Relationship Analysis

CMS 330

Chapters 10,12,13

Presented by Van N. Ly

Introduction: Our friendship developed through

the years

• Peter is a close male friend.

• We met at a local coffee shop: Freeport Café.

• Once a month, on Sunday, we have a coffee brunch get-together ritual.

• We share lots of intimate friendship and conversation over coffee.

Theory #1 Concept from Chapter 10

Communication Privacy Management Theory

• “Culture “

• Gender

• Motivation

• Risk benefit analysis

• Context

Communicating Personal Information: Disclosure and Privacy

Theory # 1 from Textbook

Culture: “Individualistic cultures value privacy more than collectivist culture.”

Gender: “Men and women who strongly identify as masculine or feminine are likely to use rules for disclosure and privacy that correspond to sex role expectation.

Motivation: “Motivation to disclose or maintain privacy is influenced by our risk-benefit analysis.”

Risk Benefit Analysis: “Weighing what advantages we might gain by disclosing private information or maintaining private information against the danger.”

Content: “ Privacy and disclosure rule”

Relationship example: Evidence Theory # 1

Gender:

We discuss our private moments about our family issues and our goals and dreams.

Personal example: CPM Theory # 1

Context: Disclosed private intimate information: Trusting his choices. Sharing our private issues by disclosing our inner thoughts and opening up to freely express our voice.

Theory # 2 from Textbook: Effects of Disclosure and Privacy on

Relationships:

• Effects on Intimacy: “ Relationships cycle between disclosure and privacy.”

• Effects on Reciprocity: “The mutual disclosure of similarly sensitive information by both partners.”

• Information co-ownership: “The private information that each partner has shared with the other so that it is now jointly held.”

• Effect on intimacy:

Example-Personal Evidence Theory #2

Effects of Disclosure and Privacy on Relationships

• We talked about everything that was on our minds. We never kept any secrets from each other.

Example-Personal Evidence: Theory #2

Effects on Reciprocity

Our friendship is based on trusting one another to do the right thing.

Example-Personal Evidence: Theory #2

Information Co-ownership

Theory #3 from textbook: Digitally managing your personal

information:

• Social media: “ The rapid development and frequent use of social media have transformed how we practice digital communication and manage our personal information.”

• Warranting Theory: “Proposes that you will place more credibility on information about the personal characteristics and behaviors of others when the online information cannot be easily manipulated by the person whom it describes.”

Example-Personal Evidence: Theory #3

Digitally managing your personal information • We use Facebook Messenger as a mode of

communication on a weekly basis.

• When we are not meeting face to face, in person.

Chapter 11: Using Interpersonal Influence

• Theory #4

• Processing Persuasive Messages: The Elaboration Likelihood Model ( ELM).

• Persuasion: The use of verbal messages designed to influence the attitudes and behavior of others.

Example-Personal Evidence: Theory #4

Verbal Message

• We often clearly express our opinions of how we feel with one another.

Theory #4 from textbook Elaboration Likelihood Model (ELM) of

Persuasion

• ELM: “A dual processing theory that holds that people will use either heuristics-mental shortcuts or more elaborate critical thinking skills.”

We try all 6: We always think this way:

Example-Personal Evidence: Theory #4

ELM

• Interpersonal conflict: “Defined broadly as disagreement between two independent people who perceive that they have incompatible goals.”

• There are six types of conflict:

• Pseudoconflict. “ Caused by perceptual differences”

• Fact conflict. “Caused by a dispute over the truth”

• Value Conflict. “Caused by deep-seated moral belief”

• Policy Conflict. “ Caused by differences over a preferred plan”

• Ego Conflict. “Caused by both parties insisting on being the winner”

• Metaconflict. “ Caused by the process of communication”

Chapter 12: Managing Conflict Theory #5 from textbook

Theory # 5 Concept from Chapter 12

• We try to compromise when conflict occurs.

Example-Personal Evidence: Theory #5

Concept theory from Chapter 12

Families: Parent-Child Communication Nurturing parental communication: “Messages that encourage a child’s physical, social, emotional, and intellectual development.” Controlling parental communication: “Messages that attempt to influence or regulate a child’s behavior.”

Theory #6 Concept from Chapter 13

Communicating in Intimate Relationship

• The three ways we talk about discipline:

Example-Personal Evidence: Theory #6

Theory # 7 Concept from Chapter 13:

Friendship

Initiation: “First initial conversation”

Responsiveness: “Listening and responding skills help nurture the friendship.”

Self disclosure: “Share personal feelings and information with each other.”

Emotional support: “Friends will disagree with each other’s ideas.”

Example-Personal Evidence: Theory #7 Chapter 13

We care !

• We just hang out:

We read each other’s minds:

• We know each other’s needs

Theory # 8 Concept from Chapter 13

Longterm Romantic Relationship

• Independence: “Less reliant on their partners for emotional support”

• Ideology: “The partners adhere to long established belief system”

• Communication: “ Conflict avoidance” now called “Communication”

• Traditional couples: “Couples share a traditional ideology about longterm relationship.”

Example-Personal Evidence: Theory #8 Chapter 13

Independence:

• We are less reliant on our emotional needs:

Communication:

• Conflict of opinions often avoided.

Theory #9 Concept from Chapter 13:

“The Dark Side of Intimacy”

• Relational Uncertainty: “Feelings of doubt about the nature of a relationship”

• Possessiveness: “The desire to control another person”

• Jealousy: “An intense suspicion that your partner value.”

Example-Personal Evidence: Theory #9 Chapter 10

We have open communication:

• We don’t feel this way.

I am not the jealous type:

• He knows I will do the right thing.

Theory # 10 Concept from Chapter 13

Using digital communication skills to improve relationship

Media Multiplexity Theory: “Explains that we carry out those relationships though more than one forum of social media.”

Social Information Theory: “Explains how relationships evolve online.”

Example-Personal Evidence: Theory # 10 Chapter 13

We are not dating:

• We are best friends

We use digital communication:

• For basic information:

Conclusion:

• Through the years, Peter and I have shared many intimate conversations about our family issues, and many other conflicts that we encountered. Our friendship remains strong, however, because of our trust and mutual respect for one another.