Truth Report 2

8/11/2019 Truth Report 2

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The Shameless

Truth Report


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J ustin was relieved to finally get enough space to pry Sarahs clingydesperation away from him, just long enough to finally get a night out with the guys.

Most of them were tied up with their own obsessive wives and girlfriends, but Justin

didnt mind, because at least Chris was free to shoot the bull, like they used to do inold times.

efore Justin could even get his coat on, Sarah had managed to pry herself onto hisphone, demanding to make certain that no !new! contacts better be appearing on hisphone, because she had !memori"ed! e#actly how many contacts he had.

$hinking that she was beyond cra"y, he was happy to finally convince her to in thevery least, let him leave, as long as he promised to leave his phone on. %f course he

promised, but the minute he got in his car, he made damn sure to &uickly turn thatnightmare off.

'inally free, to be himself, in what felt like ages, ideas of his clingy and psychogirlfriend began to slink away as he partied the night away with Chris. $hat was thebeauty of having guy friends, is that they never over complicated things. Men didntbring their feelings into the mi#, every step of the way. Men just simply did things,and that was it.

Justin felt all of his tension melt away as he finally found an emotional freedom thathe had been longing for, for ages, with just one simple night out. 'inally able to rela#,and be himself, Justin found himself pressured to wonder if Chris was feeling the samekind of pressure.

Chris had been in a married relationship, for ( years now, and was a loyal and goodguy, but even though that was true, Justin had to wonder if sometimes it was normalto feel this M)C* pressure from a woman.

+t didnt take long, naturally, for him to begin asking Chris about how things were withhis wife, and if he ever had problems in his marriage.

'inally in a position to shoot the bull, and be brutally honest about his situation foronce, without having to worry about the backlash, Justin finally admitted out loud, forthe first time ever, that he really didnt know what to do with a woman like Sarah.


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!+ just feel like we are so different from one another, and like she is on one e#treme,after another, no matter what + do. + mean she is beyond clingy and obsessive and themore + try to talk to her about it, the worse she gets.!, Justin had e#plained.

$he words had slipped so easily out of Justins mouth too, with no feelings of shameor guilt rising up. +t was the truth after all. -hy should he feel bad about the truth

/aturally, Chris, being the down to earth kind of guy that he was, agreed, tellingJustin, 0*ey man, + know e#actly what you mean. efore + met my wife, + dated thisgirl named Justine, it was just cra"y. 1ou know she was good in other ways, but mostof the time, she was just a psycho. She began calling up my friends asking themwhere + was, when + was not around her, and then she began te#ting me everysecond. Can you believe that

$hen she got pregnant after only 2 weeks of knowing her, and blamed me for it, eventhough + hadnt even been intimate with her yet. + was just like, man. + mean howdesperate can you get + reali"ed fast that + didnt want this, and + dumped her realfast.

$urns out she lied about being pregnant anyway. So glad, that + got out as &uick as +got in, and now + am happily married to the right woman, so + guess everything

worked out. Maybe you need to reassess your situation too. +f shes really making youfeel that miserable, why dont you just leave !

Justin couldnt help but agree, feeling e&ually as pressured by Sarah in therelationship, to almost unreasonable levels, he revealed !1eah, you know + just dontknow what to do with Sarah. + care about her, but shes just going too far, you know+ mean, + had to turn my phone off just to be able to have a night out to myself. + betif + turn it on right now there will be 3 missed calls, and a ton of te#t messages. +ts

just cra"y. 4ike she doesnt own me. 1ou know + own me.!

Chris &uickly consoled Justin, by reminding him that he was always free to leave, andthat he should never invest something that he felt was cra"y, and that chicks like thatwere just a dime a do"en anyway.

5greeing with this reality, Justin decided that he was going to ignore Sarah for a fewdays after this, to distance himself from her intense level of freakish neediness. Chris


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was right. Justin didnt need to get caught up with a woman who couldnt even handleher mans needs when it came to wanting a little time out, or a little space.

+t was ridiculous, and he felt pressured beyond reason, so he did the only thing that aguy knew how to do best. *e backed away, and never looked back.

%f course after that Sarah had called him numerous times, and left many te#tmessages, and sent many emails. Justin just decided that it was best to have Chris tellher that they were no longer an item.

*e couldnt bring himself to face the intense level of cra"y that he felt Sarah wasprojecting anymore. *e didnt want to constantly feel miserable simply for havingneeds as a man.

*e felt as though Sarah was punishing him all the time, and didnt want to alwayshave to spell it out for her, clear as day either. $alking seemed to do no good, as shedonly twist everything he said into some sick reality where suddenly he was the badguy again.

+n fact, shed use whatever he said or did against him, to such an e#tent that ignoringor avoiding became the only reality that gave him room to e#ist. +t was as if shewasnt happy, until she made it clear to him that he was not good enough.

6ither way, Justin he was sick and tired of Sarah, and he was through with her. *e hadspent more than enough time trying to reason with her level of cra"y, but now he justwanted to feel normal again.

+t didnt bother him either, to listen to all of her messages crying to him about howshe needed him, after the fact. +t didnt bother him anymore either, to read hermessages calling him all kinds of nasty names, blaming him for everything.

+t didnt matter, because he knew deep down inside that this woman really was out tolunch, and that was putting it politely.

+n his mind, she was the most unattractive, ugly, and useless woman he had evercome across, and he was glad to be rid of her.


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+ts just that men dont actually vocali"e this, and its even ;681 rare for a man to talkabout the woman he is with, with another man as well. +n fact, many men dont dothis at all, and bottle it up inside.

$his bottling it up behavior, means that once a man is finally dealing with thisthoughts and feelings, that they are coming out *58S*41 by that stage.

1ou see, this is why men have /% problems being cold with a woman, once they feelthat they have been pushed past their breaking point. -hats even more profoundabout this reality, is that men have a very 4%- breaking point.

+t basically means, that they are like a chunk of glass. +f you drop it on the floor, it

gets shattered into a million pieces. $his is how easily a man can be broken.

/ow + know this goes against all conventional belief systems, because men aresupposed to be strong, independent leaders who are confident in themselves.

ut thats only true when they are working around the parameters of their life%)$S+:6 of intimacy.

-hen it comes to intimacy however, men are like freakish deer, who &uickly bolt ateven the S4+


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known that woman for a long time. 5gain, why would a man put up that many walls,barriers, or throw up that much emotional distance between himself and a woman

*es beyond fragile, and skittish about the whole reality of being with a woman.

-hy are men like that

Men are forced to be this way, because of something called the Ultimate Fear.

$he )ltimate 'ear is a nightmarish fear that all men have, of being trapped, caged, orof losing their life, because of a woman. /ow when + say losing their life, + dontmean that men fear death.

ut rather, + mean that men fear that the &uality of their life, would slowly lower, untilthey eventually die on the inside, emotionally, because the woman they chose to bewith, ends up being an energy sucker, and emotion killer.

$his is a mans ultimate fear, and it gets activated around women, especially if thosevery same women are doing things to trigger it.

/ow, this report is aptly called the Shameless $ruth report, because of the fact that +am going to reveal to you, e#actly what it is that a man would /6;68 say to you, butwishes he could, especially when it comes to everything you are doing that triggersthis e#act fear in a man.

1ou see, the problem is, that any time you trigger this fear in a man, even remotely,he will run for the hills, and duck for cover, as if you are an atomic bomb itself.

$hats how seriously men take this fear, even when just a *+/$ of a trigger is created,men react, again, just like deer, and run away skittishly. $hey do this to protectthemselves, and they 6S=6C+5441 do this without thinking twice about it, if they have

no emotional attachment to you yet either.

+n the story + gave at the beginning of this report, about Justin trying to come toterms about his )4$+M5$6 '658 when it came to his girlfriend Sarah, you will noticethat he didnt really seem to have a whole lot of emotional attachment to her.

$his made it especially easy for him to just completely ignore her, and to turn hisphone off, without even so much as caring about how she felt about it.


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-hy wouldnt he care

*eres the first secret + am going to let you in on9

+f you make a man feel like 1%) dont care about him, or his feelings...he willreciprocate that emotion >? times more intensely.

/ow it doesnt even matter if you didnt intend on making a man feel that way either,because so long as a guy $*+/@S that you dont care, and can prove it with youractions, or words, your intentions no longer matter to him.

+ts important to note, therefore, that men pay attention to your actions, and barely

listen to your words.

1ou could tell a guy, as an e#ample of this, that you love him, but if you are callinghim like cra"y, and cant seem to get away from spending time with him, he will thinkthat you dont love him, but that you are cra"y for him.

+ dont just mean this in the polite 0+ am e#tremely devoted to you, in a passionateway!, kind of cra"y. -hen + say cra"y, in guyAlingo, this actually means cra"y, as in hethinks you are nuts, or obsessiveB

-hy does a guy think you are obsessive 5gain, he is looking at the actions. +f theactions are showing him that you want to grab a hold of him and make him yourslave, as you take as much time as you possibly can to be around him, and suck theenergy right out from him, he will have no choice but to think you are cra"y andobsessive.

5gain, even if you meant well, and even if you were only doing that because youreally liked him a lot, it doesnt matter. *e listens to what you are doing, not what youare saying.

/ow + know that this might not sound fair either, because sometimes the guy doesnttell you that this is how he is thinking, and thus you dont learn until after the fact thatit actually bothered him.


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So lets say that you called him a lot, and he never really complained, or never reallytold you that it seemed weird to him. -ell + have news for you again. *eres anotherbrutal truth.

Guys hate having to spell everything out for you.

$hey want you to be able to get it on your own. $hey hate having to baby you intoreali"ing simple things all on your own. $hey hate having to feel like a father figure toyou, as they basically teach you the alphabet from 5 to .

Men want you to be able to pay attention, listen, and get hints before they have tocome along and punch you in the gut, just so you will listen.

-hats even worse, about this reality, is that there is an even more disturbing truth

lying in this mi#. -hat truth is that

The fact, that men will LI to you, if they feel that !y "oing this, they "on#thave to face any conflict.

Men are actually forced to lie, just to avoid confrontation or to avoid a negativereaction from your end, because as a woman, you almost always dont accept realityas it is. $hats because you think with your emotions, instead of logic.

/ow + know that you dont want to always be stuck in a place where your man isalways feeling like he has to lie to you, because he feels like telling the truth wouldcause an argument.

So, what can you do, then in this case -ell, you learn the truths about men, beforethey can use those truths against you, so that you know what to do in the future, toavoid making your man feel !skittish!, or fearful around you.

+ know that there are things that men hide from women all of the time, and there are$%/S of things that men would /6;68 6;68 tell a woman, at all costs.

4uckily for you, however, + have compiled those things together into a neat little list ofdirty truths that men almost /6;68 tell the women they love.


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+n fact, men would avoid having to do this, like the plague itself. 5gain, theyd ratherlie to you and have things not get complicated, than be $*+S brutally honest.

-hy

ecause again, men want to avoid conflict. Just like Justin, did, in the story from thebeginning of this report. *e too wanted to avoid conflict, because he felt with eachpressing moment, that it became harder and harder to deal with his girlfriend.

1ou dont want your man, again to feel like its hard to deal with you. 1ou dont wanthim to feel like he needs to fear you, and you dont want him to feel like he cant beopen either.

$hus, once again, the real key to getting the truth from a man, is to learn about it allindirectly. + have revealed juicy pieces of dirty and even disgusting truths about men,and how they think about you, throughout the rest of this report.

)se these honest truths as a guideline into understanding and handling your man inthe future, because these are the things that your men -+S* very deeply that theycould tell you, but almost every man is $%% afraid to actually do that, due to thepreviously e#plained reasons.

5nd now, as a parting gift, +d like to leave you with a laundry list of D? things thatwomen do, which S6C86$41 makes men sick, as told in the first person perspective,for the e#tra level of honest and brutal juiciness. Just think of this, like a little secretdiary, that your man has been keeping about you this entire time.

5gain, remember that this is the S*5M646SS truth report, so no holds barred withanything listed here9

$%& I hate it when I am !usy with wor', !ut you as' me to tal' to youanyway. My head is in the game. + am busy problem solving, strategi"ing, and + am


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wrapped up in my purpose outside of you. 1et here you are, interrupting thatproductivity, by asking me to talk to you when + am at work.

+snt it enough that + talk to you, and see you after work -hy do you have to come

in and distract me

4et me make it clear for you7if + am busy doing something, and you come in yapping,+ get annoyed, real fastB

$(& )hen I am "oing something, !ut you want me to instantly "ropwhatever I am "oing, to listen to whatever you have to say that very

minute. *onestly, it doesnt even matter if + wasnt busy eitherB +f + am somewhereelse, doing something else, it means that + am /%$ stopping for you, just because,especially when you barge in with a slurry of useless information, and take >? years toget to your point.

$*& )ill you +ust get my si"e of the story alrea"y Euit trying to attachyour own hidden agendas, strange assumptions, or anything else to what + am saying.$ake it as it is, because + am sick and tired of always having to defend everything +

say, because you cant just accept it as it is. +f you cant accept my answers, dont askfor them thenB

$-& )hen I give you a yes or no answer, or a very short answer, an" you "on#t accept it -hy did you ask for my opinion then etter yet, forget tryingto 5SS)M6 that there must be more to my answer, that + am not telling you. +f + gavea short answer7 that is all there is to it. +t doesnt mean that + am hiding something.+t means that this is all + cared to think, especially if your &uestion is random and has

no conte#t.

$/& )hen you want me to e0plain how I feel, it ma'es me feel li'e youare trying to turn me into one of your girlfrien"s. + am not going to spend >?


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minutes talking about how + feel, if you need that kind of a thing, go ask yourgirlfriends. %therwise, + will get straight to the point. +f + am hungry, + will tell you that+ am hungry. +f + am tired, + will say that + am tired. + dont need to e#plain away myfeelings for >? minutes to convey that reality, so &uit asking me to do that for you.

$1& Sometimes I really am thin'ing a!out nothing. + know its hard foryou to believe, as >?,??? random thoughts flutter through your brain, even as + saythis, but sometimes + just have a blank mind. +m a guy. + can do that. 4earn to acceptit. + can literally just sit here and /%$ think about anything, and guess what +thappens 544 the damn time too. So + hate it when you come in, asking me aboutwhat + am thinking about, and then when + say 0nothing!, you argue, saying that itcant be nothing, and ask me again and again, until + finally answer. ut guess what-hen + answer you, its with some crappy e#cuse, designed to simply get you off myback.

$2& )ill you +ust get to the "amn point alrea"y *ere you are, again,revealing detail after detail, after detail again. + am not a chick. + dont need all thedetails. + want the bottom line. + am all about the final outcome. +f you want me tolisten to you, will you please just give me the S*%8$ version %therwise + am sittinghere for the ne#t hour, wondering only one thing9 what is your point So dont tell mea million different things. Make it short and sweet.

$3& Stop trying to change me, alrea"y. 1ou chose me, so accept mealready. %therwise, why are you even here, in this relationship +t really makes me&uestion what you really want, and if you really want me, when you punish me, for

just being myself. + can improve, but + cant be a different man for you.

$4& )hen you tell me that I can#t "o something, !ut then I catch you"oing that very same thing later, you !etter e0pect what#s coming ne0t5 +hate being told to do, but + 6S=6C+5441 hate being told to do, under the premise thatit is a compromise, only to find out later that you werent even doing it yourself. So,let me get this straight7 you can do whatever you want, but + must bend overbackwards 1eah, thats not going to happen.


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$%6& )hen you point out the o!vious, !ut then you soun" so "um!"oing it. *ere you thought you were trying to be clever, but + am just wonderingwhat your point was Just because something pops up into your head, this doesntmean that you immediately have to blurt it out. +t just makes me wonder if you reallyhave lost your mind.

$%%& I care a!out how you loo'. +f youve gained weight, dont think that +dont notice that. /ow to your face, + will try to be fair, and nice, for your feelingssake, but secretly, + want you to do something about it. + hate even having to havethis discussion too where you ask me if you are fat, or if you are pretty. 1es, initially.

ut if you just let yourself go, and dont try after, + am going to regret being with you.

$%(& 7on#t slo!!er all over me, with affection Fand pet names, as if + ama babyG. + am a grown man. + want to be treated with respect. + dont need youmothering me. +t grosses me out.

$%*& )hat were you thin'ing Sometimes you do something S% stupid,that + actually do sit and wonder7 what were you thinking -hats even worse iswhen you come to me seeking approval, as if + am going to sit here and tell you thatwhat you did was smart. =lease, for once, just be smart, about some of this stuff.

$%-& 8re you serious Sometimes the problem that you have, is so hilariouslypathetic, that + have to ask you, 586 1%) '8+C@+/


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$%1& )hen you actually as' me to tell you more, or to answersomething, !ut then you cut me off an" "on#t even let me finish. 6#cuse me,but there are two people in this relationship, and there are two people in thisconversation. :o you want me to talk, or do you just want to be heard :ont ask meto talk, if you just want to yap your face off. +ts rude and disrespectful.

$%2& )hen you "on#t ta'e my a"vice, !ut listen to everyone elseinstea", even if they sai" the same thing that I sai". So you came to me,asking for my opinion. + gave it straight to you, but the ne#t thing + know, you arecompletely ignoring that advice. 1et if somebody else tells you the same thing,suddenly its 0gold! to you. $hen when + remind you that + said it first, you get allmousey, yet you still do this over and over again. -hy even ask me then

$%3& I am insecure too. 1ou think that you can just say anything to me, doanything to me, and that + am indestructible Just because + am a man, doesnt meanthat + am not insecure too. + let you be insecure, but you make fun of me if + am.-hat do + even do with that reality 1ou tell me.

$%4& I want to feel li'e a 'ing. Just like you want to feel like a &ueen. + amtired of always having to work to make you feel like a &ueen, because sometimes +d

just like to stop, and have you make me feel like a king in return. 5nd no, + dontmean se#ually. Sometimes + just wish that youd respect me, and my authority a bitmore. +s that too much to ask

$(6& 9es, I loo' at other women, !ut so what: I 'now you loo' atother men5 %h boy, here we go again. + am the bad guy. So + stared at anotherchick. 5nd 1ou act as if doing this, is the e&uivalent of mentally undressing her. 5ndso what if + was doing that 5re you going to tell me that you never do that mentallywith the men that you find attractive


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this by getting severely jealous each and every time this happens doesnt make mefeel good about being e#clusive to you either. +n fact it makes me &uestion why + evenbothered, because you clearly dont understand the difference between a thought andan action. $hinking is not the same thing as doing something, my dear.

$((& I can never ma'e enough money5 + know this. ut + dont need youon my back about it every second either, and + also dont need you on my back aboutit, when + am trying to get more money. So if + work longer hours, to accomplish this,dont hate me. + let you have your dreams, so let me have mine.

$(*& Sometimes I go to wor', or even stay late at wor', +ust to escapehaving to "eal with you. +f you are really moody, or if you argue with me too often,

+ will sometimes go to work, just to escape having to deal with you. + even stay late atwork, just to be able to avoid you.

$(-& I wish that sometimes you#" !e more reasona!le. 1ou twist what +say and turn that back on me. 1ou make a mountain out of a mole hill. 1ou get moodyand e#pect me to read your mind. Cant you just be a little bit more reasonablesometimes, and get to the actual issue, so that + can know what it is that is actuallygoing on in your head

$(/& I hate how it#s always a!out how you feel. Cant it just sometimesbe about how something really is, without dragging your emotions into everything,every second of the day + mean + bend over to your reality, but cant you bend overinto mine, at least some of the time

$(1& )ill you get a life alrea"y 1ou barely go out with your friendsanymore, and you dont really have any hobbies outside of me. 5fter a while this justfeels too intense for my liking. Cant you just get your own life already Euit trying tohog mine.

$(2& 7on#t start an argument you "on#t want to finish. +f youre going togo out of your way to insult me, or to take a jab at me, then you better be able to


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handle the argument that follows. 1ou cant just come in, guns bla"ing, and e#pect meto sit idly by and be %@ with it.

$(3& If I with"raw, "on#t automatically assume that it#s your fault.

$heres nothing more disappointing, and annoying, than when you dont get thatsometimes + just need my own space. + have my own personal issues, just like you do,and sometimes + pull away to deal with them. Cant + just take space, to do that,without you freaking out and taking it personally

$(4& )hen will you actually listen to me, instea" of always hearingwhat you want to hear *ere + am e#plaining myself, and then suddenly you aretwisting everything + said around into something that + didnt even say, or didnt even

meanB -hat the heck is that

$*6& )hen you tell your girlfrien"s something that was suppose" to!e private !etween us, I secretly hate you5 + dont go around revealing yourprivate business to a bunch of other people, so why do you do that to me +t reallymakes me &uestion whether or not + should trust you, but it really hits me below thebelt too, when you do this with private and intimate informationB + shared it inconfidence, so at least respect me enough to keep it that wayB

$*%& I "on#t care how many times you tell me that you love me, if you"on#t respect me5 + want you to respect me more than + want you to love meB +dont care if you love me, if you are disrespecting me every step of the way. 8espectmeans more to me, than H stupid words that you cant back up with action.

$*(& )hy "o you as' me to help you, if you "on#t even want to listen

to my a"vice $here is nothing more annoying, than a woman who listens, but whodoesnt follow my directions. 1ou asked me to help you, but then you go and do theopposite of what + said. $hats like telling me that my advice was dumb, and that youchose to do something else insteadB 'orget it thenB + hate helping you when this ishow you repay me, and dont ask for my help again after thisB


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$**& If I am "eli!erately ignoring you, it#s for a reason5 $his was by /%accident. +t means that + tried telling you to stop doing something that was makingme angry, and you ignored me. +d rather not hurt you, so + take space, in hopes thatyou will notice this and listen to me finally. ut then you come in, and do somethinglike this ne#t point7

$*-& I hate it when you as' me what you "i" wrong, when I clearlytol" you what you "i" wrong. $his is basically like completely disregarding the factthat you hurt me, or made me angry, by coming in and forgetting the fact that youdid. +f + have to keep telling you what you did wrong, + am going to start wonderingabout whether or not you actually just want me to spoon feed you every step of theway. )se some logic, ne#t time.

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right away. :ont assume that just because + didnt answer you, that + am /%$ goingto.


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+ can see through it, and + can see why you are doing it, but its not going to work onmeB +t just makes you look bad, and you demean yourself, by using stupid tricks to tryand get my attention.

$-/& >an you fight a!out something, without ta'ing it personally, foronce 6very time we try to talk about something serious, you suddenly come in andtake it personally, so now we arent dealing with the actual problem, but are dealingwith your insecurities. Can you just keep it on the actual subject for once

$-1& Stop using se0 as a weapon to get what you want5 -hen youwithhold it from me, it only makes me feel like ultimately you arent even trulyattracted to me.

$-2& 7on#t +u"ge me !ase" on my past actions. $hats basically likerefusing to move on from them, and secondly, thats like being in a state where you/6;68 want to forgive me or move on eitherB + am living here in the now. :ont dragme back to the past all of the time. 8ecogni"e my efforts in the present time.

$-3& Use your own "iscretion aroun" me, instea" of always assuming

that I will tell you what to "o all of the time. So, if something is going to hurtyou, its better not to ask me, if you @/%- this. :ont assume that + know this, anddont assume that + will just come in and tell you what to do about that either, or dontthink that + will always know the right thing to do. )se some of your own discretionfirst, so that you arent always putting me in a place where + will become the bad guy,its bad of you, to do that to meB

$-4& Buit !eing so insecure. + find you attractive, and want to be with you,

but you keep on pushing doubts onto that reality, by constantly pointing out all of thethings that you hate about yourself, but then you e#pect me /%$ to notice that.

$/6& 7on#t e0pect me to rewar" you for !a" !ehaviour. Misbehaving or


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throwing emotional temper tantrums is not something that + usually respond to, oreven reward. +f you want me to change my behaviour or want me to get a point, spitit out directly, instead of indirectly punishing me with bad behavior, thinking that + willchange just because you got moody. +f anything, + will avoid youB

$/%& Buit !eing such an attention hog. +t cant always be about you.Sometimes it needs to be about me. Sometimes, it even needs to be about )S. Stopseeking negative attention too, because + am not going to give in to you, just becauseyou throw a temper tantrum every time.

$/(& I nee" you to ta'e care of your finances. + cant always be yourpersonal accountant. + have my own finances to take care of too. +ts time that youstarted managing your money properly.

$/*& Stop ma'ing it har" for me to please you . $ell me e#actly what youneed, as you actually need it. :ont tip toe around the actual subject, and make itabsolutely clear. %therwise + might do what you asked, but it wont be what youwanted, if you arent clear.

$/-& =ean what you say, an" say what you "o for a change5 Euit beingso contradictory for once, and actually have your actions match up to your words, sothat you are finally doing the same thing that you said you would. +n other words9 ifyou tell me that you are going to do something, go damn do itB

$//& )hen you try too har" to please me, you come across asinsecure. + dont want an insecure woman. + want a woman who is completelycomfortable in herself and her own skin. + dont need a Eueen of :esperation.

$/1& I can#t heal your past, nor am I your past. +f you have unnecessarybaggage, leave it at the damn doorB + dont mind that you have a past, but dont bringyour old patterns into our relationship, or compare me to your e#es. + am a differentperson, therefore give me a chance to actually be that person, instead of trying to


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pigeon hole me into your past, in some way or another.

$/2& Buit fighting for no reason . + am tired of always having to argue withyou over absolutely nothing, just because you are bored, or feel like you need

attention. +t will make me stop taking your

$/3& 7on#t e0pect me to fulfill all of your wishes. + am not a magic genie,and + cannot even attempt to fulfill unreasonable wishes. + cant take you on a magicalcarpet ride, but + can try to do things that are within reason, and that are asked inmoderation at least.

$/4& Stop trying to compete with me. -e are in a relationship, and we arenot enemies. +ts time to learn that there is nothing to win from me.

$16& Stop trying to !e my =;T< R. + already have a mother. + dont needyou to tell me what to do, and + especially dont need you to baby me. + know how totake care of myself. +ts time you started respecting that.

$1%& 7o you un"erstan", the meaning of C@;D + meant it when + said itthe first time. Stop trying to turn that into a challenge, to change my mind, and getme to say yes. +f + said no, + said it for a reason. 4earn to accept it. *ow would youlike it, if + forced a similar thing on you

$1(& Respect my !oun"aries. + have them too. +t means that sometimes +am not comfortable revealing something to you, or doing certain things. + need thatreality to be respected and accepted too.

$1*& 7on#t +ust !e nice to me for no reason. + hate it and it seems like youare sucking up to me, because you either want something, or because you have anulterior motive. 6ven if you mean well, it doesnt flatter my ego to have you be nice tome, without even justifying it in the first place.


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$1-& 7on#t apologiEe for everything5 Sometimes you meant what you said,we get itB 1ou dont have to be sorry for every little thing you do. +f you apologi"eafter everything, even the things you meant, how can we be secure in anything thatyou say or do, if you cant even make up your mind either

$1/& Buit !eing so nitpic'y. Sometimes all of the little details just dontmatter, and dont belong in the conversationB Sometimes, the little details even get inthe way, if we are trying to get something done in a hurry, or if we need you to justget something done too.

$11& Lying a!out how much time something will ta'e, doesnt make itany better when we reali"e that youre going to take an hour to get ready anyway.

4ying me, just makes me feel like you assume that + cant even handle the truth. + candeal with the truth. + dont like it, however, when you lie about something, just to tryand make it easier for yourself.

$12& 0pect the "ifferences, instea" of fighting them. :ont e#pect meto be an e#act replica of you. + have my own personality traits and my own &uirkyhabits. 6#pect me to be different, and better yet, 5CC6=$ thatB

$13& )hen I give you a compliment, ta'e it for once. :ont try to arguein your head, why this cant be true, or deny it. +f + am telling you this, its because +truly mean it, so dont trash what + am trying to say, by refusing to accept it, or bytrying to break my compliment down so that it cant be true for you anymore.

$14& I actually li'e to help you, !ut only when it#s with somethingnew. -hen its the same problem over and over again, + grow e#hausted of trying to

help you. + dont mind a challenge, and + even love problem solving, but + hate itwhen you give me the same problem over and over again, to solve.

$26& 7on#t try to play stupi" aroun" me, because it just makes me feel like


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+ am dealing with an idiot. +f anything it makes me feel stupid for even bothering totry and waste my time with somebody who + thought could at least deal with things. +guess you want to play around instead.

$2%& 8ccept responsi!ility for once, for some of the things that youactually shoul". 1ou cant always try to play coy, and avoid dealing with reality. +twill come back to bite you in the ass hard if you keep avoiding it, and only makes youlook like you cant handle the serious stuff in the relationship.

$2(& 7on#t play frigging min" games with me5 + am the master of games,and you will sorely lose if you think that you can come in over my head, andundermine me every step of the way. 6ither you want to be direct, or you want to

shoot yourself in the foot. 1our choice, but dont e#pect me to stay idle as you playme for some kind of a fool each time.

$2*& Remem!er that I have feelings too5 Some of the stuff that you say,stings me too, and some of the things that you do, really dig in deep. + might notalways say it, but you should at least be courteous enough to @/%- that + havefeelings too, before you get really snarky, rude, or insult me.

$2-& Buit assuming that I only thin' a!out, or want se0 all of thetime. Sometimes + like to cuddle too, and sometimes + am not in the mood tooB 1eah,thats rightB + can feel turned off as well. So dont just assume that + am always

0game! for a little se#y time, every waking moment either. +t has to feel right for metoo.

$2/& =a'e some of the things that I "o, goo" enough for once5 +m

tired of always feeling as if some, or all of the things that + do are not good enoughfor you. + can only do so much, so if + am trying my best, learn to appreciate that, andacknowledge it for once, so that you can actually see the value in what + am doing.

$21& 7on#t ta'e everything so seriously5 SeriouslyB *ave a sense of


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humour once in a whileB 'igure out sometimes, that + am being sarcastic, before youget all offended, and start feeling hurt, over something that was meant to be a jokeB%h, and dont take yourself so seriously either. +ts no fun feeling like + have to walk onegg shells around you, because you cant even laugh at yourselfB 4ighten upB

$22& I "on#t want to hear a!out all of the pro!lems, that all of yourfrien"s are having. Seriously. Sheesh. +ts bad enough that you had to sit throughhours of them complaining about their life, but its even worse when you make me sitdown and listen to it all too. =lus it seems like youre a huge gossip &ueen, when youdo that. +f + was forced to listen to you talk about a problem in general, +d rather justlisten to you talk about your own problems.

$23& Buit !eing such a chic'en5 e adventurous. :ont be afraid to try newthings. +t gets boring always hearing about how you are too afraid, too insecure, ortoo uncertain to try new things, especially if those things are things that + want. +bend for you, even when + am uncertain, so bend a little for me, in return.

$24& 7on#t over thin' everything. 4et some of the things in therelationship, and with me be simple for once. $hey dont always need to be thoughtabout to infinity and beyond, and they dont need to become comple# either. +ts ok totake pride in the little things, especially the everyday accomplishments.

$36& Let me !e a man5 $rust my guidance, and leadership for onceB $rustthat + will provide for youB :ont throw me under your doubt train every step of theway, as you &uestion or undermine my abilities. $ry to let me lead, so that + canactually start doing my job as a man for you.

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