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WELCOME Dealing with Lying and Stealing. Center for Development of Human Services Buffalo State College Under contract with NYS Office of Children & Family Services. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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WELCOME
Dealing with Lying and Stealing
Center for Development of Human Services Buffalo State College
Under contract with NYS Office of Children & Family Services
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Expectations
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Outcomes
Clarify values regarding lying and stealing Identify reasons children lie and/or steal Respond appropriately to children who lie
and/or steal Make plans to prevent lying and stealing
behaviors
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
To Tell the Truth…
Warm-upApproved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training
and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Definition:
Lying Making an untrue statement with intent to
deceive Creating a false or misleading impression
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 20107, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Reasons Adults Become Upset :
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Typical Reactions to Lying & Stealing
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
The Best Lie Ever Told…
By a politician In an advertisement To a police officer for speeding By a child in care By someone in this group
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Reasons People Lie and/or Steal
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training
and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Cycle of Need
EXPRESSION
RESPONSE
NEED
RELAXATION
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Cycle of Mistrust
EXPRESSION
RESPONSE
NEED
DISTRESS
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Tricks, Lies and Parenting
“Your room is a mess. Turn off the TV now and go clean it up!”
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Did you clean your room?
Yep!
Liar! Don’t tell me you cleaned your room. I just
walked by and its still a pig pen! Why lie to me? I hate that!
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Where have you been?
At Jimmy’s.
No, you weren’t! I spoke with his mom
and she hasn’t seen you all day. You’re grounded! Don’t you EVER lie to me again!!
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training
and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
I need to have a talk with you.
Huh? About what?
Well, you said you were going to Jimmy’s and I know you didn’t. Its important to me to be able to trust you. What’s going on?
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
It Takes a Thief
What did you take? What were the circumstances? What motivated you to take it? What did you gain? Who was affected by what you did? What did you feel before/ during/after? What were the consequences?
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
PROS AND CONS OF STEALING
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Goals of Discipline
Complete the Cycle of Need Learn healthy ways to meet needs Feel good about relationships with others Build self-esteem
Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2010, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS
Unregistered and want training credit?Before class ends, enter the following into (private) text chat to Matthew Fildes (in his absence, to the instructor):
Full legal nameMale or female
Home address (no P.O. boxes)Area code and phone number
Email address (2 on same computer must list 2 email addresses)
Foster care agency address (e.g., Harlem Dowling, Westside Center, 2090 7th Ave., NY, NY 10027)
Thank you.