DNMS Resource Development Protocol
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Developmental Needs Meeting Strategy is a therapy model consisting of several protocols
Resource Development Protocol is one of them I’ll briefly introduce the whole model I’ll explore the Resource development part in detail
Origins
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The DNMS Developer
Shirley Jean Schmidt, LPC Evolving over last 13 years First as techniques solely to
support to EMDR Now a stand-alone model Pieces of it can be used
support other modalities
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My Story
Use this slide to tell about your experiences using the Resource Development Protocol
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The DNMS Underpinnings
Children grow and develop in stages Each stage involves a set of needs Degree to which developmental needs were not
adequately met… …is the degree to which a person may be stuck in
childhood
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DNMS Underpinnings
Being stuck means you can be fine one minute
Then suddenly see the world through the eyes of a sad, angry, or fearful child
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DNMS Underpinnings
A child may become stuck after
significant abuse, neglect, rejection, or enmeshment
simple parenting failures
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DNMS Underpinnings
Sometimes well-meaning caregivers unknowingly make
poor parenting choices experience hardships
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DNMS Underpinnings
Some child parts of self are stuck in reaction to wounding people from the past
Some child parts of self are stuck mimicking wounding people from the past
The parts mimicking wounding people constantly retraumatize those reacting to wounding people
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What is the DNMS?
The DNMS is an ego state therapy
Endeavors to help adult clients get wounded parts of self unstuck from the past
Providing relief for a wide range of symptoms and issues
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What the DNMS Treats
Emotional wounds from unmet childhood
needs wounding relationships
This includes Trauma wounds Attachment wounds
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Wounded Parts of Self
DNMS classifies wounded parts as
Reactive parts
Maladaptive introjects
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Reactive Parts
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Parts of self that form in reaction to significant people who are physically and/or emotionally wounding
You’re bad.
I’m bad.
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You’re bad.
Maladaptive Introjects
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Parts of self that mimic significant people who are physically and/or emotionally wounding
You’re bad.
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Reactive Parts and Introjects Interact
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Introjects convey a wounding person’s message to reactive parts
Keeping childhood wounds alive into adulthood
I’m bad.
You’re bad.
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DNMS Begins with Resource Parts of Self
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Identify Wounded Parts
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I’mworthles
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You’re worthles
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Switching the Dominance Protocol
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I’mworthles
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You’re worthles
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Switching the Dominance Protocol
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Needs Meeting Protocol – Into the Healing Circle
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Needs Meeting Protocol – Meeting Needs
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Needs Meeting Protocol – Processing Emotions
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Needs Meeting Protocol – Bonding
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Needs Meeting Protocol – Totally Unstuck
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Healing By Neural Integration
Siegel: Self-regulation is accomplished with the process of neural integration…
…as functional linkages are made between disparate regions of the brain
Living in the present
Stuck in the past
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Before the DNMS: Neural Disconnection
Adaptive
Adaptive Neural NetworkDisturbance Present
Mature, sensitive, loving,
attuned Resources “You’re okay”
Isolatedchild part is
stuck in the past “I’m bad”
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Neural Pathway
During the DNMS: Neural Connection Forms
Disturbance Resolving
Mature, sensitive, loving,
attuned Resources “You’re okay”
Adaptive Neural Network
Isolatedchild part is
stuck in the past “I’m bad”
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After the DNMS: Neural Connection Established
Totally Unstuck = Neural Integration = Disturbance Resolved
Integratedchild part is
totally unstuck “I’m okay”
Mature, sensitive, loving,
attuned Resources “You’re okay”
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Neural Architecture
Many clients lack the neural architecture to regulate emotions well
DNMS endeavors to develop/strengthen the neural networks neural pathways for self-regulation of emotion
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Neural Networks Developed/Strengthened
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Neural Pathways Developed/Strengthened
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Primary Agent for Change
Not the interpersonal relationship
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Primary Agent for Change
But the intrapersonal relationship
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Alternating Bilateral Stimulation (ABS)
First used in EMDR therapy Applied with
rapid back and forth eye movements alternating auditory stimulation alternating bilateral tactile
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Alternating Bilateral Stimulation
Stickgold: ABS applied in therapy allows isolated neural networks to more easily connect to positive, adaptive neural networks
Knows Trauma is
OverStuck in Trauma
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Alternating Bilateral Stimulation
Used during the DNMS to strengthen connection To each Resource To the Resource team (Healing Circle) between wounded parts and the Resources
Also used to facilitate emotional repair
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The Value of Mobilizing Client Resources
Develops affect management skills Improves trauma processing efficiency/comfort Source of internal wisdom Strengthens internal locus of control
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Resource Parts of Self in Other Models
Using wise, caring, mature parts of self to nurture wounded child parts is not new
Other ego state and trauma therapies do it Often lack a system for verifying nurturing parts
of self are competent
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Resource Parts of Self in Other Models
Incompetent “Resources” are not helpful Some cannot readily mobilize Resources May feel shame that they cannot “do it right” Can exacerbate a sense of inadequacy
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Importance of Robust Resources
DNMS success depends on robust Resources Protocol described here designed to:
Establish robust Resources Verify they are robust Signal when processing blocks are present
Later I’ll describe how blocks are cleared
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Overview
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Special guided meditations connect clients to…
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Benefits of Resources
Can provide compassion, wisdom, empathy, reassurance, and advice, at any time, for any topic…
during sessions between sessions
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Five Steps
Three Preparation Steps General orientation Discussion of anchor experiences Discuss potential blocks & authentic processing
Two Resource Mobilization Steps Guided meditations Healing Circle
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1. Orient to Nurturing & Protective Adult Self
Nurturing Adult Self: A state of mind that can competently nurture a loved one
Protective Adult Self: A state of mind that can competently protect a loved one
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They are not superhuman They have needs They are imperfect They are vulnerable They can experience the full range of emotions
1. Orient to Nurturing & Protective Adult Self
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They can meet their own needs regulate their own emotions manage their own vulnerabilities learn and grow from their mistakes
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Two guided meditations are used to connect to these Resources
Both are based on a single list of 24 caregiver skills and traits
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Empathic Compassionate Understanding Accepting Patient Nurturing Warm Open Able to attune Good at listening Good with boundaries Reliable
Trustworthy Confident Respectful Appropriately responsible Problem-solver Action-taker Decision-maker Logical Strong Courageous Protective Grounded/Centered
The List of Caregiver Skills & Traits
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The Nurturing Adult Self meditation begins with the most nurturing traits ends with the protective traits
The Protective Adult Self meditation begins with the most protective traits ends with the nurturing traits
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1. Orient to Spiritual Core Self
Considered the core of one’s being
Some call it the soul May have existed before
the body arrived May exist after the body dies
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May be experienced during Meditation, prayer, or yoga Peak spiritual experience Near-death experience Moment of clarity while
connecting to nature
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A sense of interconnectedness to all beings A sense of completeness and wholeness A sense of safety and invulnerability No ego, no struggles No desires or aversions Unconditional, effortless kindness and compassion Timeless, cosmic wisdom, and understanding
1. Orient to Spiritual Core Self
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Not necessary to be religious or have faith in God
Not a higher power Part of self that resonates
with love from a higher power
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Not just a feel-good state of mind
Transcendent state that’s unwoundable
A place of inner peace in spite of life’s struggles
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Some are averse to anything “spiritual” Atheists Unresolved religious wounds
Several meditations - only one uses the word spiritual
1. Orient to Spiritual Core Self
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2. Finding the Anchors
An anchor is a positive personal experience
Connects client to a Resource state of mind
Reflect on anchor experiences during meditations
This facilitates the connection to each Resource
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Discuss special experiences of competently caring for A child A pet Plants The elderly
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A familiar relationship or event when caregiver skills are (or were) naturally, effortlessly, appropriately applied at the same time while in an adult state of mind
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With that in mind, have client look at skill list
Is there a skill on list not present in this relationship/event?
If so, discuss it
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2. Anchor for Spiritual Core Self
Invite clients to discuss a peak spiritual experience Meditation Yoga Prayer Nature
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Good anchor is not just a feel-good experience
Should evoke a spiritual state of mind (list)
Most will have an anchoring experience
Some will not
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3. Prepare Clients for Potential Blocks
Client Preparation
It helps to prepare clients for for potential blocks that might arise to process authentically
Here are sample scripts for that
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3. Prepare Clients for Potential Blocks
Sometimes while connecting to Resources, concerns or fears about the processing will arise. Unconscious fears
may be expressed by the sudden arrival of a body disturbance such as unpleasant sensations, dissociation, distracting thoughts, numbness, or sleepiness. That may or may not happen to you, but if it does, please tell me
about it, even if it doesn’t seem important. You’re welcome to have concerns or fears – just let me know if they come up. I’ll want to address them right away.
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3. Prepare Clients for Authentic Processing
Be sure to tell me about whatever comes up, even if you think its wrong – even if you’re confused. It might
not make sense to you, but it might make sense to me. If it doesn’t – together we’ll figure it out.
We will not successfully complete this protocol if we do this over unexpressed fears or concerns, or if you don’t
authentically disclose what’s coming up.
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Guided Meditations
Resource Mobilization
Start with easiest Resource to connect to
Check for blocksWhen you think about beginning the
meditation to connect you to your _____ now, what do you notice in your body?
Investigate any disturbances reported
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Guided Meditations
Resource Mobilization
DNMS model contains special protocols for identifying and clearing blocks
Clear any blocks that are found Then ask again…
When you think about beginning the meditation…
When clear, begin the meditation
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NAS & PAS Meditations
Resource Mobilization
Focus on competent caregiving experience
Then read meditation once – without ABS
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Resource Mobilization
Think about _________ as I name each skill on the list. Nod or say “yes” with each skill you know you have. Stop me if I name a skill you believe you don’t have, or if you feel any discomfort that suggests a block is arising. Close your eyes (if that’s comfortable) and
take a deep breath. Now get in touch with the following skills and traits, which you already have,
including your ability to be empathic… compassionate… understanding… accepting…
patient…
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Nurturing Adult Self Meditation
Resource Mobilization
nurturing… warm… open… able to attune… good at listening… good with boundaries… reliable…
trustworthy… confident… respectful… appropriately responsible… problem-solver… action-taker…
decision-maker… logical… strong… courageous… protective… and grounded. Now, bring all these skills
together into a single sense of self, your Nurturing Adult Self, and when you’re ready, tell me what you
notice.
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Resource Mobilization
If the body feels good, apply ABS
Read list again to let it strengthen
This time not interactive
Afterwards should feel strong and positive
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Resource Mobilization
Ask about mental picture of the Resource
Should look like self when nurturing the cherished loved one
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Resource Mobilization
Follow same steps to mobilize the Protective Adult Self
Read meditation words in reverse order Strengthen good feeling with ABS Ask about a mental picture
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Spiritual Core Self Meditation
Resource Mobilization
Four meditation options Regular Spiritual Core Self Meditation Core Self Meditation Breath Meditation List Meditation
If one doesn’t work, try another
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Spiritual Core Self Meditation
Resource Mobilization
Focus on peak spiritual experience
Read one of the meditations – without ABS
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Regular Spiritual Core Self Meditation
Resource Mobilization
Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Think about your ____________ experience. Now get in touch with the center
of your being… that place within you that’s quiet… peaceful… and still. And in this place… it’s possible you’ll connect to your Spiritual Core. Your Spiritual Core has
been with you from the beginning… it’s the essence of who you are… your core of goodness. Pure… resilient… and whole. And your body knows exactly how to connect you. Notice as you connect to this part of you, and when
you’re ready, tell me what you notice.
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The Core Self Meditation
Resource Mobilization
Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Think about your ____________ experience. Now get in touch with the center
of your being… that place within you that’s quiet… peaceful… and still. And in this place… it’s possible you’ll connect to your Core Self. Your Core Self has been with
you from the beginning… it’s the essence of who you are… your core of goodness. Pure… resilient… and
whole. And your body knows exactly how to connect you. Notice as you connect to this part of you, and when
you’re ready, tell me what you notice.
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The Breath Meditation
Resource Mobilization
There is a place inside you that’s quiet, peaceful, and still. It's always been there and you can get there by
simply watching your breath. First, deliberately inhale. Notice it takes muscle tension to do this. You have to do a little work to get the air into your lungs. As you
release the air notice that all you have to do is let go. Just let yourself float down, while the air leaves your
body. Notice how good it feels to just let go. Take another breath, and again notice that muscle tension
is needed. Then let go, and just float down.
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The Breath Meditation
Resource Mobilization
Notice that right at the bottom of your breath, right at the point where you stop exhaling, there is a
moment where nothing is happening. Where all is quiet, peaceful, and still. As you breathe again, watch
for that point. When you find it, just rest for a moment or two, quiet and still, not breathing. Notice what that feels like, what your mind is like - empty and calm. Now as you breathe, notice you can stay connected to this calm and quiet place within you.
When you’re ready, tell me what you notice.
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The List Meditation
Resource Mobilization
Think about your ________ experience. Close your eyes (if that’s comfortable) and take a deep
breath. Now get in touch with the center of your being… that place within you that is quiet… peaceful… and still. And in this place… it’s
possible you’ll connect to a sense of interconnectedness to all beings… a sense of completeness and wholeness… of safety and
invulnerability.
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The List Meditation
Resource Mobilization
A place where all things and events are equally special… a place of no desires or aversions… no
ego or struggles. A place of unconditional effortless happiness, acceptance. A place of
loving kindness and compassion. Notice as you connect to this part of you, and when you’re
ready, tell me what you notice.
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Spiritual Core Self Meditation
Resource Mobilization
If it feels good, apply ABS
Ask about a mental picture
SCS should appear as luminous energy
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Mobilizing the Healing Circle
Resource Mobilization
Invite client to bring all three Resources together
Does it feel good?
Can they form team?
Apply ABS
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Mobilizing the Healing Circle
Resource Mobilization
Then say…You now have a team of Resources to provide
comfort, reassurance, and soothing. In the future these Resources will be able to help wounded
child parts get all their needs met and get completely unstuck from the past.
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What is a Provisional Resource (PR)?
A Resource you can use temporarily, until your Healing Circle team is established
Not as robust as NAS, PAS, & SCS
Like a spare tire – can carry a light load
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Why Connect to a Provisional Resource?
Some clients encounter deep-seated blocks when they mobilize these Resources
It helps to have at least one Resource to call on to help clear such blocks
For example, a NAS can help you clear a block to connecting to a PAS
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Why Connect to a Provisional Resource?
But client may blocked from connecting to all three Resources
A PR can help clear those blocks
Usually very easy to connect to
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Connecting to Provisional Resources
Can be drawn from experiences with any entity perceived as supportive and kind Self Other Real Imaginary
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Connecting to Provisional Resources
A personal experience of nurturing a child a pet a helpless adult
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Connecting to Provisional Resources
Experience of being supported by: someone nurturing a deceased loved one a spirit guide a fictional character a mythical archetype a religious figure
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Examples of Provisional Resources
Based on Self
Margie was very attached to he niece. She’ll read to her, play with her, and cuddle her
PR = Aunt Margie
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Examples of Provisional Resources
Based on Real Other
Sue spent a lot of time at Ann’s home. Ann’s parents were very caring and nurturing to her
PR = Ann’s Parents
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Examples of Provisional Resources
Based on Imaginary Other
Missy believes a guardian angel helped her survive a traumatic childhood
PR = Childhood Guardian Angel
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Finding Provisional Resources
Invite your client to discuss experiences of feeling supported by others being supportive of others
Narrow down to one or more key experiences
Assign Provisional Resource(s) name
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Exercise
Find a partner Discuss experiences of
feeling supported by others being supportive of others
Identify a Provisional Resource Give it a name Time yourself
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Definition
A fear, concern, or condition that makes it difficult for a client to connect to a NAS, PAS, or SCS Misunderstanding Blocking introject Urgent need to do something else
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Examples of Misunderstandings
Confusion about words on the list Must be good at nurturing/protecting all the time Must be good at nurturing/protecting self Resources supposed to be superhuman Wounded parts expecting they’ll have to do the job Resources will be unkind like others were Must believe in God to connect to a SCS
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Some Beliefs that Signal Blocking Introjects
It’s not safe for me to heal.
I’m not supposed to be happy.
I don’t deserve to be nurtured.
If I connect to Resources I’ll get in trouble.
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Old Messages that Signal Blocking Introjects
You’re pure evil.
You’re in trouble now.
You don’t deserve to be nurtured.
Don’t you dare say I traumatized you.
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Clearing Introject Blocks
The DNMS has a protocol for clearing blocks generated by maladaptive introjects
Switching the Dominance Protocol Based on two assumptions
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You don’t deserve to
be nurtured
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An unwanted behavior, belief, or emotion… …is fueled by a wounding introject mask
First Assumption
You don’t deserve to
be nurtured
I don’t deserve to
be nurtured
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The part wearing it does not like it, want it, or need it
Second Assumption
I don’t like this mask!
You don’t deserve to
be nurtured
I don’t deserve to
be nurtured
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The Mask is Dominant
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I don’t deserve to
be nurtured
Processing Stalls
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Processing Stalls
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You don’t deserve to
be nurtured
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Switching the Dominance Protocol Overview
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Hey. It’s not so real.
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Now it has no
animation at all.
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I’m in charge now!
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I deserve to be
nurtured
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After Switching the Dominance
Switching the Dominance can quiet an introject and stop the processing block
Usually just takes a few minutes Additional interventions are needed
for introjects to heal completely
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Urgent Need to Do Something Else
Here and now concern
Client may need to Discuss a current crisis Create more rapport with the therapist Better manage upset parts of self
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Resolving Processing Complications
The DNMS book explains exactly how to identify and resolve RDP complications
Clearing blocks… Can be very healing Can resolve internal conflicts Can be very ego strengthening Can lead to better affect management
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DNMS Book Home Study Course Live Training Get details at www.DNMSInstitute.com
Three Options for Learning the DNMS
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Provides background material Detailed steps for applying all the protocols for
clearing blocks Appendix has client handouts and therapist
worksheets and forms Costs $35
The DNMS Book
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Seven module slide show (16 hrs) Colorful, animated, narrated Includes recordings of real sessions Study guide with quizzes 20 optional CEs Costs $375
The Home Study Course
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Part 1 General Background DNMS Background Resource Development Protocol Switching the Dominance Protocol Overcoming Processing Blocks Four Days, 32 CEUs available
Live Trainings
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Part 2 Attachment Needs Ladder Conference Room Protocol Needs Meeting Protocol Four Days, 32 CEUs
Live Trainings
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DNMS Listserv Free with purchase of book Over 700 members
Local study group Group phone consultation Individual consultation
Other Support
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Case studies about the DNMS have been published in two peer-review journals The Journal of Trauma and Dissociation Traumatology
Both articles are available on the DNMS web site www.dnmsinstitute.com
Published Research
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