7 steps-to-build-emotional-core-strength+emotional-resilience-idge-2016

presents SEVEN STEPS

To Building Emotional Core Strength &

Emotional Resilience

Helping HSP, GT & 2E kids become

RESILIENT & STRONG ON THE INSIDE

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Have You Had This at Home or School?

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Overexcitabilities Intellectual

Imaginational

Sensual

Psychomotor

Emotional

Sensitive, Gifted & 2E or 2X

= C.A.S.I.G.Y.s™ Creative, Curious, Complex

Acutely Aware

Super-Sensitive

Intense, Introverted and/or

Gifted

Your Kid(s) or You ??

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Sensory Over-excitabilities

Sympathetic System Responses –

Typical vs. Over-Responsive (Miller)

Response Exceeds Capacity

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1. Emotional meltdowns

2. Verbal Outbursts

3. Hitting, kicking, punching

4. Going silent

5. Decline in performance

6. ???

7. ???

Common C.A.S.I.G.Y.™ Children’s Behavior Problems

1. Super-sensitivity

2. Anxiety

3. Depression

4. Feeling out of sync/

like an alien

5. Anger/Resentment

6. ???

7. ???

Common C.A.S.I.G.Y. Emotional Problems

C.A.S.I.G.Y.’s Mascot

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o He was DIFFERENT

o He was ridiculed

o He was excluded

o He was shunned

o He was shamed

o He was ostracized

o He was banished into exile

o All because of his RED NOSE

o Later, He ‘Saved the Day’ for everyone

o Also because of his RED NOSE

Here’s Help

& Hope!

C.A.S.I.G.Y.s’ Cycle of Discouragement

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•2 •3

•1 •4

Return

Red Nose: MisFit

Outcast Exile

You’re Not Defective; You’re Different by Design!

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Who Am I?

Antidotes to Discouragement

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•2 •3

•1 •4 Creative

Contri-bution

Creative Coping

Creative Healing

Creative Transfor-

mation

Emotional Core Strength


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A Strong

Sense of

Self

7. What can

I do or how

can I accept

this?

6. What are my

limits here?

How do I honor my

limits?

5. What do I need?

How can I get what I

need?

4. How can I express or

channel the waves of

emotion?

3. Do The the Waves of Emotion

Match These Current Events?

(If not, what else is active here?)

2. How am I feeling....

physically and emotionally?

1. What's been happening in my life?



Emotions Are Like Ocean Waves o Ever present whether we like it or not

o Respond to the weather, moon, earth’s movement

o Can be fun; may be dangerous

o Learn to respect them & you can be safe

o Learn to understand them & you can RIDE them


o Daily TNT

o Punching bag

o Ice cubes

o Nerf balls

o Talking – I feel __________

o Drawing/painting/coloring

o Physical tasks/chores

Catch &

Release


“I’ve decided to outsource my emotional needs”

Goals of Problem Behaviors (Dreikurs)

Problem

Behavior

Adult’s Inner

Response

Child’s Hidden

Goal

Effective

Intervention

Breaks Rules Annoyance/go

away/leave me

alone

Attention Ignore

Preventive

attention

Breaks Rules Anger/ Fight vs

Give In

Power Power Struggle

Give Choices &

Consequences

Is Angry, does

mean things

Hurt, Wants

revenge

Revenge Discover the

hurt & heal it

Refuses to do

assignments

Feels helpless Display of

Inadequacy

Encourage,

show problem

solving

We all need fences


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