The Science of Personal Relations

Have you ever wondered how human relations work? Consider this:

Ever been in a car crash (milder ones) with you as the mistake driver. In this eventuality, if

you happen to run into an expensive car, God help you and you would be devastated with

paying for damage (Even insurance doesn’t cover everything and an average person would

not even be able to pay for just the headlights if damaged) other law enforcement charges

separate. In this scenario, if you do not know the person, it will most certainly end as

described in the lines above.

BUT if you happen to know the person, the negative behaviour of the car comes down by

90% with minimal expenses (even giving you somewhat EMI options) and any law

enforcement charges are immediately ruled out.

Such is the beauty of just knowing someone. Just think about it when this knowing graduates

to its next step of Relationship, all of para 1 is pardoned! and moreover, till the car fixes

itself, you have a cup of tea with the person. The variability of human behaviour needs to be

observed here. From the extreme negative to very positive. The incident remains same but the

response changes tremendously.

No road is straight in life and all of us run into such crashes (inferred as problems in life). At

these times, your relationships with people decide whether you are devastated, just stable or

such an incident becomes an opportunity and changes your life. One should always selflessly

help (the ones in need) people around and make aware all of this deed so that others are

inspired and fine tune their perception of you. Such perception intimation from time to time

speaks of you and defines your character as an overall person. Such people combined

necessarily with acute business skills become great people. Basically, one who understands

human behaviour wins the race.

Many people become judgemental and consider first impressions as last impressions. This

conduct is incorrect. People go through different pressures and grinds through different times

in life. One would get a response from the person with respect to his current situation in life.

One time analysis may make you judge a right person wrong and the wrong person right.

Hence a person should be judged based on deeds in the longer run rather than behaviours.

Behaviours can be circumstantial, deeds over a period of time can never be!

Relationships with people give you a refreshed new outlook towards life; it changes its very

meaning. A well connected person with good relations everywhere often has the tenacity to

face and successfully pass through the roughest patches life has to offer. Consider your

relations as your arsenal in life. It is that shield that protects you.

Once, the Honourable Ex President of India, Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam (also known as the

Missile Man of India) was asked in an interview, "Why are you making weapons of

destruction?"

The answer changed the reporters outlook towards life and his perception towards

relationships.

The answer was, "Because only Strength Respects Strength, it is not always about war".

Such should be our bond with people of power, people of honour, people of valour, people of

dignity, people of name fame and prosperity, that miscreants should not even dare to take

undue advantage of you. This happens only by making, maintaining, preserving relationships

and mutually helps all of us through each of us.

Start now selflessly and just look at where it takes you!