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Go With
The FLOW
The Fertile Living Outline WorkbookInviting Fulfillment & Abundanc
in Your Infertility Journe
B Keiko Zoll
Free Sample Edition
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Go With The FLOW
The Fertile Living Outline Workbook:
Inviting Fulfillment & Abundance in Your Infertility Journey
-- FREE SAMPLE EDITION --
Written by Keiko Zoll
Copyright 2012 by Keiko Zoll & The Infertility Voice.
Cover art and photographs by Keiko Zoll.
All rights reserved. This book is protected under the copyright laws of the United States ofAmerica. This book may not be reproduced, transmitted, or stored in whole or in part by anymeans, including graphic, electronic, or mechanical without the express written consent ofthe publisher except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews.
For more resources on your infertility journey,please visit The Infertility Voice!
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Table of Contents for Free Sample EditionIntroduction & Welcome!...........................................................................................................4How to Use this Workbook .......................................................................................................5The Six Fertile Facets .................................................................................................................. 7
Connection ..................................................................................................................................9
Exploration ................................................................................................................................10
Movement................................................................................................................................... 11
Nourishment ............................................................................................................................ 12
Creation...................................................................................................................................... 13Balance........................................................................................................................................ 14
Discovering Your Fertile Intentions.................................................................................... 15
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Introduction & Welcome!Thank you for downloading the Free Sample Edition ofGo With The FLOW:
The Fertile Living Outline Workbook!
Hello and welcome! Im Keiko Zoll, Founder of The Infertility Voice, writer,
advocate, and all-round geek. This workbook was created out of a personal
necessity to reinvigorate my life in the wake of my infertility diagnosis. There
were many dark days in those first few months after I was diagnosed with
premature ovarian failure and lots (and lots and lots) of waiting over the last
few years. Oh the waiting it feels endless sometimes, doesnt it?
Thats why I wrote this workbook. Because, hey why not fill all that timespent waiting with something of value and meaning? Why not live the most
fulfilled, abundant life you can?
Why not celebrate yourself a little?
Living a fertile life isnt just about the occasional treat or day of pampering;
its about cultivating a lifestyle of wellness. You deservethis.
I hope this Free Sample Edition gives you a good idea of what to expect when
it comes to living a fertile life. To get the most of out this practice, to really
experience what living a fertile life means and what that can look like for you,
I encourage you to purchase the complete Fertile Living Outline Workbook for
only $10 thats 28 pages of intense self-discovery and intention-focused
fulfillment just waiting for you to take action.
Wishing you much abundance and joy,
Keiko Zoll
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How to Use this WorkbookThere are a variety of ways to approach this workbook. The Fertile Living
Outline Workbook breaks up aspects of your life into six Fertile Facets, which
then develop into Fertile Intentions, that you use to build your Fertile
Blueprint. Think of the FLOW like this:
You can explore each Fertile Facet individually by reading through its
introduction, laying out its Intention and then mapping out its Blueprint. Or,
you can work through all six Intentions before working on your Blueprint.
Maybe you only pick one or two Intentions to work through this month or
select an Intention as a theme for this year, or perhaps this cycle, and chart
your Blueprint accordingly. The Fertile Living Outline Workbook is flexible
enough for you to pick and choose what works for you.
You might find it helpful to have a journal handy to write down your thoughts,
or if youre a blogger, make it a series of blog posts. When you see a
symbol, youll be asked to reflect and write. Theres no right or wrong way to
approach the activities in this workbook.
Just go with the FLOW!
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What Is Fertile Living?
fertile {frtl}Adjective. [Origin: 142575; late Middle English (< Middle French ) < Latinfertilis fruitful, akin to ferre to bear.]
1. (of soil or land) Producing or capable of producing abundant vegetationor crops
2. (of a seed or egg) Capable of becoming a new individual3. (of a person, animal, or plant) Able to conceive young or produce seed4. (of a person's mind or imagination) Producing many new and inventive
ideas with ease
5. (of a situation or subject) Fruitful and productive in generating newideas
Take a look at this definition of fertile youll see it refers to many things
we already associate with the word: fruit, production, conception, seeds. The
word implies possibility. But if you look at its word origins, youll also notice
that fertile has roots in carrying or bearing.
When we think of carrying or bearing, we might think of something weighing
us down, of carrying something heavy, of having a burden to bear. Thats
not exactly what most people think of when they hear the word fertile. But
when you look at the word origins, you can see that fertile, and thus fertility
it implies a sense of arms being full, of abundance.
All of this imagery suggests the capacity for abundance, fullness and
ultimately, fulfillment.
So what does Fertile Living really mean? Its not just about preparing the way
for pregnancy or parenthood. Its about cultivating growth in your life. Its
about creating abundance. When we think of infertility, we think of it in terms
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like barren or empty - abundance then becomes something we crave and
need in our infertility journeys.
Living a fertile life means focusing and enriching aspects of your life until you
find fulfillment, meaning and abundance.
By using FLOW as a guide, you will recognize what aspects of your life and
infertility journey could use abundance and where to stop and appreciate the
abundance that already exists within your life.
Instead of trying to turn your life completely upside-down to reveal all of the
areas you most need fulfillment and abundance, its easier to break it all down
into little chunks. To understand how Fertile Living is achieved, lets breakdown all the aspects of your life into the six Fertile Facets.
The Six Fertile FacetsThe six Fertile Facets are Connection,
Exploration, Movement, Nourishment,
Creation and Balance. Think of where you
are in your infertility journey right now.
Write It Out!Which of these Fertile Facets jump out at you
right away, either as things that pique your interest
or areas you can already identify as places that
need a little extra attention, a little more
abundance? Which ones resonate with you right
now?
These Fertile Facets truly do FLOW into one another. They are each distinct
but not necessarily mutually exclusive. On the next page, lets examine just
how interconnected each of these Fertile Facets are to one another.
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The Interconnectedness of Fertile Living
Exploration + Connection = Nourishment
When you discover what brings connection in your life, you nourish your
purpose.
Connection + Movement = Balance
To achieve balance, you must know how to connect the movement in your life,
to know in which directions you are being pulled in order to make a conscious
decision to attain stillness.
Exploration + Movement = Creation
When you engage yourself in trying something new, you have the potential to
create so much!
At the center of all these Facets is you, your life and your purpose .Creation, connection, exploration, movement, nourishment and balance all
come back to you and the fertile, abundant life you seek to create. Now lets
look at each Fertile Facet in more detail.
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Connection
Do you ever feel completely disconnected from the
world around you some days? When were in the
thick of our infertility journeys, we can often feeldisconnected from the world and people around us,
for a variety of reasons.
You may feel disconnected from friends and family who already have
children, who were able to achieve pregnancy without complication. You may
feel disconnected from your job as you wait for test results to come back in
the middle of the work day, or even having to take time off from work to
make doctors appointments. You might feel disconnected from your faith asyou wonder if a higher power might be punishing you (I promise you, they are
not). You may even feel disconnected from your partner due to feelings of
guilt, shame or even blame.
When we disconnect from the people we care about, we begin to lose
intimacy. With regards to a partner, it could be a very real loss of intimacy if
sex has become more of an exercise in timed baby-making and less of a
spontaneous physical celebration of your love.
In our infertility journeys, we often get so set into such detailed routines:
hormone injection schedules, morning temp charts, ovulation predictor kits,
timed intercourse, two-week waits, etc. When we get so pegged into these
regimented schedules, its no wonder we start to disconnect from the things
and people around us. Thats why connection is so vital to Fertile Living.
Connection grounds us, brings us closer to the people and experiences that
matter to us. Connection cultivates fulfillment and abundance when we
connect to that which sustains and completes us.
On Connection: There are two things that make me optimistic. We as humans are curiousand we have a deep desire to connect. These two things will make us move us forward toa better place.-Tiffany Shlain, filmmaker
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Exploration
Do you ever feel like sometimes, in the
middle of a cycle, youre wearing a pair of
baby-making tunnel-vision goggles? Doyou feel like all you can see and hear and
think about is implantation, betas,
pregnancy and babies? And conversely, if
youve ever had a pregnancy scare, its like
the only commercial on television is for pregnancy tests and diapers?
When we get so wrapped up in these milestone moments in our lives:
engagements, weddings, buying a home or moving into an apartment, movingto a new city, starting a new job these activities fill our mental landscape.
They take up as much room as they can in our brains and crowd our
peripheral vision.
Exploration is such a vital experience then, when were in the midst of these
mind-clogging times, if only to give our brains something different, a
refreshing change of pace. Exploration also gives us the permission to try
something new, to test out new ideas and experiences. In doing so, wenurture our brains and indulge our hearts longings.
Think of it this way: what do you have to risk by taking a step back from all of
the baby-making in your life?
What could you gain by exploring something new, by exploring more about
yourself and the world around you?
What risk is there to exploring and maybe even enjoying what you discover?
On Exploration: Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things thatyou didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from thesafe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. - Mark Twain,author & humorist
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Movement
Do you ever feel like sometimes your
infertility is in control of you more than you
are in control of it? Do you feel stagnant andstuck in a rut of cycle after cycle after cycle?
Do you long to connect more deeply with
others, take off the baby-making goggles and
just get out of this place in which youre stuck?
Movement is key. Movement can mean many things in terms of Fertile Living.
Movement can refer to physical movement by changing your scenery, by
getting your body active. Movement can also mean moving on emotionally confronting an emotion for what it is and then moving past it.
When we get in these ruts, when we feel stuck, like our feet are dragging
through muck and mire, we start tapping into our basic instinct: fight or
flight. Either response requires us to act, to move, to make a decision. Have
you ever noticed that when you cant make up your mind on something, it
feels like youre stuck? Its because our minds and bodies are telling us: do
something! Move! Make a decision already!
Movement paves the way for more intentional living, for commitment to
action. Positive movement implies purpose we must be moving toward
something. Conversely, perhaps we need to move away from something
negative or destructive in our lives.
Movement requires the courage to act. It forces us to truly think, experience,
and act in the moment. And when we act with intention, when we move
ourselves with purpose, we regain some of the control that infertility tries to
take from us.
On Movement: To me, if life boils down to one thing, it's movement. To live is to keepmoving.- Jerry Seinfeld, comedian
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Nourishment
What nourishes you? What sustains
you? Im not talking about foods or
calories or nutritional supplements inthis moment Im talking about the
experiences, people, places and things
that fuel your soul. Its a new way of
thinking about nourishment that guides
this Facet of Fertile Living.
We need food and water in order to keep our bodies functioning. What does
your heart need to function? Your mind? Your emotional wellbeing? Its justas important to nourish all of these parts of our selves as much as our bodies.
Lets bring it back to infertility for a moment. By giving our minds, hearts and
emotional wellbeing the attention and nourishment they deserve, we only
serve to strengthen our bodies. And at a time when we would really love it if
our bodies would just, oh, cooperate already? its crucial we do what we can
to be both as gentle and as respectful to our bodies as we can be.
Theres no reason you cant be gentle and respectful of your body through
physical nourishment, either. If you feed your body well, your body will do
well by you. When thinking about nourishment as a Fertile Facet, let yourself
be pulled toward the notion that fits your life best: physical nourishment for
your body and/or experiential nourishment for your soul.
Theres no right or wrong choice and theres no reason you cant work on
both notions. Whether you feed your body or feed your soul, youre giving
yourself the fulfillment and abundance you deserve.
And yes, you dodeserve it!
On Nourishment: People need dreams, there's as much nourishment in 'em as food.-Dorothy Gilman, author
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Creation
I have often said that what I cant create in
biology, I make up for in words. Im drawn to
writing to as a form of cathartic release butalso as a means of creative expression.
Writing has been my salvation on some of the
darkest moments of my infertility journey.
We struggle when our bodies fail to create that for which weve worked so
hard, undergone so many tests and diets and fads and old wives tales all
this to create a child of our own. Creative expression then, no matter what we
create, becomes such an emotionally charged and emotion-releasing outletduring our infertility journeys.
Creation doesnt mean you have to become the next art master. In a very
broad sense, creation comes down to making something in this world that
wasnt there before. The key to creation as a Fertile Facet is that whatever
was made is made by you, your talents and your gifts.
You do so many good things for both your brain and your heart when you
engage in creation. As you sculpt, build, paint or photograph or however
you choose to creatively express yourself you fire off so many stimulating
synapses in your brain. And if you really enjoy the creative work in which you
engage, you can completely get lost in what youre doing as well. From an
infertility standpoint, its a great way to shut off all the negative self-chatter
that often streams in our minds on a daily basis.
When you complete your creation, you feed your heart by having a feeling of
accomplishment. It doesnt have to be a masterpiece for you to feel good
about having created something for yourself.
On Creation: The whole difference between construction and creation is exactly this: thata thing constructed can only be loved after it is constructed; but a thing created is lovedbefore it exists. -Charles Dickens, author
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Balance
Our lives pull us in so many different
directions, by the gadgets we carry
around with us, to our calendars filledwith appointments. Its as though our own
lives are in competition with everything
that crowds our schedules on a daily
basis. Its no wonder then when our bodies
and spirits crave a sense of balance, a sense of stillness to calm our souls.
Just relax. The phrase most whove been through infertility wish were
stricken from the record.
Balance is simply more than just relaxing. Balance is about taking the time to
find your inner calm and to let that stillness spill over in quiet ways into your
otherwise busy life. With infertility, balance is essential to weathering the
many storms and squalls that beset our journey toward parenthood.
One of my favorite yoga poses is called Vrksasana: the tree pose. It requires
the yoga practitioner to stand on one foot, the sole of the other foot planted
firmly against the opposing inner thigh, knee bent, arms outstretched and
reaching upward. The pose is basically balancing on one foot, but the bent
knee and raised arms make it that much more challenging.
The secret to this pose isnt having a strong core or even good motor
coordination. To stay in this pose for any prolonged amount of time, you must
calm and quiet your mind, invite stillness into your heart, bring evenness and
balance to your breath. Vrksasana has taught me more than just physical
balance; its given me the tools to bring balance and stillness into all aspects
of my life.
On Creation: I always try to balance the light with the heavy - a few tears of human spirit inwith the sequins and the fringes. -Bette Midler, actress, singer, dancer
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Discovering Your Fertile IntentionsNow its time to explore each Fertile Facet to determine your Fertile
Intentions. Through a series of prompts, youll be given the opportunity to
reflect on each Fertile Facet as it applies to your life.
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About The Infertility Voice
The Infertility Voice is an online resource for infertility patients seeking
support and compassion during their infertility journeys. Launched in 2012 by
founder and writer, Keiko Zoll, The Infertility Voice seeks to free infertility
from cultural shame and silence and to catalyze a national, open and
compassionate dialogue about infertility as a disease.
The Infertility Voice exists for the entire infertility community: patients,
prospective parents, legislators, leaders and organizations who seek to raise
awareness of and advocate for the infertility community.
Through one-on-one Fertile Life coaching, writing workshops, retreats,
eBooks and extensive media and public speaking engagements, Keiko gives
voice to the infertility communitys needs, experiences, universality and
above all else, the validity of our communitys desire to one day parent.
If you are interested in seeking personalized, one-on-one Fertile Life
Coaching or participating in therapeutic writing workshops with Keiko, please
contact her by visitingwww.theinfertilityvoice.com.
For more resources on your infertility journey,please visit The Infertility Voice online:
www.theinfertilityvoice.com
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