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This was a presentation to the Institute of Leadership and Management in Bristol, March 2014.
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Managing Stress
Suzanne Hazelton
Great Days at Work
© 2014 Suzanne Hazelton
Suzanne Hazeltonworking with leaders and teams to THRIVE!
Great Days at Work
© 2014 Suzanne Hazelton
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Agenda
• Introduction• Part 1: What makes a great day at work?• Part 2: Tools to thrive– The impact of Positive Emotions in the workplace
• Part 3: Better work relationships – Active Constructive Responding
© 2014 Suzanne Hazelton
MSc. Applied Positive Psychology 2012Business Coaching 2011Transactional Analysis (2 years) 2008Firo-B 2007IBM Certified Learning Professional 2007Transactional Analysis 101 2006NLP Master Practitioner 2005MBTI Practitioner 2005Train the Trainer 2004NLP Certified Practitioner 2003IBM Senior IT Specialist Profession 2003NLP Diploma 2002Professional Cert in Management 2002Microsoft Certified Systems Engineer 1998Microsoft Certified Professional 1997BSc (Hons) Industrial & Business Systems1994
Suzanne’s toolkit
Psychotherapy … referring to therapeutic
interaction between a trained professional and a client,
(patient, family, couple, or group).
Psychologyis an academic and applied discipline that involves the scientific study of mental functions and behaviours.
Positive psychology
seeks "to find and nurture genius and talent", and "to
make normal life more fulfilling", rather than merely
treating mental illness.
© 2014 Suzanne Hazelton
Great Days at Work Framework
Activity 1: Small Group Work
• In a moment, move & sit with some people you don’t yet know well
• Briefly introduce yourself to the others in your group
• Discuss what it’s like when you have ….– Not so good days at work– Great Days at Work
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From stressing to thriving
Stressed ‘Just ok’ Thriving
© 2014 Suzanne Hazelton
“What is the path to sustained increase in shareholder value?”
Stock Increase
Identify Strengths The Right Fit
Great Managers
Engaged Employees
Loyal Customers
Sustainable Growth
Real Profit Increase
EnterHere
From: First, break all the rules. What the worlds greatest managers do differently. Buckingham & Coffman
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Stress impacts the individual & the organisation
Individual
Team
Departments
Organisations
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Sources of stress will not disappear
YouPersonality
Tolerance for ambiguityAbility to cope with change
Motivation
Intrinsic to job• Too much / Too little work• Poor physical working conditions• Time pressures etc
Role in organisation• Role conflict / ambiguity• Responsibility for people• No participation in decision making
etcCareer Development• Over promotion• Under promotion• Lack of job security• Thwarted ambition etc Relations within organisation
• Poor relations with boss• Poor relations with colleagues &• Subordinates• Difficulties in delegating
responsibility
Being in the organisation• Lack of effective consultation• Restriction on behaviour• Office politics etc
Organisation interface with outside• Company vs Family demands• Company vs Own interests etc
From stressed to thriving – what works?
1. Develop coping skills2. Discover the secret behind positive emotions– Unlink work from how you feel– Micro rests
Emotion
ProblemThinking
Stress & Coping
*http://www.hse.gov.uk/stress/furtheradvice/wrs.htm
Seven benefits of Positive Emotions
• Health• Moods go viral• Builds resilience • Opportunity magnet• Create positive memories
Broaden thinking – noticing opportunities • Build high performing teams
It takes sunshine and rain to make a rainbow
Negative has more impact than positive
Balance of negative and positive
3 positive for every negative
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What can you do to build your reservoir of
positive emotions?
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Positive Emotion
Balanced time
perspectives
Acts of Kindness Gratitude
Savouring
Strengths
© 2013 Suzanne Hazelton
Activity 2: “Three Good Things”
• Think of 3 good things that have happened to you today / this week?
• Pair up with someone you don’t yet know (well)– Briefly introduce yourself
• Share one good thing that’s happened to you this week (big or small, you choose the context)– Notice how you feel
• Swap
© 2013 - Suzanne Hazelton
Art & Science of Communication
© 2013 - Suzanne Hazelton
”People don’t always remember what you say or even what you do, but they always remember
how you made them feel.” ~ Maya Angelou.
How do you respond to someone else’s good news?
DON’T GETOVER-EXCITED
How do you respond to someone else’s good news?
© 2014 - Suzanne Hazelton
Many of us notice what’s ‘wrong’ with an idea, or the ‘risks’ associated with a course
of action … but research shows that relationships are built on an initial positive
response.
The person will be more likely to listen later if you first share their enthusiasm.
© 2014 - Suzanne Hazelton
“Seek first to understand, then be understood” ~ Stephen Covey
Passive and Constructive
Acknowledges the news and moves on
Active and Constructive
Focuses on themTakes an active interest – asks questionsHelps the person capitalise on the good news
Passive and Destructive
Grabs the spotlightChanges the subject
Active and Destructive
Immediately identifies the downsides and concerns
(Nonverbal communication: displays of negative emotions such as furrowed brow, frowning.)
Figure 10.1
Gable, S.L., et al., What Do You Do When Things Go Right?
Passive and Constructive
“That’s good news.”
(Nonverbal communication: little or no active emotional expression.)
Active and Constructive
“That’s great, I know how important that promotion was to you! We should go out and celebrate and you can tell me what excites you most about your new job”
(Nonverbal communication: maintaining good eye contact; displays of positive emotions such as genuine smiling, laughter and appropriate touch)
Passive and Destructive
“What are we doing on Friday night?”
(Nonverbal communication: little or no eye contact, turning away, leaving the room)
Active and Destructive
“That sounds like a lot of responsibility to take on. There will probably more stress involved in the new position and longer hours at the office.”
Figure 10.1
Gable, S.L., et al., What Do You Do When Things Go Right?
Activity 3: Responding “Active Constructive”
• Pair up with someone you don’t yet know (well)– Briefly introduce yourself
• ‘A’ - Share one good thing that’s happened to you this week (big or small, you choose the context)
• ‘B’ – find something to genuinely comment on in a positive way (i.e. Active Constructive). – Both, notice (what’s familiar, what’s new)
• Swap
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What will you do (or do more of) as a result of this workshop?
(more info to follow)
More info.
www.actionforhappiness.org/10-keys-to-happier-living
http://positivityratio.com/
Emotion
ProblemThinking
Recommended Reading
• Great Days at Work• The Resilience Factor• The Time Paradox– http://www.thetimeparadox.com/
• The How of Happiness• Positivity– http://positivityratio.com/
• Assertiveness at Work• actionforhappiness.org/10-keys-to-happier-living
Emotion
ProblemThinking
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“As long as you live, keep learning how to live” ~ Seneca
Suzanne Hazelton’s contact details
• Email: [email protected]
• Twitter: @SuzanneHazelton
Suzanne is a leadership coach, working with individuals and teams to THRIVE! A positive psychologist, coach and trainer – she’s worked with thousands of people. She’s the author of not just one, but two books: Raise Your Game, and Great Days at Work (Kogan Page). She’s a contributing author to a third: Entrepreneurs Succeed With Us. She works with a range of clients on people & thriving related topics.
© 2013 Suzanne Hazelton
Managing Stress
Suzanne Hazelton
Great Days at Work
THANK YOU
© 2014 Suzanne Hazelton
More information
• Communicating for business action– Blog article:
http://suzannehazelton.com/2013/05/28/business-communications/
• Assertiveness– Blog article:
http://suzannehazelton.com/2013/03/17/6-ways-to-increase-your-assertive-language/
– Video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0bR6nyxeb4
© 2013 Suzanne Hazelton
Emotion
ProblemThinking
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