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FROM THE RABBI ’S STUDY

Lighting Chanuka Candles When I’m Out for Dinner

December 2016 - Kislev 5776

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R. Sheshet said: “A lodger is obligated in ner Chanuka.” R. Zeira said: “At first,

when I would visit the house of Rav, I would share the costs with the host. After I

was married, I concluded that now I certainly don’t need [to light], as [she] is light-

ing for me at my home…” (T. Shabbat 23a)

From the above Talmudic discussion we learn two important Halachot about

traveling on Chanuka. The first that a guest may participate in the lighting of his

hosts. The second is that another may light for someone in his home. But what

happens when I am out during the time to light candles and won’t return until late?

Certainly if a family member is in the house, I can count on them to light at the

proper time. What if my house is empty? Would it be preferable for me to light

with hosts or wait until I arrive home?

The simple answer is that, based on the Talmud, Chanuka Candles are a require-

ment for the house, and therefore I cannot light where I am eating. This is the po-

sition of the R. Yaakov ben Asher who concludes (Tur 677) that a home is defined

by where you sleep. So it would be better to light when you get home, even if it’s

late. R. Moshe Issurles in his commentary on the Tur notes that some disagree and

hold that you should light at the right time where you are eating, even if you will

be sleeping somewhere else.

The argument seems to be based on definition of dwelling. Is our “home” for

Chanuka candles defined by where we eat or where we sleep.

Another ramification to this question would be students in a dorm or someone

staying in a hotel. Should they light in the dining room where they eat or where

they sleep. In Yeshiva, R. Aharon Lichtenstein zt”l poskened that we light in our

dorm lobbies (we couldn’t light in our rooms for safety concerns). Nevertheless, R.

Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (quoted in Mikraei Kodesh p. 100, n. 101) allowed stu-

dents to light in either their dorm lobby or the cafeteria.

Ideally, one should light where one sleeps. However, if one will be arriving

very late and there is opportunity to light where you are eating, you may do so.

Remember, if you are eating before you light, you need to put some reminder in

place to ensure that you will not forget. This can be fulfilled by asking a friend to

remind you or even setting an alarm on your phone.

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INSIDE THIS ISSUE:

Rabbi’s Study 1

Committee Directory 2

President’s Pen 3

MALI 5

Life Cycle

Announcements 7

Kiddush/Shul Calen-

dar 9

The Shaliach Page 2

OFFICERS OF THE BOARD OF DIRECTORS

President ..................................................................... Alan Z. Fromm

First Vice President/Journal Dinner ..................................... Sam Kahn

Second Vice President/Fundraising .................................. Joey Grover

Treasurer/Finance ................................................................ Ken Malc

Financial Secretary/Membership .................................... Larry Pollack

Corresponding Secretary ............................................. Rachel Brandler

Recording Secretary ...................................................... Tina Abraham

BOARD OF TRUSTEES

Aaron Chaitovsky ............................................................................. Ariane Eisman

David Gross ........................................................................................... Marci Karoll

Michelle Lowy............................................................................................ Avi Ossip

Jordana Rothschild.............................................................................. Alvin Smilow

BOARD MEMBERS

Past Presidents ............................................................Eddie Simpser & Brian Berns

Sisterhood -President .............................................................................. Sarah Gross

NCYI Delegate ................................................................................... Eddie Simpser

BOARD COMMITTEES

Education .............................................. Avi Ossip & Rabbi Weissman

Eruv ............................................................................... Cary Kesssler

Gemilat Chesed .............................................................Bernie Reisner

House............................................................................. Alvin Smilow

Publicity/Marketing .................................................................... TBD

Ritual ......................................... Jonathan Stochel & Rabbi Weissman

Securtiy ......................................................................... Lev Neymotin

Shaliach ............................................................................Meryl Fried

Simcha Fund ....................................... Alex Stern & Rabbi Weisssman

Social Action ...........................................................Jordana Rothchild

Special Gifts ......................................................................Marty Taub

Youth ....................................................................... David Bienenfeld

OTHER LEADERSHIP ROLES

Announcements@yiplainview.com .. Larry Pollack & Jonathan Stochel

Cemetery ............................................................................ Sheri Malc

Coupons ......................................................................... Alvin Smilow

Expansion ........................................................................... Gary Katz

Exterior Signboard/Yahrzeit ..................................... David Guterman

Financial Oversight ................................................. Aaron Chaitovsky

Hospitality.................................................................... Ariane Eisman

House............................................................................. Alvin Smilow

Kiddush .............................................................................. Abe Alper

NCYI Delegate............................................................................ TBD

New Family Initiative ................................ Jeff Lichtman & Gary Katz

Political Action............................................Larry Cohn & Anne Cohn

Seuda Shlishit ........................................................... David Bienenfeld

Webmaster .......................................................................David Gross

YOUNG ISRAEL OF PLAINVIEW

132 Southern Parkway

Plainview, NY 11803

(516) 433-4811

Rabbi: Elie Weissman Rabbinic Intern: Motti Sturm

Yoetzet Halacha: Avital Weissman Office Manager: Rivkah Itzhaky

Youth Director: Daniel & Jessica Sultan

www.yiplainview.com

The Shul email – yip@yiplainview.com

The Rabbi’s email – rabbi@yiplainview.com

The President’s email – president@yiplainview.com

The Shaliach—yipshaliach@gmail.com

Mail addressed to the Rabbi, president, treasurer, or MALI is re-

ceived and read within a reasonable amount of time. All other mail

should be mailed directly to the recipient to insure it is read in a timely

fashion. For example, all Sisterhood mail must be mailed to the home

address of the person in charge of the activity that you desire (Calendar,

Mishloach Manot, Wine, Siddurim & Chumashim, etc.). Information

about where to direct your mail is usually included in the flyers.

Thank you for your cooperation.

GABAYIM

Steve Albert .............................................................. Gershon Allweiss

Jeff Eisman ................................................................. David Kaufman

Joel Kessler ................................................................... Eddie Simpser

Alvin Smilow ....................................................... Jonathan Stochel

SISTERHOOD BOARD President ..................................................................... Sarah Gross

Vice President—Dinner ............................................ Michelle Meir

Vice President-Programming ................................... Atara Marzouk

Vice President - Fundraising ...... Abby Bienenfeld & Eliah Barzideh

Treasurer .............................................................. Linda Hoberman

Recording Secretary ................................................ Perri Wallowitz

Communications Secretary .......................................... Wendy Ofer

SISTERHOOD COMMITTEES

Chessed/Social Action............................................... Tina Abraham

Education ........................................................... Miriam Rafailovich

Life Cycle ............................................................... Deborah Plutzer

Includes the following subcommittees:

Condolence Cards .................................... Rochelle Verstaendig

Meals .................................................................... Shelley Katz

Sefarim ..................................................................... Liz Vilkas

Shiva Assistance ................................................... Linda Chusid

Membership ....................................................... Shmuela Sternbach

Includes the following subcommittees:

Calendar .................................................... Shmuella Sternbach

New Years Cards ...................................................... Liz Vilkas

Welcome Wagon ................................................. Chavi Kersch

Mishloach Manot ..................................................... Suri Gotowner

Passover Wine .......................................................... Atara Marzouk

Programs ...................................................................... Diane Rabin

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As the days grow shorter and winter approaches, we’re approaching one of the most family- and children-

centered holidays of our calendar. We light candles and come together for food, games and songs, but Chanu-

kah – while conjuring images of latkes, jelly donuts, dreidels, and the miracle of the oil – really commemo-

rates the wondrous military victory of the Maccabees over the Greeks and the one small jug of oil that man-

aged to keep the menorah lit for eight days.

When we light the candles on Chanukah, one additional candle each night, we are, in effect, setting up a

public display. Placing our menorah in a front window – or in a spot likely to be seen from the street – we are

making a public statement: we announce our thanks that by the courage of the Maccabees, our Temple was not

profaned. Thanks to the miracle of the oil which lasted for eight days, our unique identity was preserved.

Public statements are important, but so, too, are private affirmations. Showing the world that we cherish

our history and traditions is important; but so, too, is demonstrating this same fact to ourselves and to our fam-

ilies. The real miracle of Chanukah is one of Jewish commitment. If the Maccabees, in their day, served as

role models, then we, in our own day, must be role models as well. It is only in this way that we will keep the

miracle of Chanukah alive.

As we light each candle on our menorah, let us also ignite a spark within ourselves and our families as we

seal our commitment to keeping the miracle alive.

Wishing you a chag sameach!

Alan

President's Pen

OPPORTUNITIES TO CELEBRATE

YOUR SIMCHAS

AND HONOR LOVED ONES !

Last year, 24 leaves were added to the Tree of Life in the lobby, celebrating bar and bat

mitzvahs, weddings, the birth of children and grandchildren. Thank G-d, many of us have

had simchas this past year, so why not take this time to donate a leaf ($72) and add to

the growing Tree of Life !

Also, we have one major Special Gift still available – the Sandek’s Chair on the bimah –

and we have lowered the donated price to $5,000. If you are interested in making this

Special Gift in honor or in memory of a loved one, please see me. It is truly a wonderful

opportunity.

Marty Taub, Chairman Special Gifts Committee

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CEMETERY PLOTS AT WELLWOOD CEMETERY ARE STILL AVAILABLE TO

PURCHASE THROUGH THE YOUNG ISRAEL OF PLAINVIEW.

EXTENDED FAMILY MEMBERS ARE ENTITLED TO PURCHASE PLOTS AT THE

YOUNG ISRAEL PRICE.

WE ARE NOW OFFERING THE OPPORTUNITY TO EXTEND OUR OFFER TO

YOUR FRIENDS OUTSIDE THE YIP COMMUNITY AT A SLIGHTLY HIGHER

PRICE.

CALL SHERRI MALC FOR DETAILS AT 933-2768.

THANK YOU,

SHERRI MALC, ALVIN SMILOW, BARRY ZWEIGBAUM

THE CEMETERY COMMITTEE

YOUNG ISRAEL OF PLAINVIEW

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Hope in HaShem; strengthen and fortify your heart, and hope in HaShem.

Chodesh Kislev Tov, with the hope that the lights of Chanukah will usher in brightness to our

lives, which have recently witnessed such difficult times, especially for our fellow Jews in

Israel. Even during the darkest days, may we be able to recognize the good and the light that

surrounds us and connects us to our brothers and sisters in hope.

Our Mikveh is an independent organization that depends upon the support of its community,

and on behalf of our Board, we greatly appreciate those who responded to our Rosh Hasha-

nah appeal. All funds go towards the costs of our everyday operations and facilities improve-

ment. We also wish to acknowledge the generous support of our MALI 365 club members,

who help to sustain our Mikveh every single day. As of this writing, we have 20 member

families, but please remember that it’s only $1 a day, and it’s never too late to join.

We would like to thank the amazing women of our community who have been volunteering

their efforts as attendants at our Mikveh, now that Tirtsa Gil, our wonderful main Shomeret is

working part-time. We also express our sincere thanks to Avital Weissman for all of her help

in reviewing our Mikveh policies and for offering training for all of our shomrot.

We are in the process of planning a concert for the first Motsei Shabbat in January to benefit

our Mikveh. Please save the date, January 7th--more information will follow. Another Spa

Night for ladies-only is also being planned for early spring—most probably on Saturday

night, Feb. 4th. Be on the look-out for a Tzedakah Box Design template that will be e-mailed

and will be an opportunity for artists young or old to create a whole new look that will be

used on new boxes for the Mikveh. About 20 years ago, MALI tzedakah boxes were distrib-

uted to families in our Plainview community. If it’s been a while since you've had yours emp-

tied, please contact Ed Ehrlich.

We are always looking for help to plan and work on the committees for these various events,

and we welcome your participation. Please contact us if you are able to volunteer.

Happy Chanukah to all, and thank you for your continued support,

Ruth Lorbert and Janet Akhavan

MALI Co-Presidents

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Mazal Tov Moshe & Barbara Cohen, and Sharon & Eddie Lust-

bader, on the engagement of their children, Michele

and Jonathan

Elaine Gross on being recognized by Amit of Great-

er Long Island as an Outstanding Long Island Leader

for her hard and continued work with Amit children

Anne & Dr. Eddie Fryman, and Mimi Eng on the

wedding of their children, Craig and Melissa

Diane & Howard Rabin, and Sharon & Yudi Polatoff

on the wedding of their children, Ami and Ayelet

Cathie & Alex Stern, and Meryl & Eddie Arbisfeld

on the wedding of their children, Jamie and Jonathan

Gayle & Arie Neumann on the Bar Mitzvah of their

daughter, Dara

Eliah & Farbod Barzideh, and siblings Shirel,

Naveed, and Gabriella on the birth of a boy

Grandparents, Sharon & Steve Albert, parents, Ra-

chel and Eli, and great grandparents, Suzanne &

Marvin Gurwitz, on the birth of Isabelle Sophia

(Baila Hadassah)

Grandparents, Paula & Robert Grossman, and par-

ents Michele & Chad, on the birth of a boy

Grandfather, Sheldon Schreiner, and parents Aviva

and Rabbi Daniel Haymann, on the birth of twins

(boy and girl)

Grandparents, Rachel & Jeff Lichtman, and parents,

Liana & Daniel Goldmintz, on the birth of a girl

Grandparents, Alvin & Judy Smilow, parents, Josh

and Miriam Smilow, and brothers Eytan Yehuda,

Yedidya Ezra, and Levi Yitzchak, on the birth of a

girl

Grandparents, Sara & Howie Grun, and parents,

Deborah & Rabbi Yakov Grun, on the birth of a girl

Elizabeth & David Vilkas on the Bat Mitzvah of

Leah Shoshana

Grandparents, Sharon & Steve Nachman, parents,

Dena & Aaron Tolkin, and sister, Ellie on the birth

of Alexandra Rachel (Ayala Rina)

Rochelle & Louis Sroka, David Sroka, and Elana

and Ben Berlin on the engagement of Sam and Amy

Joyce & Irving Gomolin, and Anne & Eddie Fry-

man, on the engagement of their children, Ariella

and Scott

Grandparents, Abe & Judy Alper, and parents, Chani

& Jonah Honeyman, on the birth of a girl

Grandmother, Norma Hill, Grandfather, Larry Hill,

and parents, Joshua & Liat Hill, welcome Aryeh

Leib

Grandparents, Merryl & Steve Hurtes, and parents,

Dassie & Michael Hurtes on the birth of a girl

Condolences Josh Friedman on the loss of his step father, Stanley

Jaffe

Harvey Kaplan on the loss of his mother, Shirley

Kaplan

Rachel Lichtman on the loss of her father, Yehuda

Klein

Rabbi Eric Levy on the loss of his mother, Ruth

Levy

Steve Krawitz on the loss of his father, Edwin Kra-

witz

May the Omnipresent console you among the

mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.

Welcome New Members Elad and Inbal Elkayam and family

Jason & Francie Goldberg

Golda Mayers

Vlad Matatov, Adina Tetenko, and Alaina & Nathan

Kenny (Alan) Gerber, Chana Penini and Noa

L IFE CYCLE ANNOUNCEMENTS

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The Board of Trustees and a vote of

the Membership, in keeping with current

law governing minors and drinking,

adopted the following Shul policy:

It is the policy of the Shul that there be

no consumption of alcohol by anyone

under 21 years of age on synagogue

premises or at synagogue events.

Your support in maintaining this poli-

cy is appreciated.

JANUARY 2017

1/14/2017 BAER (ORI’S BAR MITZVAH)

MAY 2017

5/20/2017 WEISSMAN (LEBA’S BAT MITZVAH)

JUNE 2017

6/10/2017 MOSKOWITZ (AUFRUF)

6/10/2017 OSSIP (AUFRUF)

SEPTEMBER 2017

9/2/2017 LIEBERSTEIN (AVA’S BAT MITZVAH)

9/23/2017 BRANDLER (AVI’S BAR MITZVAH)

MARCH 2018

3/17/2018 FLOUMANHAFT (ETHAN’S BAR MITZVAH)

NOVEMBER 2018

11/10/2018 KAUFMAN (YISHAI’S BAR MITZVAH)

OCTOBER 2018

10/1/2018 HELPRIN (YAHRZEIT)

FEBRUARY 2019

2/2/2019 GROVER (JOSHUA’S BAR MITZVAH))

K IDDUSH / S HUL CALENDAR

Seforim Dedication YIP Sisterhood is pleased to continue to offer you the opportunity to purchase and donate Siddurim, Chumashim, Tehillim and Megillos.

Books can be purchased to memorialize or honor a friend or family member. At the same time, your donation allows the shul to continue to add

brand new books to the shelves. The books are inscribed with a personalized message, and the family or friend is notified of your donation. Please

note our newest book, for Tisha B’av.

RCA Artscroll Siddur $36

Artscroll Stone Chumash $54

Artscroll Tehillim (Hardcover) $25

Artscroll Book of Megillos (Hardcover) $25

Judaica PressTisha B’Av Compendium - Tefillot & Kinot (Hardcover) $40

Questions or requests, please contact Liz Vilkas at 931-6848 or email at Vilkasmd@aol.com

To reserve, remove or correct a date on the Shul calendar, please contact Office Manager, Rivkah Itzhaky by e-mail at

“officemanager@yiplainview.com,” or at 516-433-4811 extension 100.

No food may be brought into the Shul by anyone for any purpose or event without the knowledge and approval of Abe Alper.

All kiddushes must be paid in full, one week in advance except for a bris or a baby naming.

If you are making a meat kiddush, you must be available to receive deliveries of food and equipment. Speak to Abe Alper for

details.

New Family Welcome Bag Please patronize the following sponsors of the New Family Welcome Bag.

Hunkis - 15% off coupon

Kosher Thyme Marketplace - Shabbos Special

Unique Judaica– special welcome gift

If anyone has anything that they would like to add to the bag (a coupon, adver-

tisement, give away, etc), please contact

Melissa Weinick at gsweinick@hotmail.com

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