VB - 12 Ways to Become a More Effective Communicator

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<p> 1. 12 Ways to Become a More Effective Communicator by Joe Timothy 2. 12Waysto BecomeaMore Eective Communicator 3. When working in any environment with various personalitiesandpeople,theabilitytocommunicate eectivelybecomes moreandmore important.Not only that but when in business, you are communicating with others all the time in sales meetings, in your marketing or in your team meetings.Eective and clear communicationis one ofthemostfundamentalbuildingblockstocreatinga greatbusiness. Sohowisyourcommunication?Wecouldalldowith improving it; I have never met anyone who is the perfect communicator. They probably dont even exist. However, we can always do things to help ourselves get our messages across much more eectively. Sowe have puttogetheralistof12 dierentthings you could work on to improve that all-important communication. 4. 1. Listenup Whenyouthinkofcommunicationmost ofuswouldinstinctivelythinkof howwecanmakewhatwesayclearer.Welltheinterestingthingisthebest way to do that is make sure you listen to whomever you are trying to communicate with. This will allow youtoget a greater understanding of theirviewwhichwill allowyoutoexplainyourthoughtswithmuchmore clarity and within the view they understand. So listen up more and understand peoples points of view. People receive information through their own perspective without understanding it, you are seriously at a disadvantagewhencommunicating. 2. Dropyourexpectations Onethingthatweareallguiltyofwhentryingtocommunicatewithothers isthat we gointoithavingexpectations.Thisisanatural thing;webuild expectations of how things will go based on previous experiences and learnings. The problem withthis is that youthenapply things toa new situationthatarenotreallyapplicabletherejustbecauseitremindsyouof anotherexperience.Takeeachexperienceandinteractiononitsownmerits youwilllearnsomuchmore. 3. Lookforthehiddenmeaning Whenwelistentowhatapersonissayingwecanoftenseethatwhatthey meanisactuallyquitedierenttothewordstheyaresaying.Forexampleif someonesaysIamnogoodatthatthismaymeanthattheyarelowon condenceandneedyourencouragementnotnecessarilythattheyarenot goodatthetaskitself.Tryandlookfortheunderlyingfeelingormeaning. 4. Respecttheother Manyofussuerfromtheproblemofnotvaluinganotherpersonsopinion andnotgivingittherespectitdeserves.Thisactsasaverydestructivetool whentryingtocommunicate.Allowtimetolistentowhatothershave to saywhoknowsyoumayjustlearnsomethingyoudidnt know;youdont knoweverythingafterall. 5. 5. Maintaineyecontact There is nothing more shifty or disconcerting than when you are in a discussion in with someone and they avoid looking at you. Looking someoneintheeyeandmaintainingitissoimportant tobuildingrapport withsomeone.Itshowsaleveloftrustandhonesty,whichmakeswhatyou aresaying,havemuchmorevalidity. 6. Question,question,question Oneofthefundamentalproblemsinanybusinessistellingpeoplehowthey shouldwork,actorthink.Thisservesnopurposeotherthantodevaluethat persons contribution. Through questioning an individual you show you valuethemanditalsobuildsinacapacitywithinthatindividualtothinkfor themselves.Thiswillimprovetheircreativity,problemsolvingandsenseof worth. 7. Mirrorthepersonsbehavior Oneofthekeywaystoimproveyourcommunicationwithsomeoneelseis tobuildarapportwiththem.Createarelationshipoftrustandopenness.A provenwaytoeectivelybuildthisrapportisthroughmirroringtheirbody language.Whentheycrosstheirlegsyoucrossyoursorwhentheyfacea certain way you face that way too. This may sound a little far fetched howeveritisaproventechniqueforbuildinganeectiverelationshipwith someone.Obviouslykeepitsubtlethoughorelseyoumayjustlooklikeyou aremockingthem. 8. Begenuine Whenwediscusssomethingorcommunicatesomethingyoucanoftenpick uponsomeonewhoisnotbeinggenuine.Thisinstantlyleadstoalevelof distrust that makes communication dicult. I am sure you may have experienced thisfeeling yourself. Be genuine inwhat you say andit will buildhonestyinwhatyousay,whichdrawspeopletoyou. 6. 9. Alwaysbepositiverst This is the one thing that seems most dicult for people to do in my experience.Itisawonderwhatyoucantellpeopleifbeforeyououtlinethe negativeyoupraisethem,thankthemorjusttellthemwhattheyaregood at.Ifyouensureyoustartwhatever yousaywithsomethingalong these linesitreallyopenssomeoneuptocriticismornegativefeedback.Notonly doesthishelpthemtakewhateveryouareabouttosay,ithelpsthemlearn fromitandyoutogetyourpointacrosseasier. 10. Askforclarication OneofthethingsthatIseeinoceenvironmentsmoreandmoreispeople mishearingsomeoneelseandtherebycompletelymisinterpretingwhatthey mean.Iamsureweareallguiltyofthisatsomepointinourlives.Oneway aroundthisistotryandaskforclaricationaroundwhatsomeonehassaid toyou.JustsayasIheardit,youaresayingamIcorrect?Thisgivesthe otherpersontheopportunitytoclarify. 11. Feedback AsIsaidintheintroductionthereisntanyoneintheworldthatcouldntdo withimproving some part of his orher communication. The only way to grow and learn is to make sure you get feedback on how your communication is seen by others. You can then use this to amend and improveyourskills. 12. Acceptitisnotaboutyou Thegreatestcommunicators,thosethatyouremember,fullyacceptitisnot aboutthem.Wheninanetworkingsessionorjustchattingwithyourteam takeaninterestinthem,askthemquestionsandenquireaboutwhatthey say.These are thepeoplethatarerememberedandtheseare thepeople whoareliked,followedandpeopleloveworkingfor. 7. Sothereit isalist of12 ways youcanimprove yourcommunication.Ihopeyoutakeashotata fewandseehowtheyworkoutforyou.Thereis noonewhodoesntneedtoworkonhisorher communication.Sogotryoutafewthingsand seewhereitgetsyou. </p>