1-Day Dating Breakthrough Workshop!!!

1-Day Dating Breakthrough!

Hosted by: PCB Agency

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OVERVIEWTHE CIRCLE

DATING MARKET/GAUNTLET THEORY

LOVING YOURSELFVULNERABILITY

HOW TO KNOW YOUR MATCHHOW TO MEET MEN

TAKING IT ALL IN

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The Circle

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The CircleFacilitato

rsStephanie “Don’t Let This Smile (You Can’t See)

Fool You, I Get Gangsta” Ghoston

Gwen “Gee” SandersPaul “Pippy” BrunsonToday’s Community!

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Dating Market

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Dating Market• The origin of modern marriage

• How “the pill” changed everything

• Hook-up culture• Everyone is an expert :-) (your family, your friends, your co-workers, bloggers, TV personalities, etc.) 6

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Dating Market• 100+ million U.S. singles• 48+ million U.S. single men

• Men seek commitment at a rate twice of women*

• 1,000+ online dating sites & apps

The Numbers

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Why are we not connecting?

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Dating Market

•Perception•Mobility•Maximizer vs. Satisficer

Why We’re Not Connecting

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Gauntlet Theory

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Gauntlet TheoryHave self-love Be vulnerable

Meet many menDetermine best match

Continued effort (in the face of adversity)

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Self-Love

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Self-Love• “The perfect you isn’t something you need to create, because God already created it.” ~Marianne Williamson

• Perspective (aka “the freaking miracle”) wheel!

• The act of loving yourself means taking care of your; mind, body and spirit

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HomeworkCreate your own

perspective Wheel, Identify your

breakthroughs, and watch how a freaking MIRACLE

ensues!

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Vulnerability

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Vulnerability• Do you understand what it means to be vulnerable to love?

• The difference of faith in fear from faith in love?• Importance of ‘surrender’ to acquire vulnerability• “Faith isn’t blind, it’s visionary” ~ Marianne Williamson

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HomeworkRead Brene Brown’s

‘Daring Greatly’ (possible power circle book club...hint...hint)!

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How to Know Your Match

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How To Know Your Match• Your values are YOUR RULES to life

• Know them in priority• Look for the most closely matched (with you)

• Opposites attract...then, attack

Values

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Funeral Exercise

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How To Know Your Match

• Controller• Supporter• Promoter• Analyst

Personality Types

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How To Know Your Match

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How To Know Your Match

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How To Know Your Match

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How To Know Your Match

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How To Know Your Match

• What’s the difference between a deal breaker & a non-starter?

• Identifying your non-starters

• Will evolve over time

Non-Starters

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Create ‘The’ List

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How To Know Your Match

• There is a difference between attraction and attractiveness

• Be able to verbalize what traits attract you. Prevents ‘lust trap’

• Does attraction grow or wane over time?

Attraction

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HOMEWORK

1) Identify your values2) Confirm your

personality3) Create non-starters

4) Know traits of attraction

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How To Meet Men

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How To Meet Men• Does this perceived, nearly extinct species called ‘man’ actually exist?

• Similarity between dating and the lottery?

• 80% lost on the rod

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How To Meet Men• Should be online “introductions”• Try multiple platforms• Photos are 90% of the decision • Show don’t tell

Online Strategies• Fish with a net• Move offline quickly • Take safety precautions• Stay current • Be proactive

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How To Meet MenGood vs. Bad Photos

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How To Meet Men

• Expand social circle• +2 Gatherings• Ask for introduction effectively

• Man-classes• Volunteer events

Offline Strategy• One-off/periodic events (Superbowl, Inauguration, etc)

• Steakhouses• Hotel bar/lounges

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How To Meet Men• What is flirting?• The triangle• 87% of men understand one universal (combo) move

• Practice builds confidence which makes more effective

How To Flirt

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Homework

Select one offline strategy and do it

(with a partner from today)!

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Taking It All In

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Taking It All In• The fear of looking ‘thirsty’ keeps a lot of people single

• Name one person who has maintained success in a craft without working hard?

• Work hard for it, stay in the present, keep eyes on the TRUE prize

1-Day Dating Breakthrough!

Question & Answer

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