2. Alienated Involved (State of anomie) (belongs to group)Delinquent behavior Love (some people care about me and I care about them) Failure IDENTITY SuccessWithdrawn behavior Self-worth ( I feel good because I am doing something useful Socially irresponsible Socially responsible FAILURE AND SUCCESS IDENTITY UNIRAZAK/Bed(Hons)

3. Irresponsible behavior is defined asattempts by people to satisfy their ownbasic needs in ways that infringe on therights of others to meet their need.There are 5 basic needs: survival freedom power fun and love belongingUNIRAZAK/Bed(Hons)

4. Seven deadly habits:criticizing blaming complaining nagging threatening punishingUNIRAZAK/Bed(Hons)

5. Seven caring habits: encouraging listening negotiating supporting trusting accepting respectingUNIRAZAK/Bed(Hons)

6. E. G. OF REALITY THERAPY SESSION:Counsellor: Mary, can you tell me a little bitabout your life right now.Mary: What do you mean?Counsellor: Well, Mary, it seems as thoughyou get sent to the office a lot to talk to meabout problems you’re having with yourteachers. Tell me what you’re doing andlet’s talk about it.Mary: Well, I guess I talk out of turn in classtoo much sometimes. But my classes are so UNIRAZAK/Bed(Hons)boring.

7. Counsellor: Okay, so you talk a lot in classand the teachers don’t like what you’redoing. Do you do anything else that seemsto get you in trouble with Mr.Thompson andMrs. Rudolph?Mary: No, I don’t think so.Counsellor: Are you happy with whathappens to you when you do these things?Mary: I do the same old things that keepgetting me in trouble, but I feel good for themoment.UNIRAZAK/Bed(Hons)

8. Counsellor: I know you feel better for awhile. Are the good feelings worth the priceyou have to pay for them?Mary: I guess not, because I’m sure tired ofspending so much time in the office.Counsellor: Would you like to work on abetter plan?Mary: Okay, why not?Counsellor: Let’s start by thinking of somethings you could do to get along better inyour classes and some ways to make themless boring as well. UNIRAZAK/Bed(Hons)

9. Mary: Well, I could stop talking out of turn!I know the teachers would like that.Counsellor: Stopping unhelpful things is usually agood way to start. What about some things youcould begin doing in class?Mary: Doing more assignments wouldplease the teachers, but I don’t like all thework.Counsellor: Your two suggestions will probably helpyou with the teachers, but if they don’t do much tomake the class more enjoyable for you. Can youthink of something to help you like school more?UNIRAZAK/Bed(Hons)

10. Mary: Some of the kids get free time or get togo to the library when they turn in their work.Could I do this too?Counsellor: We can ask your teachers about thattoday. That might be a way to please both you andthe teachers. Can you think of other ideas to try?Mary: I guess that’s about all for now.Counsellor: Okay Mary, how many of these ideas doyou want to try?Mary: I think I can do all of them if I can getfree time too.Counsellor: When do you want to start?Mary: Today, if I can.UNIRAZAK/Bed(Hons)

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