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Looking at the mechanisms involved in psychological transference
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WITHOUT BEING AWARE OF IT we may transfer to another
person emotions & responses we once had towards someone
else – this process is appropriately called “Transference”…
The our unconscious mind serves a useful purpose (freeing
the conscious mind for other tasks) but it also creates problems
in our relationship through …
Eventually we
figure out the
best ways to
deal with those
big people who
had all the
power…
FIGHT
FREEZE
FLIGHT
When we face
power as
adults, we tend
to use those
ways of
relating that
worked before The awareness of
TRANSFERENCE
provides a key to
understanding both
ourselves and
others in almost
every relationship
When our parents refused to „give into us‟
(when they‟ve reached their limit) then …
“Surprisingly, people who have had parents who were“easy” on them may sometimes be attracted to those whoare demanding -- Because such persons seem to providestructure that was missing in childhood.”
“The person with an over-demanding parent may beattracted to a person who seems “spontaneous” and lessrigid.”
Most commonly without realizing it, werepeat the familiar patterns of childhood
L. Crabb (2003). Soul Talk, p. 124.
Power struggles come
about especially when
each person has transference
to the other, and uses
seemingly “logical”
(but childish) manoeuvres
in a power situation…
SO HOW DO WE AVOID THE “POWER
STRUGGLES” THAT TRANSFERENCE
SEEMS TO PROVOKE?
Is it possible to act differently in a more
proactive way (creatively) to side-step the
„conflictual‟ stance…
Instead of power
struggles…. in which
each person tries to
“be somebody” at a
cost to the other — we
form a
We choose to move
away from the power
struggle…. and
towards a creative
relationship, where we:
PERSONAL EXAMPLE from last time….
NEXT TIME: