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Welcome to the Parent Carers Cornwall (PCC) summer newsletter.
It only feels like yesterday we were pulling together last
summer’s newsletter, I guess time flies when you are busy.
PCC has been busy over the last few months updating our
database because of the new data protection laws. If you know
any families who would like to receive the newsletter, please get them
to email us.
We arranged a transition event at the request of families which we held in
June, the information delivered to families was very informative. We will hold
other information events later this year.
We always welcome new parent/carers to get more involved with the work
we do if it’s something you would be interested in please contact us.
We have held a couple of coffee mornings in different areas of the county
recently to meet new families. If you feel it would be beneficial to hold one in
your area, please let us know. We are happy to bring information and sign
post you to other services.
In August we will be holding our family fun day details of which are in this
newsletter. It’s a time to meet new families and see the children enjoying
themselves, all are welcome to attend.
On behalf of the directors of PCC I would like to thank our volunteers for their
support during the first half of this year.
We wish you all a safe and fun filled summer break and look forward to
meeting some of you.
Kay Henry
For and on behalf of Parent Carers Cornwall
What is Sleep Wise?
Sleep Wise is a programme paid for by the NHS in Cornwall. There are two parts to our
service:
1. Individual sleep assessments are available if your child already sees a paediatrician.
Paediatricians refer for a Sleep Wise assessment. Families complete a sleep diary and are
visited by a qualified member of our team at Hunrosa. This provides a picture of the sleep
difficulty and guides our recommendations to follow. Our assessments are child and
family centred and our recommendations will reflect parenting style.
2. Sleep Wise also offers sessions for groups of parent carers about achieving a good
night’s sleep. The sessions for the PCCC will run monthly, starting in September 2018.
Watch out for details through the newsletter and Eventbrite. Each session will include a
chance to develop your own sleep plan for your child. They will be held in the daytime
throughout Cornwall. An evening session is already planned on 9th October at 18.30 at
MBB Connections sensory space in Threemilestone.
Working with Sleep Wise is an effective way to improve your child's sleep. Most people
report positive results and find that this improves everyone’s family life.
Get in touch
Hunrosa is delighted to provide the Sleep Wise Programme.
Hunrosa
Alusen Business Centre
Barn Street, Liskeard PL14 4HA
Phone: 07401 149973
www.hunrosa.co.uk
Sleep Wise
I write this as a mother of a child with ASD (Asperger's) and
ADHD. This evidence is anecdotal and I have not researched
any of the observations.
My son entered year 7 in 2015 and looking back it was one year of
absolute horror. He was threatened with expulsion and exclusion on
numerous occasions and had internal exclusions/isolations for what
might appear to be minor violations. As parents we had countless
phone-calls home, were summoned before the school governors with
less than one hours notice, had multiple meetings with school staff,
and had a child that came home every day completely shut-down, non-
communicative or disruptive and went on to become depressed with
suicidal thoughts. The knock-on effect for the family was that the other
three teenage children needed counselling, I had to take 3 months off
work with stress and we adults literally dreaded the telephone ringing
wondering what was going to happen next. One could conclude that
my child was deliberately defiant, resistant to correction, unable to
learn and just basically antagonistic. That would be unless you knew
and understood my child.
Today in 2018 I have the same son who is settled in school, is
emotionally much more stable and is ready to learn. Granted that he
is a couple of years older and that other support has been put in place,
but much of that improvement is down to the change in the school
environment and staff support.
Zero tolerance
In 2015 my son's lead professional at school said, “I will punish your
son until he obeys me.” My response to that was “Then you will
certainly teach my son only one thing. To hate you!”
Why does zero tolerance work? Most (neurotypical) children like to
conform. They do not want to be seen as different. You will notice this
in the shoes they wear, the school bags and accessories they have,
their clothing, hairstyle, music choices etc. These children are very
keen to be the same and the threat of something that makes them
different is enough to motivate them to obey.
Children with additional needs are already different. And many of
them know this. They often struggle with low self esteem, bullying, not
understanding the world around them, and certainly not fitting in.
They approach the world with uncertainty and fear and just crave to
be accepted. Treating these children with a zero tolerance approach
just literally crushes them, reinforcing their inadequacies, justifying to
themselves that they are failures, that no-one likes them, and that the
world is unfair.
And unfair it is! We realised very early on, having already had three
children, that we could NOT discipline our 4th child (ASD/ADHD) in the
same way. Punishment did not work. It just made him more resistant,
more defiant, more aggressive, more depressed. As parents we HAD to
do something different. Now many would argue that it is completely
wrong to allow some sectors of the population just to get away with
bad behaviour because they had a disability. And I would quite agree.
A child with additional needs must be corrected, and probably even
more so because they don't learn social norms by observation and they
don't pick up on implied instruction and social circumstance. They
literally need to be taught and learn by rote many of the behaviours
that would be considered socially acceptable – like not
shouting/swearing at a teacher, not throwing objects or hitting other
students, walking sensibly between classrooms and not running etc.
etc. And so, when a zero tolerance approach is applied in these
circumstances to a child with additional needs it truly is unfair, because
they were not being disobedient, they just did not know or did not
understand. My son on one occasion said 'but Mummy, it does not say
in the school rules that I cannot push a drum stick off the table', and
he was quite right. But he still had a whole day isolation! My common
comment in that first year was 'Does he know what he has done wrong
and why he is being punished?' because if he didn't then the
punishment was meaningless. In the same way that it is ridiculous to
punish a puppy one week after his misdemeanour it is equally pointless
to punish any child when they have no idea what they have done
wrong. If that concept cannot be explained then the punishment is
totally without meaning and will be seen as persecution, aggression,
unfairness.
So what is different? As parents we changed the lead professional.
Instead of one who said “You will obey at whatever cost because I said
you will” we now have someone who understands our son, who gives
value and credibility. Someone who is prepared to listen, validate his
feelings about what has happened, help moderate his response on
how to deal with things, still very willing to correct and discipline, but
someone who will show, model, demonstrate and explain what is
expected. This has been an absolute life-line, not only to our son but
also to us as a family. We now have a school-parent relationship of
equality where both parties are respected and listened to. We work
together to get the best outcomes, there are no threats, no fears, and
we have a happy son. After 3 years he is finally in a place where he is
able to learn because he is not on high emotional alert looking how to
defend himself against the next attack, the next bully, the next
punishment (which he never understood why he had them or what he
had done wrong). I have no idea what the educational jargon is to
support this different outlook but it is certainly working. If my son can
find meaning and purpose in life, feel accepted and loved despite his
differences, then he will surely be in the best possible place to achieve
his optimum and be able to positively input into the society around
him.
Jane Gray
Free Family Funday Saturday 11th August 10.30-2.30
Brannel School, St Stephens
Booking through [email protected]
Bring a packed lunch
WHAT IS PARTICIPATION?
Parent Participation can be delivering leaflets for
us in the community, attending meetings on our
behalf, taking part in a working group/project,
sitting on interview panels, attending strategic
meetings and being fully involved and valued,
and can move onto Chairing meetings.
True participation includes involvement of
Parents across all services as we can contribute our
unique viewpoint skills and first-hand knowledge, it breaks
down any barriers between Professionals
and Parents and can have a real impact
in effective service delivery.
We will always try to put in place a
Buddy system for parents, so they can
attend meetings and feel fully confident.
It also gives you an opportunity to learn how the decisions are
made and make a real impact by asking the questions that no
one else does.
We offer full Parent Participation Training at various points in
the county please keep an eye in our newsletters, Ebulletins
and Social Media for future dates.
Cornwall Council commissioned Healthwatch Cornwall to review the four
Adult Partnership Boards (PBs).
• Learning Disability (LD)
• Cornwall Autism Partnership (CAP)
• Older Persons (OP)
• Carers
They expressed a desire that PBs become more consistent in their approach,
have better inter-Board communication and allow the voice of local agencies,
stakeholders and lay people to be heard. The aim is to review the PBs and find
out if service users, self-advocates and carer members, are listened to, part of
the co-production of related strategies and services and are reflective of their
community.
The views and experiences of current and previous PB members and other
interested parties have been sought through, interviews, focus groups,
meetings and an online survey for the listed membership. Easy Read hard
copies of an amended survey were sent out via Mencap.
Cornwall People First, Cornwall Health and Partners
(CHAMPS) and Spectrum. Both surveys were published
on the Healthwatch Cornwall website.
On Tuesday 26th June a Next Steps Workshop was held to look at the
published report and to talk about what can be done to improve the way the
Boards work.
Amongst the many issues discussed were; Membership, Meetings, Terms of
Reference and how these areas reflect across the Boards. The diversity of
people with a Learning Disability and Carers representing on the Boards is not
equal to professionals. We looked at what other Local Authority areas offer.
Should we have a Mental Health PB, a Physical Disability and a Sensory
Impairment Board? Tele-conference and Skype availability may improve
attendance. Currently we do not have a volunteer agreement. It was strongly
agreed that we should plan dates a year in advance.
Many feel there should be a more obvious” Go To Place” for questions to be
answered, rather than bringing individual queries to the Boards. Co-
production is essential as people who use services or care for those who do
know about services are the experts. People who plan and develop services
should work with them to reach a shared solution. Membership needs to
reflect the community and the diversity of that group. Appropriate training
should be offered for Chairs, self-advocates, service users and carers. We
discussed the roles of the Professional membership and with the most
relevant senior council officers, consistent attendance would be required.
NHS Kernow , CPFT and RCHT representation would also be required when
relevant issues are discussed.
Some of the other recommendations are that The Dementia Steering Group
will be a PB in its own right or through cross Board working with the OP and
Carers Board. A new Transitions Group/Board/ Steering Group could work
across the PBs. A financial commitment will be needed, from Cornwall
Council, to ensure that the work of redeveloping the PBs continues in the
longer term.
The meeting finished after a joint discussion how we can make sure the voice
of the community is heard at Partnership Board level, which was productive
and we all look forward to the continued reshaping of the Boards to refresh
and reboot their effectiveness across the County of Cornwall.
Healthwatch Cornwall are carrying out a survey to
find out on behalf of Cornwall Council how people
feel about consultations. The survey can be found
on the Healthwatch Cornwall website:
www.healthwatchcornwall.co.uk
Any other queries, contact on 0800 0381 281
Disclaimer
Every effort is made to ensure the information in this newsletter is correct. Parent Carers Cornwall can accept no liability for errors or omissions and we cannot recommend products or services. Views and opinions expressed are not necessarily those of Parent Carers Cornwall.
Contact Details
E-mail: [email protected]
Telephone: 07973 763332
Website: www.parentcarercouncilcornwall.org.uk