Working Together to Combat Bullying

in Our School

Bullying is “intentional hurtful behavior, repeated over time.”

• Physical.• Verbal.• Emotional.

Bullying can be

Bullying is “intentional hurtful behavior, repeated over time.”

• Be out in the open or subtle.

• Involve a single bully or a group.

• Take place on cell phones and computers.

Bullying can

Bullying causes victims to be• Afraid.• Ashamed.• Angry.• Embarrassed.

The actions of bullies DO hurt children and affect their ability to learn.

Bullying is a growing problem.

Bullying is a growing problem.

In general, schools are safer. But bullying is on the rise.

Bullying is a growing problem.

Bullying is a growing problem.

32% of middle and high school students said they had been bullied.

Bullying is a growing problem.

Bullying is a growing problem.

According to the National Institutes of Health, a child is bullied on the playground every 7 minutes.

No relief for victims of bullying.

No relief for victims of bullying.

• Text messages.• Social networking.• Other technology.

Bullies use

Anyone can be a bullyAnyone can be a bully

• All ages.• Boys and girls.• All levels of the

school’s social pecking order.

Bullying Absences

Every day, bullying causes 160,000 students to miss school.

Bullying Problems in school

Victims often experience a decline in grades.

Bullying Violence

Tragically, bullying has led some students to take their own lives or the lives of others.

We want our students to understand

We want our students to understand

• Bullying hurts everyone.

• We won’t condone it.

• Adults will always be there to help.Bullying is NOT “cool” or

the thing to do.

Parents have a key role to play

Parents have a key role to play

Parents have a key role to play to combat bullying.

Do not call the parents of the other student.

What should you do if your child tells you he’s being bullied?

If your child is a victimIf your child is a victim

• Where does this bullying occur?

• When?

Gather as much information as you can

If your child is a victimIf your child is a victim

• Write down the facts.

• Make copies of any text messages or pages from social networking sites.

Gather as much information as you can

If your child is a victimIf your child is a victim

• Talk with your child’s teacher.

• Ask if anyone has noticed changes in her behavior.

Meet with our staff

If your child is a victimIf your child is a victim

• Explain your concerns.

• Share the information you gathered.

• Ask how you and the school can work together.

Share information

If your child is a victimIf your child is a victim

• Act as if comments don’t bother him.

Talk with your child

• Urge him not to retaliate.

If your child is a victimIf your child is a victim

• “Unplug” from social media.

• Be sure he has a chance to do things he enjoys.

Talk with your child

Warning signs includeWarning signs include

• Not wanting to go to school.• Sudden change in behavior.• Repeated loss of personal

belongings.

Warning signs includeWarning signs include

• Unexplained injuries.

• Sudden drop in school performance.

If you are the parent of a bully

If you are the parent of a bully

• Talk with your child.

• Let him know that bullying is unacceptable.

• Set consequences.

Don’t ignore your suspicions

If you are the parent of a bully

If you are the parent of a bully

• Do they think your child could be bullying other students?

• Ask the school to contact you.

Talk with the school

If you are the parent of a bully

If you are the parent of a bully

Let the school know you support the school-wide effort to combat bullying.

If you are the parent of a bully

If you are the parent of a bully

• Have complete access to your child’s social networking sites or cell phone.

Monitor technology

• Move the computer out of her bedroom.

• Take away her cell phone if necessary.

If you are the parent of a bully

If you are the parent of a bully

Treat others with respect, courtesy and empathy.

You are a role model

88% of students said they had witnessed bullying at their school. When bystanders keep silent, a bully feels more powerful.

• Always report bullying to an adult.

• Show her disapproval.

• Tell the bully to stop.

• Support the victim.

Encourage your child to

If you are the parent of a bystander

What if you simply want to do everything you can to make sure your child is neither a bully nor a

victim?

• Know our school’s policy on bullying.

• Check the student handbook or school website.

• Discuss these rules at home.

Learn the rules

Review existing lawReview existing lawNJ Anti-Bullying Law•Most strict in the nation•Passed in November 2010•Signed by Gov. in January 2010

TOOK EFFECT SEPTEMBER 1st, 2011

What does the law mean?•Gives a clear definition of

bullying •Places importance on

School Climate•Requires Transparency

•Sets Protocols and Deadlines

•Includes Consequences

What does the law mean?•Gives a clear definition of

bullying •Places importance on

School Climate•Requires Transparency

•Sets Protocols and Deadlines

•Includes Consequences

Our District Policy

HIB

Defines bullying as:“any gesture, any written,

verbal, physical act, or electronic communication” based on

“perceived characteristics of target such as race, color, religion, ancestry, national

origin, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity or

expression, ….” that takes place on school grounds, school

sponsored functions, school bus, or off school grounds, in

accordance with the law, that substantially disrupts or

interferes with the orderly operation of the school or the

rights of other students

Our District Policy

Individuals involved in Investigation

•Victim

•Perpretator

•Bystanders

•Principal

•Anti-Bullying District Coordinator (leads Anti-Bullying Specialists,

Revises Policy, makes District level changes)

•School Anti-Bullying Specialist (chairs safety committee in SLC, “go-

to” person for bullying)

•Safety Team (fosters in-school involvement by taking part in clubs, contests, etc to involve everyone,

lead by Anti-Bully Specialist

InvestigationsAnti-Bully Specialist or Principal Investigate

immediatelySame day verbal report to principal

Follow up two days laterInvestigation completed within 10 daysTwo days later principal sends report to

State SuperintendentWritten report to parent 5 days later

Parent can request a hearing within 10 days

BOE releases report at next BOE meeting Appeals to State Commissioner 90 Days

after hearing

Principals must:•Inform parents and

all guardians involved within 24

hours•Discipline Imposed (based on Code of

Conduct)

Let your child know that the school takes bullying seriously—and so do you.

When children know that bullying is unacceptable, they are unlikely to become bullies.

Communicate your values

Let’s work together to make this a safe school for

everyone.