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Day session with those from York Diocese, working with youth - digital culture and issues to think about.
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Social Media Training for Youth Leaders
Dr Bex Lewis, Digital FingerprintURL: http://j.mp/smyouth-york
November 2014 for: http://dioceseofyork.org.uk Licensed under Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 4.0 International
https://twitter.com/drbexl
Published by Lion HudsonFebruary 2014
Stand up if you…
What are you thinking?
Feel the Fear….
The End is Nigh!
http://youtu.be/Z7dLU6fk9QY
http://youtu.be/9Jhd3HXcaEk
Digital Culture: It Matters!
http://youtu.be/zxpa4dNVd3c
The Toolbox
http://www.mediabistro.com/alltwitter/files/2014/01/social-media-networks.png
http://www.whatsapp.com
http://www.snapchat.com
http://www.pinterest.com/kristoff88/youth-work-ideas/
http://www.teambuildingfordigitals.com
http://www.humankinetics.com/products/all-products/Team-Building-Activities-for-the-Digital-Age
Are they digital natives?
http://www.youthwork-magazine.co.uk/main/internet/digital_etiquette
http://www.churchleaders.com/youth/youth-leaders-blogs/157504-ben_read_the_problem_with_social_media_in_youth_ministry.html
http://www.faithandleadership.com/features/articles/digital-disciples
The CHILDWISE “Digital Lives” Report asked children to go back in time and
explain to Victorian children what the internet was.
Many of the oldest tried to explain how the internet works, but others,
and especially the younger children, focused on what the internet
enables them to do – a place to communicate, to find things out, to play
games, to create and have fun. Several referred explicitly to the all-
encompassing nature of what is on offer to them via the internet. (My
italics.)
Raising Children in a Digital Age, p64
http://youtu.be/9WVKBAqjHiE
CommunicateCommunicateCommunicate
http://www.safekids.com/contract_kid.htm
Agree/Disagree statements • On social networking sites such as Facebook, Bebo etc, it’s okay to put your
address and telephone number on your profile page. • There is no harm in putting the name of the school you attend on your social
networking profile page. • It’s easy to forget the Internet is a public space. • Once photos have been posted on the Internet they can’t be removed. • If you have been chatting to someone who knows someone who knows someone
who knows someone you know, does this make them your friend? Should you be chatting to them online?
• People with bad intentions use the Internet to make friends with children/young people.
• If you were on the street chatting to someone you liked the look of but didn’t know, would you give them your mobile number?
• When using social media sites you would only write things on your wall or post pictures that you would be happy for your parents to see.
• It’s illegal to send indecent pictures of yourself or anyone else. • When chatting to people on Internet or through games consoles, you can tell if they
are telling the truth.
http://www.childrenandyouth.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/Social-Media-training-ideas.pdf
To monitor or not to monitor?
Is privacy dead?
http://youtu.be/F7pYHN9iC9I
Permanency• Facebook has appeared in the press several times as its privacy settings are by default quite open, and can be hard to find and change. Many people believe young people don’t care about privacy, but research has demonstrated that they do and are largely confident about managing their privacy settings, with less than 1 per cent describing the process on Facebook as “very difficult”. Some also feel that online spaces offer more safety, privacy, and control than offline ones (especially if they share a room), with one girl (fourteen to fifteen) saying, “The real world’s not that safe, is it?”
• Raising Children in a Digital Age, p89
• EXERCISE: Try a Google search of your child’s name, and its variations (consider doing this with your child). Check variations of your name; for example, I would look for “Rebecca Lewis” as well as “Bex Lewis”.
• Encourage your child to think about what their profile would look like if an alien landed and just had their social media to read.
• List the types of information they are sharing, the issues associated with sharing, and the appropriate actions that should be taken to avoid problems arising.
Raising Children in a Digital Age, p98
http://www.slideshare.net/samwisemoss/building-up-your-online-professional-profile
http://youtu.be/zRlpIkH3b5I
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/10690381/Is-it-OK-to-laugh-at-Women-Who-Eat-on-Tubes.html
EXERCISE: Bearing in mind that we are looking for values
that work offline as well as online, have a discussion and
get your child to draw up a list of the top ten values that
they want to demonstrate online (e.g. honesty,
friendliness, etc.). If they are keen, consider a list of
behaviour to avoid as well, and the consequences of
engaging in those negative practices.
Raising Children in a Digital Age, p41
Just because you can … doesn’t mean you should!
H.A.L.T.
If you are Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, step away from the keyboard/keypad and deal with that issue first. http://redcatco.com/communication/stop-posting-social-media/
Relationships…
One noticeable difference in the digital era, especially as
the social platforms have stabilized, is that it’s difficult to
leave anyone behind, which can be delicate to negotiate:
Generally, it is socially unacceptable to delete a Friend
one knows. When this is done, it is primarily after a fight
or breakup. In these situations, the act of deletion is
spiteful and intentionally designed to hurt the other
person.
Raising Children in a Digital Age, p.106
The Bullied
The Bully
The Bystander
The Bullied
Signs specific to cyber-bullying?
•Long hours on the computer •Secretive Internet use •Screen minimization•Refusing to log on or answer phone
•Extreme possessiveness of phone, to which constant nervous looks are given.
5.5 71
Emotionally:
• No shame: not their fault• Don’t threaten their online
access• Spend extra time together:
time for communication• Nurture self-confidence
Practically:•Don’t respond•Keep copies of messages as ‘proof’•Understand how to ‘block’ accounts •Talk to child re contacting school•Think hard before talking to parents of bully
•Get phone number blocked
The Bully
Disinhibition
The bully doesn’t see the distress that they cause, feels safe from capture, and protected by the technology, able to say things that they would never say offline.
ITV, February 2005
•One in five think sending a message in cyberspace is less damaging than face to face insults
•Half the teenagers polled believe it is ok to say things online that you would not in person
•A third of youths say they troll because their friends do so too.
Zero-Tolerance?
Any solutions?
•Explain what bullying is. •Monitor their e-devices•Ensure a consistent approach with school/youth-group
•Are they avoiding being bullied by becoming a bully?
Any solutions?
• Assign him/her a book to read about bullying• Get them to write an essay on the dangers of bullying.
• Remove their Internet and mobile privileges (for a fixed period).
• Assign him/her to community service or other time-consuming activity.
• Encourage them to apologise and take responsibility.
The Bystander(s)
The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothingQuote commonly (and probably erroneously) attributed to Edmund Burke
http://youtu.be/PLe-IvXUEX0
http://youtu.be/ruBqetaMd5g
Digital Allies
https://www.facebook.com/groups/266684290183607/
Matthew 25:40
Whatever you did for one of my brothers or sisters, no matter how unimportant they seemed, you did for me.
Increased time spent online will most likely increase exposure to negative experiences – but also the positive opportunities. Nancy Willard, a cyberbullying expert, calls for us to work on the “understanding that the vast majority of young people want to make good choices, do not want to be harmed, and do not want to see their friends or others harmed”. We can’t control their whole environment, online or offline, so parents need to give their children the capability to deal with problems as they come across them.
Raising Children in a Digital Age, p.63
http://emdp.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Safe_from_Bullying-Youth_Activities.pdf
Some useful sites for those needing help
• http://www.papyrus-uk.org (preventing young suicide) • http://www.thetrevorproject.org (suicide prevention for
LGBTQ youth)• http://www.childline.org.uk/ (confidential helpline for those
under 19)• http://www.beatbullying.org (advice about cyberbullying,
and opportunities to report your own situation, or someone else’s)
• http://twloha.com/vision (US based site for those struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicidal thoughts)
• http://www.athinline.org (MTV site for those suffering digital abuse)
• http://www.itgetsbetter.org (for those suffering LGBT abuse)
Ferguson, a professor from Texas A&M who researches technologies’ effects on human behaviour:
“Youth today are the least aggressive, most civically
involved, and mentally well in several generations .”
‘Imagining the Internet: Millennials will benefit and suffer due to their hyperconnected lives’, Pew Research Center, http://www.pewinternet.org/~/media//Files/Reports/2012/PIP_Future_of_Internet_2012_Young_brains_PDF.pdf, 29/02/12
Stranger Danger“On average 11 children are killed by a stranger each year in the UK … there are more than 11 million children in the UK” (Netmums)
• EXERCISE: Take time to talk to your child about hopes and fears for online friendships. Establish ground rules for meeting up with a new “friend”, including meeting in a public place, being with friends, having a back-up plan, and agreeing not to be left alone with that person.
• Raising Children in a Digital Age, p125
Increasingly Mobile
http://youtu.be/GRiwUCXPo8U
• No surprise, then, that Facebook is no longer a place for uninhibited status updates about pub antics, but an obligatory communication tool that younger people maintain because everyone else does.
• All the fun stuff is happening elsewhere. On their mobiles.
http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2013/nov/10/teenagers-messenger-apps-facebook-exodus
http://www.geocaching.com
LUNCH
Sex Talk (Porn, Pedophilia and Sexting)
http://www.christianitymagazine.co.uk/Browse%20By%20Category/culture/Playing%20with%20Fire.aspx
The media have focused heavily on the “dangers of
porn” online for children, to the extent that many parents
feel they are powerless to stop it. Professor Livingstone
adds that debate in this area can be difficult, as the
media tend to mix up a range of complex issues into one
big scare story. The EU Kids Online survey demonstrated
that only 6,000 of the 25,000 children surveyed had
encountered even a single sexual image online; still a
high number but not every child, in contrast to the media
impression.
Raising Children in a Digital Age, p144
Porn
We need to have more to say than ‘porn is bad’• ‘Rite of Passage’? = No• ‘Being a Man’? = No• Girls see as harmless? = ?
• Education? = Best example?
• In churches, if waiting til marriage = not ‘doing’!
http://youtu.be/4ovR3FF_6us
• EXERCISE: Identify stories about grooming from the press, and get children to discuss how they might have behaved differently, and to think about possible conclusions “if” different choices had been made.
• Raising Children in a Digital Age, p152
Keeping within the Law
Physical SetupBrain ChangesAddictionMultitaskingConversational AbilityCouch Potatoes
The core signs of addiction • The activity becomes the most important thing in a person’s
life. • Moods change in accordance with the activity. • Continually higher doses of an activity are required to
achieve the original sensations. • Withdrawal symptoms such as anxiety and depression are
experienced when the activity is stopped. • Increasing conflict occurs with those in the closest social
circle. • There is a tendency to return to the activity after periods of
control (relapse). • The “sunk cost” fallacy is experienced: not wanting to
abandon something after so much time has been sunk into it.
Raising Children in a Digital Age, p168
Screen time and family dynamics
Gaming
Does the digital age offer life opportunities?
Can social media be positive?• Wide range of information • Increased connectivity and collaboration• Educational benefits• Global nature of online• New creative opportunities• Learning criticality• Increased accessibility for those with
disabilities
• EXERCISE: Go to Wikipedia and search for something that you know a fair bit about. What information do you support, and what would you challenge?
• Raising Children in a Digital Age, p196
Do it for themDo it with them
Watch while they do itLet them do it for themselves.
(Grandparents, teachers)
Youth leaders
Looking to the future
• EXERCISE: Have some fun with your child, undertaking some “no-limits futurology”. What do they think life will look like in x number of years? Think about creating a “souvenir” book to bring back out at that time in the future.
• Raising Children in a Digital Age, p213
As a youth leader, it is a very convenient way of messaging and informing members of our youth group, and inviting them to events and [connecting with] each other when we're not together… Sadly for your child to be the only one in a group NOT to have access to Facebook can itself be a matter for isolation - they may not get invitations to youth events for example, and ridicule and bullying for being the 'odd one out'. (Parent, 16-19)
http://www.humak.fi/sites/default/files/liitteet/humak-verkko-timonen-Using-Social-Media-in-Youth-Work.pdf
http://www.google.co.uk/alerts
Social Media Policies?
http://www.methodist.org.uk/ministers-and-office-holders/technology-and-church/social-media-guidelines
• The principles applied to this are:• Be credible. Be accurate, fair, thorough and transparent.• Be consistent. Encourage constructive criticism and deliberation.• Be cordial, honest and professional at all times. Be responsive.
When you gain insight, share it where appropriate.• Be integrated. Wherever possible, align online participation with
other communications.• Be a good representative of the Methodist Church. Remember
that you are an ambassador for Christ, the Church and your part of it. Disclose your position as a member or officer of the Church, making it clear when speaking personally.
• LetGalatians 5:22-26 guide your behaviour.• Be respectful: respect confidentiality. Respect the views of others
even where you disagree.
Methodist Church Guidelines
http://www.youthworkresource.com/social-networking-child-protection
http://www.energize.uk.net/articles/socialmedia
http://www.childrenandyouth.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/Social-Media-Guidelines-for-workers.pdf
http://j.mp/1okEq4f
http://j.mp/1lSUVom
http://j.mp/1hsYvAv
Permissions/Consent
• Parent’s permission before contact
• Consent for use of photographs
• Catchall statement for registration forms – assumes opt-in unless opt-out.
Language
• Use clear, unambiguous language, avoiding abbreviations that can be mis-interpreted.
• Take care with sign-offs
Accountability
• Leaders/Young People develop agreed ‘Internet Guidelines’
• Line manager // access to social media accounts
• Second leader ‘in the room’• Save messages/disclosures for use
later if required.
Confidentiality
• Be prepared for ‘deeper’ disclosures
• Be clear on how much advice/source you can give.
• Add a disclaimer on how you might need to share their information.
Boundaries
• Work-specific device? • Don’t keep images of young people on personal devices
• Define curfews
SOME THOUGHTS ON SAFEGUARDING
https://www.churchofengland.org/media/37378/protectingallgodschildren.pdf
http://www.louthmethodist.org.uk/Louth%20Methodist%20Church%20and%20Circuit%20Photographics%20Policy%20final.pdf
http://www.ccpas.co.uk/shop2012/CCPASResources.html
Focus on the Positives; Respect the Online
In Your Context…
@drbexl @digitalfprint @bigbible
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