1. Effectively Manage Emotions Dr Brandy A Marks Biblical &
Licensed Mental Health Counselor Dr Brandy A Marks www.dotcross.org
Vancouver WA 1
2. Emotions According to Webster's dictionary, the term emotion
is the Latin ex-movere, meaning to move away. When we are carnal,
in our emotions, we move away from the will of God and do not walk
in the Spirit. Dr Brandy A Marks www.dotcross.org Vancouver WA
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3. Emotions How do you use your emotions as a means to move
away from people? Does your anger keep you apart from others? When
did your emotions cause you move away from the will of God and not
walk in the Spirit? What was God asking you to do? What did you
feel that created the separation? How could you use your emotions
to move toward closeness with God and/or others? Talk about my
feelings of . Let other people know I am anxious or afraid, etc.
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4. Emotional Responses Emotions are "a complex, usually a
strong subjective response that involves physiologic changes
preparing us for action (to fight or flee or even be at peace) Due
to their complexity, emotions are not easy to explain, which can
make dealing with them very difficult, however Clear thinking means
we will more likely be led by the Spirit, not our emotions. 4
5. Your Emotions What Emotions do you typically experience and
respond to frequently? What action do they prepare you for? When
angry, I prepare to What do emotions mean to you? Is it okay to be
angry, sad, fearful, joyful, other? Im embarrassed to cry; I must
be happy not angry. How could you use your mind to overcome angry,
fearful or anxious emotions? 5
6. Holy Spirit Leading Joyce Meyer says the Holy Spirit may be
leading us to do one thing but our emotions, especially we get all
excited about doing something, we may see the emotion as a
confirmation of God's will. Especially if its something we strongly
desire This is not necessarily an accurate perception That
physiologic response may be nothing more than a rush of adrenalin
(that brings excitement) or norepinephrine (bringing a pleasant
feeling). 6
7. Holy Spirit Leading Have you gotten excited about something,
thinking it was a confirmation of God's will? You met someone at
church and he or she was your ideal so you assumed God brought that
person into your life so he or she must be meant for you. What was
the event? How did you feel then? What did you do about it? How did
that situation work out? Dr Brandy A Marks www.dotcross.org
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8. Satan and Emotions Other times, the Spirit may lead us to do
a certain thing, and our emotions will not want anything to do with
what God has revealed for us. Fear or anxietytools of Satan--can
keep us from moving with the will of God. At times it is harder to
obey God. Satan uses our emotions - or lack - to keep us out of
God's will. What situation comes to mind? How did it work out and
what did you learn? 8
9. To serve - Emotions or? Choose this day whom you will serve
[your emotions or God] Joshua 24:15. Whats it like being a slave to
your emotion? Can you imagine be freed of that enslavement? The
wise will hear and increase in learning, and the person of
understanding acquires skill and sound counsel [so you follow Gods
will]--Pro 1:5 What learning or skills do you need to increase?
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10. Enjoy Emotions We can and should enjoy our emotions,
however, there are times when they work against us, such as when we
listen to the emotion rather than to God. So, do not set aside and
invalidate, frustrate and/or nullify the grace of God - Galatians
2:21 [by not listening and instead going your own way.] Consider a
situation where you did your own thing and how it turned out. Dr
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11. Walled Emotions People who have been badly hurt, they may
develop a hard heart and build walls to protect themselves. Pride
can also lead us to a hardness of heart as was seen with the
Pharisees of Jesus day. Everyone has feelings, but some people
choose not to reveal theirs and become callous -not feeling
anything. Breaking down the walls by the Word is needed and having
a spiritual mind, one that is focused on God. 11
12. Broken Walls When have you been badly hurt? Failed
relationship, gossipy friends who hurt you Have you ever had a
hardness of heart and built walls to protect yourself? Describe.
Have you chosen not to reveal your feelings and kept silent when
someone was hurting? How could you strengthen your spiritual mind
and break down your hard hearted walls? 12
13. A Spiritual Mind Stop those who do evil. Support those who
do good. God, you are fair. ... Psalm 7:9 If your thinking is
controlled by your sinful self, there is spiritual death. But if
your thinking is of the Spirit, there is life and peace. -Ro 8:6.
If we pursue the material and live only for our self, we'll never
be satisfied. If we live for the Spirit, we'll live in peace now
and forever. --Romans 8:7 What price have you paid for being carnal
and hostile [rebellious] to Gods will? 13
14. Carnal Impulses as long as there is envy, jealousy and
arguing and division among you, you are unspiritual and of the
flesh, behaving like mere humans--1 Cor 3:3. The unspiritual are
so, because they lived by human nature, controlled by their
"impulses" [emotions] and not the Spirit of God. They needed to
change their habits [their mind] and respond with fruit of the
Spirit [in love, joy, peace, patience, kind, generous, faithful].
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15. Impulses Where is envy and jealousy in your life? Who do
you argue with creating division? What is your attitude and
behavior like? How do your impulses control you? Are you generally
led by the Spirit? Do you tend to be led by impulses? What habits
do you need to change? 15
16. Breaking Habits Breaking any habit is a struggle; its a
fight within that requires God, "Lord, help me"; And knowing the
Holy Spirit is always with us to help at all times. However, we
must make the choice to do whatever is right in Gods sight. What
choices do you need to make? Change your way of thinking and you
will change. 16
17. Choices Ask and it will be given; seek and you will find;
knock and the door will be opened (Luke 11.9) God expects us to do
our part too, while asking Him for what we need, seeking, and
looking for the doors he will open. But then, we must take action
and walk through, following in His ways. God gives us the ability
to do whatever is needed, but we must choose wisely. 17
18. Wisdom The beginning of Wisdom is: get Wisdom! With all you
have gotten, get understanding (Pro 4:7.) Thus we see through the
lies Satan speaks and past the feelings he stirs within us. We keep
our eyes on the Word of God and do what it says, not what we feel
like doing. Therefore, we have become wise. 18
19. Commit Your Way As such, commit your way to the Lord and be
led by the Spirit - not by your emotions. When an emotion rises,
test it to see if it is of God. If it is not, resist it. Emotions
are appropriate depending on a situation Thus we struggle against
our emotions - by using our free will to make a decision. We turn
to Jesus who understood, having been tempted and overcame. 19
20. Committed As such, commit your way to the Lord and be led
by the Spirit - not by your emotions. What emotions often rise to
tempt you? How do you experience them? Your attitude toward others
or situations? How can your free will help you to do what is right
in Gods sight? What different choices do you need to make? 20
21. Jesus and Emotions Jesus was touched with the feelings of
our infirmities, and was in all ways tempted just as we are, yet
without sin. Do you feel hope, knowing that, as a human, if Jesus
managed, you can too? How was Jesus tempted just as you are?
Imagine coming boldly to the throne and finding mercy and grace to
help in your time of need? 21
22. Rely and Refuse Jesus experienced every emotion you and I
do, yet He did not give in to His feelings. He relied on the Word
of God and refused to be tempted to act sinfully. It is not a
matter of simply thinking, "I shouldn't feel this way"; But a
matter of knowing you have a choice; Recognize the emotion/feeling,
then let it go Cry out to God and let the fruit of the Holy Spirit
lend discipline and control to your emotions. (Galatians 5:23.)
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23. Gifts of the Spirit We are to use the gifts of the Holy
Spirit: according to the grace that is given us, if prophecy,
according to the level of our faith; If in a ministry, then we
minister Those who teach, do so in teaching; S/he who exhorts, be
encouraging Those who share, keep it super simple If a leader, be
diligent to lead well; or Those who show mercy, do so joyfully.
What gifts have you received? How could you put them to better use?
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24. Brotherly Love Let love be without hypocrisy, avoid evil,
do good; in brotherly love to one another, loving fervently, having
led one another in honor. Be diligent, not slothful, fervent in
spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, patient in affliction,
steadfast in prayer, give to the needs of the saints, pursue
hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless, and do not
curse. Love as you love yourself and everyone does love themselves;
its why we do what we do. 24
25. Rejoice I Say Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with
those who weep; mind the same thing toward one another, not minding
high things [being full of yourself], but yielding to the lowly [be
humble]. Do not be wise in yourselves, nor repay evil for evil.
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26. Now we Rejoice How can you apply each of these in your
life? Rejoice with those who rejoice Weep with those who weep or
grieve; mind the same thing toward one another, not being prideful,
but humble. Do not be wise within yourselves. Repay no one evil for
evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. 26
27. If it is possible, as far as you are able, be at peace with
everyone; do not avenge yourselves; let go your anger; for it is
written, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay, says the Lord." So, if
your enemy hungers, feed him. If he thirsts, give him something to
drink. For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head. By
doing good to your enemy, their inner guilt will burn within them
and may ultimately change them. Do not be overcome by evil;
overcome evil with good. 27
28. Make it Happen How could you be more at peace? How can you
avoid revenge? As a metaphor consider What do you feed your enemy?
Fruit of the Spirit (love, joy, peace, etc.) What can you give him
drink? (kindness, compassion) How does this heap coals of fire on
him? Not done in a mean-spirited manner either How can you overcome
evil with good? 28
29. Get Understanding All wisdom comes from the Lord, as does
understanding. Proverbs 2:6 Jesus showed understanding, How can you
give this message to others, no matter your past or present
feelings? Satan wants us to be hard and callous so we cannot feel
or be sensitive to others. Imagine you are being sensitive to even
your enemies and showing them love. 29
30. Sensitivity God wants us to be sensitive to the feelings
and needs of others and less so to our own. Acknowledge and accept
your emotions but Do not to be led by your feelings, instead be
moved in compassion and understanding, so we may be able to comfort
those who are in every kind of trouble, through the comfort with
which we ourselves are comforted by God. (2 Corinthians 1:4). How
does or has God comforted you? 30
31. Not Your Feelings Jesus did not feel like going to the
cross [in an agony He prayed more earnestly], yet subjected Him
self to the will of God. He knelt down and prayed, Father, if You
are willing, remove this cup from Me. Dr Brandy A Marks
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32. Blood, Sweat & Tears Yet not My will, but Yours be
done. An angel appeared, strengthening Him. His sweat was as it
were great drops of blood falling down to the ground. (Luke
22:41-44) Jesus knew about emotions! Dr Brandy A Marks
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33. Fires of Affliction Establish the righteous; for You, Who
try the hearts and minds Psalm 7:9 In this Psalm and in Revelation
2:23 God searches minds (thoughts and purposes) and the [emotions]
heart, and tries or tests us until purified. If God searched your
mind and emotions, what would he find? How have you been tried and
tested? How were you more purified? 33
34. Discipline and Control How will you to learn to discipline
your thoughts or emotions unless God allows you trying times? God
never allows more than we can bear. (1Corinthians 10:13.) If the
Lord does not allow such testing times then we will never learn to
deal with the devils when he brings them upon us. What trying times
have you learned from? How were you made stronger? 34
35. Trying Times Trying times are learning times. Much like
athletes endurance trials train them for the big race, so God train
us to fulfill His purpose for our lives. Looking back, can you see
how God has trained you for some purpose? What? Certain emotional
conditions also provide trying times to manage. 35
36. Bi-Polar Disorder Manic depressive, also Bi-Polar disorder,
is disordered emotions that fluctuate from one polar extreme to the
next. Anyone can learn to resist the depressed and the high
emotions. There will always be days when a person is up and days
when they are down. The key is to balance the emotions, not accept
the highs and reject the lows. 36
37. Stability is Important Being honest with our self and with
others is crucial to our stability. People close to us can sense
our struggles and if we are honest with them about what is going
and can offer assistance. Whether anger, depression, or any
emotion, our family or friends have the opportunity to encourage
and support us in our need. 37
38. Stability is Important Are there people with whom you can
be honest about your emotions and your struggles? If no, why not?
When you have been honest with others have they been there to offer
support? Which of your family or friends have been there to
encourage and support you? If no one, how do you manage? 38
39. Ive Got the Power Whatever we hide has power over us, so we
must bring everything out of darkness into the light of honesty and
openness, then they lose their grip on us immediately. John 8:32
says the truth will set us free and James 5:16 says to confess our
faults to one another so we may be healed and restored to spiritual
health. Anger, bitterness, and resentment has many serious
consequences on the body mind and spirit 39
40. Wheres your Power? What is hidden that has power over you?
Could you bring it out of darkness into the light of honesty and
openness? If you have already done this, how did it feel to have
that grip on you loosened? How has the truth set you free? Have you
confessed faults to another? In what way were you healed/ restored?
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41. Respect: Give to Receive We respect people who are open and
honest or straightforward just as they respect us if we are honest
with them. The trick is not to cater to our emotions, giving into
fear and doubt. God helps if we continually trust Him and follow
the lead of the Holy Spirit. Dr Brandy A Marks www.dotcross.org
Vancouver WA 41
42. Catering to Emotions In catering to our emotions, the price
we pay is not living the Spirit-filled life God wants for us. In
what way do you cater to your desires? Everyone who is ruled by the
Holy Spirit thinks about spiritual things--Romans 8:5. If you are
ruled by your emotions then they have control of you and your
actions How different does this feel from catering to your desires,
yourself or emotions? 42
43. Vice Versa We sigh and look within; Jesus sighed and looked
without. We sigh and look down; Jesus sighed and looked up. We sigh
and look to earth. Jesus sighed and looked to heaven. We sigh and
look to man. Jesus sighed, and looked to God! --Octavius Winslow He
who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk as He walked.
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44. I Will Never Leave You "He who sent Me is with Me. I always
do what pleases Him -- John 8:29 What blessings are ours when we do
what pleases Father God. "..be content with such things as you
have. For He Himself has said, "I will never leave you nor forsake
you." -- Heb 13:5 (VW) How does it feel, knowing God will always be
there with you to help not hinder you? 44
45. A Weakness Some people see emotions as a weakness, and feel
guilty when experiencing emotions of anger or sorrow. Many
Christians believe Jesus was detached from his emotions, and so
should we be. Yet the gospels reveal that Jesus was very emotional.
He wept. He felt anger; in the Garden of Gethsemane shortly before
His arrest . . . Mark 14:32-42 He experienced some troublesome
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46. A Man of Sorrows Really consider this next scene and what
it must have been like for Jesus 32. Then they came to a place
which was named Gethsemane; and He said to His disciples, "Sit here
while I pray." 33. And He took Peter, James and John with Him, and
He began to be troubled and deeply distressed. 34. He said, "My
soul is exceedingly sorrowful, even to death. Stay and watch.
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47. Fearful and Frustrated 35. He fell on the ground, And He
said, "Abba, Father, all things are possible for You. Take this cup
away from Me; nevertheless, not what I will, but what You will."
37. Then He came and found them sleeping, and said to Peter,
"Simon, are you sleeping? Could you not watch one hour? 38. Watch
and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is
willing but the flesh is weak. 47
48. Time and Again 39. Again He went away and prayed, and spoke
the same words. 40. And when He returned, He found them asleep
again, for their eyes were heavy; and they did not know what to
answer Him. 41. He came the third time and said, "Are you still
sleeping and resting? It is enough! The hour has come; behold, the
Son of Man is being betrayed into the hands of sinners. 48
49. The Betrayal 42. Rise. Let us be going. My betrayer is at
hand. see Luke 22:44 No matter what emotions we feel, Jesus knew
everyone and understood what we are going through. However, He
chose to respond different from the way many of us do. While
frustrated that they slept on, he did not berate them but endured
with patience. Dr Brandy A Marks www.dotcross.org Vancouver WA
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50. Doctrine of the Cross Anyone who desires to come after me,
must deny themselves, pick up their cross daily, and come follow
meLuke 9:23 To express emotion as Jesus did means to deny our
desire for emotional displays or denial of emotion, and Instead
respond thoughtfully and with love and honesty toward others. How
hard or easy would that be for you? 50
51. Thank you for watching I hope this was a blessing for you
and helps you to make the changes you desire in your life. Dr
Brandy A Marks www.dotcross.org Vancouver WA 51
52. 2006_Dr Brandy A Marks Biblical & Licensed Mental
Health Counselor 360-696-8909 52 Original content was derived from
various material on the web, including Joyce Meyers and G. B. B
Shelburne, et al.