Kitchen Cyberbullying
Bullying and the Gifted Child
• 67% of gifted students had experienced bullying by eighth grade
• 16% defined themselves as bullies
• 29% had violent thoughts
What does bullying look like?
Elementary• Name calling—teasing• Ostracizing victims• Physical (hitting, pushing, tripping)• Verbal threats• Stealing/taking items from victims
What does bullying look like?
Middle School/High School• Rumors or gossip• Sexual Harassment• Slam books• Texting• Facebook• Message Boards
Gender Makes a Difference
Boys• Boys often use direct
and aggressive bullying tactics– Physical– Verbal threats– Name calling and verbal
teasing
Girls• Girls tend to use more
subtle bullying tactics:– Ostracize or use
relational aggression– Teasing verbally or
through note writing, facebook or texting
– Spreading rumors
Warning Signs in a Passive Victim
• Psychosomatic symptoms may develop to avoid school—stomach ache
• Anxious• Sensitive and shy• Student stays close to the teacher
instead of peers
Warning Signs in Passive Victims
• Insecure• Violence or victimization shows up in
writing• Excluded by peers• Significant change in behavior
toward school.
A Word about the Bully
• Myth – Bullies have low self esteem
• Fact– Studies have shown that most bullies
are popular and are leaders in a group
Warning Signs of a Bully
• Behaves aggressively• Undermines authority• Lashes out with putdowns• Lacks sympathy and empathy• Impulsive• Engages in other anti-social behavior
Strategies to Combat Bullying
From www.bullystoppers.com
– The Poker Face– Selective Ignoring– Be Assertive – Don’t be an easy target– Use Comeback lines—not insults
Comeback Lines
• From www.bullystoppers.com
– You’re the king of putdowns. Congrats
– Thank you, that was the look I was going for.
– Bullystoppers.com has 101 comeback lines
Life Strategies for Dealing with Bullies
www.bullystopper.com/links
Highly Recommended Bullying Links
Wired SafetyBully PoliceBullies to BuddiesBullying.orgIn Memory of Jared HighBullying OnlineModel School Bullying Programs
Statistics from Wellesley research project Bullying Resource KitStop Hazing Youth Crime WatchGLSEN (Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network)
The Bullying 4-1-1Olweus Bullying Prevention ProgramUS Dept. of Education Office of Civil RightsFree Advice on Juvenile LawFind a School AttorneyCourt Decisions on School Bullying
Bibliography
Brame, J. & French, L Bullying. ppt http://www.powershow.com/view/10a3dNjMwN/Bullying_flash_ppt_presentation
Peterson, J.S 2006. Study: Gifted Children Especially Vulnerable to Effects of Bullying. Purdue University. http://news.uns.purdue.edu/html4ever/2006/060406.Peterson.bullies.html
Hoagies Gifted. Bullies and Bullying Resources. http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/bullies.htm
Letson, NJ SAC LPC, T. Bullystoppers.com. www.bullystopper.com