Introduction to Inner Child

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Facilitators: Laura Mocanu and Andrew Brown

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Welcome

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World of the “outer” adult 

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 Who am I ? 

“Children know

where children

come from, butnot where adults 

come from.”

Tomi Ungerer

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ME the social adult 

Knowledgeable – Focused – Understanding – 

Perceiving – Communicator – Considerate -

Technical - Sensitive – Patient … 

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ME when I’m alone 

Depression – Obesity – Anorexia – 

Anxiety  – Compulsive – Worry – 

Addiction – Stresses – Driven – 

Frustration – Withdrawn – Overwhelm

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problem of adulthood 

‘Christkindl’ 

25th December

“The trouble with earthlings is their early adulthood. As long as they are young, they are lovable, open-hearted, eager to learn

and to collaborate. They can even beinduced to play with one another … The only 

educational problem earth has is how to

keep them young… Your cultural life hasalready become too rich, too complicated…” 

Equals One: The Journal of Auroville

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Crisis of adulthood… 

“The very idea of the adult has fallen into

confusion… adults [now] regress toward

adolescence and adolescents refuse tobecome adults.”

(Robert Bly, The Sibling Society )

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 Who are we ??? 

• Only adults ask this question.

• Many voices competing to tell me who I

am… • Many masks / personas I can wear 

• Who am I to myself / what is

my self-image??

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self-hood 

The relationship

I now have with

myself is more

 powerful thanany other 

relationship I 

have had in the past or will have

in the future… 

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Depth Psychology

“assumes the external and internal worlds

reflect each other…”Robert M. Stein

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Let’s melt some ice ! 

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What’s your favourite fairy tale – andwhy? 

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Adventures of Aladdin 

Ali Baba and the 40 thieves

Beauty and the BeastCinderella Fox and the Grapes 

Golden Goose Hansel and Gretel 

Little red ridding hood 

Pinocchio 

Sleeping Beauty Snow white and the Seven Dwarfs 

Three little pigs 

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Civilised development 

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• Ego –development is self-protection

•Abandonment is survival

• Cycle of inflation and fragmentation… 

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Wounded child

“It is not the traumas we suffer in childhood

which make us emotionally ill but the inability to

express the trauma.” Alice Millar

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 Adolescent psychology  

• Narcissism –  ‘the psychological disturbance of our time.’  Joel Covitz

This ‘eternal youth’ usually comes from either extreme of parental care: neglect or overindulgence. To prevent further

loss, the narcissist ‘hovers above life, living onlyprovisionally.’ Abrams

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Procrastination

High ideals / fantasy of success / super-powerful 

The resulting fear of failure means that inreality, no success can live up to the core

fantasy of the childhood self...

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Positive Narcissism

• Provides a balancefor its opposite:age-old tradition.

• This great‘potential’ can yetbecome embodied  into a new andgreater kind of human being.

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Inner child 

The loving

adult

The surviving

child The wounded

child

The pure child

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Loving Adult 

Knowledge

Focus

Understanding

Perception

Communication

Physical strength

Networking

Technical ability

Thinking

Boundaries

Sensitivity

Dual Awareness

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Loving your inner child

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Mythology of the Divine Child

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The divine child within us ‘gives meaning to our

immature strivings; he shows us the

unconscious side of the limitations which we

experience, and that is a vision of potentialitycoming into flower.’ 

June Singer 

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“The ‘child’ is all that is abandoned and exposed 

and at the same time divinely powerful.” C. G. Jung

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The Science of Being Human

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“neoteny” - born into a womb 

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“neoteny” – natural childhood 

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“neoteny” – pre-maturity  

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Twin needs of child: acceptance of his grandeurand specialness – and the moderate

frustrations/challenges of reality.

Integration and Acceptance 

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Inner Child Meditation

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The courage of beginning again … 

“For what it's worth: it's never too late or, in mycase, too early to be whoever you want to be.

There's no time limit, start whenever you want.You can change or stay the same, there are no

rules to this thing. We can make the best or theworst of it. I hope you make the best of it. I hope

you see things that startle you. I hope you feelthings you never felt before. I hope you meet

people who have a different point of view. I hopeyou live a life you're proud of, and if you find thatyou're not, I hope you have the strength to start

all over again.” 

The Curious Case of Benjamin Button - letter to Caroline

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The art of procrastination

Friday 8th June

Blick Studios

8.15pm – 10pm

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Upcoming Events… 

MOVIE NIGHT

next week - same time – same place!

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Meditation Methods for everyday living

Friday 25th May

Blick Studios

8.15pm – 10pm

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Skills for Life Workshop

Friday 1st June

Blick Studios

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