Book 1Unit 4
How to Make a Good Impression
Reba Chai
Nov. 21,
2011
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Group Discussions:
1. Do you think first impression is important? Why?
2. When you first meet someone, what usually makes you like or dislike the person?
3. How can we make a good first impression on others?
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You want to give other’s a good impression, especially when you are …
in a job interview
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in a blind date
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in a new environment
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You impress people with your:language
facial expression
appearance
behavior
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We speak with verbal organs but we talk with our body.
----David Aberconbie
(a psychologist)
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No one can really keep secret. If he does not talk and keep silent, he will talk with his fingers.
---Froyd
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communication by using body movements or gestures, facial expression instead of, or in addition to, sounds, verbal language or other communication.
Gestures
• Gesture means we communicate and express by the movement and manners of our hands and fingers.
1. The “Thumbs-up”
Thumb up with a close fist. Meaning support or approval, "O.K." or "Good Going!" or "Good job!“
And it also used for hitchhiking in America.
2. "O.K." gesture
"O.K." meaning "fine" or "yes." in the U.S.1
In France it means zero. 2
3 In Japan it means money or coins.
Thumb and forefinger making a circle
Palm facing out with the index and middle fingers displayed in the
shape of a “V”.• "Victory" or "peace." • In England, palm facing inward
toward the face is an obscene gesture
3.“V” gesture
4. The finger beckoning
In the U.S, it’s a signal to beckon or summon another person.
In the oriental east like Japan, it is a rude gesture.
5.So Called (所谓的) quotation-mark
gesture • 手势做法:抬起双手至头
两侧,伸出中指和食指并弯曲两下。
6. Crosses Fingers
•
cross one's fingers/ keep one's fingers crossed 祈求好运
I will keep my fingers crossed for you today.
7. Turn around one’s ring
People from English-speaking countries turn around their rings constantly to show nervousness or uneasiness .
8. I Love You
• This gesture consists of three parts: Stretch out the index finger means “I” Stretch out the index finger and thumb means
”l” (LOVE). Stretch out the thumb and little finger means
“U” ( YOU).
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Worriedsad
Surprised
FearfulHorrible
Angry
Facial expression
Happy
Compressing your lips
upset
Folding your arms
prote
cting
yourself,
anxiety
Putting your hands in the pocket and shrugging your shoulder
nervous
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Eye Contact
The eyes are the window of the soul.
Make a good first impression Make a good first impression in a job interviewin a job interview
• Natural, clean looking face/makeup
• Nicely styled hair• Press your clothes• Clean your fingernails• Shoes shined• No Gum, Candy, or cigarettes
at the Job Interview!!!• Avoid strong perfumes or
colognes
•
Keep fine seat
posture
Skills of eye contact
Looking up means the sense of authority and superiority.
Looking down means obedience and mercy.
Looking straight means objective and rational.
Sweet smile
• Blouse 女衬衫
necklace
Dress
high-heeled shoes
Handbag 手袋
coat
purse
necklace
earrings
bracelet
high-heeled shoes
Scarf 围巾
silk stockings 丝袜
Skirt 裙子
Examples of Appropriate Attire for Women
Business Casual Attire
Business Professional Attire
Business Casual Attire
Business Professional Attire
•Miniskirts
•Excessively high heeled shoes
•Caps (headwear) indoors
•Very tight clothing
Examples of Unprofessional and Inappropriate Attire
A) B) C)
D) E)
F)
• There's work and there's your life's work.• The kind of work that has your fingerprints all
over it. The kind of work that you'd never compromise on. That you'd sacrifice a weekend for. You can do that kind of work at Apple . People don't come here to play it safe. They come here to swim in the deep end.
• They want their work to add up to something.• Something big. Something that couldn't happen
anywhere else.• Welcome to Apple.
• 这是一封来自苹果公司给新入职员工的信,谈到了在苹果公司的“工作”,寥寥数语。
• 它很让人共鸣。它让我看到信念的力量,对创造的热爱。粗略意译如下:
• 有一种工作只是工作。有一种工作是你终生的追求。• 这种工作草木皆情,由你全情打造。这种工作你从来不会
妥协。这种工作也会让你甘愿牺牲周末。你可以在苹果找到这样的工作。在这里的人们不会闲庭信步,他们到这里击水三千。
• 他们希望自己的工作能有一些不同的东西。• 一些重要的东西,那些不可能在其他地方得到的东西。• 欢迎来到苹果。
The First Four Minutes
1. According to the book by Dr. Zunin, what is the importance of the first four minutes in social situation?
2. What are his suggestions about what to do in the first four minutes?
3. What should you do to be friendly and self-confident if you are not friendly and self-confident in nature?
4. Why are interpersonal relationships so important?
During the first four minutes, people decide whether or not they want to become friends.
(1) Give our undivided attention to someone we just met.(2) Appear friendly and self-confident.(3) Don’t be too sure of ourselves.(4) Appear interested and sympathetic.
A little practice can help us feel comfortable about changing our social habits.
Success in life depends mainly on how we get along with other people.
1/5
1 When do people decide whether or not they
want to become friends? During their first four
minutes together, according to a book by Dr.
Leonard Zunin. In his book, Contact: The First
Four Minutes, he offers this advice to anyone
interested in starting new friendships: “Every time
you meet someone in a social situation, give
him your undivided attention for four
minutes. A lot of people’s whole lives would change
if they did just that.”
根 据
交往,联系contactstay/keep in contact with
contact nember
a contact person
联系电话联系人
保持联系
给某人提供意见offer sth. to sb.
全部的,全心全意的关注
社交场所,场合
每次你在社交场所遇到一个人,专心关注他四分钟。
offer sb. sth.
2 You may have noticed that the average person
does not give his undivided attention to
someone he has just met. He keeps looking
over the other person’s shoulder, as if
hoping to find someone more interesting in
another part of the room. If anyone has ever done
this to you, you probably did not like him very
much.3 When we are introduced to new people, the
author suggests, we should try to appear friendly and self-confident. In general, he says, “People like people who like themselves”.
keep doing: 持续不断做某事
kook over one’s shoulder向某人身后看去
如果有人这样对你的话,你可能不会很喜欢他。
appear friendly and self-confident表现得友好又自信 appear+adj. 表现得…
give one’s undivided attention to
注意,关注某人
总体上
4 On the other hand, we should not make
the other person think we are too sure of
ourselves. It is important to appear interested
and sympathetic, realizing that the other person
has his own needs, fears, and hopes. 5 Hearing
such advice, one might say, “But I’m not a
friendly, self-confident person. That’s not my
nature. It would be dishonest for me to
act that way.”
on the other hand
从另外一方面来说
on one hand
从一方面来说
4 On the other hand, we should not make
the other person think we are too sure of
ourselves. It is important to appear
interested and sympathetic, realizing
that the other person has his own needs, fears,
and hopes. 5 Hearing such advice, one might
say, “But I’m not a friendly, self-confident person.
That’s not my nature. It would be
dishonest for me to act that way.”
be sure of sth./sb.
确信,肯定,对…有把握Tom’s mother was sure of his success.汤姆的妈妈相信汤姆一定会成功。be sure of one’s +n.
相信,肯定某人…
victory
innocence
honesty
be sure of oneself
对自己十分有信心
4 On the other hand, we should not make
the other person think we are too sure of
ourselves. It is important to appear
interested and sympathetic, realizing
that the other person has his own needs, fears,
and hopes. 5 Hearing such advice, one might
say, “But I’m not a friendly, self-confident person.
That’s not my nature. It would be
dishonest for me to act that way.”
表现得有兴趣、赞同
sympathetic
有同情心的 ; 赞同的 , 支持的
be sympathetic to/towards sth./sb.
对…表示同情;对…表示赞同
sympathize
v.
sympathize with sb./sth.
sympathy
n.
show/have (no) sympathy for sb.
4 On the other hand, we should not make
the other person think we are too sure of
ourselves. It is important to appear
interested and sympathetic, realizing
that the other person has his own needs, fears,
and hopes. 5 Hearing such advice, one might
say, “But I’m not a friendly, self-confident person.
That’s not my nature. It would be dishonest
for me to act that way.”
那不是我的本性。让我这样做是不诚实的。
It be dishonest/honest for sb. to do sth.
6 In reply, Dr. Zunin would claim that a little
practice can help us feel comfortable about
changing our social habits. We can become
accustomed to any changes we choose to
make in our personality. “It’s like getting used
to a new car. It may be unfamiliar at first, but it
goes much better than the old one.”
作为回复,答复,回答 (to)
习惯于,适应become accustomed to be/get/become accustomed
to doing sth.
to sth.
be/get/become used
to doing sth.
to sth.
7 But isn’t it dishonest to give the appearance of friendly
self-confidence when we don’t actually feel that way?
Perhaps, but according to Dr. Zunin, “total honesty” is not
always good for social relationships, especially during the
first few minutes of contact. There is a time for
everything, and a certain amount of play-acting may be
best for the first minutes of contact with a stranger. That
is not the time to complain about one’s health
or to mention faults one finds in other people. It is not the
time to tell the whole truth about one’s opinions and
impressions.
( 不 ) 是做某事的好时机 / 最佳时机
做事要当其时。 万物皆有时。物当其时,各有佳期。
That is (not) the time to do sth.
8 Much of what has been said about strangers
also applies to relationships with family
members and friends. For a husband and wife or
a parent and child, problems often arise
during their first four minutes together after
they have been apart. Dr. Zunin suggests that these first few minutes together be treated with care. If there are unpleasant
matters to be discussed, they should be dealt with later.
apply to 适用于
apply sth. to
这些方法适用于小学生。
These methods applied to primary school students. 涂抹,贴
apply night/day/sun cream to our skinapply sth. toapply theory to practice
在皮肤上涂上晚 / 日 / 防晒霜
把理论运用到实践中去
apply ( to sb.) for sth.
向(某人,某机构)申请…
The poor family applied to the government for assistance.
apply (to this company) for a job
8 Much of what has been said about strangers
also applies to relationships with family
members and friends. For a husband and wife or
a parent and child, problems often arise
during their first four minutes together after
they have been apart. Dr. Zunin suggests that these first few minutes together be treated with care. If there are unpleasant
matters to be discussed, they should be dealt with later.
Problems often arise.
问题常常发生。
question
accident
quarrel difficultycrisi
smistake
arise
arose arisen
rise
rose risen
raise
上升,上涨,起立
raised raised
vi.
vi.
vt.
举起,增加,抚养,饲养,提出,筹募
8 Much of what has been said about strangers
also applies to relationships with family
members and friends. For a husband and wife or
a parent and child, problems often arise
during their first four minutes together after
they have been apart. Dr. Zunin suggests that these first few minutes together be treated with care. If there are unpleasant
matters to be discussed, they should be dealt with later.
suggest that (should) do
建议
医生建议每天喝八杯水。The doctor suggests that we (should) drink 8 glasses of water a day.
propose
demand
insist
require order朱宁博士建议在一起的最初几分钟要小心对待。
9 The author declares that interpersonal relations should be taught as a required course in every school, along with reading,
writing, and mathematics. In his opinion, success in
life depends mainly on how we get along with other people. That is at least as important
as how much we know.
人际关系
必修课
选修课 optional course
Tom, along with his girlfriend, attended the party.
along with
跟…一起,一同
9 The author declares that interpersonal relations should be taught as a required course in every school, along with reading,
writing, and mathematics. In his opinion, success in
life depends mainly on how we get along with other people. That is at least as important
as how much we know. 考试的结果主要取决于你有多努力。
depend mainly on
主要取决,主要依靠
The result of an examination depends mainly on how hard-working you are.
跟某人相处get along with
sb.get along well with sb.
跟某人相处愉快
至少at least
at most 至多
Useful Phrases and Expressions
和……一起
根据他的书
注意,关注
答复,回答
对…有把握
总的来说
according to his book
give one’s attention to
on the other hand
in reply
along with
in general
be sure of sth.
另一方面
主要取决于和……相处
对付,处理习惯于,适应于
必修课
depend mainly on
get along with
deal with
become / be accustomed to
a required course
at least
interpersonal relations 人际关系
至少
apply to
offer advice to sb.
social situation
appear friendly
That’s not my nature.
It be honest/dishonest for sb. to do sth.
适用于
给某人提供意见
表现得很友好
某人做某事是(不)诚实的。
那非我本性。
社交场合,场所
1 stay in contact with
a contact person
business contacts
联系某人、我们的办公室
2 be confident in oneself
对未来有信心
be confident of victory
确信能成功
保持联系
联系人
业务关系contact sb./our office
be confident of success
对自己有信心
Ex. 5
Be confident in the future
确信会胜利
3 complain about the service
抱怨天气不好 complain to the manager about the food in the hotel
埋怨物价高
4 必修课
take/do a one-year English course
修完一门
fail/pass a course
finish/complete a course
修一门为期一年的英语课程
向经理投诉旅馆的食物不好
抱怨、投诉服务不好
complain about/of the high price
未通过 /通过一门课考试
complain about the weather
a required course
Ex. 6
1. accustomed
2. impression
3. sympathetic
4. requires
5. arise
6. contact
7. mentioned
8. claims
9. fault
10. interpersonal
11. dishonest
12. personalities
Ex. 7
1. got accustomed to
2. applies to
3. According to
4. in your opinion
5. on the other hand
6. get along with
7. deal with
8. in general
9. along with
10. be sure of
11. depend on
12. complained about
Exercise 9
Decide which expression uses the word “impression” and which uses the word “attention”, and then put the Chinese parts in the following sentences into English, using some of the expressions.
pay to somebody/somethingattention
注意某人 / 某事
make an on somebody
turn one’s to somebody/something
give one’s to somebody/something
impression
给某人留下印象
attention
把注意力转移到…
attention
把注意力放在…
★ ★ ★
★ ★ ★
★ ★ ★
★ ★ ★
attract /catch somebody’s
have/get the that…
leave an on somebody
hold/keep somebody’s
escape someone’s
turn one’s to somebody/something
attention
impression
impression
attention
attention
attention
吸引某人的注意
有个… 印象
留一个印象
使某人保持注意力
逃过某人的注意力
把注意力转移到
★ ★ ★
★ ★ ★
★ ★ ★
★ ★ ★
★ ★ ★
★ ★ ★
1. I _______________________( 有个印象 ) that she’s very
good at her job.
2. This game is fun and is sure to
_____________________ ( 使这些学生保持注意力 ).
3. It’s time now to ______________________ ( 把我们注意力转移到 ) the first few minutes when we are
introduced to new people.
4. He wants to ____________________________________( 留一个好印象 ) everyone he meets.
have /get the impression
keep /hold the students’ attention
turn our attention to
make /leave a good impression on
5. What first ____________________________ ( 引起我注意的 ) was his voice.
6. You should ____________________( 注意听 ) your
teacher, because you’ll be tested later.
7. I’m afraid nothing can _____________________( 逃过他的注意力 ).
8. His speech seemed
to_______________________________ ( 产生相当影响 ) the
audience.
make quite an impression on
attracted/ caught my attention
pay attention to
escape his attention
#
Translate the following into Chinese, paying particular attention to the underlined parts.
Exercise 13
1.Its roots go back to many different countries and many different kinds of music and musicians.
2. Victory always goes to the strong.
它的根源可以追溯到许多不同的国家 , 不同类型的音乐和音乐家。
胜利永远属于强者。
1/2
3. The key won’t go in the lock.
4. In two years, he was a national phenomenon.
5. The wisest thing to do is to skim over the chapter
to be read.
这把钥匙插不进这把所锁。
两年以后,他便风靡全国。
最聪明的做法是把要读的章节粗略地看一遍。
6. I am busy packing my things for the long
journey.
7. An idea formed in my mind.
8. Do you want regular or king size?
我有了个主意。
你要一般尺寸还是特大尺寸。
我正在忙着为这次长途旅行打点行装。
1. 他盯着我看,好像是第一次见到我似的。
2. 此项规定仅适用于新员工。
3. 就是在这最初的四分钟中,我们决定是否要成为朋友。
4.当我们初次跟人见面,一方面,我们要表现得友好而自信,另一方面,也要关注他人。
5.我们逐渐适应大学生活。每当有问题出现的时候,我和同学们会想办法一起解决,而不是去抱怨。
Exercise 14 Translation
1. 他盯着我看,好像是第一次见到我似的。
He stared at me as if he saw me for the first time.
Exercise 14
参考译文:
Translate the following sentences into Chinese.
as if
stare atfor the first time
/
He stared at me as if seeing me for the first time.
2. 此项规定仅适用于新员工。
This rule applies to new employees /workers only.
参考译文:
2/3
apply to
3. 人生的成功在很大程度取决于如何与他人交往。
Success in life depends mainly on how we get along with other people.
参考译文:
depend mainly/greatly on
to a great degree
4. 就是在这最初的四分钟中,我们决定是否要成为朋友。
It is during these first four minutes that we decide whether or not we want to become friends.
参考译文:
It is…that
5.当我们初次跟人见面,一方面,我们要表现得友好而自信,另一方面,也要关注他人。
When we meet someone for the first
time, on one hand, we should
appear friendly and self-confident.
On the other hand, we should also
give our attention to him.
参考译文:
on one hand; on the other hand
appear friendly and self-confident
give one’s attention to
6. 我们逐渐适应大学生活。每当有问题出现的时候,我和同学们会想办法一起解决,而不是去抱怨。
We become accustomed/used to the
college life. Each time a problems
arises, I, along with my classmates,
think of ways to solve it instead of
complaining.
参考译文:
become/get accustomed/used to
a problem arisesalong with
make a good first impression 留下好的第一印象
according to 根据facial expressions 面部表情put forward 提出,提议以供考虑confident 自信的 , 确信的matter 有关系 , 要紧,重要associate with 联合,联系
Dictation
Before listening to the passage , you may need these words and phrases.
People often say you have just __________to
make a good first impression. And they are
right. According to a recent study, ____________of
a first impression is based on ___________, facial
expressions, and tone of voice. So here’s how to
put your best foot forward. First, know this,
when you meet someone new, your __________will
get noticed more than your facial features.
_____________ says, “My looks are important to
me”.
7 seconds
90 percent appearance
hair style
Long hair
给人留下好印象
以…为基础
Short hair says, “__________ and successful”. And
shoulder length hair says, “I’m able to deal
easily with difficult situations”. Next, your
handshake_____________. The study found that
people who _______________while offering a firm
handshake not only make a better impression,
but make people believe you have the qualities
associated with your grip. But here’s the one
thing — a first impression
is less about you, and more about
_________________________.
I’m confident
matters make eye
contact
you need to remember
making the person you meet feel good
头发齐肩,垂肩长发
要紧,有关系
• English is the 1._______ language of business. But an increasing number of American companies that do business in China or with Chinese companies are having their workers learn Mandarin.
• Michael Cheng is a Taiwanese-American Internet entrepreneur and 2._______ developer. He is also in the business of teaching Chinese. Mr. Cheng is president and founder of the Mando Mandarin 3._______ School. The school is based in New York and uses teachers in China to teach over webcams.
• "China over the past few years very quickly has already become the world's second-largest 4.________.
• If China's got over three trillion dollars in reserves now, so if you want to do business or connect with the fastest-growing country in the world, it might make sense to make an 5.________to engage the people in their own language, as understanding of their language and culture goes a long way in building strong 6._______ --especially with the Chinese." effort
• By some 7.________, China could pass the United States and become the world's largest economy by twenty twenty-five. Michael Cheng says that as China's economic power has increased, so has its 8.______ power.
• "Starting back in two thousand four, the Chinese Ministry of Education, along with what was called their Chinese Language Council, began to set up,
around the world, Confucius Institutes, and with the purpose of promoting and developing Chinese language and culture teaching 9._______around the world.“
Now, he says, there are more than three hundred Confucius Institutes in almost one hundred countries. These institutes work to 10.______Chinese language at the university level. The Chinese government has partnered with colleges and the Asia Society to set up programs across the United States. High schools have also received money to start Chinese language training programs.
• English is the ______________language of business. But an increasing number of international American companies that do business in China or with Chinese companies are having their workers learn Mandarin.
• Michael Cheng is a Taiwanese-American Internet entrepreneur and ____________developer. He is also in the business of teaching Chinese. Mr. Cheng is president and founder of the Mando Mandarin ___________School. The school is based in New York and uses teachers in China to teach over webcams.
• "China over the past few years very quickly has already become the world's second-largest__________.
international
property
Online
economy
• If China's got over three trillion dollars in reserves now, so if you want to do business or connect with the fastest-growing country in the world, it might make sense to make an 5.________to engage the people in their own language, as understanding of their language and culture goes a long way in building strong 6._______ _____--especially with the Chinese."
• By some 7.____________, China could pass the United States and become the world's largest economy by twenty twenty-five. Michael Cheng says that as China's economic power has increased, so has its 8.___________ power.
• "Starting back in two thousand four, the Chinese Ministry of Education, along with what was called their Chinese Language Council, began to set up,
effort
relationships
predictions
cultural
around the world, Confucius Institutes, and with the purpose of promoting and developing Chinese language and culture teaching 9.___________around the world.“
Now, he says, there are more than three hundred Confucius Institutes in almost one hundred countries. These institutes work to 10._________Chinese language at the university level. The Chinese government has partnered with colleges and the Asia Society to set up programs across the United States. High schools have also received money to start Chinese language training programs.
promote
resources