3 Habits for Private Victory

Private VictoryThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective

TeensSean Covey

Life is going to happenBetter to have some tools to help you along the way.

Paradigms:The way you see yourself and others

Do your paradigms hurt or help you?

If others tell you you’re smart, you start believing you are smart, you will likely be smart.

Shift your paradigm if not good. Put on a new pair of lenses. Get more information/adjust prescription

You do matter. You can do it.

Principles-Centered Life

Honesty

Hard Work

ModerationLoyalty

Respect

Love

Fairness

Service

Responsibility

Integrity

Gratitude

Personal Bank AccountDeposits•Keep promises to self•Do small acts of kindness•Be gentle with self•Be honest•Renew yourself•Tap into your talents

Withdrawals•Break promises to self•Keep to yourself•Beat yourself up•Be dishonest•Wear self out•Neglect talents

Private Victory-Habits 1, 2 and 31. Be proactive (be responsible for your life)2. Start with an end in mind (mission/goals)3. Put first things first (prioritize)4. Think Win-Win (everyone can will attitude)5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood

(listen to people)6. Synergize (work together to achieve more)7. Sharpen the saw (renew yourself)

What is in it for me?The 7 habits can help me•Get control of my life•Make smarter decisions•Get along with parents•Do more with less time•Be happy•Find balance between school, work and friends•Define what matters most to me•Overcome bad habits

#1 You are responsible for your lifeProactive•Not easily offended•Responsible for their own choices•Think before they act•Bounce back if something bad happens•Find ways to make things happen•Do not worry about things outside their control

Reactive•Let others control their life•Act as victims•Easily offended•Blame others•Make excuses•Whine and complain•Wait for things to happen to them•Change only if forced to

Being proactive takes practice1. Increase the times each day you make a

positive response instead of a reactive one2. Decide ahead of time the response you plan

to make if you predict a negative instant will occur

3. Write down, “I will not let _____________ decide how I am going to feel.”

4. Be the first to apologize5. Push pause before responding6. Identify something out of your control you

are not going to worry about anymore

“People are just about as happy as they make up their

minds to be.”

#2 Begin with an end in mindYour mission statement•Define who you want to be•Deep roots (not going any where) but alive and continually growing and changing•Stays constant when every thing around you changes•Something to hang on to help you deal with change

Personal Mission Statement

What are you good at?• Good with numbers• Good with words• Creative thinker• Athletics• Making things happen• Sensing needs• Mechanical• Technical• Artistic

• Working well with people

• Memorizing things• Decision making• Building things• Accepting others• Predicting what will

happen• Speaking

• Writing• Dancing• Listening• Singing• Humor• Sharing• Music• Trivia

Have it inspire you - Refer to it often• Evaluate your current live and avoid the three “watch outs”

Negative labels, “It’s all over” syndrome, Ladder leaning on wrong wall

• Collect some of your favorite quotes•http://www.motivateus.com/tquotes.htm•http://www.quoteland.com/•http://quotegeek.com/by-theme/

• Do a brain dump• Not an English assignment• Then, start small with GOALS to get there

“Most of us will never do great things.

But we can do small things in great ways.”

--Maren Mouritsen

Go for the Goal1. Count the cost before you commit2. Write it down3. Do it (burn the ships, no return)4. Make it great

(seize the day, make a difference)5. Include others

#3 Put First Things FirstBig, Important

Things That Take Your

Time

Small Things, Less Important Things That Take Your

Time

Quadrant 2: The Prioritizer

• Watching TV• Social media• Video games• Time wasters

• Friend’s small problems

• Peer pressure• Interruptions

• Upcoming projects

• Exercise• Relationships• Relaxation

• Uncontrolled emergency

• Car breaks down• Exam tomorrow

Comfort Zone vs Courage Zone