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EPHESIANS 4:25-3225 Therefore each of you must put offfalsehood and speak truthfully to yourneighbor, for we are all members of onebody. 26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do notlet the sun go down while you are stillangry, 27 and do not give the devil afoothold.
EPHESIANS 4:25-32
28 Anyone who has been stealing must
steal no longer, but must work, doing
something useful with their own hands,
that they may have something to share
with those in need.
EPHESIANS 4:25-3229 Do not let any unwholesome talk comeout of your mouths, but only what ishelpful for building others up according totheir needs, that it may benefit those wholisten. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spiritof God, with whom you were sealed forthe day of redemption.
EPHESIANS 4:25-3231 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and
anger, brawling and slander, along with
every form of malice. 32 Be kind and
compassionate to one another, forgiving
each other, just as in Christ God forgave
you.
RUTH 1:20
20 “Don’t call me Naomi,” she told them.
“Call me Mara, because the Almighty has
made my life very bitter.
1 CORINTHIANS 13:5
5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-
seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps
no record of wrongs.
If I sin against you, am I prone to feel guilty or bitter? Guilty. If I perceive that
you’ve sinned against me, and I choose not to forgive you, am I prone
to feel guilty or bitter? Bitter.
Bitterness is, by definition, the possession of the one who is
perceived to have been wronged. This contributes to their sense of self-
righteousness and judgmentalism.
JAMES 3:14
14 But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish
ambition in your hearts, do not boast
about it or deny the truth.
When we are sinned against, we have two choices: bitterness or forgiveness. There’s no third option. When you are
sinned against, it’s bitterness or forgiveness.
Who is it that you are bitter against, or potentially bitter against, or will be bitter
against?Who has sinned against you?
Whose face comes into your mind’s eye? Whose name comes into your mind?
Who has betrayed you? Who has abandoned you?
Who has harmed you? Who has disappointed you?
Who has hurt you? Who do you blame for your bitterness?
What tends to happen is, when we have been sinned against—we have been victimized—we tend to justify
our bitterness.
But, no one can make you bitter. They’re responsible for their sin, but
you’re responsible for your bitterness.
“For a cup brimful of sweet water
cannot even spill one drop of bitter water, however
suddenly jolted.”
- Amy Carmichael
If there’s bitterness in you, they’re going to expose it. They’re not causing it; they’re exposing it. If there’s sweet water in your
soul, and someone sins against you, they’re exposing, not changing, what is
in your soul.
EPHESIANS 4:25-2925 Therefore each of you must put offfalsehood and speak truthfully to yourneighbor, for we are all members of onebody. 26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do notlet the sun go down while you are stillangry, 27 and do not give the devil afoothold.
EPHESIANS 4:25-29
28 Anyone who has been stealing must
steal no longer, but must work, doing
something useful with their own hands,
that they may have something to share
with those in need.
EPHESIANS 4:25-29
29 Do not let any unwholesome talk comeout of your mouths, but only what ishelpful for building others up according totheir needs, that it may benefit those wholisten.
Gossip is when we talk about people; we don’t talk with them. That’s gossip. The Bible has nothing good to say about gossip, and just because you’re hurting
doesn’t mean there’s an exception clause.
Sometimes this means you literally need to sit down with them face to face. Matthew 18 says if there’s a personal offense between the two of you, you start face to face. And if that
doesn’t produce any result, then you bring along two or three other godly people to help mediate
and observe the process.
EXODUS 34:6
6 And He passed in front of Moses,proclaiming, “The Lord, the Lord, thecompassionate and gracious God, slowto anger, abounding in love andfaithfulness,
In saying, “Do not let the sun go down on your anger,” what it’s saying is, “Don’t let
things extend or delay.”
It doesn’t mean you can’t go for a walk and say, “Look, I’m really frustrated. I need to pray. Let me
journal, think my thoughts through, get my head on straight. Let me cool down. Let me go read my
Bible. I’ll be ready in an hour or two. Let me just get ready to talk to you so I don’t bring a lot of wood to
this fire.”
Satan loves it when a Christian shoots a Christian, saves them the bullet, and it also publicly damages the reputation of
Jesus. It’s all spiritual war.
What do you do with your hands when you’re bitter? Do you punch something? Do you shove someone? Do you grab someone? Do you throw something?
Do you slam a door? Do you jump in a car? Do you slam it into gear and speed away? What do you do
with your hands?
Bitter people tend to rewrite, revise history. Watch your mouth. Tell the truth about them and you. You do not have a
right to respond to sin with sin. The Bible says, “Do not respond to evil with evil.”
EPHESIANS 4:31
31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and
anger, brawling and slander, along with
every form of malice.
HEBREWS 12:15
15 See to it that no one falls short of the
grace of God and that no bitter root
grows up to cause trouble and defile
many.
First thing, you need a spark, and then a little flame. OK, now we have the beginnings of a potential fire. There’s an opportunity here.
That’s what wrath is. Bitterness is like the spark. Wrath is the first flame. Now, through
gossip, you’re literally breathing on it.
Bitter people don’t intend to burn down everything in their path. But the two options are bitterness or forgiveness, wood on the fire, or water on the fire. And sometimes,
hurt people like to hurt people. Some fires move slow. Some fires move fast.
EPHESIANS 4:29-3229 Do not let any unwholesome talk comeout of your mouths, but only what ishelpful for building others up according totheir needs, that it may benefit those wholisten. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spiritof God, with whom you were sealed forthe day of redemption.
EPHESIANS 4:29-32
31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and
anger, brawling and slander, along with
every form of malice. 32 Be kind and
compassionate to one another, forgiving
each other, just as in Christ God forgave
you.
It takes a miracle for a bitter victim to forgive, and the name of the miracle is the Holy Spirit. He is the one who will allow you,
empower you, enable you to forgive. And if you resist or quench Him—we grieve the
Holy Spirit.
Sin is not just breaking God’s laws. It’s breaking God’s heart, because God is not
just a law. He’s a Person. Are you grieving the Holy Spirit? Is there sadness? Is there grief,
because of you, in Him?
SEVEN THINGS FORGIVENESS IS
(1) Forgiveness is canceling a debt owed to
you.
(2) Forgiveness is removing the control that
the offender has over you.
(3) Forgiveness is giving a gift to yourself
and to your offender.
SEVEN THINGS FORGIVENESS IS
(4) Forgiveness is forsaking revenge.
(5) Forgiveness is leaving ultimate justice in
God’s hands.
(6) Forgiveness is an ongoing process.
(7) Forgiveness is wanting good for your
offender. .
ROMANS 12:19
19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends,
but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is
written: “It is Mine to avenge; I will repay,”
says the Lord.
SEVEN THINGS FORGIVENESS IS NOT
(1) Forgiveness is not denying that sin
occurred or diminishing its evil.
(2) Forgiveness is not enabling sin.
(3) Forgiveness is not necessarily a
response to an apology.
(4) Forgiveness is not forgetting.
SEVEN THINGS FORGIVENESS IS NOT
(5) Forgiveness is not covering up crimes
committed against us.
(6) Forgiveness is not trust.
(7) Forgiveness is not reconciliation.