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Welcome, Lovable!
This PDF is a follow-up of the video
for Day 3 of the Have Fun, Be Loved Challenge.
In case you haven’t seen the video, watch it here first:
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Hey, lovely.
Happy to have you with us on Day 3. I hope you’re enjoying the Challenge as much
as I am.
I will be honest with you, many women that I talk to think that they really know
what they want (and look for) in a partner. In one way they do. However, once we
go deeper and explore whether it’s easy for them to recognize such partner,
suddenly the answers don’t seem that easy.
For example, we’d love someone who’s e.g. funny, loving, supportive, caring… but
all of these are a bit general descriptions, aren’t they?
‘I want a partner who loves me’ isn’t really a description. What does it even mean?
I want a partner who’s home with me every night and goes to bed with me at the
same time I do? Is it a partner who calls you every two minutes or a partner who
gives you time and space for yourself? Someone who loves your quirks or has a
bunch of his own?
So, when I asked myself “What do you really need in a partner? What do you value,
Matea?” the answer surprised me. Of course, it wasn’t his looks or his hobbies that
were first on the list. The answer was: his values. The way he lives his life and how
he treats other people; what he finds important in life...
I sat down and I wrote my values. What do I value in love?
When it comes to love and relationships, our aim should be to have a partner that
resonates with our values, and has similar ones. If both of you feel e.g. honesty is
one of the most important values in love, you will both honor and live that value,
because it’s very important to both of you.
Though beliefs are unconscious and conscious, most of your values tend to be
unconscious. That’s exactly why so many women are not aware of what’s truly
important to them or how can they achieve it.
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In the exercise below, you will find a list of values. Your homework is to take some
quiet time, go through these values, and mark the ones you know you want your
partner to have.
After that, select top 3 values that are non-negotiable, and answer the questions.
If you have ANY questions, you can contact me via email [email protected]
or in our The Lovables Facebook group.
Stay lovable as you are. x
Matea T.
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List of Values
Abundance Accountability Achievement Action
Adventure Ambition Awareness Balance
Beauty Being the Best Being your true self Calmness
Care Change Challenge Cheerfulness
Clarity Comfort Commitment Compassion
Connection Contribution Consistency Courage
Creativity Curiosity Determination Discipline
Effectiveness Empathy Energy Enthusiasm
Excellence Fairness Faith Fame
Family Flexibility Freedom Friendship
Fulfillment Fun Harmony Happiness
Health Honesty Honor Humility
Independence Integrity Intelligence Intimacy
Inspiration Kindness Knowledge Liveliness
Love Money Nature Passion
Peace Perfection Persistence Philanthropy
Power Respect Security Simplicity
Significance Spirituality Spontaneity Strength
Stability Success Sex Teamwork
Tolerance Tradition Truth Wealth
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My Top Love Values
1.
2.
3.
(It’s not so easy to pick just three, is it? ;) )
For each of these, ask yourself “How can I recognize this value in another person?
What is something they can say or do that will help me see they live this value?”
Search for examples – how they treat you and others, the way they communicate,
do they walk their talk, etc.
Value No1:
Value No2:
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Value No3:
I would love to hear: was this easy or hard for you?
We are all so different. Some women ask themselves these questions all the
time, while other almost never.
I look forward to hearing your thoughts.
Each day of the challenge, after you complete the workbook, you will get a mini-task.
Your mini-task will be to share one thing from the workbook in The Lovables group. If you share your mini-tasks on all five days, you are entering a draw to win a One on One Coaching Session with me, on any love subject you want to resolve. It might be a situation that you're currently in, the relationship you have with someone, something you've been struggling with, an emotional hurt you want to heal, or a goal you want to achieve. This coaching session will be highly tailored to your needs.
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Today’s Mini-Task
In The Lovables group, on Day 3 video post, put a hashtag #day3loved (so I know
you’re participating in the contest) and share with us your top three values. Do you
know how to recognize them in a person?
Click here to share:
