“Living The Good Life”

Techniques to help you realistically live the life you’ve always wanted

“Success is neither magical or mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals.”

-Jim Rohn

Goals and Goal Setting

What is a goal?

Can goals be changed?

Rules of Goal setting

What if I don’t reach my goal ?

What is a goal?

A goal is the object of a person’s ambition; an aim or a desired result (dictionary).

It is a learned skill that can be learned by anyone.

Small Goals vs. Big Goals

All goals should be written down

Composing a Goal Goals should begin with “To…”

All goals must be dated

Goals should be written to be changed, when necessary

Once goals are accomplished, they should be checked off

Goals are steps to something else, a larger goal– “The Bigger Picture”

No goal by itself is the end.

We should question and understand where each goal will lead.

Rules of Goal-Setting Goals must be written down

Goals must be dated

Goal dates should be flexible

Goal plans should always include obstacles and action steps

All goals should be tracked

Goals and Visions

Visions are the “The Big Picture” your goals will lead you to

Goals should be seen as “small steps” that will lead you to your vision/”Big Picture”

Ask yourself: “Where are my goals going to take me?All goals are small steps towards your vision.

Obstacles and Action Steps

Obstacles do occur

Action steps help you decide ahead of time what you will do during a “What If?” situation

Preparedness helps you spend less time panicking

Similar to being prepared for a natural disaster before the meterologist tells you one a storm is approaching.

What is tracking?

Tracking is monitoring your goals.

Re-dating goals

Checking off accomplished goals

Daily progress check (workbook)

Modifications

Re-evaluations

No tracking=Failure to reach goal!

“Passive” vs. “Active” Goals

Passive goals:

hopes

dreams

wishful thinking

undefined desires

No plan to reach goal!

Active goals:

Action plan

Dates

Precision

Specific way of achieving goal

Personal responsibility!

“Someday, I’d like to…”

NO!

NO!

NO!

It’s O.K. to dream but you must develop a goal plan.

Dream goals have no action plan and no follow-up plan of action!

Dream but plan!!!

10 PRIMARY AREAS

OF

GOAL-SETTING

1. Lifestyle Goals

Where we live

What we have

“Life Comfort Level”

Not to be confused with “Job, Work and Career Goals”

“What do I want my life to look like and what do I want in it?

2. Job, Work and Career Goals

“What do I want to do in my occupational environment?”

3. Financial Goals

Examples:

1. How much do you want to save?

2. How much do you want to spend?

3. How will you record your saving/spending?

Remember: NEVER spend more than you earn!

4.Time & Personal Organization Goals

1. What to you want to spend the most time doing?

2. What is your schedule like currently?

3. What small changes can you make in order to move towards better time management?

Allow leisure time and time for yourself!

BE FLEXIBLE!!!

5.Health and Fitness Goals

How healthy do you want to be?

Gym, yoga, walking etc.?

Lose/Gain certain amount of weight?

What do you see yourself looking like?

Not just physical but also mental, spiritual

health.

6. Relationship Goals

Single?

Married?

Divorced?

Just dating?

Also….

What do you hope to accomplish in your current relationship?

Do you and your partner share the same goals?

Not just personal relationship goals but also business, friendship, etc.

Examples:

- What do you hope to gain from taking on a particular customer/client?

-How can you better serve your new client/customer? How can this new client/customer be beneficial to your business?

7. Self-Esteem Goals What do you see when you look at yourself in

the mirror?

7. Self-Esteem Goals What things do you think can be included in

self-esteem goals?

Think: Goal is to feel better about yourself/your company.

8. Personal Growth Goals

How can you move from where you are currently?

-How does it relate to your work performance?

-How does it relate to your home life?

-How can you better yourself/your business?

9.Quality of Life Goals

Define what “quality of life” means to you.

-What makes a “good quality of life”?

-What do you want and how are you going to get it?

-Creative visualization

10. All Other Goals What else do you want or in what direction to

you see yourself going?

8 STEPS TO SETTING GOALS SUCCESSFULLY

1. INDENTIFY

What is it you really want?

What is the specific goal and what is it that it’ll do for me?

Who am I/What is my business really at its core?

Is this the right choice?

2. WRITE IT DOWN

-Writing it down solidifies it.

-It becomes real

-Get it right

3. SET THE DATE FOR COMPLETION

-Dates can be changed but it is important to have a specific date to start

- Example: “March 11, 2011” not “March”

-”To become a better listener” don’t have specific dates but have progressive dates

“I’ll see a noticeable progress in my listening skills by…”

4. List the Obstacles to Reaching the Goal

5. Write and Date the Action Steps

-Remember “solutions to obstacles”

6. Prioritize your goals

-Which goals do you need to work on first?

-Pick three focus goals

8. Review and Track Your Progress on Schedule

-Workbook

-Goalsonline.com

FOCUS GOALS

Most important goals

Goals that need to be done first

Goals that need your immediate attention

Goals that make the most difference

NO MORE THAN THREE GOALS

3

Re-prioritize as necessary

COMMON GOAL-SETTING PROBLEMS

1. Getting Started/Not Doing It

The hard part is getting started

It is easy to become discouraged and not start setting goals

Having a life coach will help you to stay focused

2. PROCRASTINATION PUTTING THINGS OFF NEVER GETS ANYTHING

DONE/DONE CORRECTLY!!

Motivation

“GET UP!”

3. Getting Started Again

Once you stop, having to restart, in itself, is discouraging.

Some people just stop.

Distractions

Overwhelmed

Lose sight of dream

Mental vacation

Reset Goals

4. Not Writing Down Goals

Writing down goals gives goals solidity

Goals become real

Become etched in our subconscious

5. Lack of Clarity Clear focus

Specific

Too vague

No committment

6. Setting Goals that aren’t realisitc

Goals that are too big

Goals that are too far away to ever be able to reach

Overwhelming goals

7. Setting goals that are not big enough

No challenge

Too easy

8. Listening to the “Nay-sayers”

Negative opinion of others

Should be seen as motivation/challenge

Jealousy

“Self-talk”

Distance self from negative talk/thoughts

9. Negative Programming

If you believe negativity, then it becomes reality

Lack of self-belief/low self-esteem

Negative stuff from past

“Flush the toilet on the past!”

10. Lack of Tracking Can’t see progress if no record is kept

No progress seen=discouragement

12. No external support and motivation

Life/Motivational Coach

Family and Friends

Colleagues

Faith-based groups

Support Groups

Online groups of interest

What is a Life Coach? Teacher

-Step by step teaching/trainer

-Guidance and support

-Accountability

A gift to clients

Helps clients with choices

Encouragement

Active motivation

What is a Motivational Coach?

Inspires

Helps you to reprogram negative thinking

Positive

Support

Teaches/trains

Accountability

Seminars

Self-Talk History:

-30 years ago recognized as a tool

-Athletes before games

-”Programming”

Based on actual scientific, medical, neurological psychological research

Goal-Seeking Mechanism of Human Brain

Recorded messages

Permanent storage

Birth

148,000 “No’s”

Negative messages

Our own past programs

77% of our programs are the wrong type of programs.

We are a result of our programs.

Our brains act on the strongest programs

Strong programs determine a lot about us

Brain designed to collect and store information about ourselves and the world and then it causes us to act on the information.

How Self-Talk Can Help

Self-awareness

Discover past programs

Choosing programs you want to have NOW (“W.I.N.”)

How programs/self-talk affect everything around you

Your attitude

Your beliefs

Your interests

Your energy and enthusiasm

Your actions and behavior

Your follow-through

Your reactions to “setbacks” (“Turbulence”)

Your determination and perseverance

Your belief in yourself

The goal you set

Your future

Changing Your “Old” Self-Talk

Awareness and practice

Surrounding yourself with an environment of the RIGHT programs

Listening to self-talk CDs

-daily affirmations designed to help reprogram us

DON’T LIVE OUR THE NEGATIVE LIVES OTHER PEOPLE GAVE YOU THROUGH NEGATIVE SELF-TALK.

Solutions to Changing Your Programs

Self-Talk CDs

Books

Reading “affirmations”

Changing your programs by speaking them

Subliminal CDs

Self-made CDs and programs

Self-Talk vs. Motivational/Self-help Listening

Self-talk-repeat each phrase EXACT way. Repetition

Motivational CDs: Help to move .

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