A GIRL’S WORLD

WHAT DO WE MEAN BY BULLYING???

A pattern of repeated behavior that is meant to hurt someone (physically, socially, or

emotionally) and usually has an imbalance of power (physical or social).

WHY ARE WE EVEN TALKING ABOUT BULLYING?

We want ATES to be a safe place for EVERYONE. We strive to be bully free, yet still we have seen it

happening. Bullying in childhood can lead to:

Loneliness Depression Anxiety School refusal Gang involvement Substance abuse Eating disorders Poor self esteemand these effects can continue on into adulthood!!!

IS IT A FIGHT OR IS IT BULLYING?

A FIGHT or CONFLICT is normal. It is normal to be frustrated, disagree, and argue. Even aggression and hurtful remarks are part of conflict at all ages.

BULLYING is serious because it is ongoing and involves an imbalance of power.

BULLYING

What kind ofBullying

Occurs in a Girl’s World?

DO YOU THINK GIRLS BULLY DIFFERENTLY THAN BOYS?

Most of the time the answer is YES!

BOYS: GIRLS:

Usually Physical Usually through friendships or relationships

Easy to see or hear Harder to notice because no bruises or hitting

WHAT IS:A relationship?A connection with another

person.

WHAT ISAggression?Destructive behavior.

GIRL BULLYING IS CALLED…

…RELATIONAL AGGRESSION

-Behaviors that harm others through attacking friendships, feelings of acceptance, and inclusion

-A deliberate (on purpose) manipulation on one person’s part to damage, control, or ruin another person’s peer relationships

TAKE A LOOK AT BULLYING IN THE GIRL’S WORLD:

DID THE PICTURES WE JUST SAW STIR UP ANY THOUGHTS?

Like…

Oh… I’ve acted like that before…

Yeah…that’s happened to me before.

I saw that happening to someone else.

THE 3 ROLES IN BULLYING

AGGRESSOR: the one doing the Bullying Behavior

TARGET/VICTIM: the person being bullied

BYSTANDER: the person or people watching/seeing the bullying happen

BULLYING BEHAVIORSSpreading Rumors Excluding Ignoring

Gossiping Taunting Insulting

Controlling Bossing Using Body Language to Communicate Dislike (eye rolling)

Cyber Activity (My Space, Email, Text)

Passing Notes/Slam Book

Making School Uncomfortable

Damaging Property Making fun of Someone (clothes, appearance, weight…)

Persuading friends to exclude someone you are mad at

Telling someone else’s secrets

Rude Comments Pushing, hitting, and threatening

HONESTY CHECK: Have you ever used any of these behaviors?

THE AGGRESSOR/BULLY

BULLIES CAN CHANGE! Step 1: Realize and identify your bullying

behavior Step 2: Acknowledge that you need/want to

change Step 3: Apologize for the negative behavior Step 4: Increase your empathy concerns for

others Step 5: Use your leadership skills to help

rather than hurt.

If these steps are too hard to do alone – ASK FOR HELP.

WHAT SHOULD I DO IF I AM THE TARGET/VICITM?

BE ASSERTIVE - tell the person to stop

DON’T BELIEVE THE BULLY – the bully only has the power if you give it

VALUE YOURSELF REPORT BULLYING - it is

not tattling if it is harmful, dangerous, or destructive

FIND SAFE PLACES AND PEOPLE

MAKE NEW FRIENDS AND TRY NEW ACTIVITIES

YOU CAN ALWAYS ASK FOR HELP!!!

LISTEN UP BYSTANDERS! Choosing to ignore the bullying is

the same as supporting the behavior.

INSTEAD YOU CAN…1. Refuse to be an audience for the

bullying incident2. If appropriate and safe, ask the

bully to stop3. Be a friend to the victim, invite

them to talk with you4. Support the victim – write the

victim a note or tell him/her you don’t agree with the bully

5. Tell an adult (There is a difference between TATTLING and TELLING: The IN/OUT Rule: If you are trying to get someone OUT of trouble then TELL! If you are trying to get someone into trouble then you it is TATTLING!)

REMEMBER

WE ALL NEED TO WORK TOGETHER TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE

IN OUR SCHOOL, COMMUNITY, AND

WORLD…

EVERYONE CAN…REVIEW YOUR OWN BEHAVIOR

BE CONFIDENT AND STAND UP FOR YOURSELF

HELP IF YOU SEE A BULLYING PROBLEM