Why People Fail: The 16 Obstacles to Success and How You Can Overcome Them.

No. 8 : Mistaking IQ (Intelligence Quotient) for EQ (Emotional Quotient).

Two parts of EQ: Social Competence Personal Competence

The Basis of Personal Competence:

Self Awareness. Self Regulation. Motivation.

The Basis of Social Competence:

Empathy. Social Skills (such as listening and nurturing relationships).

How to Improve? Find your weakness. Put a reminder: Write that weakness in a piece of paper and stick it to places you can see.Get feedback.

Further Readings: Daniel Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence and Working with Emotional Intelligence

No. 9: Poor Self Image.

Self-image determines what action you take and how you’ll feel each and every day. Those daily actions over time determine your results in life.

If after countless failures, you persist in trying once again for a goal, it is because deep down, your self image tells you that you are capable of making that goal a reality.

In the long run, you will usually get what you believe you deserve. Not what you wish for, not even what you desire, but what you expect deep down. And your level of expectation determined largely by your self image.

Boost your self image. Think about your ideal self-image everyday – e.g. Just before meals, while running/ gym routine. Act as if you are already the self-image you wish you are. Create the ideal you, see it vividly, and then behave as if you are that person. Hang around the people who treat you like your ideal self image, or at least believe in you and support you in becoming that person.

PICTURE YOUR FUTURE : CREATE A MENTOR BOARD.

FILL IT WITH PEOPLE WHOM YOU MOST LIKE TO BE LIKE.

PLACES YOU’D LIKE TO VISIT.

THE STYLE OF HOME & CAR YOU ASPIRE TO OWN.

THE TYPE OF BODY YOU’RE WORKING TO DEVELOP.

ANYTHING THAT HELPS YOU VISUALISE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BECOME.

APPEARANCE AFFECT FEELINGS – DRESS WELL!!! IN OFFICE , DRESS LIKE THE SENIOR PEOPLE DO.

LIFE IS A MIND GAME – GET YOUR MENTALITY IN TIPTOP SHAPE AND SUPERLATIVE RESULTS WILL BE INEVITABLE.

IT’S ABOUT BEING CONFIDENT. INSPIRED. EMPOWERED. READY TO DEAL WITH ANYTHING LIFE THROWS AT YOU, KNOWING YOU WILL NOT ONLY SURVIVE, BUT THRIVE.

NO. 10 : NOT ENOUGH THINKING. .

IDEAS ARE GOLD – GREAT CORE IDEAS IS WHAT MAKE BUSINESSES WORK.

ALLOCATE TIME EVERYDAY FOR SERIOUS THINKING.

BRAINSTORM REGULARLY, TERRIFIC IDEAS FOR YOUR SOCIAL LIFE, HEALTH, JOB,

FOR YOUR FUTURE....

BECOME AN EXPERT AT IDEA-GENERATION METHODOLOGIES:

THE DICTIONARY METHOD.

THE RIDICULOUS METHOD.

THE DIFFERENT INDUSTRY METHOD.

THE STAR EMULATION METHOD.

THE FAMOUS METHOD.

COME UP WITH LOTS & LOTS OF IDEAS....NOT JUST A HANDFUL!

SCHEDULE IDEA GENERATION EVERY DAY/WEEK IN YOUR LIFE.

NO. 11 : NO DAILY RITUALS.

INSPIRATIONS GET YOU STARTED...BUT HABITS KEEP YOU GOING!!

AND HOW TO KEEP A HABIT?

THINK ABOUT THE OUTCOME THAT YOU WILL HAVE IF YOU PERSIST ON DOING A THING!

ASSOCIATE DOING A HABIT WITH A PLEASURE YOU WILL FEEL WHEN YOU’VE REACHED A GOAL.

DIARISED DAILY RITUAL MATTERS SO MUCH...

YOU CAN’T RELY ON INSPIRATION ONLY!

IF YOU CAN ADD A STRUCTURE, A RITUAL YOU DO DAILY, TO YOUR GOALS, YOU CAN INCREASE THE CHANCE OF ACHIEVING THEM BY 100 %.

7 EXCELLENT RIRUALS:

Industry Mastery Ritual

Anti-Procrastination Ritual

Social Life Improvement Ritual

Goal Achievement Ritual

Clean Home Ritual

Happiness Ritual

Fitness Ritual

NO. 12: STRESS

STRESS = PLAY A CRUCIAL ROLE IN WEAKENING OUR IMMUNE SYSTEM AND SHORTENING OUR LIFESPAN.

STRESS RELIEVERS?

DEEP BREATHING.

RELEASING.

MAKE LISTS.

THE CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE: FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN ACTUALLY HAVE AN IMPACT ON. WORRY ABOUT THE THINGS YOU CAN CHANGE.

CLEAN AND SIMPLIFY YOUR ENVIRONMENT.

GET OUT IN THE SUNSHINE.

REGULATE YOUR LIFE (HUMAN FUNCTIONS IN ORDER)

EAT FIVE (SMALL) MEALS A DAY.

NO. 13: FEW RELATION-SHIPS

RELATIONSHIPS IMPORTANT TO SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE IN TWO WAYS:

AS A KNOWLEDGE BASE.

AS AN EMOTIONAL SUPPORT BASE.

LIST YOUR PROFESSIONAL & PERSONAL INNER CIRCLE, MUST HAVE AT LEAST 10.

FIND WAYS TO EXPAND THEM.

SMILE OFTEN, SEEK TO UNDERSTAND FIRST THEN BE UNDERSTOOD.

GIVE FAVOUR TO PEOPLE BEFORE YOU ASK FAVOUR FROM THEM.

BECOME A STUDENT OF PSYCHOLOGY.

NO. 14:

LACK OF PERSISTENCE.