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RESPONDIN
G EFF
ECTIVELY
TO O
THERS
P A G E S 8 1 – 9 0
R E B E C C A C L A R K
LISTENING AND RESPONDINGo Thoughtfully responding serves several purposes
1. It tells a speaker how well we understand their message
2. It lets the speaker know whether we agree or disagree with a message
3. It validates the speaker; it lets the speaker know we’re “with” him or her.
o All of these allow the speaker to adapt his or her communication more appropriately to ensure listeners understand the message
WE WILL REVIEW THREE SETS OF SKILLS FOR RESPONDING TO OTHERS WHILE LISTENING
Responding with verbal messages
Responding with nonverbal messages
Responding with empathic messages
VERBAL RESPONSES
M E S S A G E S
Lets the speaker know that you understand the message
Lets the speaker know you need clarification
Lets the speaker know your interested and need more information
Lets the speaker know you would like them to continue
Lets the speaker know you would like to say something
E X A M P L E S
I understand. I see what you are saying.
I’m confused. Can you give me another example?
I find what your saying fascinating. Do you mind going into more detail?
OK, then what happened?
May I add something to what your saying?
NONVERBAL RESPONSES
V I S U A L ( S I G H T )
Forward Body lean
Head nods
Taking notes
Making eye contact
A U R A L ( S O U N D )
Vocal starters that suggest you want to say something
Respond quickly to other persons comments or questions
Variety in tone, pitch, rate, and volume (indicates you are interested)
Vocal assurance to show you understand the message
EMPATHIC MESSAGES
M E S S A G E
Ask appropriate questions most of these questions serve one of four purposes
1. to obtain additional information
2. to check how the other person feels
3. to ask for clarification
4. to verify you have reached an accurate conclusion
Paraphrasing ( restating in your own words what you think another person is saying
E X A M P L E
What do you mean when you say ….?
Let me see if I got this right…
HELPING OTHERS LISTEN EFFECTIVELY TO YOU
H E L P I N G O T H E R S S E L E C T Y O U R M E S S A G E S
Move closer to the other person
Make it ok for others to approach you
Make the information usefulShow how the information will benefit them
Adapt messages to others beliefs
Give consideration on how your message will be received
H E L P I N G O T H E R S A T T E N D T O Y O U R M E S S A G E S
Make your messages novel
Make your message stand out
Make messages concreteMake words vivid and clear
Make messages moderate in length
Keep the listeners attention
HELPING OTHERS LISTEN CONT.H E L P I N G O T H E R S U N D E R S T A N D Y O U R M E S S A G E
o Fit messages into existing schema
Schema- a mental representation of knowledge
o Develop a new schema
o Use listeners frame of reference
Tap into what the listener already knows
H E L P I N G O T H E R S R E M E M B E R Y O U R M E S S A G E
o Use redundancyo Use memory
joggerso Use the principle
of primacy and recency
People are more likely to remember information that is presented first or last
HELPING OTHERS RESPOND TO YOUR MESSAGES Encourage questions
Encourage note taking
Encourage nonverbal responsiveness
HOW RESPONSIVE OF A LISTENER DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?
I encourage you to take the quiz on page 84,
Was the outcome what you expected?
Were you surprised by your score?