Counselling Skills18 Dec 2016
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Counselling
Counselling and Career Counselling 1. What2. Why 3. How 4. Who 5. Whom6. Way forward
CounsellingGetting people talk…
In an age of seamless connectivity: Loneliness Broken relationships Deteriorating Mental Health Depression etcetera.
Career Counselling
ر� نمایاں کر گئے کیا کہیں احباب کیا کابی اے کیا نوکر ہوئے پنشن ملی او� مر گئے
Olden days Vs Current Times
Career Counselling…
Knowledge expansion
Career options
Multi-career path
Confusion
What is (career) counselling…
ConfidentialityNarrative Imagination
Trust
The Counselling Triangle
- You won’t share- Won’t let down- Support in overcoming the crisis
- Single most important of ethics- Requires assurance- Seek consent- Grey area*
- Empathy- Imagine the other-ness- Compassion- Mareez se nahi Marz se…
Some thoughts peculiar to Educational Counselling
Things Counsellee might face: Parental pressure Peer pressure Self aspiration Lack of awareness, opportunities, resources
Confusion Frustration Anger Anxiety Guilt Helplessness Ignorance
ConsellorAvoid Cultivate
Judgement Assumptions Coercion Promise of solution (advise-rare, collaborate-often) Interrogate Compare yourself
Listening Patience Language matters: Open Questions +ve strokes Body language Connect Reciprocity حکمت
مزاج شناسی
موقعہ شناسی
Make the counsellee - realize, take control, confident, self-esteem, resilient
Process
Usually a multi-stage process First stage: testing waters, connect, collaborate, refer or schedule next
meet Next stages
A note on relationships – mind the gap
The missing thing? Knowledge and understanding of the field Continuous learning Keep updated – acquire competencies*, connect with professionals, students.
Institutions* Exams Journals - APA PsycNET® International Association for Counselling - International Journal for the Advancement of Counselling American Psychological Association - Journal of Counseling Psychology International Journal of Psychology and Counselling British Journal of Guidance & Counselling American Counseling Association - Journal of Counseling & Development The Online Journal of Counseling and Education The International Journal of Indian Psychology Indian Journal of Psychology and Education
Raise the bar!
Counselling skills – sum up
Counselling as process of self-realization for the counsellee Counsellor as facilitator, enabler and empathizer
Confidentiality
Narrative Imagination
Trust
However…
These are only some best-practices/ experiences/ theories that are suggestive and not definitive or exhaustive aspects.
We learn when we think, read and listen – we unlearn and relearn when we do!
Therefore, if one has to develop counselling skills – start thinking and doing it.
Be respectful, humble, confident, fallible, ready to learn and compassionate – cultivate narrative imagination and reflexivity.
Have your own Counsellor – even counsellors need counselling
Way forward…
How many are serious in continuing? Do it if you are passionate, reflect.
خود شناسی کے نہ ہونے سے یہی ہوتا ہے
جنکو فنکا� نہ بننا تھا وہ !!! فنکا� بنے
I hope it was not…
واعظ کا ہر ایک ا�شاد بجا، تقریر بہت دلچسپ مگراا نکھوں میں یقیں کا سوز نہیں، چہرہ پہ یقیں کا نو� نہیں
Thank You
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