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What do pornography and What do pornography and spirituality have in common?spirituality have in common?

They are the two most common They are the two most common attractions on the internet.attractions on the internet.

R. Kent Hughes R. Kent Hughes Disciplines of A Godly ManDisciplines of A Godly Man

1,000 Pastors surveyed1,000 Pastors surveyed

Adultery in Ministry…Adultery in Ministry…

Done something inappropriateDone something inappropriate … …

12 %12 %

23 %23 %1,000 Subscribers NOT Pastors1,000 Subscribers NOT Pastors

Extra Marital Intercourse …Extra Marital Intercourse …

Done something inappropriate …Done something inappropriate …

23 %23 %

45 %45 %

A recent nation wide survey revealed:A recent nation wide survey revealed:

53%53% of Christian Men admit of Christian Men admit to fantasizing about having to fantasizing about having sex with other women.sex with other women.

54%54% of Christian Men feel of Christian Men feel shame about past sexual shame about past sexual experiences.experiences.

A recent nation wide survey revealed:A recent nation wide survey revealed:

75%75% of Christian Men have of Christian Men have feelings they do not share feelings they do not share with anyone.with anyone.

35%35% of Christian Men have of Christian Men have others to hold them others to hold them accountable for their sexual accountable for their sexual thoughts and behaviors.thoughts and behaviors.

Ps 119:9Ps 119:9

How can a young man How can a young man keep his way pure?keep his way pure?

By Living According By Living According to Your Word to Your Word

Matt 5:28Matt 5:28

But I tell you that But I tell you that anyoneanyone

who who lookslooks at a woman at a woman lustfully has already lustfully has already committed adultery with her committed adultery with her in his heartin his heart

Rom 13:14Rom 13:14

Rather, clothe yourselves with Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful the desires of the sinful nature.nature.

1 John 2:15-171 John 2:15-17

15 15 Do not love the world or anything in the Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the

Father is not in him.Father is not in him. 16 16 For everything in the For everything in the

world-the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his world-the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does-eyes and the boasting of what he has and does-

comes not from the Father but from the world.comes not from the Father but from the world. 17 17 The world and its desires pass away, but the The world and its desires pass away, but the

man who does the will of God lives forever.man who does the will of God lives forever.

James 1:14-15James 1:14-15

14 14 but each one is tempted when, but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed.dragged away and enticed. 15 15 Then, after desire has Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.gives birth to death.

1 Cor 6:181 Cor 6:18

Flee from sexual Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside man commits are outside his body, but he who sins his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his sexually sins against his own body.own body.

2 Tim 2:222 Tim 2:22

Flee the evil desires of Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.a pure heart.

Heb 2:18Heb 2:18

Because he himself suffered Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are able to help those who are being tempted.being tempted.

1 Cor 10:131 Cor 10:13

No temptation has seized you except No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.stand up under it.

Phil 4:8Phil 4:8

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such praiseworthy-think about such thingsthings

Heb 4:15-16 Heb 4:15-16 1515For we do not have a high priest who is For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are been tempted in every way, just as we are

yet was without sin.yet was without sin. 1616Let us then Let us then approach the throne of grace with approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of and find grace to help us in our time of

need.need.

Pastor Johnny:Pastor Johnny:

Why are so many men being defeated?Why are so many men being defeated?

1)1) An Over-estimation of SelfAn Over-estimation of Self2)2) An Under-estimation of SatanAn Under-estimation of Satan3)3) An Under-evaluation of SinAn Under-evaluation of Sin4)4) An Un-awareness of SnaresAn Un-awareness of Snares

I dare you to find anywhere I dare you to find anywhere in the Bible where God in the Bible where God lowered the standard.lowered the standard.

Leonard Sweet in Leonard Sweet in Soul TsunamiSoul Tsunami

asked the question:asked the question:

““What is the first step to adultery?”What is the first step to adultery?”

According to research it is the According to research it is the notion of notion of ExceptionismExceptionism – the – the notion that you don’t have to notion that you don’t have to

follow the rules like everyone else.follow the rules like everyone else.

James Eubanks,FBCW’s Biblical James Eubanks,FBCW’s Biblical Guidance Minister says:Guidance Minister says:

““We live in a We live in a Sex Saturated SocietySex Saturated Society. . The question every man must The question every man must ask himself is this …. ask himself is this ….

What am I exposing What am I exposing myself tomyself to?”?”

Dietrick Bonhoeffer:Dietrick Bonhoeffer:

““Satan does not feel us Satan does not feel us with a hatred of God … with a hatred of God …

But with a forgetfulness But with a forgetfulness of God.”of God.”

R. Kent Hughes:R. Kent Hughes:

Discipline of a Godly ManDiscipline of a Godly Man

Lessons from a fallen KingLessons from a fallen King

Desensitization Desensitization RelaxationRelaxation

FixationFixationRationalizationRationalization

DegenerationDegeneration

Scripture Clearly Scripture Clearly says to says to RUNRUN from: from:

1.1. IdolatryIdolatry

2.2. Love of Money Love of Money3.3. Immorality (2 x) Immorality (2 x)

Troy Haas:Troy Haas:Walking Free MinistryWalking Free Ministry

The first step to break-throughs are:The first step to break-throughs are:

1.1. Honesty Honesty

2.2. Confession

Confession

Sexual Sinners and Sexual Sinners and their false belief is:their false belief is:

If people really knew If people really knew me they would …me they would …

Reject meReject me

Not love meNot love me

Mark Laaser - Mark Laaser - Faithful and TrueFaithful and True

Sexual addicts 4 core Sexual addicts 4 core beliefs are:beliefs are:

Sex is equal to love; Sex is my Sex is equal to love; Sex is my most important needmost important need

I am a bad and worthless personI am a bad and worthless personNo one loves me as I amNo one loves me as I am

No one will take care of me but meNo one will take care of me but me

Walking Free Ministry Goals:Walking Free Ministry Goals:

2.2. Remove the pattern of sinRemove the pattern of sin

1.1. Come to a place of Come to a place of brokenness and repentancebrokenness and repentance

3.3. Establish relationships Establish relationships with God and with God and OthersOthers

A challenge from Troy Haas:A challenge from Troy Haas:

Every Man Needs:Every Man Needs:

1.1. To be realTo be real

2.2. To get connectedTo get connected

3.3. To Stay connectedTo Stay connected

4.4. To NOT trust himselfTo NOT trust himself

55 tthings men need to hings men need to maintain a pure life:maintain a pure life:

A Clear Sense of A Clear Sense of the Presence of the Presence of God that brings a God that brings a man into authentic man into authentic repentance.repentance.

55 things men need to maintain things men need to maintain a pure life:a pure life:

A separation from A separation from the old source of the old source of temptation.temptation.

55 things men need to maintain things men need to maintain a pure life:a pure life:

A controlled A controlled environment with environment with extremely tight extremely tight structure and structure and accountability.accountability.

55 Things Men Need to Things Men Need to maintain a pure life:maintain a pure life:

A development of a A development of a life of discipline life of discipline that is pro-active that is pro-active with hedges and with hedges and check points.check points.

55 Things Men Need to Things Men Need to maintain a pure life:maintain a pure life:

A network of A network of Biblical guidance Biblical guidance with men who too with men who too are vulnerable.are vulnerable.

We We Don’t NeedDon’t Need MMen Conformeden Conformed

We We NeedNeedMen TransformedMen Transformed

We We Don’t NeedDon’t Need MMen en ManufacturingManufacturing

Self ControlSelf Control

We We NeedNeedMen Men ExhibitingExhibiting Self Self Control Control which is a Fruit of the Spiritwhich is a Fruit of the Spirit

In R. Kent Hughes book,In R. Kent Hughes book,Discipline of a Godly ManDiscipline of a Godly Man

The Discipline of purity means:The Discipline of purity means:

AccountabilityAccountability

Prayer Prayer

MemorizationMemorization

Mind Mind

Hedges Hedges

RealityReality

Divine AwarenessDivine Awareness

John MaxwellJohn Maxwell7 Promises of A Promise Keeper 7 Promises of A Promise Keeper

says:says:

1.1. Run Run 2.2. Accept Responsibility Accept Responsibility

3.3. Be Accountable Be Accountable

4.4. Listen to Your Wife Listen to Your Wife

5.5. Be on Guard Be on Guard

John MaxwellJohn Maxwell7 Promises of A Promise Keeper 7 Promises of A Promise Keeper

says:says:6.6. Chose Close Friends Carefully Chose Close Friends Carefully 7.7. Determine to Live a Pure Life Today Determine to Live a Pure Life Today

8.8. Realize Sexual Sin Assaults the Realize Sexual Sin Assaults the Lordship of Christ in Your BodyLordship of Christ in Your Body

9.9. Recognize the Consequences of Recognize the Consequences of Sexual Sin Sexual Sin

10.10. Think About Your Children Think About Your Children

Dr. Gary RosbergDr. Gary RosbergGuard Your HeartGuard Your Heart

We Need Guard RailsWe Need Guard Rails1. 1. A strong relationship with the A strong relationship with the FatherFather

2. 2. An extreme caution with other An extreme caution with other womenwomen

3. 3. A wide open relationship with A wide open relationship with our brothersour brothers

4. 4. A fulfilling relationship with our wifeA fulfilling relationship with our wife

Steve FarrarSteve FarrarMen Leading The ChargeMen Leading The Charge

Challenges us to be a Challenges us to be a ONEONE woman kind of manwoman kind of man

By the grace of God I will By the grace of God I will guard :guard :

My MindMy Mind My EyesMy Eyes

My MouthMy Mouth My HandsMy Hands

My FeetMy Feet

Troy HaasTroy HaasWalking Free MinistryWalking Free Ministry

We Need:We Need:

Intimacy Intimacy with Godwith God

Connectedness Connectedness with Menwith Men

Separation Separation From the From the

SourceSource

Discipline inDiscipline in My EnvironmentMy Environment