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BRAESIDEBRAESIDE HIGH SCHOOL HIGH SCHOOL
THE YEAR 7 and 8 PARENTS THE YEAR 7 and 8 PARENTS TALKTALK
BRAESIDEBRAESIDE HIGH SCHOOL HIGH SCHOOL
THE ADOLESCENTTHE ADOLESCENT
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
WHO IS AN ADOLESCENT?WHO IS AN ADOLESCENT?
A question that has been asked many a time…not just now A question that has been asked many a time…not just now but even many centuries ago.but even many centuries ago.
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
So who is an adolescent?So who is an adolescent?
An adolescent is a young man or woman caught between two worlds…
the world of Childhood
and the
world of Adulthood.
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
44thth Century CenturyAristotle and Plato believed that adolescents:
Have good reasoning ability Have the ability to make choices Are very determined Are egocentric
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Adolescence is a period ofAdolescence is a period of
TransitionTransition
Preparation to move into Preparation to move into AdulthoodAdulthood
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Transition involvesTransition involves
Childhood to AdolescenceChildhood to Adolescence Adolescence into AdulthoodAdolescence into Adulthood
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Adolescence comes withAdolescence comes with
Physical DevelopmentPhysical Development Cognitive / Intellectual Development Cognitive / Intellectual Development Social DevelopmentSocial Development Emotional DevelopmentEmotional Development
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
AdolescenceAdolescenceMain StagesMain Stages
Early Adolescence:Early Adolescence: 11 – 15 years11 – 15 years
Middle Adolescence:Middle Adolescence: 15 – 18 years15 – 18 years
Late Adolescence:Late Adolescence: 18 – 22 years18 – 22 years
and Aboveand Above
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
EARLY ADOLESCENCEEARLY ADOLESCENCEThis is also known as the PRETEEN YEARS or This is also known as the PRETEEN YEARS or
PUBERTY. It is characterised byPUBERTY. It is characterised by
1.1. Physical Body ChangesPhysical Body Changes
2.2. Mood SwingsMood Swings
3.3. Personality ChangesPersonality Changes
4.4. Self conscious / Body ImageSelf conscious / Body Image
5.5. Making of Quick decisionsMaking of Quick decisions
At this age, they are an At this age, they are an emotional roller coasteremotional roller coaster
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
MIDDLE ADOLESCENCEMIDDLE ADOLESCENCEThese are the teen years (teenagers) Very self conscious of their bodiesVery self conscious of their bodies Search for unique identitySearch for unique identity
Question Authority Question Authority
Develop Cognitive Skills Develop Cognitive Skills
Have a strong sense to belongHave a strong sense to belong
Fully developed hence their interest in sexual Fully developed hence their interest in sexual activity increasesactivity increases
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
LATE ADOLESCENCELATE ADOLESCENCEThis is known as the EMERGING ADULTHOODEMERGING ADULTHOOD
POST ADOLESCENCEPOST ADOLESCENCE
PRE- ADULTHOODPRE- ADULTHOOD
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
LATE ADOLESCENCELATE ADOLESCENCE Seek for independence especially in Seek for independence especially in
social rolessocial roles See their lives open to many different See their lives open to many different
directionsdirections Make more solid relationshipsMake more solid relationships Form romantic relationships Form romantic relationships Develop a more solid image of Develop a more solid image of
themselves – self confidencethemselves – self confidence
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Challenges you may be facingChallenges you may be facingPhysical ChangesPhysical Changes Confuse them and Worry themConfuse them and Worry them Early bloomers brag about their new Early bloomers brag about their new
developments to othersdevelopments to others
Personal AppearancePersonal Appearance Becomes very importantBecomes very important Will spend a lot of time in front of mirrorWill spend a lot of time in front of mirror
……Never Tease but Reassure …Never Tease but Reassure ………Engage them in sporting activities …Engage them in sporting activities ………Be more conscious of what they eat…Be more conscious of what they eat…
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What is available here in schoolWhat is available here in school PSHEPSHE
HygieneHygiene GroomingGrooming Public ImagePublic Image
Right AttireRight Attire AccessorizingAccessorizing DeportmentDeportment
CLUBSCLUBS FABFAB Dance ClubDance Club
SPORTSSPORTS SwimmingSwimming HockeyHockey RoundersRounders FootballFootball Etc…Etc…
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Emotions / FeelingsEmotions / Feelings
Emotional Turmoil – High / Low / SulkingEmotional Turmoil – High / Low / Sulking Banging of DoorsBanging of Doors Blowing up on others especially parentsBlowing up on others especially parents
… … Understand that Hormonal changes interfere Understand that Hormonal changes interfere with their moods – reaction is normal…with their moods – reaction is normal…
……try and find out what experiences they may try and find out what experiences they may have undergone or undergoing (frustrations) – have undergone or undergoing (frustrations) – relationships, academics…relationships, academics…
……let them know that you are not happy with let them know that you are not happy with certain behavior and they should try and put certain behavior and they should try and put themselves in your shoes….themselves in your shoes….
Challenges continued….Challenges continued….
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Self EsteemSelf Esteem Not having a good opinion of themselvesNot having a good opinion of themselves Very sensitive to looks, comments or Very sensitive to looks, comments or
silence of otherssilence of others Imaginary audience – belief that they Imaginary audience – belief that they
are the focus of othersare the focus of others Leads to low esteemLeads to low esteem
Challenges continued….Challenges continued….
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Self EsteemSelf Esteem... Reassure them…... Reassure them………Listen…Listen…… … try and identify the cause esteem…try and identify the cause esteem………know your child’s area of competence…know your child’s area of competence………foster achievement…foster achievement………provide emotional support…provide emotional support………teach them to face problems by giving teach them to face problems by giving
them necessary coping skills…them necessary coping skills…
Challenges continued….Challenges continued….
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What is available here in schoolWhat is available here in school Recognise and Reward AchievementsRecognise and Reward Achievements Extracurrilar Activities provide many opportunities for Extracurrilar Activities provide many opportunities for
one to discover and nurture their talentsone to discover and nurture their talents Programmes that develop necessary skills Programmes that develop necessary skills
MUNMUN PAPA ChessChess Planet FitnessPlanet Fitness MediaMedia
Life skills such as time management, personal Life skills such as time management, personal organisational, goal setting developed to help one organisational, goal setting developed to help one aim for achievements and stay within courseaim for achievements and stay within course
Personal Achievement FormsPersonal Achievement Forms
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Conformity to the groupConformity to the group Worries on how they fit in with friendsWorries on how they fit in with friends Need to be like the others leads to Need to be like the others leads to
demands of independencedemands of independence Opinions of peers more importantOpinions of peers more important Peer pressure sets inPeer pressure sets in Curious - experimentCurious - experiment Friends changeFriends change
Challenges continued….Challenges continued….
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Questioning AuthorityQuestioning Authority Due to the Intellectual Development Due to the Intellectual Development They questionThey question Need to become independentNeed to become independent Distance themselvesDistance themselves Suspicious of parentsSuspicious of parents……Put them in charge…Put them in charge………give them responsibilities…give them responsibilities………sometimes, involve them in making of decisions sometimes, involve them in making of decisions
and ground rules… and ground rules… ……let them confide in other adults if they are not let them confide in other adults if they are not
able to do so with you …able to do so with you …
Challenges continued….Challenges continued….
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What is available here in schoolWhat is available here in school Responsibilities – providing leadership Responsibilities – providing leadership
in clubs, sports teamsin clubs, sports teams Student RepresentationStudent Representation
Student CouncilStudent Council ParliamentsParliaments
Setting of class, trip and activity ground Setting of class, trip and activity ground rulesrules
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Challenges continued….Challenges continued….Energy, Creativity and JoyEnergy, Creativity and Joy Very CreativeVery Creative Lots of EnergyLots of Energy Happy when in the company of those they Happy when in the company of those they
think understand themthink understand them
……Find out their interests…Find out their interests………Keep them occupied…Keep them occupied………Ensure they have responsibilities…Ensure they have responsibilities………Pose a problem / project / menu / Pose a problem / project / menu /
organising an event….organising an event….
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What is available here in schoolWhat is available here in school Organise Class Parties – form committees, come up Organise Class Parties – form committees, come up
with ideaswith ideas Projects – school uniform designsProjects – school uniform designs Planning – bake sale, car boot sale, talent show, Planning – bake sale, car boot sale, talent show,
fashion shows etc…fashion shows etc… Presentations on various issuesPresentations on various issues ClubsClubs
Creative and Performing ArtsCreative and Performing Arts Art FantasiaArt Fantasia CuisineCuisine Motor CrossMotor Cross GolfGolf
Focus for the Year – Leadership, Entrepreneurship Focus for the Year – Leadership, Entrepreneurship and Innovationand Innovation
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Challenges continued….Challenges continued….
IdealismIdealism Have fixed ideals e.g. saving the lions, saving the Have fixed ideals e.g. saving the lions, saving the
environment etc..environment etc.. Very important to themVery important to them Listen to their argumentsListen to their arguments Support themSupport them Do not dismiss them Do not dismiss them ……Involve them in Community service work…Involve them in Community service work………Urge them to be conversant with current global Urge them to be conversant with current global
issues…issues…
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What is available here in schoolWhat is available here in school Each Year Group has a Community Each Year Group has a Community
Service ProjectService Project PA – clock at least 50 hrsPA – clock at least 50 hrs Eco-School ProgrammeEco-School Programme ClubsClubs
Interact ClubInteract Club Change MakersChange Makers
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Challenges continued….Challenges continued….Way of Thinking changesWay of Thinking changes Egocentric – Egocentric – too preoccupied with self; too preoccupied with self; Imaginery Audience – Imaginery Audience – attention getting behavior attention getting behavior
InvincibleInvincible - - bad things only happen to othersbad things only happen to others UniqueUnique
Personal Fable Personal Fable No one else understands themNo one else understands them
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What can we doWhat can we do Sometimes, recognise their effortSometimes, recognise their effort Do not down play some of their worries, Do not down play some of their worries,
emphathiseemphathise Circle timeCircle time Involve them in Role PlayInvolve them in Role Play
Reflect on othersReflect on others FeelingsFeelings PerspectivesPerspectives ResponsibilitiesResponsibilities
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
Challenges continued….Challenges continued….SexualitySexuality Attraction to opposite sexAttraction to opposite sex Developing a sexual identityDeveloping a sexual identity Sexual ExplorationSexual Exploration Media and SexMedia and Sex
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What can we doWhat can we do Ensure sexual literacyEnsure sexual literacy
Reproductive CyclesReproductive Cycles ProblemsProblems
Pregancy / Teenage ParenthoodPregancy / Teenage Parenthood AbortionAbortion STDs / HIV and AIDSSTDs / HIV and AIDS
AbstinenceAbstinence
Information from who?Information from who? ParentsParents Trusted relatives / friendsTrusted relatives / friends Teachers / SchoolTeachers / School ChurchChurch
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
WHAT ADOLESCENTS EXPECTWHAT ADOLESCENTS EXPECT
Parents to be interested in them – pay Parents to be interested in them – pay attentionattention
Parents to listenParents to listen
Parents to offer them love and acceptanceParents to offer them love and acceptance
Parents to trust themParents to trust them
Parents to provide certain amount of Parents to provide certain amount of autonomyautonomy
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What we can doWhat we can do Make home a safe baseMake home a safe base
A safe retreat from the worldA safe retreat from the world A place where they are respected and taken A place where they are respected and taken
seriouslyseriously Parents must support each otherParents must support each other
Read from the same scriptRead from the same script Do not be seen to ally yourself with your son Do not be seen to ally yourself with your son
or daughteror daughter Show respect for each other in front of your Show respect for each other in front of your
childrenchildren
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What we can doWhat we can do RulesRules
Set Ground RulesSet Ground Rules Involve adolescents where possibleInvolve adolescents where possible Should be Clear and ConsistentShould be Clear and Consistent ReasonableReasonable Consequences should be clear and Consequences should be clear and
agreed upon in advanceagreed upon in advance Ensure consequences are effectedEnsure consequences are effected Less Restrictive as children matureLess Restrictive as children mature Not all areas should have rules, some Not all areas should have rules, some
should be negotiableshould be negotiable
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What we can doWhat we can do Manage Disagreements - manage your Manage Disagreements - manage your
battle – know when to be quietbattle – know when to be quiet
Set the example – most teenagers love their Set the example – most teenagers love their parents and when asked they look up to parents and when asked they look up to them as their heroes and role models, Live them as their heroes and role models, Live by what we preachby what we preach
Develop the right morals from an early ageDevelop the right morals from an early age
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What we can doWhat we can do ReligionReligion
Indoctrinations of the Church have shaped Indoctrinations of the Church have shaped the way we think and behavethe way we think and behave
Puts emphasis on care and concern for othersPuts emphasis on care and concern for others Puts emphasis on respect for self and othersPuts emphasis on respect for self and others Creates boundaries which we must operate Creates boundaries which we must operate
within giving clear consequenceswithin giving clear consequences Give expectationsGive expectations
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What we can doWhat we can do Be Good and Easy listenersBe Good and Easy listeners
Do not be judgmentalDo not be judgmental Do not criticise all the timeDo not criticise all the time Do not give advice routinelyDo not give advice routinely ListenListen
Create time to be alone as Create time to be alone as A FamilyA Family Mommy - Daughter / Mommy - Son timeMommy - Daughter / Mommy - Son time Father – Daughter / Father - Son timeFather – Daughter / Father - Son time
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
What is available here in schoolWhat is available here in school Expectations clearly outlinedExpectations clearly outlined PSHE lessons PSHE lessons TalksTalks Focus – virtues / valuesFocus – virtues / values
Year 7 and 8 Parents TalkTuesday, 25th January 2011 Braeside High School
ParentsParentsNeed to be Need to be ManagersManagers Look for and give children opportunitiesLook for and give children opportunities Monitor their social relationshipsMonitor their social relationships
Supervise an adolescenct social settings, activitiesSupervise an adolescenct social settings, activities Know who their friends areKnow who their friends are
Be the one to find and give information or Be the one to find and give information or control who does thatcontrol who does that
Put structures that will help them in making Put structures that will help them in making decisions and making choicesdecisions and making choices
Provide guidance, correct wrong beliefs etc…Provide guidance, correct wrong beliefs etc… Be a present parent who can give direction, Be a present parent who can give direction,
place limits and controls but allow for some place limits and controls but allow for some level of independence; be indulgent sometimes.level of independence; be indulgent sometimes.
ParentingParenting
Was never for the faint heartedWas never for the faint hearted
…….Sorry, No manual…..Sorry, No manual….