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Facilitators: Laura Mocanu and Andrew Brown
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Welcome
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World of the “outer” adult
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Who am I ?
“Children know
where children
come from, butnot where adults
come from.”
Tomi Ungerer
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ME the social adult
Knowledgeable – Focused – Understanding –
Perceiving – Communicator – Considerate -
Technical - Sensitive – Patient …
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ME when I’m alone
Depression – Obesity – Anorexia –
Anxiety – Compulsive – Worry –
Addiction – Stresses – Driven –
Frustration – Withdrawn – Overwhelm
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problem of adulthood
‘Christkindl’
25th December
“The trouble with earthlings is their early adulthood. As long as they are young, they are lovable, open-hearted, eager to learn
and to collaborate. They can even beinduced to play with one another … The only
educational problem earth has is how to
keep them young… Your cultural life hasalready become too rich, too complicated…”
Equals One: The Journal of Auroville
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Crisis of adulthood…
“The very idea of the adult has fallen into
confusion… adults [now] regress toward
adolescence and adolescents refuse tobecome adults.”
(Robert Bly, The Sibling Society )
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Who are we ???
• Only adults ask this question.
• Many voices competing to tell me who I
am… • Many masks / personas I can wear
• Who am I to myself / what is
my self-image??
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self-hood
The relationship
I now have with
myself is more
powerful thanany other
relationship I
have had in the past or will have
in the future…
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Depth Psychology
“assumes the external and internal worlds
reflect each other…”Robert M. Stein
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Let’s melt some ice !
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What’s your favourite fairy tale – andwhy?
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Adventures of Aladdin
Ali Baba and the 40 thieves
Beauty and the BeastCinderella Fox and the Grapes
Golden Goose Hansel and Gretel
Little red ridding hood
Pinocchio
Sleeping Beauty Snow white and the Seven Dwarfs
Three little pigs
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Civilised development
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• Ego –development is self-protection
•Abandonment is survival
• Cycle of inflation and fragmentation…
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Wounded child
“It is not the traumas we suffer in childhood
which make us emotionally ill but the inability to
express the trauma.” Alice Millar
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Adolescent psychology
• Narcissism – ‘the psychological disturbance of our time.’ Joel Covitz
This ‘eternal youth’ usually comes from either extreme of parental care: neglect or overindulgence. To prevent further
loss, the narcissist ‘hovers above life, living onlyprovisionally.’ Abrams
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Procrastination
High ideals / fantasy of success / super-powerful
The resulting fear of failure means that inreality, no success can live up to the core
fantasy of the childhood self...
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Positive Narcissism
• Provides a balancefor its opposite:age-old tradition.
• This great‘potential’ can yetbecome embodied into a new andgreater kind of human being.
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Inner child
The loving
adult
The surviving
child The wounded
child
The pure child
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Loving Adult
Knowledge
Focus
Understanding
Perception
Communication
Physical strength
Networking
Technical ability
Thinking
Boundaries
Sensitivity
Dual Awareness
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Loving your inner child
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Mythology of the Divine Child
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The divine child within us ‘gives meaning to our
immature strivings; he shows us the
unconscious side of the limitations which we
experience, and that is a vision of potentialitycoming into flower.’
June Singer
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“The ‘child’ is all that is abandoned and exposed
and at the same time divinely powerful.” C. G. Jung
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The Science of Being Human
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“neoteny” - born into a womb
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“neoteny” – natural childhood
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“neoteny” – pre-maturity
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Twin needs of child: acceptance of his grandeurand specialness – and the moderate
frustrations/challenges of reality.
Integration and Acceptance
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Inner Child Meditation
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The courage of beginning again …
“For what it's worth: it's never too late or, in mycase, too early to be whoever you want to be.
There's no time limit, start whenever you want.You can change or stay the same, there are no
rules to this thing. We can make the best or theworst of it. I hope you make the best of it. I hope
you see things that startle you. I hope you feelthings you never felt before. I hope you meet
people who have a different point of view. I hopeyou live a life you're proud of, and if you find thatyou're not, I hope you have the strength to start
all over again.”
The Curious Case of Benjamin Button - letter to Caroline
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The art of procrastination
Friday 8th June
Blick Studios
8.15pm – 10pm
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Upcoming Events…
MOVIE NIGHT
next week - same time – same place!
£3
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Meditation Methods for everyday living
Friday 25th May
Blick Studios
8.15pm – 10pm
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Skills for Life Workshop
Friday 1st June
Blick Studios
8.15pm – 10pm
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