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Marriage: one amongthe 16 "sanskars" in life

Marriage is one of the most important days in thelife of everyone. So elaborate plannining isneeded to make it memorable. The wedding

market has also geared up to meet all your needs.A marriage not only celebrates the union of two

souls but also of two families. A Hindu marriageceremony consists of 'saptapadi', those golden sevensteps that is the foundation for a successful married life.

Together the couple chant:"Sakhaa sapta padi bhava sakhyam te gameyamsakhyam te mayoshah sakhyam te mayoshtah..."

(With these seven steps you have become my friend..

May my friendship make me one with you. May your

friendship make you one with me.)

Ancient Hindu prince Yudhishtira revealed this"secret" about 4,000 years ago. In an episode known asYaksha Prashna in the Aranya Parva of that great epic,the Mahabharata, a divine being challenged the princein exile to answer some questions, satisfactory answersto which may help restore the lives of his “dead”brothers. One of the questions the Yaksha askedYudhishtira was "kimsvin mitram grhesatah?" i.e. Who isthe friend of a householder? To which the princeanswered "bhaaryaa mitram grhesatah," i.e., the friendof a householder is his spouse. According to Hindus,therefore, the basis for marriage is friendship and suchfriendship is the understanding, the promise and thecommitment that unites a man and a woman.

Though the rate of divorce is on the rise worldwide,still marriage is the best option available for the humanrace to continue to grow.

The institution of marriage is beneficial to the societyas a whole, because it is the foundation of the family,which in turn is the fundamental building block of thesociety.

It is said that marriages are made in heaven andcelebrated on earth. While the concept of marriageremains the same across the globe, the way ofsolemnising it differs extensively.

The big fat Indian wedding is of course here to stay.Of late, it is to “out-do” the last big wedding, Welcome tothe 21st century wedding where it is so much more!!!“Estimated at a whopping Rs 1,90,000 crore (£22.21bn),the big fat Indian wedding industry, when all of us wantthe big day in a big way. It is because we all feel thatgetting children married in a nice way, is but our duty.

However "Something old, something new,something borrowed, something blue, and a silversixpence in her shoe” is not today’s scene. Weddingmeans not wishing for blenders, toasters, coffeemakers, for the trousseau of a bride. But now, it standsfor an elaborate affair, which require a considerableamount of detail and attention. When it comes to

planning a wedding, modern couples take matters intotheir own hands, or place them into the trusted hands ofwedding planners. Although the modern weddingresembles those in traditional fairy tales, technologyhas changed the planning, preparation and process..For many engaged couples, wedding planning softwarehas become a beloved new friend. And nowadays notonly the NRI parents but also the children want to wedin their hometown and native.

So make it memorable and have it the way you wantit. Celebrate it in the most fantastic way but if you carefor the planet, why not integrate your principles intoyour big day? Décor with a theme that is environment-friendly and organic. Create a scrap book to whichfriends and relatives can add poems, drawings,pictures, or anecdotes of bride and groom. Create anonline donation registry, where you can donate the left-out money from the budget to a suitable charity.

Weddings are not just about what you want, it's alsoabout who you are. So enjoy your wedding with lovedand dear ones. This magazine will ensure you canmake a perfect plan for your Big day.

My team has worked very hard to ensure thismagazine can ease out some of the most difficultdecisions for you.

So enjoy and read for a happy & successful marriedlife ahead.

Best Wishes

CB Patel

Publisher/EditorGujarat Samachar & Asian Voice




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• Purvi Apurva Shah

Theme wedding is the fast growingtrend among brides and grooms,when they have all the right to

make a real impression on their bigday, something that will be talkedabout and remembered for years tocome. The family members also wanta gala grand celebration. Nobodynowadays are ready to settle foranything ordinary.

Tying the knot thousands of feethigh above the earth can be the mostextraordinary.. Wedding while you fly,even the guests have a life-timeexperience with music, dance, foodeverything on board. Well, it’sexpensive but everything is fair in loveand wedding. NRI's coming to Gujaratcan have this privilege, such servicesare available now.

After all its an NRI wedding, has to be different.

Enter the venue in a helicopterAnother theme is the grand entry of groom at the

wedding venue in a helicopter, aeroplane or anythingthat the groom demands. He is the king on the weddingday and the family readily agrees to whatever the brideor groom wants.

If “Varraja” wants to make an exclusive entry,tailored wedding flight services are now available inGujarat. Now NRIs can come flying and enter at thewedding venue. Landing right at the venue, soundssimply great. An unforgettable entry or exit will add theultimate touch of style. He can also arrive in a limousinethat is specially decorated. And if you want the typicalIndian traditional style, it’s a traditional horse drawncarriage or vintage car.

Go rural and enter in bullock-cartLatest funda is ‘Jaan’ (baraat) arriving in bullock

carts. Recently such an NRI wedding took place inSavarkundala where 30 decorated bullock carts carriedJaan to set a unique example of “Gamthi” style.

Another example is NRI Vinodbhai Patel who wantedher daughter’s wedding to be held in their native Gujaratand that too in a typical village theme styled wedding.His daughter who was born in London and brought upin USA also wanted such typical wedding. In order topreserve our heritage and culture, he opted for awedding in village with village décor. He had invitedmany foreigners from abroad to come and enjoy thewedding, a chance for them to come closer to village lifeof India. Shahpur town was decorated like a dulhan.

In one of such wedding, during sangeet sandhya,with “vrindavan” theme, all the guests were taken in abullock cart from entrance to the stage, they passacross the village like ambience done on the field.Ladies in rural clothing making “Rotlas” and one sideand were making “Chaas.”in a traditional manner.

You are check-matedYou have found your mate, now its time to check the life

ahead with her. Life is a chess, play skillfully. “Décor is likechess board with black and white checkered floor, brideand groom land on the stage from the height of 40 ft withthe focus light on them,” says wedding event managerPankil Kadiya of “a 4 you” co. He adds, “In Arabian themewedding, groom wears Arab robe instead of sherwani”and instead of flowers, we use candles everywhere.Mandap, chori and stages are shaped like an umbrellaand lotus. Peacock backdrop just looks mesmerizing.

“You are a King”“I wanted something very special for my husband to

be, he has to be made to feel like a king on his D-day, andanyway he thinks that he is a king,” says a bride jokingly.And that’s why we settled for Jodha-Akbar style wedding.A resident of Bhagwatnagar in Ahmedabad had a uniquewedding, with bride dressed as Jodha and groom asAkbar. The groom sat on a decorated elephant to arrive atthe wedding venue with decorated horses also joining inthe jaan to make it a “Shahi” style wedding.

Flower dropping from the skyHow about flowers dropping on you from the sky?

Tie the knot in a charter plane:Make your wedding most talked about

Continued on page 10

Photo courtesy: Narayani Resort



Armaan Associates offers you the appetizing taste ofGujarati food. An attraction for foreigners as this

restaurant – “Ame Gujarati” - is a place with ruralGujarati ambience and over and above it serves a verytypical Gujarati food. It caters a taste that can be calleda homemade Gujarati cuisine. Gujarati cuisine is veryvibrant, tasty and wholesome. The vast array of dishesare all very distinct and unique and will tickle andtantalize the taste buds taking on a culinary journey thatGujaratis and non-Gujaratis both will enjoy.

Gujaratis are passionate about food! From thesimplest ‘kadhi’ (curd based dish, served with rice), tothe multi flavored ‘oondiyu’ (signature dish in which

mixed vegetablesare cooked in lowflame with specialspices), can offersomething new tothe taste buds!

Lovelish Mehta,Managing Director

of Armaan Associates, says, “we are the first to come upwith this type of an outlet. Now women are free to workwithout the tension of making food as we will beproviding homemade food at our outlet. Our outlet isGujarati themed. Here typical Gujarati food is available in

microwave containers. Typical sweets, farsans, food, etcall you will get from here. The main benefit is that theseitems are available according to your requirements.”

With the food available in microwave containers, it isready to eat and easy to enjoy. Here every type of rotlas,10-12 traditionalvegetables, specialitems from all overGujarat, traditionalpickles, typicalfestival foods, etcare all available.“Keeping newgeneration in mind we are offering mix of traditional foodand urban snacks such as bhakhari pizzas.Which hasoptions of 4 types of bhakhri -butter, plain, masala andcheese. Such other combo offers are also available.

Mr Mehta said, “we are planning for the franchiseesand a range of farari items are in the pipeline. We areplanning for home delivery systems and membershipcard system also for the convenience of our customers.The retail outlet is fully computerized and will havetrained staff. With people becoming brand conscious,our food is hygienic and economical also.”

“Ame Gujarati” is an ideal place for NRIs to comeand enjoy the typical Gujarati delicacies.

AME GUJARATI !!!Experience the real taste of Gujarat...



This is a reality now in Gujarat. Wouldn't it be lovely toaccentuate this moment with flowers drop from the sky?As the pilot nears the venue, he simply turns off theengine. At the appropriate moment hedrops loads of flowers onto thewedding party. What a better way tostart the D-day of your life? You aretying the knot and vow!

Royal weddingRajwada theme-lined wedding

adds warmth to the traditionalwelcome. This is in addition to thegaiety of the lantern lit pathways allalong the route. The groom canmajestically enter the venuemounted either on an elephant, acamel, a carriage driven by horses ora cavalcade of cars.Rajwada theme has a darbar andlot of sainik in attendence.

Food court table made out of ice“Recently we did a wedding with ice-carving theme.

Even though the cost comes to nearly Rs 90,00,000 butit was simply beautiful, a concept which leaves peoplewondering. One just feels as if they are aroundicebergs, with lot many ice piles around, even the foodcourt had a huge table made only out of ice,” saystheme designer Dimple Raval.

Chouki Dhani arranges theme weddings anddesigner wedding like Floral Theme, Darbar GarhTheme, Colour Theme, Fusion Theme, Mughlai Themeor you name it and their expert designers and eventmanagers are there to turn your thought into reality andthat to according to your pocket.

Taj Mahal themed weddingA giant 10-foot Taj Mahal ice sculpture set in

between two crystal columns adorned the stage.Placed in thewedding hall were four different kinds ofcenterpieces. Two were tall vases that lit up in different

colors to coordinate with the colors on the backdrop ofthe stage. Narayani Resorts had arranged for suchtheme where they had digged the floor to create

fountains and a stagethat was 40 ft high and60 ft wide with abeautiful TajMahal.Ankit Bundelaand Rajiv Gupta ofNarayani resort says“We were the first oneto introduce crystaltheme wedding, inwhich decor is full ofcrystals all around.Even chori is fullymade of crystals. Oneof the amazing NRI

wedding was when they were very keen on banquetwedding and we wanted to give them llawn wedding, aswe know by experience that lawn wedding come outthe best. They were not ready to change their mind,neither we were going to change. So we planned outsuch a wedding where it will be Banquet-lawn croos-over. We created whole banquet on the Lawn itself. Itlooked like a real banquet and they were overjoyed".

As if you married ages backVintage Hollywood means different things to

different people (a lot depends on your age). It couldmean the fabulous 1940s with black and whitephotography, vintage Hollywood stars like AudreyHepburn and Humphrey Bogart, pearls, feathers, birdcage veils and more.

Take saat phera in jungles of AfricaChances are you were attending one of those

premium theme weddings in Gujarat that transportguests into a different world. Move over traditional songsand dances, it is time to exchange rings in a Romanamphitheatre, take the 'saat phera' amid the jungles of

Photo courtesy: Narayani Resort

Photo courtesy:Gandhi corporations

Food courttable madeout of ice

Taj Mahal themed wedding



Africa or the desert sands of Arabia. And, people areready to pay, with packages ranging from anythingbetween Rs 300,000 and 15,00,000 for a theme.

Gandhi decoraters specializes in themes, they canput up venue with Spanish, Roman or Chinese themeany other theme that you fancy. You name it and theyhave it. Since years they have been in this field.

Palace weddingThe grand palaces and forts of Gujarat which are

transformed into heritage hotels serve as the perfectvenues for royal weddings. These hotels and inns wereoriginally the old palaces and forts of the kings andThikanedars. Some of the heritage hotels present inGujarat are Balram Palace Resort, Palanpur. Anothersought after palace is the Nilambagh Palace Hotel ofBhavnagar which is another personification of cultureand tradition.Other famous forts and palaces of Gujarat

are Uparkot Fort, Kusum Vilas Palace, Nazar BaghPalace and the majestic and tall Dabhoi Fort. TheLakhota Fort and the Kotha Bastion are popularbuildings of the medieval age in the middle of Jamnagar.These places can also at times organize royal weddings.

My story themeWhen Khushi Shah and Babshi Shah got married,

they opted for such a theme that revolves round reallife. The venue was decorated by innumerablephotographs, some of them life size with a small storyto tell. A DJ calls out on stage each of their relative, givean introduction and their connection with the bride.Choreographed dance that is a story like, an anchortalks a lot describing the bride, her feelings, her hopesand life after marriage. “The theme should be such thatspeaks life and instead of glamorous décor, propsreflecting life of bride and groom, connectivity andinteraction between family, society and new marriedcouple,” says designer Meeta.

East meets WestWith food catering usually Indian mixed with lot of

western food varieties, Grand Bhagwati hotel plans for avariation where non-veg items can be made vegetarian.

Marriages are made in heaven, blessed on earth,celebrated with wedding bells decorations. Ourdecorations cost less, last longer in your memories &looks better.

Photo courtesy:Gandhi corporations

My story theme





• જોરાવરવસંહ જાદવ

ફૂલફટયયો ફયગણ િરતી પરિી વવદયય લે ન લે ત્યયં તો ચૈતર વૈશયખનયવયયરય ઝકોળય લેવય મયંડે છે. આમ્રઘટયઓ કોયલોનય કુંજનિી ગુંજીઊઠે છે. ઢોલ-શરણયઈનો અવયજ સયંભળતયં જ જોબવનયયનય ઝરૂખે

બેસી લગ્નની વયટવડયું જોતયં જુવયનડયઓ અને જુવતીઓનયં હૈયયમયં આનંદનયરંગસયવિયય પુરયય છે. ઉવમાઓનો અવબલ-ગુલયલ ઊડવય મયંડે છે. લગ્નનુંમુહૂતા નક્કી િયય એટલે સૌરયષ્ટ્રનય ગયમડયંઓમયં લગ્નનો પ્રસંગ કુટુંબનોમટીને સમગ્ર ગયમનો સવહયયરો ઉત્સવ બની જાય છે. લગ્ન આડે િોડી વરિું(વદવસ) બયકી રહે ત્યયં તો આંગણું, ઓશરી અને ટોડલય મયટે નમણીનયરીઓનયં ટેરવયં ટહુકવયં મયંડે છે. ઓળીપયની અવનવી ભયતોિી ઓરડયઅજવયળયય છે. ઓશવરયું લહેવરયય ભયતની ઓકળીિી અરિી ઊઠે છે.બજારની પછીત, વંડી, ખડકી કે ડહેલીની કોરેમોરે ચીતરેલય મોર, પોપટ,ફૂલવેલ્ય અને ઝયડવયંનય વચતરયમણમયંિી સયદગીભયોા સૌંદયાનો સંલકયરજાણે કે સયદ પયડી ઊઠે છે.

લગ્નનો અવસર આવ્યો હોય એ ઘરે રોજ રયત્રે સયંજીનયં ગીતો ગવયય.વહેલી સવયરનયં પ્રભયવતયયંિી વયતયવરણ ગુંજી ઊઠેઃ

સૂરજ ઊગ્યો રે િેવવડયાની ફણશે િે વાણેલાં ભલે વાયાં રે,સૂતા જાગો રે વાસુદેવના નંદ િે વાણેલા ભણે વાયાં રે...

લગ્ન પ્રસંગે લોકજીવનમયં જાણપરનય જોશીને તેડયવયય, બયજોવઠયોઢળયવયય, પડખે કંકુભરી કંકયવટી મૂકયય. કંકુનય છયંટણય નયખી કંકોતરીલખયય. લીલી-પીળી પયંખનય ભમરલયને અને સોનયની ચયંચ ને રૂપયનીપયંખવયળય મોરલયને નોતરયં દેવય મોકલયય. અભણ લોકનયરીઓની કલ્પનયતો જુઓ. મયંડવય મુહૂતાનય આગળનય વદવસે મયટવલયય ગણેશ મંડયય.મયંડવયને વદવસે ગયમ ગણેશ બેસયડયય. ગયમની બહેનો શ્રીફળ લઈને ગણેશવિયવવય આવે. લગ્ન જેવય મંગળ પ્રસંગે વવઘ્નહતયા દુંદયળય દેવ ગણેશજીનુંપ્રિમ લમરણ િયયઃ

ગણેશ પાટ બેસાડીએ ભલાં નીપજે પિવાન,સગા-સંબંધી તેડીએ, જો પૂજ્યા હોય મોરાર...

લગ્ન પ્રસંગે ટયણયં ટયણયંનય ગીતો ગવયય. વર-કન્યયની પસંદગીનયં, ચૂંદડીઓઢયડવયનયં, લગ્ન લખવયનયં, મંડપયરોપણનયં, રયંદલ તેડવયનયં, ફૂલેકયફરવયનયં, ઊકરડી નોતરવયનયં, મયમેરું ભરવયનયં, જાન જુતવયનયં, ગયમનયવસમયડે ગયવયનયં, સયમૈયયનયં, જમવય જતી વખતનયં, સયંયય મયયયં મળવયનય,કલવો જમયડવયનયં, વરઘોડયનયં, મયયરયંનય, ચોરીનયં, વળયમણયંનયં અનેપોંખવયનયં એવય જાત-જાતનયં ગીતો ગવયય. એમયં હયલયવવનોદનય ફટયણયંપણ આવે. મયરે અહીં લગ્ન પ્રસંગે ગુજરયતમયં જ્ઞયવતએ જ્ઞયવતએ ગવયતનયફટયણયંનય ફયગની વયત કરવી છે.

ફટયણું શબ્દ ફટ ઉપરિી આવ્યો છે. ફટ એ કંઈક અંશે વતરલકયરસૂચક શબ્દ છે. કોઈ કંઈક ખરયબ કયમ કરે તો એને ફટ કહીએ છીએ.ભગવદ્ ગોમંડલમયં ફટયણયંનો અિાઃ લત્રીનય મોઢયમયંિી નીકળતયં ભૂડંય શબ્દ,બીભત્સ ગીત કે બોલ એવો આપ્યો છે. ફટયણયંમયં અમુક કોમોમયં બીભત્સતયપ્રવેશી હોવય છતયં ફટયણયં વવનોદ ગીતો છે.

મેં સંગ્રહેલયં ૬૦૦ જેટલયં ફટયણયંમયં ઉચ્ચ કક્ષયનો હયલયરસ છે.ભયરોભયર સયવહત્ય તત્વ છે, સંયમ છે, મયયાદય છે, શબ્દોની રમત છે, મયવમાકવવનોદ છે અને લોકનયરીઓની કયમણગયરી કુંવયરી કલ્પનયઓ પણ છે.ગયમડયંનય લોકવરણો ઉપરયંત નગરોમયં વસતય વયવણયય, બ્રયહ્મણ, નયગરજેવી ભણેલી કોમોમયં તિય મુસ્લલમો અને પયરસીઓમયં પણ ફટયણયં ગયવયનોવરવયજ જોવય મળે છે. ઉચ્ચ વણાની નયરીઓએ ફટયણયંમયં મયયાદય જાળવીનેહયલયરસ વનષ્પન્ન કયોા છે, છતયં ક્યયંક લિૂળતય કે ઉઘયડો શૃંગયર જોવય મળેછે. નીચલય વગામયં ગવયતયં ફટયણયંમયં બીભત્સ રસ અને ભૂંડય બોલી ગયળોયભરપેટ સયંપડે છે.

લોકજીવનનય પ્રિમ પંવિનય અભ્યયસી એવય મયરય દયદયપ્રતયપસંગભયઈને મેં પૂછ્યુંઃ ‘દયદય, લગ્ન પ્રસંગે ગયવયનયં સરસ ગીતો છે તોપછી બયઈઓ ફટયણયં કેમ ગયતી હશે?’ એમણે ઉત્તર આપ્યો કે ‘ગયમડયંનીઅભણ બયઈઓ બહુ કોઠયસૂઝવયળી હોય છે. ફટયણયં ગયઈને તેઓ વરરયજાને તેનય કુટુંબીઓ તિય અન્ય સગયંઓની સહનશીલતયની પરીક્ષય લે છે.સગયં સમદરપેટય ન હોય તો મયંડવય નીચે જ જામી પડે. મેં અહીં ગુજરયતનયગ્રયમ પ્રદેશોમયં લગ્ન પ્રસંગે વવવવિ જાવતઓમયં ગવયતયં ‘ફરયળી’ અિયાત્

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ઈ ખીર ખાહડામાં ઠરાવો, ભોળા ભમરલા રેજમવા જશુભાઈને બેહાડો, ભોળા ભમરલા રેભેગા ભગવાનજીને બેહાડો, ભોળા ભમરલા રેજશુભાઈ રીંહઈ રીંહઈ જાય, ભોળા ભમરલા રે

કૂતરી કલાવાને જાય, ભોળા ભમરલા રેમીંદડી મનાવાને જાય, ભોળા ભમરલા રે

જૂના જમાનામાં ફટાણાં ગવાતાં એમાં નવા જમાનાની વહુ-દીકરીઓએપોતાની રીતે ફેરફારો દાખલ કયાા. નવા યુગની નારી ગાડા-ઘોડાગાડીમાંથોડી જ બેસે? એનેય જમાના પ્રમાણ ેમોટરમાં મહાલવાના કોડ જાગે ને?

રતનબા મોટરમાં ફરવાને ગ્યાં’તાં, માવસંગ જમાઈ ડ્રાઈવર થઈને ગ્યાં’તાં.

જમઈડે બહુ રે કલ્પના કીધી, ત્યારે અમે દેવકન્યા દીધી...આજે તો ગુજરાતનાં ગામડાં અને ગામડાંના લોકોય સુિરી ગયા છે.

લગ્ન પ્રસંગે ગવાતાં ફટાણાંનો આનંદ પણ ઓસરી ગયો છે. આજે ઘતડયા લગ્ન લેવાય છે. કલાકમાં વરકન્યા ઈન્સ્ટન્ટ પરણી જાય

છે એટલે લગ્ન પ્રસંગના ગીતો ય ગયાં. ફટાણાં ને લોકતવનોદેલોકજીવનમાંથી તવદાય લીિી છે તેથી લોકકતવ તનસાસો નાખતા કહે છેઃ

ગયા ઘોડા ગઈ હાવળ્યો, ગયાં સોનેરી સાજ,મોટર ખટારા માંડવે, કરતાં ભૂં ભૂં અવાજ.

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ઈમને નાક પરમાણે નથડી જોશે રે, ઈમને કેડ્ય પરમાણે ઘાઘરો જોશે રે ઈમને સડસડતો સાડલો પહેરાવો રેઈમને કસકસતું કાપડું પહેરાવો રે

પાદર આવ્યું છે ભવાયાનું પેડું (ટોળું) રેઈમને ભવાયા ભેળા રમવા મેલો રે

નાચણણયો નાચે ને નથડી રૂડી લાગે રે...વેવાઈ આવે પછી વેવાણ્ય થોડાં જ બાકી રહે?

હાં હાં ચૂલેથી ઉનામણણયું પડ્યું હાં હાંજમના વહુનો કૂલો બળ્યો હાં હાંહાં હાં જમના શે નાથી? હાં હાઉનામણું પડ્યું એનાથી હાં હાંભીંતે વળગી ગરોળી હાં હાં

જેમ જેમ ગરોળી બટકાં ભરે હાં હાંએમ એમ જમના વહુ લટકાં કરે હાં હાં...

માંડવા નીચે વરકન્યાને કંસાર પીરસાય. એ વખતે અણવર અનેનણદીનાં ફટાણાં પણ ગવાયઃ

વર-કન્યા કંસાર જમે, અણવરની તો દાઢ ગળે,અણવર કહે હું ઉંદર થાઉં, બાજોઠની નીચે પેસી જાઉં,

કોણળયો કંસાર આલે તો ખાઉં, નઈં તો બાજોઠ ફોલી ખાઉં.•••

વર-કન્યા કંસાર જમે, નણંદની તો દાઢ ગળે,નણંદ કહે હું મીંદડી થાઉં, બાજોઠ નીચે બેસી જાઉં,

કોણળયો કંસાર આલે તો ખાઉં, નઈંતર ઉંદર મારી ખાઉં.સૌરાષ્ટ્રમાં ફટાણાં ગવાય છે એમ ઉત્તર ગુજરાતમાં પણ જુદી જુદી

જ્ઞાતતઓમાં ફટાણાં ગાવાનો તરવાજ છે. ઈશાતનયા દેશોમાં લગ્નગીતોના સંગ્રહ ‘લોકગુંજન’માંથી પન્નાલાલ પટેલે

જમાઈનું ફટાણું આ પ્રમાણે નોંધ્યું છે.જુઓ રે કૈયાભાઈ તમારા જમાઈડાના રૂપ

આવું જમાઈડું ક્યાંથી ખોળી કાઢ્યું રેઊંટોનું ચારનાર, ખૂંટોનું ભાંગનાર

ડોબાનું ચારનાર, બીડીઓનું ધૂંહનારઆવું જમાઈડું ક્યાંથી ખોળી કાઢ્યું રે!



• Dr. Prashant Bhimani

It is essential to have a companionship in everybody’slife. Generally, it is said that the chariot of life ply ontwo wheels. Most of the people seek a perfect match

for them. Here, let me say that there is one particularmoment of love in everybody’s life which may convertinto lifelong relationship. Yet, let me clarify that howmany of them can sustain love? It may be easy toforward love proposal either through own self orthrough other media, but basic questions lies as it is.

Each one has its own view point. The concept of anelderly person and youngsters can be different.

This is a fast moving age. Love has also becomespeedy go commodity. Today it is transformed into nota ‘love at the first sight.’ It may take many years to comeand in many cases, it would have been a proposal forlife time. In précis, it is a life time call to remain together.Of course, we must not forget that today, youngstersconsider many things prior to forward his/her proposalfor marriage. Is it a true love or a need for a fraction oftime (Sex)? This has now become a major questionbefore the aspirants. While love is an emotional matter,the sexual things are just a medium of its expression.Let me say that it is a drastically different issue for aman and woman as well. For a woman it is a greatfeeling of personal care and understanding for eachother while for a man, it starts with sexual gratificationand consequently love and care. Broadly speaking,love is really an ecstasy and not just a sensual pleasure.

Overall, today’s young blood may not know initiallywhat true love is. For this, each generation has its owndefinition and interpretations. In the previous age, lovewas considered to be the life time relationship or to livetogether up to last breath. Now- a- days for an

youngster, the lovehappens with an expirydate in most cases. Theolder generationbelieves in the proverb,‘step and through thatlife is beauty but I awokeand found that life is aduty’. When a youngsterfaces the hardships andharsh realties of life, allhis dreams about thelove are shattered. Thereasons may be many,like economic orfinancial soundness,sexual dissatisfaction,social relations,personal breathingspace, inner career wishetc. Some times therelatives play villains inthe rift of love, though

times are changing now. In the times of such difficulties,mutual trust in each other and communication orunderstanding are much needed to solve therelationship issues.

If you have an ability to prove your resilience aboutyour love, there will always be fewer conflicts.Everything has its own merits and demerits or plus andminus points in his/her character that may be eitherphysical, mental or social, but it is advisable tounderstand those and to accept them the way they areand thereby try to sort it out with open communicationin a healthy manner. Practice what you expect from yourpartner. Avoid impulses in all terms and try to be ascongenial as you can. Express undesirable matters ingood words. I know you can do it. It is a goodinvestment in a strong and positive relationship.

It is necessary that a proposal on a particular pointof time is life-long, when relations are wanted or are inthe process of formation, there are many cases ofdepressions, especially after the break-ups in love. It isnot easy to forget a profound relation with a person.But a person should have new aims to be targeted inhis life. ‘Let the dead past bury its deads’. Always adopta positive approach to life. Start a new day with freshapproach in personal life too.

Here let us say that the present generation hasgrown more practical. Young guys are really fast andprecise. Being very practical does not mean emotion-less. It has realized the new rules of progressing,forgiving past history. Live today and fetch maximumout of the relationship or marriage. There are manycouples who maintain the friendship in the marriage.That is best part of 21st century relationship of male &female. Even after unfortunate break ups some keepfriendly terms with ex-spouse which proves the residual

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need of filtered emotions. Still can itbe called a love? Think over, guys.

Let me cite someinteresting casesOne lady had complained that

she didn’t know about the love fromher husband even after seven yearsof marriage! She broke down andhad tears in her eyes whileelaborating. Yet her false ego wasintact so she was unable to cryfreely. Her businessman husband confessed that heloves her so much but he lost interest in her due tohammering questions like…

'We need to talk…’‘Honey, you have really changed of late.’‘What would you like to have today in dinner?’‘You are never clear what you want to do.’‘What did you do today in office?’ ‘You never share anything about what is going on in

our life’.‘Why are you so late?’‘Why the hell are you not picking up my phone?’‘Have you lost interest in me?’‘Are you in some other relationship?’Dear friends don’t you think that these sort of

conversations or dialogues have become very frequentnow a days?

There was one question put forward to me. Oneyoung lady asked me: sir is it true that “Men are fromMars and Women are from Venus?” This was an eternalquestion. There were two divisions in her married life-three years of love life and four and a half years ofmarried life. Both of them know that there wassomething missing in their life.

It was that some friends having failed married lifegave ‘married life coaching’ to her and her husband.‘Cold war’ between them turned out to be ‘Hot war’.Although, they use to call each other when the needarises. When she became pregnant, they were forced totake advice. Counseling made their life fruitful, beautifuland blessed.

Let us see what happened in counseling?Both the individuals, in any marriage are having

different mentality. You are not what you werepreviously, how is it that you have changed now andturn ruthless? You are basically a non reliable man…’when such dialogues occur, some fertilizer of

understanding had to be supplied to the roots ofmarried life. Each individual has self respect and therelation is really successful when such a respect isgiven by each other. When there is a strong wish to getseparated, think of the reasons about why you havebecome one and started a family!

This particular thought repairs the relationship. Tostart any relation is damn easy but to continue for longtime is really a tough task.

Every relation seems excellent today is the result ofpast hard work on emotions and behavior control. The

ancient feeling of ‘let go’ is goldstandard.

Flexibility in behavior is sureshot therapy to save your lovepuzzle or marital disharmony. Don’tgo to radio love-gurus blindly. Itcan be dangerous at times.

Here are some goldenrules of love• learn to talk in terms of ‘our’instead of ‘mine.’ Forget the words

of ‘Your’ or ‘Mine’. Try to use words like ‘We’ or ‘ours’in day to day conversations.

• be careful and learn to express your love and desire• Mutual care and faith is necessary for long lasting

relationships.

Winning StrokesIn married life, expectations and responsibilities are

two extremes ends of the threads and the thread is onlyone… ‘LOVE…..’

(Dr. Bhimani is a renowned consulting chartered psychologist)

Flexibility in behavior is

sure shot therapy to save

your love puzzle or marital

disharmony. Don’t go to

radio love-gurus blindly. It

can be dangerous at times.




• Rajika Kacheria

The wedding day is the most important day of yourlife where everything - just everything has to beright. From your hair style to your make up all in

accordance. And it’s no easy task making sure that youlook perfect.

A lot of careful, organized planning and coordinationgoes into creating that perfect look for that importantday. A few things that you can follow will help you agreat deal. After you book up a trial with your beautytherapist, make sure that you have a complete runthrough - of the way you want to look. Take along forreference some magazine clippings or downloads sothat the beautician knows what you want. Matchingyour lip color to your nail polish all have to be well intune, so discuss in detail to complete the look. Whenyou plan your make-up, think about the camera. Makesure that you do not ask for a few tones of fairer makeup as this can make you look very chalky or pasty oreven shallow. A good base with well blendedconcealers can even out the complexion covering spotsand pigmentation. Also it can help contouring your facecleverly hiding all the flaws. Glitter and high gloss aregreat but the pictures are not very sharp so if you wanta traditional touch then go for matt. Insist on waterresistant make up for a longer stay, especially for theeyes as they may water in the occasion giving you asmudged up look. Dark circles should be wellconcealed. If false eyelashes are to be used then make

sure that they arewell blended withthe natural lashes.Let ane x p e r i e n c e dbeautician decideon your linerthickness as itvaries eye to eyeand person toperson. Useblushers withhighlighters thatadd to the bridalglow. The lipshave to be shapedwell so that thepictures come out

sharp. Use body make up to match the body skin tonewell. As for the “peer”– on the forehead you canconsider it but if you have a small face keep it light anddelicate. However, a bigger face can go for it. A goodclear skin is very important as it is like an easel that youcan get painted on. On all exposed areas work on thetan. Make sure that you do not experiment anythingwhen the wedding day approaches as sometimes youmay have rashes or red skin or pimples on your finalday. Firstly, schedule a regular series of skin treatments

and facials from your beautician, leading up to yourwedding day. Skin looks its best two days after a facial,so schedule the last skin treatment facial at least twodays before the D-day. Do start regular home

treatments. Makea tan by mixinghaldi, milk creamand gram flourand apply it onyour body as thiswill make yourskin glow.

If your skin isoily, skip thecream and add afew drops oflemon juice. Forhair, startconditioning yourhair with deepc o n d i t i o n i n gtreatments. Sit

with your beautician and decide on what lowmaintenance, high style hair cut could take you throughyour pre-wedding events and wedding day styles. Geton a detox diet. Switch to raw veggies and fruits diet. Donot skip meals as this can give you weakness on the D-day. Drink tons of water. Go for a weekly manicure andpedicure, so that your hands and feet look their best.Leave the body waxing till three days before thewedding. A crash diet is a bad idea when the weddingnears, as this will make you feel tired and low. A bodyprofile does give you a complete picture of your innerhealth. A healthy shine on the face will any day lookgood not only on the day of the wedding but even afterthat. So this has to be worked upon a month or two inadvance. And lastly, get enough sleep.

Good hairstyles makes you look gorgeousWith the changing trends gone are the days when

your hairstyle didn't really matter because youinvariably had to cover your hair and half your face witha long ghoonghat. The contemporary bride shows offboth her glorious hairstyle and her confidence,therefore, what you do with your hair is important formaking or breaking your look.

Getting those glorious hairstyles and hair dossported by models and film actresses is not somethingonly the glam world can achieve, you too can get thesame look with the help of your hair stylist. Check out inadvance with your hairstylist what style will go with theshape of your face, your outfit and hair quality.Sometimes a hair may look good on a model but thesame may not gel well with you. Keep your groom inmind while you choose your style. If your groom ismuch taller than you, a high hairdo will narrow theheight difference, while if your groom lacks in theheight, you should have a low hair do. Accessories are

Look your best on the D-day


an important part of the hair do. Make sure it all falls well

in coordination to your entire look. Also make sure you

do not use strong sprays and holding products

because after the ceremony your last job will be to get

the hair style off.

De-stress as it can play havoc

on you. So much of planning and

preparation for a wedding can

really take their toll on you. Some

effective ways to de-stress and

look fresh on your wedding: do

yoga to improve energy levels,

body tone, concentration and

relaxation. Get a massage at a spa

with aeromatherapy oils or just call

a malish wali home. (Make sure

that she works with light pressure

or you will have bone pains

instead of being relaxed). Listen to

music and soak your feet in a tub

of warm water. Make sure you go

for something that removes stress

and restore your vitality. This helps

in the over all stress- free look.

The smile factor

A great smile is something that

you will share on the D- day. So go

and meet a good cosmetic dentist

who will first study your facial

structure and then work on your

teeth so that they will flatter your

face. You can get your smile tailor-

made for you. Whether it's small

teeth you want, or an endearing,

overlapping incisor, nothing is

impossible these days for your

dentist.

Beverages and nicotine leave

residues that build up over a

period and darken the teeth. If

your teeth are stained, perhaps

you should consider polishing or

whitening them. Having fixed your

smile, all you need to do is brush

and floss your teeth regularly.

Finally, use a mint breath freshener

and smile.


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(The above information is given in good faith and we do not take

responsibility for any problem arisen thereafter.)

Rajika Kacheria is a Cosmetologist, Columnist, Aromatherapiet,

Nutrition Planner, Skin & hair care expert, Make up for Models & Bride,

Facilitator for Personality development & modeling workshops.





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