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THESIS
TO EXPLORE THE CONFLICT EXPERIENCED BY WOMEN IN COHABITATING
RELATIONSHIPS: THE ROLE OF MEDIATION
BY
SHERRY ANN BERNADITTE CUMMINGS
UNIVERSITY OF THE WEST INDIES ST AUGUSTINE
TRINIDAD WEST INDIES
MSC IN MEDIATION STUDIES
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Abstract
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Introduction
Development in recent decades suggests that cohabitation is becoming more and more popular;
marriage is no longer the only way to form a co-residential union. (Blossfeld 2003; Raldey 2000
and Kiernan 2000; Manning1996; Bumpass and Sweet 1989; van de Kaa 19 93; and Manning
1994). The rising occurrence and acceptance of cohabitation is one of the demographic changes
that have occurred in the last decade and it is considered by many as a social norm. The structure
of the family has also changed drastically over the last few decades; S mock (2000)and these
changes have been accompanied by changing attitudes towards the institution of marriage on one
hand, and cohabitation on the other.
Data from 2002 National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG) indicate that over 60% of woman
ages 25-39 have cohabitated at least once compared to roughly 48% just seven years earlier
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Bumpass and Lu (2000) US Department of Health and Human Services (2006). In addition,
approximately 65% of men and w om e n who married for the first time after 1995 cohabitated
beforehand (, Manning and Jones (2006).
In Trinidad and Tobago, Rhoda Reddock (1995) pointed reported onout the ethnic origin and the
sex of respondents 15years and overin cohabitating relationships in Trinidad and Tobago .There
were 21.8% mM ales, 20.8%21.8%,Ff emale s, 20.8, African 34.4% Africans , 10.4%
Indian s,10.4%, Mixed 27.1% ,Mixed and 8.1% of other ethnic groups8.1%.
Contemporary society is presently bombarded by the diverse differences of opinion in reference
to marriage with a propensity towards the acceptance of cohabitation as a valid choice for
couples and parents. The British Social Attitudes Survey (2000) postulates that, Marriage has
lost much of its social significance and cohabitation is increasingly practiced and accepted.
Stalcup, (1997:1), commenting on marriages in the United States suggested that cohabitation is
becoming more common and widely acceptable. As such, it is acquiring many of the rights once
attached to marriage. According to Bumpass and Sweet (1989), the United States estimation
of cohabitation suggests that almost half of the population in their late twenties to early thirties
had at some time been in a cohabitational relationship.
HoemandHoem (1988) stated that in Sweden and Denmark, many people look at cohabiting as
an alternative rather than an introduction to marriage (women do not necessarily see things that
way).Hoem and Hoem also state that 96 percent of married Swedish women had previously been
in a cohabitational relationship by the late 1970s. Wu (2000) argues thatin Canada ,; by the late
1980s more than 51 percent of Canadian first unions were cohabitational
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cohabitating relationships. Leridon, (1990) also lends support to the argument by highlighting
that 65 percent of all first unions in France were cohabitational by the early 1980s.
Statistics put forward by Kiernan (2000) indicated that these trends prevailed throughout
Western Europe. It was found that 40 percent of women between the ages of twenty five and
twenty nine were in cohabitational cohabitationing relationship s in Austria, 37 percent in
Switzerland and 46 percent in West Germany. DeVaus, Qu and Weston, (2003), posit that most
Australian marriages are preceded by cohabitation. The spectacular growth in cohabitation in
Western countries has been observed by Dempsey and David (2003) and was found to be linked
to technological developments that allowed the separation of sex and reproduction, the growth in
employment opportunities for women, the declining influence of organized religion and the
growth in individualism.
The Cohabitation Act (1998:294)of Trinidad and Tobago defines Cohabitational Relationships
as The relationship between cohabitants, who not being married to each other are living or have
lived together, as husband and wife on a bona fide domestic basis Davies, (1999) on the other
hand sees cohabitation as the evidence of shared living arrangements, a sexual relationship,
stability, financial support, the presence of children and public acknowledgement. T he
American Heritage Dictionary (2006) also defines cohabitation as, living together in a sexual
relationship when not legally married. However, state laws in America vary in its definition of
cohabitation, for example the state of Georgia, defines cohabitation as dwelling together
continuously and openly in a meretricious relationship with another person, regardless of the sex
of the other person, USLEGAL.COM (1997-2011). Hyde, (2003) defines cohabitation as
unmarried persons living together with sexual relations assumed. Cohabitation by definition is
"two unmarried people of the opposite sex living together.
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Cohabitation is a halfway house, for people who do not want the degree of personal and social
commitment that marriage represents, at least for now (Waite and Gallagher (2000:42). The
numbers have risen since 1960 from 439,000 in 1960 to 5,500,000 in 2000, according to the
Census Bureau. Cohabitation has skyrocketed 1,150 percent in 40 years. We are seeing a very
significant cultural change where romantic love and courtship has been giving way to an
altogether new alternative. Given the statistics projected for many countries, it is evident that
cohabitation may tend to have sociological ramifications by the diffusion of cultural values.
Lesthaeghe, and Surkyn (1988-1993)
D Fern ;Burstein ;G,Fern and Lindberg (2003:5)Several researchers express concern that
cohabitation is replacing marriage with a less stable arrangement and fostering attitudes
detrimental to subsequent marital quality and stability (Fern Burstein; Fern and Lindberg
2003: 5). Andrew Cherlin (2001) states, that cohabitation affects society, marriage children and
families. Cohabitation has emerged as a new challenge related to intimate relationships in the
twenty first centurySmock (2000). I n this studythe researcher will explore the conflicts that
women in cohabitating relationship experience and the role mediation can play.
Conflict can happen anywhere in the world, it can spread far and wide and involve everyone in
its path, conflict is very difficult to understand it can come about because of differentissues; it
may also escalate because neither party want to give up their position to the other.T he study of
the conflicts women in cohabitating relationships experience will clear up the misconceptions on
the conflicts woman in cohabiting relationships face.
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Weeks (1992) states, Conflict is an inescapable part of our daily life, and an inevitable result of
our highly complex, competitive and often litigious society. Conflict is intrinsic to organizations,
families and modern city life. C.W. Moore (2003:64) stated that relationship conflicts are caused
by strong emotions, misperception or stereotypes, poor communication or miscommunication
and repetitive negative behaviour.Conflict in this study refers to a purposeful struggles
between collective actors who use social power to defeat or remove opponents and to gain status,
power resources and other scarce values, (Himes (1980:14).
Kriesberg (1982) says conflict exists when two or more parties believe they have incompatible
objectives. On the other hand ,Moore (1986) identifies five causal elements in social conflict:
relationship issues, value conflicts, inconsistencies in data, structural problems, and conflicts
about interest. In this study it is important for the researcher to understand which aspect of
conflict the cohabitant may be struggling with at any point in time, (Mayer, (1995).On the other
hand Donahue and Kolt, (1992) describe conflict as a situation in which interdependent people
express differences in satisfying their individual needs and interests, and they experience
interference from each other in accomplishing these goals.
However, Jones (2001) argues that conflict is in many ways emotionally defined. She posits that
disputes occur when people perceive incompatible goals when relating with to each other, and
that these trigger events c ause conflict and elicit emotions. This study will seek to report the
emotions that woman in cohabitating relationships experience. However, Abel (1973) proposes
that the way a conflict is dealt with renders it constructive or destructive .and Abel (1973) also
statedthat conflict may not become a dispute if it is not communicated to someone in the form of
a perceived incompatibility or a contested claim.
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Policy makers need to clarify how cohabitating families are treated and to recognize cohabitation
as a potential family form. Additionally issues such as an increase in domestic violence,
financial issues, communication issues, decision making, outside influence, empowerment issues
,change of status, disadvantages for the children in these relationships and lower levels of
happiness and well-being need to be addressed within these relationships. These also are some of
the issues that may increase the use of mediation within cohabitating relationships.
The researcher will investigate whether socio economics dynamics play a part in the lives of
cohabitating couples. The researcher will seek to determine how earnings are spent,and who
decides how the earnings should be spent, on social activities, foodstuff, utilities and clothing.
The researcher will explore what led the individuals to enter into a cohabitating relationship and
the duration of the relationship. The researcher will inquire abouttheparticipants feelingsabout
not being married, and whether they think that there is a stigma attached to persons in
cohabitatingrelationships. The researcher will question the women on whether they would prefer
to be married and whether there were plans to be married in the future. The researcher will also
question these women on how they cope with conflict in the relationship, and whether they
would consider mediation as a viable option, in finding a positive solution to conflicts that occur
in the relationship in preference to the options they were using before. Comment [A9]: Whil e I ga th er , th e se are y ouobje cti ves, f o r som e o f th em you have not pr o vida su ff icient justi f ica tion f o r exa min a tion in this stud y. E.g , wh y are y ou exa minin g socio economist a tus a s it re la t es to coh ab itin g re la tionshi ps . Yonee d to su pp o r t this usin g lit era tu re.
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Literature Review
Bumpass, Sweet and Cherlin, (1991:5) conceptualized three different views of cohabitation,
cohabitation as an alternative to marriage, cohabitation as an alternative to being single and
cohabitation as a precursor to marriage. Bumpass, Sweet and Cherlin (1991) further reiterated
that the conceptualization of cohabitation are an alternative to marriage emphasizes the
similarities between cohabiting unions and marriages, e.g. ( sexual intimacy, expressed
commitment, shared household and even child bearing) and views the difference between the
two as a choice of lifestyle . Particularly relevant to this conceptualization is the large
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increasing, proportion of cohabiting unions that involve children (. Bumpass, Sweet and
Cherlin (1991).
The conceptualization of cohabitation as an alternative to being single emphasizes the
dissimilarities between cohabitation and marriage. Rindfuss and Van den Heuvel (1992) provide
some support for this conceptualization by showing that cohabitants more closely resemble
single men and women than married couples across a wide range of attitudes and family
activities.The conceptualization of cohabitation as a precursor to marriage, according to
Bumpass, Sweet and Cherlin (1991), considers cohabitation as an intermediate step between
being single and married but treats marriage and cohabitation as qualitatively different.
Statistically cohabitation is increasing tremendously and marriages are on the decline (,
Bumpass, (1995). The office for National Statistics, in England (2001), stated that between 1979
and 1995, the percentage of women in the British population who were married decreased from
74 per cent to 56 per cent and this downward trend is continuing. In addition, as the marriages
decline so too are the divorces. B arlow, Duncan, James and Park (2005) suggested that a
change in the content of marriage, with a more negotiated and conditional commitment between
partners which is open to termination.
Dennis and Erdos, (1992) ,; Fukuyama, (1999) ,; Morgan, (2000), argues that they see these trends
as evidence of the rise of selfish individualism and the breakdown of the family. There is now
an urgent need for empirical socio-legal research to evaluate the public reasons behind
cohabitation. In addition, it is necessary to verify if there are positive and negative aspects of
cohabitation. There is an urgency to provide facts about cohabitation and to assess whether the
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information given about cohabitation is not clouded by myths. It is also imperious to investigate
the suitability of the laws governing cohabitation and assess whether there may be options for
legal reform on cohabitation.
Michelle Le Baron (2003) states that, Culture is an essential part of conflict and conflict
resolution. In this study the researcher will understand whether the culture of cohabitating
individuals is inextricably linked to conflict. The researcher will understand whether cultures
will impacts upon the cohabitants perceptions, attitudes, and behaviour, ideas of oneself and
others, and the eventual outcome of conflicts. According to Le Baron (2003) cCultu ra l differences
emanate from age, gender, socioeconomic status, national origin, education and sexual
orientation.
C.W Moore (2003) proposes that culture comprises a wide variety of world views,beliefs,
assumptions and behaviours that are characteristics of specific groups of people. On the other
hand, Bush and& Folger, (1994 :56.)On the other hand stated , a conflict exists because of real or
apparent incompatibility of partys needs or interest, and it will involve at least three
components: what people think, what they do, and the material products they produce. Thus,
mental processes, beliefs, knowledge, and values are parts of culture.T he researcher will explore
the impact of culture in the lives of cohabitating women and understand how it is linked to
conflict experienced in theserelationships.
Encarta world dictionary (2009). Marin Clarkberg (1999) Scholarly Journal Forces (Vol ,77 No
3) addressed cohabitation, she expounded For those unsure about their economic prospects ,
living together and pooling resources in the short run may be a smarter strategy that simply
living on ones own while waiting to mature into marriage material .
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The term and approach of transformative mediation, has been brought to the fore by Baruch
Bush and Joe Folgers in the book The Promise of Mediation (1994). In this approach to
mediation , one does not seek resolution of the immediate problem, but rather seeks the
empowerment and mutual recognition of the parties involved. In this study women need to be
enabled to see and understand their partners point of view, to understand how they define the
problem they may encounter and to also understand why they seek the solution that they do, this
will foster the parties empowerment and recognition, thereby enabling them to approach their
current problem, as well as later problems, with a stronger, yet more open view, Heidi Burgess
(2011).
Public Reasons for Cohabitation
Many prenuptial, senior and retired couples may choose to cohabitate instead of marrying for
financial reasons. Propenoe, Bartkowski and XiaoheXu (1999) believe that economically
disadvantaged young people are more likely to cohabitate, because they can share economic
responsibil ities. They further identified some facets of cohabitation, like segregated finances
and partner autonomy which may offer some attraction to cohabitation. It is felt that persons will
more likely cohabitate if their parents have been divorced, Wolfinge (2005), calls it the
Intergenerational transmission of divorce.Wolfinge (2005) proposes that the children of these
divorced parents tend to have a high rate of cohabitation. In addition, cohabitation has become a
lifestyle for people who are less committed to Marriage. Mattox, (1997), stated that it may be
more accurate to say that many of these couples are anti-divorce. He noted that the
cohabitants may fear marital breakup, that they view cohabitation as a trial marriage which
will protect them from entering a marriage, which could end in a divorce. Shaw Crouse (2009)
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reiterates that when the prevailing attitude is that having sex is no big deal and entails no
commitment, then moving in and living together with no strings becomes that much more likely.
She is of the opinion that cohabitation simply reflects peoples individualism, indulgence and
preference for independence.
Types of Cohabitation
Selzer (2004) has categorized cohabitating relationships as casual, temporary, convenient
relationships that involve lit tle commitment. He further labelled cohabitation as extensions of
intimate relationships, that will last only as long as the partners enjoy being together or as an
alternative to marriage, based on the principles that marriage is an institution for pragmatic
reasons. Ingold, Inman, Jachym, Johnson and Jones (2001) were more specific in their
categorization of cohabitation; they identified the Linus Blanket Relationship characterized by
a need to be loved and the fear of being alone. Next was the Emancipation Relationship, where
the couples attempt to prove freedom to others, but there is poor communication on conflict
resolution skills. Thirdly there is the Convenience Relationship where couples are supposed to
split expense fiftyfifty; however the female generally contribute 70 percent of the income. This
type seems convenient for the male involved. Finally there is the Testing Relationship
characterized by commitment in the relationship and the couples practice marriage to test their
compatibility. Prinz (1995) identified a tripartite classification of cohabitation. Firstly, he sees
cohabitation as a prelude to marriage, then cohabitation as a variety of marriage and thirdly
cohabitation as an alternative to marriage.
Positive and Negative Aspects of Cohabitation
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Landale and Forste (1991) positively identified cohabitation as an adaptive family strategy that
allows for union formation, in the face of economic uncertainty, because it makes few
unambiguous demands on the male as the breadwinner. Moreover there are no legal
entanglements. When happiness is diminished, it is easy to leave the relationship. Popenoe
(1999) on the other hand stated that couples have the opportunity to learn about each other and
they do not have responsibility of paying their partners debt.
Waite (2000), sights some negative aspects of cohabitation. She found that men and women who
cohabitate, are more likely to experience partner abuse and infidelity and are less likely to
receive assistance from family members. Waite, (2000) also found that parenting role of a
cohabitating partner towards children of the other person is vaguely defined, making
cohabitation an unstable living arrangement for children. Grabmeier (2004) also believes that
cohabitating is not necessarily a transition period that leads to marriage because many cohabiters
disagree on the future of their relationship. Popenoe, (1999) proposes that cohabiters experience
lower levels of happiness, sexual enjoyment and well-being than married couples do. He
concluded that cohabiters are nine times more likely to split up than married couples are.
Gallagher, (2000) noted cohabitation aces marriage and thus creates the external appearance of
union of lives without creating the internal, moral, legal or emotional reality of such a union.
She reiterates that the effect could be highly destabilizing for the cohabiting couples.
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The Role of Mediation
Mediation is defined as the intervention in a negotiation or a conflict of an acceptable third-party
who has limited or no authoritative decision making power, which assist the involved parties to
voluntarily reach a mutually acceptable settlement of the issues in dispute (. Moore (2003).
Families come to mediation through one of three ways: The judge can mandate that parties
participate in mediation; the parties can volunteer to come to mediation or through referrals (.
C.W Moore (2003: 15).
The republic of Trinidad and Tobago Act No.8 of (2004:153), defines mediation as A process in
which a mediator facilitates and encourages communication and negotiation between the
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mediation parties in arriving at a voluntary agreement. Mediation Party means a person who
participates in mediation and whose consent is necessary to resolve the dispute.(P.153A)
Mediation Process includes the mediation sessions together with all administrative processes
and procedures, leading to and necessary for the conduct of such mediation session and all
processes and procedures after the completion of the mediation session, ending with the signing
of the mediation agreement,or if there is no agreement, when the mediation session is otherwise
terminated,
Mediation Sessions means a meeting between persons in dispute and a certified mediator for
the purpose of resolving the dispute by meditation and includes anything done for the purpose of:
a. arranging the meeting or by following up anything raised in the meeting. Mediator means a
neutral third party who conducts mediation.
In cohabitating relationships mediation will provide an opportunity for the cohabitants to resolve
their disputes with the help of an impartial mediator who will identify and communicate their
interest , identify their mutual interest, and will manage expectations. Mediation can be
particularly useful when communication in the cohabitating relationship has broken down or
when their emotions are intense. Since tT he mediation process is confidential and confidentiality
of the information discussed during the mediation is protected by statute. The mediator will not
impose a decision for the cohabitants, but willassist the parties in reaching their own mutually
acceptable resolution.
Some of the tenets upon which mediation hinges are that: Mediation preserves family
relationships, the process and outcomes are owned by the two parties, it is cost effective and the
mediation setting is private. The mediator is the facilitator of the dialogue and is in control of
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the process only. The mediator starts the parties off with the information about the process and
then guides the process.
The cohabitants will be made to understand that the mediator is not authorized at any time to
make a decision and should not at any time give advice on how they are to resolve their issues.
They will understand that the mediator is ethically bound to be non-bias. The mediator only
makes the process decisions, structure the conversation or order the topics and explore with their
cohabitants the impact of their decisions.
In this study the researcher will explore the experiences of women in cohabitating relationship
and the role that mediation can play; the researcher will discuss mediation as a way of coping
with conflict in the relationship. In addition, mediation will be discussed as a means of:
a. Empowering cohabitants to manage their own dispute,
b. promote peace in the relationship,
c. Reduce emotional cost,
d.
save money and assets,
e. preserve the relationship,
f. protect children
g. and improve the communication skills within the relationship
Parker Mediation Massachusetts (2011) identified many different types of mediation. For the
purpose of this studythe researcher would like to point out prenuptials / ante nuptial agreements.
Prenuptials and cohabitation agreements are contract s between married and unmarried partners
that provide a contingent plan for the possibility of divorce or separation. Ante nuptial
agreements may be used by persons marrying for the first time, but are also useful for
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peoplemarrying a second or subsequent time, particularly when parties want to preserve their
respective estates for children from prior marriages, address stepfather issues, cohabiting issues
and or outlines succession for family businesses.
Propenoe and Whitehead (2009:4) state that cohabitation is probably least harmful when it is pre-
nuptial, when both parties are definitely planning to marry, have formally announced their
engagement and have picked a wedding date.
As aforementioned, Mm ediation is generally defined as the intervention in a negotiation or a
conflict of an acceptable third party who has limited or no authoritative decision making power ,
who assist the involved parties to voluntarily reach a mutually acceptable settlement of the issues
in dispute . In addition to addressing substantive issues, mediation may also establish or
strengthen relationships of trust and respect between the parties or terminate relationships in a
manner that minimizes emotional cost and psychological harm. Christopher W. Moore. (2003).
For the benefit of this study the role of mediation is of paramount importance, since a mediator
as a third party generally has no stake in the conflict at hand. Hence the mediator is a critical
factor in conflict management and resolution. In cohabitating relationships, the participation of a
mediator provides conflicting parties with new perspectives on the issues dividing them and
more effective processes to build problem solving relationships (.C.W. Moore (2003).
Gordon (1978) proposes the legitimacy of emotions, this refers to the acceptance of a partys
right to hold or possess specific feelings whether another party agrees with them or not. In
cohabitating relationships women, children and men could experience various emotions. A
mediator is important to interpret the emotions to the other party and explain why they are
appropriate or important to the person expressing them (. C.W Moore (2003 :191 ).
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In exploring the conflict experienced by women in cohabitating relationships, in relation to the
children a parent may need to know that when conflict arises there is a structured way to provide
resolution to the conflict. Mark S. Vmbreit and Edward Kruk (1995) have identified Parent
Child Mediation. The objective is to retain the intact family structure, not to restructure or
dissolve relationships.
Theoretical Framework of Cohabitation
Throughout history cohabitation had been accepted,the tendency to move in the direction of
Cohabitation and away from marriage is unique , Andrew( Cherlin, (2001). Stalcup(1997) stated
It was unacceptable a couple decades ago, it is acceptable now. Bumpass and Hen Lu
(2000:29-41) sStated that many people see cohabitation as a precursor to marriage, for more than
halfthe persons who marry today cohabitate first. Axim and Thornton (1992:357-374) on the
otherhand, suspect that the sudden increase in divorce permanently marred the image of
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marriage.Additionally, they state that the increase awareness of the social and economic costs
of divorce may be a contributing factor leading more young adults to cohabitate.
In this study the researcher is interesting in finding the socioeconomic dynamics involved in
cohabitation from a womans perspective. However Jayakody and Cabrera (2002) cite
qualitati ve evidence from Eden (2000) and Furstenberg (2001 ), showing that poor people value
marriage highly, but see it as unattainable in light of limited financial options and (especially
among women) a perceived lack of partners capable of providing reliable social and emotional
support.Dunagan (1993) on the other hand, states that those living together avoid dealing with
some of the joint decisions that married couples have to make. For example money and property
tend to be either his or hers not ours.
In this study, the researcher will seek to discuss how the cohabitating couple determines how
income should be spent and who makes these decisions. Standpoint feminism, Harding and
Wood (2003) proposethat important differences between men and women affect their
communication. These differences result from cultural expectations and treatment. This study
will discuss these issues from the standpoint of a womans perspective. A stand point is a place
from which to view the world that determines what we focus on as well as what is obscured from
us. Harding and Wood (2003).
The researcher s standpoint is on the conflict women experience in cohabitating relationships
and the role mediation can play. The researcher believes it is important to understand how
women perceive themselves in these relationships, as theorized by Hartsock (1983). Standpoint
feminism is founded in Marxist ideology. Hartstock (1997) argued that a feminist standpoint
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could be built out of Marxs understanding of experience and used to criticize patriarchal
theories.
The researcher believes that a females perspective on the conflicts experienced in cohabitational
relationship will clarify some of the preconceived ideologies, myths or dogma associated with
cohabitation. It is the belief of the researcher that issues about the social groups to which we
belong could shape what they know and how they communicate (. Harding and Wood (2003) .
OOn the other hand, Smith (1987) instructs us that in beginning to understand how our everyday
world is mediated to us, we will begin to understand that all of it determinates are observable in
the scope of direct experience. The researcher strongly believes that a case study of
cohabitation is a significant factor to accurately determine womens innermost thoughts. It will
also bring to the forefront information that is not readily observable .
Roloff (1981: 57) defines an equitable relationship, as one in which some persons perceives that
the relative gain of two people in an exchange are equal. In this study the researcher will seek to
explore if there is equity in the relationship. Equity Theory willattempt to explain relational
satisfaction in terms of perceptions of what is fair and what is unfairin thedistributions of
resources withinthe interpersonal relationships experience by the cohabitant. John Stacy Adams
(1962) stated that equity theory is considered as one of the justice theories. The belief is that
people value fair treatment which causes them to be motivated to keep the fairness maintained
within the relationships.
Social exchange theory proposes that social behavior is the result of an exchange
process, (Homans (1950-1961 ;)Blau (1964 ; ) Emerson (1972). The purpose of this exchange is to
maximize benefits and minimize costs. According to this theory, people weigh the potential
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benefits and risks of social relationships. The researcher is interested in understanding if women
in cohabitating relationships have conflicts because they perceive that their risk outweigh the
rewards, and they are therefore forced to terminate these relationships. In addition, the researcher
will explore other reasons that people engage in social exchange such as anticipated reciprocity,
expected gain in reputation and influence, altruism and perception of efficacy direct reward.
Homans (1958) Thibaut and Kelly (1959) and Blau (1964) argue that people make choices based
on self-interest, during interaction; they weigh the reward and cost of specific courses of action.
In life there is gave and take, although the balance is not always equal to some as what is given
and what is received sometimes vary significantly,Homans (1958) Thibaut and Kelly (1959) and
Blau (1964). The researcher will understand what happens in these cohabitating
relationships,when there is uneven exchange between cohabitating parties, and the researcher
will explore if thiswill lead to one party having more power over the other in the relationship.
Myths about Cohabitation
There is a myth that cohabitation increases chances of a happier marriage. Gallagher, (2000)
states that the cohabitating couples mistake the substitute for the real thing. She believes that the
young couples who cohabitate not only have to deal with broken hearts and shattered self-esteem
after breakup, but they are also faced with the possibility that the cohabitating relationship will
be the reason for the failure in their future marriages. Waite, (2000) supported this view of
Gallagher. She believes that cohabitation in the United States is short term and leads to a lack of
committed marriages. She believes that cohabiters are not really working in a partnership they
are being two separate people. It is the trading of freedom and low levels of commitment for
fewer benefits that you get from commitment.
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Another myth of cohabitation is the belief that Couples do not really need that piece of paper,
since it does not automatically make two people committed to each other. This is clearly untrue
because cohabitation is merely a tentative arrangement that lacks stability. Children, partners, the
community or the society cannot depend upon the relationship. Dunagan, (1993) presents the
other side of the argument: If there is no difference in your relationship, whats wrong with
adding one more symbol to your total commitment? he asked. He questioned the love of
cohabitation which says, I love you, but not enough to enter into a relationship that brings you
honour, respect and preserves your dignity.
Marco, (1997) examines the myth of cohabitation that states, It will enhance ones self esteem
and inner security. He provided a quote which sums up his studies, I slept with many, many
people trying to find love, to find self-worth. And the more people I slept with the less self-worth
I had. He says when you give yourself as pieces many people you are no longer whole and as
a consequence; you may actually feel less self-worth and inner security because parts of you are
missing.
Laws Governing Cohabitation
In Trinidad and Tobago Act NO 28 of 2000 may be cited as the Distribution of Estates Act 2000.
Part 1 of the Act is the Amendments to the Succession Act. It defines Cohabitational
relationship as the relationship between cohabitants, who not being married to each other have
lived together in a bonafide domestic relationship for a period of not less than five years
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immediately preceding the death of either cohabitant. This Act No 28 represents Amendment to
the Act No 30 of 1998 and makes provision for cohabiting couples.
. In this study the researcher will seek to find out how women cope with conflict. Some conflicts
may involve the application of the cohabitational laws of Trinidad and Tobago. In addition,
mediation will be introduced by the researcher to the cohabitant for those cases that can employ
mediation. These are some types of conflicts that may arise under the provision of the
Cohabitational Relationship Act; property ownership, responsibility for debt, custody or
visitation claims, physical or mental disability of a partner, maintenance, abuse, and incest.
Cohabiting parents need to have written parenting agreement; unmarried fathers must
acknowledge paternity by signing the birth certificate in Trinidad and Tobago, this facilitates
easier access to custody or visitation claims. All cohabiting individuals should be familiar with
the cohabitational laws that govern their relationships.
Research Questions
Based on the study these research questions were framed:
RQ1. Does outside influence have a part to play in the conflicts those women who cohabitate
experience?
RQ2. Does the length of time a couple cohabitate add to the frequency of when conflict occurs
in the relationship: and the way in which these conflicts are handled?
RQ3. Does the lack of communication between couples that cohabitate add to the conflict in the
relationship: or does it help minimize the conflict?
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RQ4 Does empowerment issues create conflict in the relationship of women that cohabitate: or
does it balance the relationship?
RQ5. Does financial empowerment create conflict in the relationships of women that
cohabitate?
RQ6. Does the expected change of status by women who cohabitate cause conflict in the
relationship.
Methodology Research Design
Qualitative research will be applied to this study to explore the conflict experienced by women
in cohabitating relationship: The Role of Mediation. Mile and Huberman (1994) outlined three
overall approaches to analysing qualitative data, for this study The Social Anthropology
approach which relies primarily on ethnography, in this approach the researcher will seek to
elicit from the participants detailed description by using a questionnaire and through focus
groups. Detailed data will be gathered through open ended questions that provide direct
quotations. The questions will be put asked to twenty women. In addition, the study will also
employ two focus groups will be done using comprising of women in cohabitating relationship
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from Trinidad.The researcher will seek regular patterns of human behaviour in data, usually
sifting, coding and sorting data as they are collected. In the focus group the researcher will be
following up analyses with on-going observation and interviews to explore and refine these
patterns, in what Goetz and Le Compte (1994) calls a recursive approach.
The researcher will act in the capacity of the interviewer since this will be an integral part of the
investigation, Jacob (1988). In the interviews the researcher will find out what conflicts women
in cohabiting relationship face and the role of mediation to help solve or alleviate these conflicts,
also what avenue they use to help solve their conflicts, and also there hopes for the future.
Sampling Method Recruitment
Qualitative research can improve the description and explanation of complex real world
phenomena pertinent to this study. Greater understanding of cohabitation individuals will be
given. Purposive Sampling strategies will be employed in selecting the participants. The
objective of this study is to acquire a sampling size of twenty women who will be the subject of
focus group. These women will represent various ethnic groups, race, age, education and socio
economic background from Trinidad. Each participant will be informed of the nature of the
research and the procedure to be followed, confidentiality will be discussed. Participants of the
focus group will exchange telephone numbers with researchers to .... .Date, time and location of
interviews will be arranged. All audio, visual aids will be collected by the researcher. A total of
three interviews will be conducted ranging from one to two hour with each participant, this will
allow the participants to develop a relationship with the researcher and build confidence in the
study. This will also improve the reliability, validity and e nhance the data.
Data Collection Procedures
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Questions will be put to participants who represent a purposive sampling of people in Trinidad
of various ethnic groups, race, ages, education and socio-economic background; twenty
participants would answer the questions. Care will be taken to ensure that all questions are
understood and answered. In addition two focus groups will be carried out through Face to face
discussions. Field notes will also be taken and natural observation of continuing activity and
reactions will be recorded. These measures will ensure reliability which is an important
characteristic of behavioral measure.
Before the interview begins, both participants and interviewer will be formally introduced.
Ethical considerations will be discussed and participants will return the signed consent forms
which were given earlier . (See Appendix). Participants will be told that all information will be
held in the strictest confidence. At the end of each interview the researcher will collect all
materials, the audio tapes and field notes and keep this information in a locked file cabinet in her
office.
Data Analysis
Qualitative data are considered to be the rough material researchers collect from the world they
are studying; they are the particulars that form the basis of analysis (.Bogdan and Biklen,
(1992 ):106) .In this study the researcher will: read and review data, interview notes, transcripts,
notes from field observation and focus groups. Secondly , notes will be written as the researcher
review the field notes, transcripts, and questionnaires. Large margins will be drawn on each sheet
of paper so that notes can be made in the margin or key passages highlighted (. Bogdan and
Biklen (1992). Filed folders will be utilized to organize the data . , tT he data will then be
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coded,and themes will be identified within from the interview notes, questionnaires, field
observation that relate to the conflict experience by women in cohabitating relationships and the
role of mediation .
Themes such as if the duration of time cohabiting adds to the frequency of the conflicts, the
way in which these conflicts are dealt with, if outside influence played a part in the conflicts that
occur in cohabiting relationships, does the lack of communication in a cohabiting relationship
add to the conflict experienced by the women in the relationship , does empowerment issues
create conflict in a cohabitating relationship, does financial empowerment create conflict in the
cohabiting relationship, and does the expected or hope for change of status create conflict in the
cohabiting relationship, how women feel about not being married, whether they prefer to be
married and if there are plans to be married. The women views on these topics will be observed.
Data will be read multiple times to identify all the common ideas and patterns throughout the
research.
The researcher will interpret the data by attaching significance to the themes and patterns
observed. The researcher will then write a list of key themes and review the data again. T he
researcher will again consider alternative explanations by looking for differences in responses to
the questions and observation during the case focus group that was recorded in the data
collection.Finally a report will be drafted that details the researchers findings by synthesizing
and summarizing the data analysis. Since analyzing qualitative data is a subjective process, the
researcher will be concerned with her own biases throughout the analytical process.
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Limitations
This study has some limitations. Firstly, time constraint will not permit the researcher to indulge
in a much larger population, or to interview people from Tobago as well as getting a broader
perspective of the study in Trinidad and Tobago. Additionally, focus groups the interviews on
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the other hand because they are face-to-face; there is a strong possibility that interviewers biases
may be present. Also respondents may feel uneasy about anonymity of their responses when they
interact face-to-face. However these problems at the interviews could be minimized by the
number of times the researcher interviews participants.
Conclusion
The objectives of this study are to explore the experiences of cohabitating relationships as seen
through the eyes of women. These women will have the opportunity to discuss the social and
economic dynamics in their cohabitating relationships. They will explain how they cope with
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conflictin theirrelationship; these experiences can be evaluated through their reasons given for
cohabitating, the advantages and disadvantages, the pros and cons of cohabitation, the myths and
the laws governing cohabitation. Important issues are to be addressed; facts about cohabitation
need to be shared with the world stage. Politicians and Law makers need to understand the
suitability of the laws and access whether there may be options for legal reform. Mediation will
be introduced to the cohabitating women as a viable option for solving conflict.Recent estimates
show that forty five per cent of currently cohabiting women have children present in their
household (Casper and Cohen (2000). The findings of this research can provide valuable
information to current research and encourage other researchers to employ a larger scale
population in their study.
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APPENDIX
I have been asked to participate in a qualitative research study which looks at the experiences of
women in cohabitating relationships. I understand that as part of the study I will be asked some
questions about my experiences and views, as well as some general questions about myself. I
understand that by participating in this study, I may be able to assist in developing better services
for individuals in cohabitating relationships.
I understand that my involvement is voluntary and that I am free to abandon the study at any
time or refuse to answer any questions that make me uncomfortable. I understand that the
interview will be audio taped and will last just about 1hour and 30 minutes. I understand that
there are no incorrect answers.
I understand that all information is confidential and will only be used for research purposes. I
understand that no names shall be used and a number used in its place. The researcher and the
person doing the transcription alone will have access to this information.
I understand that all data will be secured in a locked file cabinet in the researchers office for a
minimum of three years, and will be destroyed after completion of the study. The researcher will
not release any information to anyone unless there is a possibility that there may be
consequences to myself or any other that I may mention in the interview.
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I have read this consent form and the researcher has answered, to the best of her ability, any
questions I may have an issue with or not totally understand. I understand that if I may have any
other concerns about my rights as a participant in this study I can at any time contact the
researcher Miss Sherry Ann Cummings at 1868-290-7912.
I have received a copy of this consent form.
Participants Signature: ___________________________________ Date: ____________
Researchers Signature: ___________________________________ Date: ____________
Procedures for Protecting Participants
I, ____________________________ will adhere to the following procedures to ensure
protection of participants.
I will introduce myself to the participants and tell them the purpose of the study.
I will also explain that I am not affiliated with any local agency, am accountable to The
University of the West Indies, Behavioral Sciences Department and the data
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Procedures
After screening participants, the Researcher ________________________ will conduct
interviews while also keeping field notes to capture body language, gesticulations, and other
variations in human behaviour not captured by audio taped interviews. Each interview will take
approximately (1) hour and thirty minutes. During the first fifteen (15) minutes, the Principal
Investigator will read the consent form to participants, which will give the purpose of the study,
confidentiality procedures, and their rights as participants. The last fifteen (15) minutes will be
left for debriefing. A small compensation would be given to the individual who volunteered to be
interviewed.
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