WENDY KAUFMAN

Putting Together Your Puzzle

Objectives What makes me happy? How do I feel

Physically? Emotionally? Dream list

Goal Setting Specific Measurable Achievable Realistic Time line

Short: 0 -1 yearMedium: 1-3 yearsLong: 3 years +

Will PowerWill power is active only in 1/6th of your brain.5/6th of your brain power is at the non-

conscious level. Thus you are unable to control it.

However, scientific research has found that you are able to control all 6 parts of your brain.

So, learn to control the non-conscious thinking by putting your brain on autopilot.

This will enable you to keep yourself motivated!

Avoid Procrastination A 50% average in making good

decisions is a good record. Many people are not good problem

solvers, but they are good decision makers.

Learn to analyze facts quickly, make a decision, and then learn to live with the results!

Happiness Intent Accountability

Grass is greener…

Do what you like and do it more

TragediesMoving on and

upwardExample: lottery

winners one year later--many say they are less happy

HappinessNever give upDon’t dwell on

the pastEmbrace changeEmbrace fear

What are you afraid of?

What would help you cope better?

OptionsCreativity – think

outside the boxAppreciationMindful livingGivingEthics/honestyCharacter – when

no one is looking

Health Sleep

8.3 hours 7 nights a

week REM sleep

Eating5 fruits & veggies

20 minutes after eating

Weigh once a week

Finances Goal setting Nickel and

dime spending Retirement

planning Start now

Meat vs. gravy Debt

management Family values Inheriting

spending habits

Prioritizing Your Life Write your eulogy Re-evaluate your choices Examine other people’s

priorities Role-model your priorities

Wear them openlyShout them from a rooftop

Stress Management20 minutes every

dayFight or flight

responsesRelax your body …

6 -3 -6 exerciseBaths/walkPet/plant therapy

LaughCryTouchCrossword puzzlesLearn a new

language/musical instrument

Relieving Stress Stay ahead of your

work. Do the hard tasks

first. Do the difficult

tasks in phases. Getting enough

sleep is a must.

Have planned recreation and hobbies.

Admit and verbalize the causes of your own irritations.

Face up to the fact you really can’t do all the things you scheduled.

Emotional Intelligence Self-awareness Learned optimism Delayed gratification Empathy Social skills

Communication Start with “I” 3 minute rule Family meetings Needs vs. wants “Men are from Venus …..” Self-talk

Assertiveness Ask for what you want

9 times! Practice makes perfect Passive vs. aggressive Personal vs. business

Quotes“Take your life in your own hands and

what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.”

“Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world.”

Erica Jong

Helen Keller

Quotes“Motivation is when your dreams put

on work clothes.”

“One worthwhile task carried to a successful conclusion is worth half-a-hundred half-finished tasks.”

Ben Franklin

Malcolm S. Forbes

Wendy Kaufman

Putting Together Your Puzzle