresses
from here to argue that the natural consequence of a lack of
options for the domestic spouse is that they are forced to leech
off of their working counterparts due to their lack of status
within the world. However, there is also an immaterial aspect of
her analysis when she discusses the issue of transcendence vs
immanence. She explains:
The male is called upon for action, his vocation is to
produce, fight, create, progress, to transcend himself
toward the totality of the universe and infinity of the
future; but traditional marriage does not invite woman to
transcend herself with him; it confines her in immanence,
shuts her up within the circle of herself. She can thus
10 For example, the question of reproduction is no longer confined by biologydue to increasingly relaxed adoption rules as well as artificial insemination.Monetary considerations still exist along gendered lines for heterosexual couples due to wage disparity but also along non gendered lines for queer couples due to tax breaks, insurance coverage and inheritance laws.
propose to do nothing more than construct a life of stable
equilibrium in which the present continuance of the past
avoids the menaces of tomorrow-that is, construct precisely
a life of happiness.11
It is here that de Beauvoir identifies a second pole in the
marriage equation: the immaterial effect of domesticity. By
relegating one half of a marriage partnership to the realm of the
home while allowing the other to move between the boundary of the
two there is an imbalance created between the cognitive
experiences of the two individuals. This reaffirms a society of
inequality and helps cement social roles for both parties, though
at a particular detriment to the domestic partner. Thus, for de
Beauvoir, the key aspect of marriage is the inevitable reliance
of one person upon another the produces, which, in a similar
fashion to Foucault and Engels, is both a result and a key
component of the dominant social order.
Regardless of the history of marriage as an institution we
must note the shared theses between Foucault, Engels and de
Beauvoir: that, on the one hand, the emergence of marriage as a
11 Ibid., p. 500.
legal institution was a decidedly social process. It was from
hegemonic needs and discourses, whether they be material or
immaterial or both, that the institution became normalized and
institutionalized. There was no pre-natural marriage institution
that predicated the modern institution. The various forms that
marriage has taken have always reflected and been produced by
dominant power structures and the demands of society. And, on the
other hand, we see that the codification of marriage was, at
least in the theoretical realm of the law, sex blind. The roles
of both partners was no longer solely on a sexed transaction of a
female being passed as property from a father to a husband or of
the creation of male lineages; instead they were defined by the
way their roles functioned within a broader juridical framework.
That is, marriage no longer exists solely to reify patriarchy but
rather to more generally reify power. For Engels it is the equal
conveyance of capital value on the person and for Foucault it is
a system the reifies the “care of the self” or self-regulation.
In de Beauvoir's work, however, the sex neutral status is less
overt. While she identifies her criticism along explicitly
gendered lines, the evolution of social norms and legal processes
has made it so her analysis can apply equally to all conjugal
relations.12 Any relation predicated on relational monogamy and
reproduction will fit into her model of granting some legal
privilege while simultaneously foreclosing cognitive options due
to the fact that at least one partner, though often both in the
instance of queer marriage, have their statuses irrevocably
altered when they enter into the legally binding institution.
Additionally, for queer couples that adhere to a binary set of
gender roles, her analysis of the two positions within marriage
(the domestic and the working) carries notable weight as they are
likely to recreate the bifurcation into the transcendent partner
and the imminent partner. In both situations the legal status
that is conferred with the marriage title, on the one hand,
becomes a source of inclusion into an institution premised on the
repetition of certain society reaffirming practices. And, on the
other hand, the title implies participation in a system that
necessitates there being an “outside” or “other” that has a lack
of special rights and faces social judgement for their lack of
12 The Second Sex, by Simone de Beauvoir trans by H.M. Parshley (New York: Vintage 1974) p. 481
participation, or lack in inclusion, in the codified sexual
regimes.
The increasingly sex blind nature of marriage is an
important point of convergence on their part when considering so-
called “marriage equality” as an emancipatory goal. As the
subjegating features of marriage no longer possess inherent ties
to a certain configurations of gender or sex, its reification of
hegemonic structures now has universal possibilities in
application. In other words, marriage no longer exist solely as a
patriarchal tool for oppression but rather as a piece of a larger
system that subjugates individuals regardless of sex, gender, or
sexuality. Instead it imposes relational roles and normative
categories onto its subjects. Thus, there is no codified concept
of marriage outside of the law and its aims and these aims are
constantly reified by marriage’s continued legal practice.
IV. Adherence, Power & the Means of Disruption
One key feature of the queer emancipatory project is desire for
concrete grounds for resistance. This has traditionally been
located in the juridical construct of marriage. It is argued that
without an identifiable legislative goal cultural acceptance
cannot be achieved. However, inasmuch as codified marital
institutions are used to stabilize cultural modes of dominance
and is predicated on the existence of non conforming identities
that are necessarily excluded from the law, it is only when the
binary system is disrupted that a queer movement can begin to
gain ground.
To successfully challenge this system it is important to
trouble the stability of the category. Clare Chambers writes of
the normative nature of marriage from the mere engagement in the
process, arguing that “the more women do in fact enter into
marriage, the more normalising marriage becomes.”13 The act of
engaging in marriage then becomes of symbolic importance in the
normalization of its role within society. Absent this engagement,
the system loses much of its significance as it continues the
tradition of marriage:
13 See “Feminism, Liberalism and Marriage” p. 4 by Clare Chambers which presents an argument for a redefining of marriage from not only a queer perspective but also from the perspective of traditional liberal politics. Herworks is particularly beneficial in providing a set of legislative strategies for changing the role of relationships with the law. These serve as an insightful compliment to the personal strategies outlined in this piece.
Couples may marry so as to obtain various practical, legal
or financial benefits, but a key aspect of most marriages is
the statement the couple makes about their relationship. For
the marrying couple and for society in general, the symbolic
significance of marriage is at least as important as its
practical aspects. This being the case, it is impossible to
escape the history of the institution. Its status as a
tradition ties its current meaning to its past.14
Chambers is right in identifying that the ceremonial
exchange and long tradition makes marriage a largely symbolic
institution. As already demonstrated the genealogy of marriage as
a part of society has a complex, and potentially contradictory,
history but ultimately serves the purpose of both symbolically
and functionally reifying normative aspects of culture that
necessitate the exclusion and oppression of certain identities.
Thus, non engagement provides a route to reject both the symbolic
aspects and legal aspects of the system.
If marriage has its roots in routinized social practices and
normalization of bodies, it is only with the breaking of the
14 Ibid.
routine that new possibilities can escape juridical exclusion. By
troubling the coherence of marriage as a juridical status via non
engagement, the tradition is broken. This text then serves as a
way to rethink these constitutive legal categories, through which
conjugal relations are normalized and proliferated. Only via the
rejection of codified marriage can we hope to escape its
exclusionary confines. This strategy is particularly effective as
is does not seek some utopian expansion of categories to the
point of incoherence but instead seeks to challenge flawed
legislative categories via the disruption of ritualized legal
marriages.
If there is some truth in de Beauvoir's notion that
marriage emerges from both a personal and legal consideration,
then it follows that symbolic resistance will be inextricably
intertwined with the political codification. As has long been the
case within both Western Feminism and Queer Theory, the personal
is political and no more so than within interpersonal, legally
defined conjugal relationships. Thus resistance is key in the
dismantling of the exclusionary marital institution.
Footnotes
2-This is not even to mention the intersectional feminist approaches that would understandably seek the emphasize the importance that various orientations of social relationships plays within specific social contexts. Assuch, a queer movement seeking greater inclusivity would face a significant problematization of its objectives were it to call for the abolition of all social couplings (or triples, quadruples etc.) as it would require the exclusion of some cultural practices and the universalization of the western queer experience.3-I use the phrase regimes of sexuality to refer to the point a which law, tradition and social institutions converge to produce a culturally intelligible relationship and self regulating institution. Moreover, these regimes are specifically designed to reproduce a particular sexed body which refers to both their gendered orientation and capacity for pleasure. See “Regimes of Sexuality” by Mark Blasius for further discussion of these systemsand the implications they have for political scientists.5-This is not even to mention those bodies that derive pleasure from reproduction outside the bounds of legal marital status, as is increasingly common in the contemporary era. Which further proves that, for many, the unnaturalness of this coupling becomes apparent through experience.7-It is worth noting that Foucault, in outside interviews, would eventually posit that the expansion of the category of marriage would be sufficient to solve its harms. An interesting stance considering that it seems to lack any clear ability to resolve itself against his already stated notion of the juridical and the division of bodies.12-For example, the question of reproduction is no longer confined by biology due to increasingly relaxed adoption rules as well as artificial insemination.Monetary considerations still exist along gendered lines for heterosexual couples due to wage disparity but also along non gendered lines for queer couples due to tax breaks, insurance coverage and inheritance laws.13-See “Feminism, Liberalism and Marriage” p. 4 by Clare Chambers which presents an argument for a redefining of marriage from not only a queer perspective but also from the perspective of traditional liberal politics. Herworks is particularly beneficial in providing a set of legislative strategies for changing the role of relationships with the law. These serve as an insightful compliment to the personal strategies outlined in this piece.