Getting past your past

FORGIVING FORGIVING THOSE THOSE WHO WHO

HURT YOUHURT YOU

And when you stand And when you stand praying, if you hold praying, if you hold

anything against anything against anyone, anyone, forgive himforgive him, , so so

that your Father in that your Father in heaven may forgive heaven may forgive

your sinsyour sins. .

Mark 11:25Mark 11:25

WHO WHO HURT YOU?HURT YOU?

We are part of the We are part of the same body. Stop lying same body. Stop lying and start telling each and start telling each other the truth. Don’t other the truth. Don’t get so angry that you get so angry that you sin. Don’t go to bed sin. Don’t go to bed angry and don’t give angry and don’t give the devil a chance.the devil a chance.

Ephesians 4:25-32Ephesians 4:25-32

If you are a thief, quit If you are a thief, quit stealing. Be honest and stealing. Be honest and work hard, so you will work hard, so you will

have something to give to have something to give to people in need. Stop all people in need. Stop all your your dirty talkdirty talk. . Say the Say the right thing at the right right thing at the right timetime and and help others by help others by

what you saywhat you say..


Don’t make God’s Spirit Don’t make God’s Spirit sadsad. The Spirit makes you . The Spirit makes you sure that someday you will sure that someday you will

be free from your sins. be free from your sins. Stop being Stop being bitterbitter and and

angryangry and and madmad at others. at others. Don’t yellDon’t yell at one another at one another

or or cursecurse each other or ever each other or ever be be ruderude. .


3232 Instead, be Instead, be kindkind and and mercifulmerciful, and , and forgive forgive

othersothers, just , just as God forgave as God forgave you because of Christyou because of Christ..


ARE YOU ARE YOU ‘‘MARA’?MARA’?

CHARACTERISTICS CHARACTERISTICS OF BITTER OF BITTER

PEOPLEPEOPLE

BITTER PEOPLE ARE BITTER PEOPLE ARE ARCHEOLOGISTS, ARCHEOLOGISTS, ALWAYS DIGGING ALWAYS DIGGING UP THE PAST. UP THE PAST.

BITTER PEOPLE BITTER PEOPLE REMEMBER REMEMBER INTRICATE DETAILS INTRICATE DETAILS BECAUSE THEY KEEP BECAUSE THEY KEEP A RECORD OF A RECORD OF WRONGS. WRONGS.

BITTER PEOPLE ARE BITTER PEOPLE ARE TRIGGERED LESS BY TRIGGERED LESS BY THE OFFENSE AND THE OFFENSE AND MORE BY THEIR LOVE MORE BY THEIR LOVE FOR THE OFFENDER. FOR THE OFFENDER.

BITTER PEOPLE ARE BITTER PEOPLE ARE PRONE TO BE PRONE TO BE SELF-RIGHTEOUS SELF-RIGHTEOUS SINCE THEY ARE THE SINCE THEY ARE THE PERCEIVED VICTIM. PERCEIVED VICTIM.

FIVE WAYS PEOPLE FIVE WAYS PEOPLE BECOME BITTERBECOME BITTER

YOU WRONGLY YOU WRONGLY THINK THAT THEY THINK THAT THEY HAVE SINNED HAVE SINNED AGAINST YOU. AGAINST YOU.

SOME OF YOU HAVE SOME OF YOU HAVE UNREASONABLE UNREASONABLE AND/OR UNSPOKEN AND/OR UNSPOKEN EXPECTATIONS EXPECTATIONS THAT ARE UNMET. THAT ARE UNMET.

THEY REBUKED YOU, THEY REBUKED YOU, AND YOU WERE AND YOU WERE HARD-HEARTED, HARD-HEARTED, AND YOU WERE HURT, AND YOU WERE HURT, SO YOU’RE BITTER SO YOU’RE BITTER AGAINST THEM. AGAINST THEM.

YOU ARE YOU ARE JEALOUS OF THEM. JEALOUS OF THEM.

YOU’VE BEEN YOU’VE BEEN SINNED AGAINST. SINNED AGAINST.

“For a cup brimful of sweet

water cannot even spill one drop of bitter

water, however suddenly jolted.”--AMY

CARMICHAEL

“For a cup brimful of sweet

water cannot even spill one drop of bitter

water, however suddenly jolted.”--AMY

CARMICHAEL

SIX COMMANDS SIX COMMANDS FOR BITTER BELIEVERSFOR BITTER BELIEVERS

WATCH YOUR WATCH YOUR GOSSIP. GOSSIP.

WATCH YOUR WATCH YOUR EMOTIONS.EMOTIONS.

WATCH YOUR WATCH YOUR CLOCK.CLOCK.

WATCH YOUR WATCH YOUR ENEMY.ENEMY.

WATCH YOUR WATCH YOUR HANDS.HANDS.

WATCH YOUR WATCH YOUR MOUTH.MOUTH.

THE CYCLE OF THE CYCLE OF BITTERNESSBITTERNESS

DIG UP THE ROOT DIG UP THE ROOT OF BITTERNESSOF BITTERNESS

HOW TO BUILD HOW TO BUILD A FIREA FIRE

FORGIVEN FORGIVEN PEOPLE PEOPLE FORGIVEFORGIVE

BECAUSE GOD BECAUSE GOD IN CHRIST IN CHRIST

FORGAVE YOUFORGAVE YOU

SEVEN THINGS SEVEN THINGS FORGIVENESS ISFORGIVENESS IS

FORGIVENESS IS FORGIVENESS IS CANCELING A CANCELING A DEBT OWED TO DEBT OWED TO YOU. YOU.

FORGIVENESS IS FORGIVENESS IS REMOVING THE REMOVING THE CONTROL THAT CONTROL THAT THE OFFENDER THE OFFENDER HAS OVER YOU. HAS OVER YOU.

FORGIVENESS IS FORGIVENESS IS GIVING A GIFT GIVING A GIFT TO YOURSELF TO YOURSELF AND TO YOUR AND TO YOUR OFFENDER. OFFENDER.

FORGIVENESS IS FORGIVENESS IS FORSAKING FORSAKING REVENGE. REVENGE.

FORGIVENESS IS FORGIVENESS IS LEAVING LEAVING ULTIMATE JUSTICE ULTIMATE JUSTICE IN GOD’S HANDS. IN GOD’S HANDS.

FORGIVENESS IS FORGIVENESS IS WANTING GOOD WANTING GOOD FOR YOUR FOR YOUR OFFENDER. OFFENDER.

SEVEN THINGS SEVEN THINGS FORGIVENESS FORGIVENESS

IS NOTIS NOT

FORGIVENESS IS NOT FORGIVENESS IS NOT DENYING THAT SIN DENYING THAT SIN OCCURRED OR OCCURRED OR DIMINISHING ITS DIMINISHING ITS EVIL. EVIL.

FORGIVENESS IS NOT FORGIVENESS IS NOT ENABLING SIN. ENABLING SIN.

FORGIVENESS IS NOT FORGIVENESS IS NOT NECESSARILY A NECESSARILY A RESPONSE TO AN RESPONSE TO AN APOLOGY. APOLOGY.

FORGIVENESS IS NOT FORGIVENESS IS NOT COVERING UP COVERING UP CRIMES COMMITTED CRIMES COMMITTED AGAINST US. AGAINST US.

FORGIVENESS IS NOT FORGIVENESS IS NOT FORGETTING. FORGETTING.

FORGIVENESS IS NOT FORGIVENESS IS NOT TRUST. TRUST.

FORGIVENESS IS NOT FORGIVENESS IS NOT RECONCILIATION. RECONCILIATION.

WHY SHOULD WHY SHOULD I FORGIVE?I FORGIVE?

BECAUSE BECAUSE UNFORGIVENESS UNFORGIVENESS HURTSHURTS ME. ME.

Make sure that no Make sure that no one misses out on one misses out on God’s wonderful God’s wonderful

kindness. Don’t let kindness. Don’t let anyone become anyone become bitterbitter and and cause troublecause trouble for for

the rest of you.the rest of you.

Hebrews 12:15Hebrews 12:15

BECAUSE I’LL NEED BECAUSE I’LL NEED FORGIVENESS FORGIVENESS AGAINAGAIN..

If you forgive others for If you forgive others for the wrongs they do to the wrongs they do to

you, your Father in you, your Father in heaven will forgive you. heaven will forgive you. But if you don’t forgive But if you don’t forgive others, your Father will others, your Father will not forgive your sins.not forgive your sins.

Matthew 6:14-15Matthew 6:14-15

The king called the first The king called the first official back in and said, official back in and said,

“You’re an evil man! When “You’re an evil man! When you begged for mercy, I you begged for mercy, I said you did not have to said you did not have to

pay back a cent. Don’t you pay back a cent. Don’t you think you should show pity think you should show pity to someone else, as I did to someone else, as I did

to you?” to you?”


The king was so angry that The king was so angry that he ordered the official to he ordered the official to be tortured until he could be tortured until he could pay back everything he pay back everything he owed. owed. That is how my That is how my

Father in heaven will treat Father in heaven will treat you, if you don’t forgive you, if you don’t forgive

each of my followers with each of my followers with all your heart.all your heart.


HOW CAN I FORGIVE HOW CAN I FORGIVE SOMEONE WHO SOMEONE WHO

HURT ME?HURT ME?

PRAYPRAY FOR THOSE FOR THOSE WHO HURT YOU.WHO HURT YOU.


You have heard people You have heard people say, “Love your neighbors say, “Love your neighbors and hate your enemies.” and hate your enemies.” But I tell you to love your But I tell you to love your

enemies and pray for enemies and pray for anyone who mistreats you.anyone who mistreats you.


FORGIVE AS FORGIVE AS YOU’VE BEEN YOU’VE BEEN FORGIVENFORGIVEN..

Bear with each other and Bear with each other and forgive whatever forgive whatever

grievances you may have grievances you may have against one another. against one another. Forgive as the Lord Forgive as the Lord

forgave you. forgave you.

Colossians 3:13Colossians 3:13

BRYYAN BRYYAN JACKSOJACKSONN

Unthinkable: Brryan was just 11-months-old and in hospital with asthma when

his father Brian Stewart, pictured, injected him with

HIV-tainted blood in the hope of killing

him

Growing up: Bryyan developed full blown

AIDS at the age of five and lost 70 per cent of his hearing

due to all the medication he was

taking - at one stage 23 oral pills, two IV

bags, and three injections

"God wants us to "God wants us to forgive people. forgive people. Am I going to Am I going to

make myself as make myself as low as he is? I've low as he is? I've

got to be the got to be the better person.“better person.“

-Bryyan -Bryyan JacksonJackson


CONCLUSIONCONCLUSION

WHO DO YOU NEED

TO FORGIVE?

CONCLUSIONCONCLUSION

WHO NEEDS TO FORGIVE

YOU?

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