Parenting and Social Media

Parenting in a Social Media World.

Bruce Reyes-Chow@breyeschow

WestminsterPresbyterian Church

VIDEOSocialnomics 2017

https://youtu.be/PWa8-43kE-Q

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RULE #1: Butt in.Ask questions IRL or at on Twitter.

RULE #2: Play with stuff.Please use the all the stuff while I’m talking.

RULE 3: You do you.Take breaks as you need to. Please.

RULE 4: Take notes.Or don’t. www.slideshare.net/breyeschow

RULESInvitations to play

Session 1 : 01/22

IntroductionsSocial Media OverviewApps and Stuff

Parenting OverviewSocial Media LandscapeParenting VariablesBest Practice Sharing

Session 2 : 03/05

What worked?What didn’t?What next?

OUR ROAD MAPWhat we are doing

BruceReyes-ChowImmigrant Roots

Pastor’s Kid

Eighties Kid

Tech Transition

BruceReyes-ChowSan Francisco

Dog Walker

Soccer Dad

A’s Fanatic

Coffee Drinker

BruceReyes-ChowPastor

Church planter

Speaker

Author

Consultant

BruceReyes-ChowDeeply PCUSA

Ministry Experience

Active User

smart phone, phone-phone, tablet, phablet, iphone, android, chromebook

text, facebook, twitter, instagram, pinterest, dropbox, snapchat, doodle, remind, buffer, yikyak

Name and one thing you want to make sure we talk about or address?

WHO ARE YOU?Hello my name is...

Bruce Reyes-Chow@breyeschow#pneuma2016

We all have assumptions about everything. Here are three of mine when it comes to technology and the church.

First thingsbrc assumptions

201o, 92yo Gladys Gladys “Glady” Burrill finished the Honolulu

Marathon.

You are not too old.

God is not done with you, just ask Sarah.

Genesis 18

FIRST THINGSbrc assumptions

“Dad is wearing a shirt with a symbol of unknown origin,” @undainty, 2012.

You will miss stuff. And thanks okay.

No matter how hard you try, you will not

break the internet.

FIRST THINGSbrc assumptions

only a medium of communication

gives generational insights, but not absolute

including more voices is hard

demands a high sense of self-worth

will not save the church

Many cultural shifts have changed reality,

but a few have been part of the Social

Media upsurge.

Culture ShiftsHow we got here.

FROM BOUNDED TO CENTEREDFrom rigidly defined relationships and community to fluid and broad connections.

FROM MONOLITHICTO NICHE

From one assumed and obvious choice to

many legitimate and disparate options.

FROM BRITANNICATO WIKIPEDIAFrom single source authority and static information to open source discernment and evolving knowledge.

FROM PERMANENCE TO TRANSIENCE

From a life long commitment to place to an expected life of constant movement.

FROM OPTIONAL TO INTEGRATEDTechnology and Social Media more woven into life like never before — “digital natives”

FROM CREDENTIALED TO CONNECTED

Relationships are built upon and authority

are established by interaction that is

consistent, genuine, and mutual.

idol, savior or easy fix

distraction

careless expression

overestimated ROI

echo chamber

trust-breaker and over-sharer

over-and-above F2F

bullying and abuse

PITFALLSa few cautions

the community is built up

the community models different way living

the community sees beyond itself

POSSIBILITIESa few upsides

creativity and creation are liberated

accountability is present

care and renewal are experienced

collaboration is facilitated and stuff gets done

POSSIBILITIESa few upsides

BE CAUTIOUS: be wise, but not fearful

BE ADVENTUROUS: find what feeds you

BE CONTEXTUAL: go where people are

BE CURIOUS: tinker with the betas

POSTURESgeneral helps

BE NPR: share about others so you can share about yourself

BE BOLD: leverage the space to speak truth

BE HUMBLE: don’t have delusions of grandeur

BE GENUINE: be as you would be IRL

POSTURESgeneral helps

smart phones, tablets, phablets

social media and social networking

web 1.0 v. web 2.0

open source software

cloud technology

analytics, algorithms, clicks, views

ALL THE WORDSuse words good

blogs and vLogs

aggregators and readers

SEO = Search Engine Optimization

RSS feeds = Really Simple Syndication

QRCode = Quick Read Code

ALL THE WORDSuse words good

TAGGING@username links to a

person or account

connects to content, photo, or update

@: instagram, twitter

@/+: google+

only name on FB

tag to attribute, use comments to notify

ALL THE WORDStagging

HASHTAGSAlphanumerics after the “#” becomes a link that can connect public profiles.

events: #debate2016

interests: #ffl

movements: #blm

locations: #houston

commentary: #dadwin

ALL THE WORDShashtags

CONNECTIONinteract and engage

COMMUNICATIONinterpret, deliver

CONTEMPLATIONspiritual disciplines

CURATIONfind, filter, share

CREATIVITYartistry, inspiration

COORDINATIONbetter, faster, funner

SIX FILTERSall the apps

facebook

twitter

instagram

youtube

google+

BIG OLD DOGSall the apps

NETWORKSFacebook, Twitter, Snapchat, LinkedIn, Google+, YikYak

BLOGGINGWordpress, Tumblr, Blogger, Drupal, Wix, Joomla, Createspace

TRY THIS ONENextdoor

CONNECTIONinteract, engage

NEWSLETTERSConstant Contact, MailChimp, MadMimi

CONFERENCINGSkype, Hangouts Zoom, GotoMeeting

MESSAGINGSnapchat, Messenger, WhatsApp, GroupMe

TRY THESEgslides, remind

NETWORKSfacebook, twitter, instapray,

DEVOTIONALSD365,

MUSIC AND MORElast.fm, rdio, spotify, pandora, iheartradio, audible, goodreads

TRY THIS ONEceaseless, prayasyougo

NETWORKSpinterest, twitter, fb

SCHEDULINGhootsuite, crowdfire, tweetjukebox, buffer

COLLECTIONSStorify, ScoopIt, ListLy

REVIEWS Yelp, Google, Facebook

TRY THIS ONEPocket

IMAGESsnapchat, instagram

VIDEO youtube, vimeo, vineperiscope, ustream, facebook live

PHOTOGRAPHYflickr, smugmug, vsco, pixlr

TRY THIS ONEcanva

CATCH-ALLgkeep, evernote

EMAILboomerang, unrollme

SURVEYSsurveymonkey, typeform, gforms

MONEYpaypal, square, cash, venmo, stripe

COORDINATION Ibetter, faster, funner

SCHEDULINGsignup, signupgenius, calendly, mealtrain, punchbowl, gcal

ANALYTICSgoogle, Sumall, FB, Twitter, Buffer

TRY THESEdo, slack, wunderlist, bit.ly, keepvid,

COORDINATION IIbetter, faster, funner

CONNECTIONinteract and engage

COORDINATIONbetter, faster, funner

SIX FILTERSall the apps

PARENTING

Parenting Screenagers

PARENTING

Annie13Abby

15Evelyn

Example: 13yo told to “suck it up” in response to Women’s March IG post, so she responded...Retraint.

Relationship.

Response.

We are all co-parents.Indoctrination done well.A connection to the holy.Not as much of a cause and effect relationship as we would like it to be.Every parent is different, every child is different, every parent must parent each child differently.

PARENTING

Relationships.Social world.

Boundaries.Time.

Conflict.Healthy conflict.

Privacy.Wise expression.

SOCIAL MEDIA

ModelingWhat are your social media patterns?

RelationshipsHow do you communicate now?

Boundaries and ConsequencesWhat works now?

CommunityWho helps you now?

Variables

Big Questions:Snapchat?

What might you try?

BEST PRACTICESWhat do you think?

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