The Success Profiler...When filling out the Personal Skills Map, there are a few key points to keep in mind . . . 1. The Personal Skills Mapis part of a positive development approach

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ADMINISTRATION INSTRUCTIONSGeneral InstructionsWhen filling out the Personal Skills Map, there are a few key points to keep in mind . . .1. The Personal Skills Map is part of a positive development approach to assessing and learning essential skills for success.2. To be of value, personal skills must be understood and practiced. As you fill out the Personal Skills Map, claim only those

skills you use and practice in actual career/life situations.3. As you read the descriptions, select those which accurately describe what you regularly do–not those that you could or

should do. Be honest; tell the truth.Specific Instructions1. Use a pencil or ball point pen.2. Read each item and circle the answer that best applies to you in ONE given area of your life, such as work or school. In part

one, answer all items. In each situation treat each response independently of the other two.3. "M” stands for most of the time, "S" stands for some of the time, and “L" stands for least of the time.4. Circle the letter and the number for each item. Transfer the number only to the box at the end of the item.

SCORING INSTRUCTIONS1. After completing the entire Personal Skills Map, add the score values in each column and record the total at the end of

each of the four parts of The Personal Skills Map. Part One will have 3 scores. Part two will have 3 scores. Part Three willhave 5 scores. Part Four will have 3 scores.

2. Transfer the total scores for each skill area to the appropriate place on the profile at the end of The Personal Skills Map byplacing a large DOT where your score would appear. Use the 'scale scores' and not the standard scores.

3. Assertion will be the first score used. Place this score in the Assertion scale (which is the second from the top). Do this forall of the other scores.

4. Start on the left side of the profile, draw a line from the margin to the dot for each scale and make a bar graph.

SITUATION: When I am really angry with someone, I usually feel:

1. M/2 S/1 L/0 Some tension, but comfortable in expressing exactlywhat is on my mind . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

2. M/2 S/1 L/0 Anxious and confused about what to say . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

3. M/2 S/1 L/0 Hostile, and a need to verbally attack . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

SITUATION: When I am really angry with someone, I usually think:

4. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I should not express my anger directly . . . . . . . . . . . .

5. M/2 S/1 L/0 OK, I'm angry and I need to deal with it constructively . . .

6. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I should attack, and powerfully show my anger . . . . .

SITUATION: When I am really angry with someone, I usually behave by:

7. M/2 S/1 L/0 Expressing what is bothering me, and working to achievea constructive resolution . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

8. M/2 S/1 L/0 Angrily expressing myself and getting into an argument . .

9. M/2 S/1 L/0 Not saying anything to the person so as not to hurt his/her feelings. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

SITUATION: When someone is really angry with me, I usually feel:

10. M/2 S/1 L/0 Tension and the right to understand the person's anger by . responding directly . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

11. M/2 S/1 L/0 Angry and hostile and the need to attack. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

12. M/2 S/1 L/0 Confused and afraid, and the need to avoid him/her . . . . . .

SITUATION: When someone is really angry with me, I usually think:

13. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I am probably at fault and the person does not like me

14. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I need to respond even stronger so as not to be overwhelmed . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

15. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I have a right and need to understand the person'sanger at me and to respond directly to resolve the conflict .

SITUATION: When someone is really angry with me, I usually behave by:

16. M/2 S/1 L/0 Showing my own anger, and escalating the fight . . . . . . . .

17. M/2 S/1 L/0 Asking for a further explanation of the anger and dealingwith the feelings in a straightforward manner . . . . . . . . . . .

18. M/2 S/1 L/0 Backing off, apologizing, or not really saying what I feel .

SITUATION: When I communicate with a person who has "authority", I usually feel:

19. M/2 S/1 L/0 Defensive and a need to develop a strategy in myapproach to the person . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

20. M/2 S/1 L/0 Comfortable and straightforward in my approach to theperson. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

21. M/2 S/1 L/0 Nervous and hesitant about approaching the person . . . . . .

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SITUATION: When I communicate with a person who has “authority,” I usually think:

22. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I really shouldn't bother that person or take up muchof his/her time . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

23. M/2 S/1 L/0 That what I want or need is most important and that I canimpose myself on the person . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

24. M/2 S/1 L/0 That my needs are legitimate, and OK to express in a straightforward manner. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

SITUATION: When I communicate with a person who has “authority,”, I usually behave:

25. M/2 S/1 L/0 Apologetically and awkwardly with the person . . . . . . . . .

26. M/2 S/1 L/0 Comfortably and at ease with the person. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

27. M/2 S/1 L/0 In a pushy and defensive manner with the person. . . . . . . .

SITUATION: When another person makes an important request/demand of me, Iusually feel:

28. M/2 S/1 L/0 Nervous and anxious about refusing the person . . . . . . . . .

29. M/2 S/1 L/0 Comfortable about saying "yes" or "no" to the request . . . .

30. M/2 S/1 L/0 Resentment and upset that the person expects a "yes" . . . .

SITUATION: When another person makes an important request/demand of me, Iusually think:

31. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I have the right to say "yes" or "no" and feel comfortable about either response . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

32. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I don't like being imposed on and usually say "no"even if I feel "maybe" or "yes" . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

33. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I say "yes" many times even when I feel like saying"no" . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

SITUATION: When another person makes an important request/demand of me, Iusually behave:

34. M/2 S/1 L/0 Defensively and say "no" or let that person know that Iresent the request and do it grudgingly. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

35. M/2 S/1 L/0 In line with my true feelings at the time, and tell the person"yes or "no" comfortably . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

36. M/2 S/1 L/0 In the way he/she wants–or refuse and apologize for my response . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

SITUATION: When I make an important request/demand of another person, I usuallyfeel:

37. M/2 S/1 L/0 Anxious or reluctant about approaching him/her . . . . . . . .

38. M/2 S/1 L/0 Determined more about getting what I want thanconcerned with the feelings of the other person . . . . . . . . .

39. M/2 S/1 L/0 Confident and comfortable in my right to make requestsof him/her. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .


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SITUATION: When I make an important request/demand of anotherperson, I usually think:

40. M/2 S/1 L/0 That what I need or want is important and that theperson should respond immediately . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

41. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I really should not be imposing on or botheringsomeone by asking . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

42. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I have a right to make requests of people and willrespect their decision about how they choose to respond. .

SITUATION: When I make an important request/demand of another person, I usuallybehave:

43. M/2 S/1 L/0 Pushy and sometimes overpoweringly in making the request. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

44. M/2 S/1 L/0 Comfortably and straightforwardly in making therequest. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

45. M/2 S/1 L/0 Hesitantly and awkwardly in making the request. . . . . . . .

SITUATION: When I am around a new group of people and need to initiatecommunication, I usually feel:

46. M/2 S/1 L/0 Anxious and confused about how to start a conversation. .

47. M/2 S/1 L/0 A little uneasy, but comfortable . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

48. M/2 S/1 L/0 Uncomfortable and pressured to get a conversation going,even if I am a little pushy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

SITUATION: When I am around a new group of people and need to initiatecommunication, I usually think:

49. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I will have fun meeting these new people, and Iwould like for some of them to know me. . . . . . . . . . . . . .

50. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I need to get things started whether they areready to or not . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

51. M/2 S/1 L/0 That they are more relaxed than I am, and that I don't have much to say anyway . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

SITUATION: When I am around a new group of people and need to initiatecommunication, I usually behave:

52. M/2 S/1 L/0 Cautiously and, as a rule, wait until someone comes totalk to me . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

53. M/2 S/1 L/0 By talking too much, and I often come on too strong . . . .

54. M/2 S/1 L/0 In a relaxed manner, by introducing myself to someonewho looks interesting or by just visiting around. . . . . . . . .


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55. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am a cheerful person . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

56. M/2 S/1 L/0 I solve my problems quite easily . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

57. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am satisfied with my student or employee relationships. .

58. M/2 S/1 L/0 My voice is variable and clear, and I am easily heard byothers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

59. M/2 S/1 L/0 My relationships with people are smooth andcomfortable . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

60. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am a caring person, and people seem to sense this in me .

61. M/2 S/1 L/0 My daily life is full of things that keep me interested . . . . .

62. M/0 S/1 L/2 I find it hard to talk with authority figures . . . . . . . . . . . . .

63. M/2 S/1 L/0 At times I feel that I can make up my mind withunusually great ease. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

64. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am an important person . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

65. M/2 S/1 L/0 My feelings are not easily hurt . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

66. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am trustworthy, and I can really comfortably depend on . myself . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

67. M/0 S/1 L/2 I don't seem to care what happens to me . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

68. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am confident in my ability to be comfortable andeffective in communicating with other people . . . . . . . . . .

69. M/2 S/1 L/0 I know when to talk and when to listen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

70. M/2 S/1 L/0 I can understand and be patient with a person who isexperiencing a lot of emotions. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

71. M/2 S/1 L/0 It is not hard for me to ask for help from my friends eventhough I cannot return the favor . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

72. M/0 S/1 L/2 I find it very hard to talk before a group . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

73. M/2 S/1 L/0 I confront and solve problems as they arise rather than avoid them or put them off until later . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

74. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am a self-confident person . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

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75. M/2 S/1 L/0 I enjoy developing relationships, and Iwould describe myself as a caring person . . . . . . . . . . . . .

76. M/0 S/1 L/2 People can pretty easily change me even though I thinkthat my mind is already made up on a subject . . . . . . . . . .

77. M/0 S/1 L/2 I easily become impatient with people . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

78. M/2 S/1 L/0 My ability to use my whole body (eyes, facial expressions,voice tone, and touch) makes communications with otherseasy for me . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

79. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am a warm and accepting person, and people seemcomfortable talking to me about really private concernsand feelings. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

80. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am the kind of person that people are really able to talkto about personal problems. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

81. M/2 S/1 L/0 If given the chance, I would make a good executive . . . . .

82. M/2 S/1 L/0 I like myself, and I feel very comfortable with the wayI am as a person . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

83. M/0 S/1 L/2 I am afraid to be myself . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

84. M/2 S/1 L/0 I enjoy social gatherings just to be with people . . . . . . . . .

85. M/0 S/1 L/2 I sometimes find it hard to stick up for my rights becauseI am so reserved . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

86. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am excited about myself and the potential that I have todevelop as a person. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

87. M/2 S/1 L/0 I believe in saying what I feel in dealing with others. . . . .

88. M/2 S/1 L/0 I know how to ask a favor without imposing . . . . . . . . . . .

89. M/2 S/1 L/0 My friends tell me that I am an understanding person . . . .

90. M/2 S/1 L/0 I feel the emotions of others as they feel them. . . . . . . . . .

91. M/2 S/1 L/0 For me, anything is possible if I believe in myself . . . . . .

92. M/2 S/1 L/0 I trust my ability to size up a situation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

93. M/2 S/1 L/0 I would describe myself as a creative person . . . . . . . . . . .


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94. M/2 S/1 L/0 I can cope with the ups and downs of work . . . . . . . . . . . .

95. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am comfortable in revealing my weaknesses to myfriends . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

96. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am free to be myself and handle the consequences . . . . .

97. M/2 S/1 L/0 My handshake is confident and firm and communicatesa solid feeling about me to others . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

98. M/2 S/1 L/0 I know how close I can be to another person without making him/her uncomfortable . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

99. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have a good ability to listen to and really understand another person's feelings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

100. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am considered by another person to be a good listener . .

101. M/0 S/1 L/2 Living for the future gives my life its primary meaning. . .

102. M/2 S/1 L/0 For me, work and play are equally important in my life. . .

103. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am assertive and affirming in my relationships with others . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

104. M/2 S/1 L/0 I feel in control of my life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

105. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have the ability to change or grow in ways that I decideare good for me as a person . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

106. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to accept my mistakes rather than botheringmyself with them. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

107. M/2 S/1 L/0 I can tell how friendly I can be with a stranger. . . . . . . . . .

108. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to tell if it is OK to introduce myself or if I . . . . should wait to be introduced

109. M/2 S/1 L/0 I can accurately understand how a person feels when he/she is talking to me. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

110. M/2 S/1 L/0 When a person is telling me something important, I can concentrate on the person and really hear him/her . . . . . . .

111. M/2 S/1 L/0 For me, the future usually seems hopeful . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

112. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to comfortably accept others as they are . . . . . . .

113. M/0 S/1 L/2 I regret many things I have done in the past . . . . . . . . . . . .



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114. M/2 S/1 L/0 I experience novelty and change in mydaily routine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

115. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to attack points of view that are contrary tomine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

116. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to praise and compliment someone I admire . . .

117. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have the ability to be comfortable with all kinds ofpeople . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

118. M/2 S/1 L/0 I know when it is OK for me to put my hand on another person's shoulder . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

119. M/2 S/1 L/0 I seem to be able to accurately feel what another personfeels . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

120. M/2 S/1 L/0 When another person tells me what he/she is feeling, Ican understand the feelings and really listen to him/her . .

121. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am an open, honest, and spontaneous person . . . . . . . . .

122. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am regarded by others as a leader . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

123. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to form new relationships. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

124. M/2 S/1 L/0 I set specific goals for my career and my life . . . . . . . . . .


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125. M/2 S/1 L/0 When working at a task, I evaluate my progress periodically and obtain concrete feedback fromthose in charge . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

126. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am more likely to make a decision and act rather thanworry about the alternatives and become tense . . . . . . . . .

127. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have the ability to organize my responsibilities into anefficient personal time schedule . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

128. M/2 S/1 L/0 I can get a group to agree with me when I really feel strongly about something . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

129. M/2 S/1 L/0 One of the things that I need to change most is how I feelabout myself as a person. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

130. M/0 S/1 L/2 When involved in a task, I sometimes think how I mayfeel if I fail . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

131. M/2 S/1 L/0 When working on a committee, I like to see that plans arefollowed through efficiently . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

132. M/2 S/1 L/0 I make my own decisions independently and rarely askassistance from bosses, teachers, family, or friends . . . . . .

133. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to set objectives for myself and thensuccessfully complete them within a specific time frame . .

134. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have the ability to make a strong and positive impact onthe majority of people that I meet. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

135. M/2 S/1 L/0 One of the things I need to change most is the way that Irelate to my family . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

136. M/2 S/1 L/0 I prefer things to be challenging (involving some risk offailure). . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

137. M/2 S/1 L/0 I spend most of my time and energy on important projects

138. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have established a process that guides me in makingimportant decisions. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

139. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have a good ability to plan and complete my work onschedule . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

140. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to be persuasive without taking advantage ofothers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

141. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am not satisfied with the way I manage my time . . . . . . .

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142. M/2 S/1 L/0 I willingly undertake challenging projects that involvesome risk of failure. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

143. M/2 S/1 L/0 I know how to set goals for myself . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

144. M/2 S/1 L/0 If I am involved in a group project, I can suggest asolution which other group members accept . . . . . . . . . . .

145. M/2 S/1 L/0 If I were being evaluated in terms of work effectiveness, Iwould receive high ratings in managing my day . . . . . . . .

146. M/2 S/1 L/0 I feel comfortable about approaching another person withthe idea of selling him/her something . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

147. M/2 S/1 L/0 I need to change my job, career, or school. . . . . . . . . . . . .

148. M/2 S/1 L/0 I think more about success than failure when beginning anew task . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

149. M/2 S/1 L/0 Despite the uncertainty of the future, it pays to makeplans . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

150. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am a good decision maker . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

151. M/2 S/1 L/0 I waste very little time . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

152. M/2 S/1 L/0 If a group that I am in needs a spokesperson, I am usuallyelected . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

153. M/2 S/1 L/0 I need to change the way that I handle stress and tension .

154. M/2 S/1 L/0 When proceeding with a difficult task, I think of all theresources that are available to me in order to successfullyaccomplish the task . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

155. M/2 S/1 L/0 I feel that my present work or school is satisfying. . . . . . .

156. M/2 S/1 L/0 When facing a difficult decision, I am good at seeingseveral alternatives and making a priority decision . . . . . .

157. M/2 S/1 L/0 I know exactly how much time I need to completeassignments and projects . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

158. M/2 S/1 L/0 I can "take charge" of a situation when I need to. . . . . . . .

159. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am not satisfied with my ability to handle problems inconflict situations with others . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .



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160. M/2 S/1 L/0 When working on a difficult task, I am aware of and try toimprove personal weaknesses that may hinder successfultask accomplishment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

161. M/2 S/1 L/0 I prefer projects that require an intensive effort or a long-term commitment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

162. M/2 S/1 L/0 When faced with an important decision, I am not overlyanxious about making a wrong choice . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

163. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am an efficient and well-organized person . . . . . . . . . . .

164. M/2 S/1 L/0 Because I am a convincing and believable person, friendsoften ask me to "talk to" someone for them . . . . . . . . . . . .

165 M/2 S/1 L/0 I am not satisfied with the amount of energy I put intobeing successful in life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

166. M/2 S/1 L/0 Planning activities in advance does not take the fun out oflife. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

167. M/2 S/1 L/0 I can keep my mind on a task for a long period of time. . .

168. M/2 S/1 L/0 My decisions are usually accepted as "good" by thepersons affected . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

169. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to manage my time in the present so that I amnot pressured by always trying to catch up with thingsthat I have not done in the past. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

170. M/2 S/1 L/0 My friends involve me in solving their problems . . . . . . .

171 M/2 S/1 L/0 I am not satisfied with my skill and ability to sell myselfto others . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

172. M/2 S/1 L/0 My tendency is not to give up easily when confrontedwith a difficult problem . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

173. M/2 S/1 L/0 On work projects, I would rather work with an expert inthe field than with a friend or someone that I know. . . . . .

174. M/2 S/1 L/0 My friends often ask for my help in making importantdecisions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

175. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am among the first to arrive at meetings or events . . . . .

176. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am a good salesperson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

177. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am not satisfied with my decision-making ability . . . . . .

178. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have the ability to stick to a job even when I do not feellike it. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

179. M/2 S/1 L/0 I finish things that I start. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .


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180. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to be decisive when a stressful situation calls foran immediate decision and action . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

181. M/2 S/1 L/0 I keep my appointments on time . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

182. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to talk people who are having an argumentinto solving their problems . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

183. M/2 S/1 L/0 One of the things that I need to change most is the waythat I relate to other people . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

184. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to set priorities and meet objectives effectively. .

185. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have more than enough energy to get me through the day

186. M/2 S/1 L/0 I seldom regret the decisions that I have made . . . . . . . . . .

187. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to effectively work on several projects at the sametime with good results . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

188. M/2 S/1 L/0 I seem able to "sell myself" to authority figures just bybeing myself. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

189. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am not satisfied with the way I handle myrelationships. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

190. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am an achiever. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

191. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have a strong desire to be a success in the things that I setout to do . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

192. M/2 S/1 L/0 I make decisions easily and with good results. . . . . . . . . . .

193. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have the ability to control my responsibilities rather thanbeing controlled by them . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

194. M/0 S/1 L/2 I am unable to put others at ease in tense situations . . . . . .

195. M/2 S/1 L/0 One of the things I need to change most is how I physicallytake care of my body . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

196. M/2 S/1 L/0 When I begin a difficult task, I am motivated more by thethought of success than by the thought of failure . . . . . . . .


Sales Orientation/LeadershipDrive Strength/Motivation

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197. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am considered a dependable person . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

198. M/0 S/1 L/2 Even though I have worked hard, I have not reached myown potential or personal goals because my job/school hasnot given me that opportunity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

199. M/0 S/1 L/2 I cannot find the time to really enjoy life the way I wouldlike . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

200. M/0 S/1 L/2 I am bothered by physical symptoms, such as headaches,insomnia, ulcers, hypertension . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

201. M/2 S/1 L/0 When something needs to be done, people turn to me . . . . .

202. M/0 S/1 L/2 When I see someone attempting to do something that Iknow that I can do much faster, I get very impatient. . . . . .

203. M/0 S/1 L/2 I am a tense person . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

204. M/2 S/1 L/0 Physically, I feel healthy and full of energy . . . . . . . . . . . .

205. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have often worked day and night on projects to meet adeadline that I have set for myself or have agreed to. . . . . .

206. M/0 S/1 L/2 I find it difficult to really let myself go and have fun . . . . .

207. M/0 S/1 L/2 I do not seem to be able to comfortably express strongemotions such as fear, anger, sadness . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

208. M/0 S/1 L/2 I am a poor sleeper. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

209. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have a strong sense of right and wrong for myself, and Ibehave accordingly . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

210. M/0 S/1 L/2 If I really relaxed and enjoyed life the way I would like, Iwould find it hard to feel good about myself. . . . . . . . . . . .

211. M/0 S/1 L/2 Even on vacations or at times when I try to enjoy myselfand relax, I feel a lot of pressure to meet time deadlines. . .

212. M/0 S/1 L/2 I do things that are injurious to my physical health. . . . . . .

213. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have a solid feeling of confidence in my ability to create agood life for myself . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

214. M/0 S/1 L/2 I often want people to speak faster and find myself wantingto hurry them up. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

215. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to relax at the end of a hard day and go to sleepeasily at night . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

216. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have developed nutritious and healthy eating habits. . . . .

217. M/2 S/1 L/0 When I decide to do something, I carry through and do it .

218. M/0 S/1 L/2 I often feel that I have little control over what I think, feel,and do. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

219. M/0 S/1 L/2 I am unable to relax naturally, and tend to rely on otherthings to calm me down. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

220. M/2 S/1 L/0 I do not tire quickly and have good physical stamina . . . . .

221. M/2 S/1 L/0 I live my life according to my own personal values . . . . . .

222. M/0 S/1 L/2 I feel tense and pressured by the way I have to live . . . . . . (add all three columns and carry to next page)

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223. M/0 S/1 L/2 My peers and friends often encourage me to slow downand relax more. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

224. M/2 S/1 L/0 I exercise regularly to keep my body in good shape . . . . .

225. M/2 S/1 L/0 In almost any area that I go into, I am able to do well . . .

226. M/0 S/1 L/2 I am impatient with myself and others, and I am usuallypushing to hurry things up. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

227. M/0 S/1 L/2 I am under so much stress that I can feel the tension inmy body. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

228. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am a healthy person, and I take good care of myselfemotionally and physically . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

229. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am a "hard worker" even when I am not supervised. . . .

230. M/0 S/1 L/2 My friends often say that I look worried, tense, or uptight

231. M/2 S/1 L/0 I effectively deal with tension, and I have learned avariety of healthy ways to relax . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

232. M/2 S/1 L/0 I see myself living a long and healthy life. . . . . . . . . . . . .

233. M/2 S/1 L/0 People admire my ability to accomplish what I set out to do

234. M/0 S/1 L/2 On the job or at school, I work under a great deal of tension

235. M/0 S/1 L/2 I have been unable to break negative habits that are aproblem for me . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

236. M/0 S/1 L/2 Many of my behaviors are unhealthy and/or physicallydestructive . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

237. M/2 S/1 L/0 I complete assignments and obligations even when Iencounter personal difficulties . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

238 M/2 S/1 L/0 When I really relax and do absolutely nothing forseveral days, I tend to feel guilty about wasting thatmuch time . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

239. M/0 S/1 L/2 I have become extremely nervous and tense at times,and doctors have advised me to slow down and relax . . .

240. M/2 S/1 L/0 I wake up fresh and rested most mornings . . . . . . . . . . . .

241. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have rarely failed at anything that I have consideredimportant . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

242. M/0 S/1 L/2 I seem to continually struggle to achieve and do well andseldom take time to honestly ask myself what I reallywant out of life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

243. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have developed procedures to allow me to dealeffectively with tension, such as relaxation techniques,exercise or meditation. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

244. M/0 S/1 L/2 Compared to persons my own age, I have more than myshare of physical illness. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .


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Totals for Part Four (Transfer to Personal Map)

Stress ManagementPhysical Wellness

Commitment Ethic

PERSONAL SKILLS MAPAn interpretive guide for the results of your Personal Skills Map

PERSONAL SKILLS MAPThe Personal Skills Map is a positive approach to the self-assessment of skills that are essential in a learning organization.The purpose of self-assessment with the Personal Skills Map is to provide you with a map or guide for your personal andprofessional growth and change. By understanding your Personal Skills Map profile you may become more aware of yourstrengths as a person and identify potential areas of possible change and growth. The Personal Skills Map provides a self-assessment of your present level of perceived skill development in essential areas of personal and professional effectiveness.Personal Skills Map results may be considered in planning educational, skill-building, or personal growth experiences thatwill assist you in developing or enhancing your unique potential as a person as well as a contributing member of your schoolor organization. The profile (Personal Map) of your Personal Skills Map results provides a self-assessment of: (1) yourpresent level of development in intrapersonal, interpersonal, career/life effectiveness, and personal wellness skills (2) yourinterpersonal communication and conflict resolution style, and (3) your present orientation or readiness for personal skillchanges.

PERSONAL SKILL SCALESYour results for each scale of the Personal Skills Map in the major dimensions of personal skills are presented on thisprofile. Your level of skill development for each of the eleven scales has been plotted on the profile. A scale score may beconsidered a skill strength if the score is at or beyond a standard score of 60. A standard score on any skill scale between 40and 60 may be thought of as a "normal" or "average" level of skill development. A standard score below 40 can be thought ofas an indication for skill changes and may indicate that personal skills in this area are not functionally developed.

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IMPORTANT NOTICE!!!The short version of the Personal Skills Map (42 items) is not as valid an assessment instrument as the full version (244 items) ofthe Personal Skills Map. The short version does not possess the validity and reliability that the full version has demonstrated. Itshould be used as a quick indicator of skills that are assessed by the full version of the Personal Skills Map.

ADMINISTRATION INSTRUCTIONSGeneral InstructionsWhen filling out the Personal Skills Map, there are a few key points to keep in mind . . .1. The Personal Skills Map is part of a positive development approach to assessing and learning essential skills for success.2. To be of value, personal skills must be understood and practiced. As you fill out the Personal Skills Map, claim only those

skills you use and practice in actual career/life situations.3. As you read the descriptions, select those which accurately describe what you regularly do–not those that you could or

should do. Be honest; tell the truth.Specific Instructions1. Use a pencil or ball point pen.2. Read each item and circle the answer that best applies to you in ONE given area of your life, such as work or school. In part

one, answer all items. In each situation treat each response independently of the other two.3. "M” stands for most of the time, "S" stands for some of the time, and “L" stands for least of the time.4. Circle the letter and the number for each item. Transfer the number only to the box at the end of the item.

SCORING INSTRUCTIONS1. After completing the entire Personal Skills Map, add the score values in each column and record the total at the end of

each of the four parts of The Personal Skills Map. Part One will have 3 scores. Part two will have 3 scores. Part Three willhave 5 scores. Part Four will have 3 scores.

2. Transfer the total scores for each skill area to the appropriate place on the profile at the end of The Personal Skills Map byplacing a large DOT where your score would appear. Use the 'scale scores' and not the standard scores.

3. Assertion will be the first score used. Place this score in the Assertion scale (which is the second from the top). Do this forall of the other scores.

4. Start on the left side of the profile, draw a line from the margin to the dot for each scale and make a bar graph.

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SITUATION: When I am really angry with someone, I usually feel:

1. M/2 S/1 L/0 Some tension, but comfortable in expressing exactlywhat is on my mind . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

2. M/2 S/1 L/0 Anxious and confused about what to say . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

3. M/2 S/1 L/0 Hostile, and a need to verbally attack . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

SITUATION: When I am really angry with someone, I usually think:

4. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I should not express my anger directly . . . . . . . . . . . .

5. M/2 S/1 L/0 OK, I'm angry and I need to deal with it constructively . . .

6. M/2 S/1 L/0 That I should attack, and powerfully show my anger . . . . .

SITUATION: When I am really angry with someone, I usually behave by:

7. M/2 S/1 L/0 Expressing what is bothering me, and working to achievea constructive resolution . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

8. M/2 S/1 L/0 Angrily expressing myself and getting into an argument . .

9. M/2 S/1 L/0 Not saying anything to the person so as not to hurt his/her feelings. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

10. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am a cheerful person . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

11. M/2 S/1 L/0 I solve my problems quite easily . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

12. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am satisfied with my student or employee relationships. .

13. M/2 S/1 L/0 My voice is variable and clear, and I am easily heard byothers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

14. M/2 S/1 L/0 My relationships with people are smooth and comfortable .

15. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am a caring person, and people seem to sense this in me .

16. M/2 S/1 L/0 I know when to talk and when to listen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

17. M/2 S/1 L/0 I can understand and be patient with a person who isexperiencing a lot of emotions. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

18. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am a warm and accepting person, and people seemcomfortable talking to me about really private concernsand feelings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Part One–Personal Skills Map–Short Version

Totals for Part One (Transfer to Personal Map)

Interpersonal AssertionInterpersonal AggressionInterpersonal DeferencePart Two– Personal Skills Map–Short Version

Self-EsteemEmpathy

Interpersonal Awareness

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19. M/2 S/1 L/0 When working at a task, I evaluate my progress periodically and obtain concrete feedback fromthose in charge . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

20. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am more likely to make a decision and act rather thanworry about the alternatives and become tense . . . . . . . . .

21. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have the ability to organize my responsibilities into anefficient personal time schedule . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

22. M/2 S/1 L/0 I can get a group to agree with me when I really feel strongly about something . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

23. M/2 S/1 L/0 One of the things that I need to change most is how I feelabout myself as a person. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

24. M/0 S/1 L/2 When involved in a task, I sometimes think how I mayfeel if I fail . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

25. M/2 S/1 L/0 When working on a committee, I like to see that plans arefollowed through efficiently . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

26. M/2 S/1 L/0 I make my own decisions independently and rarely askassistance from bosses, teachers, family, or friends . . . . . .

27. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to set objectives for myself and thensuccessfully complete them within a specific time frame . .

28. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have the ability to make a strong and positive impact onthe majority of people that I meet. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

29. M/2 S/1 L/0 One of the things I need to change most is the way that Irelate to my family . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

30. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have established a process that guides me in makingimportant decisions. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

31. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have a good ability to plan and complete my work onschedule . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

32. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am able to be persuasive without taking advantage ofothers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

33. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am not satisfied with the way I manage my time . . . . . . .

Part Three–Personal Skills Map–Short Version

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34. M/2 S/1 L/0 I am considered a dependable person . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

35. M/0 S/1 L/2 Even though I have worked hard, I have not reached myown potential or personal goals because my job/schoolhas not given me that opportunity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

36. M/0 S/1 L/2 I cannot find the time to really enjoy life the way I wouldlike . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

37. M/2 S/1 L/0 When something needs to be done, people turn to me . . . . .

38. M/0 S/1 L/2 When I see someone attempting to do something that Iknow that I can do much faster, I get very impatient . . . . .

39. M/2 S/1 L/0 Physically, I feel healthy and full of energy . . . . . . . . . . . .

40. M/2 S/1 L/0 I have often worked day and night on projects to meet adeadline that I have set for myself or have agreed to. . . . .

41. M/0 S/1 L/2 I am a poor sleeper . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

42. M/0 S/1 L/2 I do things that are injurious to my physical health . . . . . .

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Stress ManagementPhysical Wellness

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PERSONAL SKILLS MAP-SHORT VERSIONAn interpretive guide for the results of your Personal Skills Map-Short Version

PERSONAL SKILLS MAP-SHORT VERSIONThe Personal Skills Map-Short Version is a positive approach to the self-assessment of skills that are essential in a learningorganization. The purpose of self-assessment with the Personal Skills Map-Short Version is to provide you with a map orguide for your personal and professional growth and change. By understanding your Personal Skills Map-Short Versionprofile you may become more aware of your strengths as a person and identify potential areas of possible change andgrowth. The Personal Skills Map-Short Version provides a self-assessment of your present level of perceived skilldevelopment in essential areas of personal and professional effectiveness. Personal Skills Map-Short Version results maybe considered in planning educational, skill-building, or personal growth experiences that will assist you in developing orenhancing your unique potential as a person as well as a contributing member of your school or organization. The profile(Personal Map) of your Personal Skills Map-Short Version results provides a self-assessment of: (1) your present level ofdevelopment in intrapersonal, interpersonal, career/life effectiveness, and personal wellness skills (2) your interpersonalcommunication and conflict resolution style, and (3) your present orientation or readiness for personal skill changes.

PERSONAL SKILL SCALESYour results for each scale of the Personal Skills Map-Short Version in the major dimensions of personal skills arepresented on this profile. Your level of skill development for each of the eleven scales has been plotted on the profile. A scalescore may be considered a skill strength if the score is at or beyond a standard score of 60. A standard score on any skill scalebetween 40 and 60 may be thought of as a "normal" or "average" level of skill development. A standard score below 40 canbe thought of as an indication for skill changes and may indicate that personal skills in this area are not functionallydeveloped.

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UNDERSTANDING YOUR RESULTS(Personal Skills Map-Long Version and Personal Skills Map-Short Version)

PROFILING YOUR RESULTS

By darkening in the corresponding raw score totals on each of the fourteen scales shown on the profile sheet, yourobtained raw scores are automatically converted to standard scores for interpretation by their position on the profile sheet.You can now see how your scores compare to a general sample in the U.S.

The results that you have plotted on the fourteen scales of the Personal Skills Map are your personalized map or guidefor you to consider in further developing your personal and career effectiveness. Your personal skills are changeable, andyou are capable of life-long learning and positive growth. As you change, develop, and learn new skills, your PersonalSkills Map profile will be strengthened. Your Personal Skills Map scores cannot be accurately thought of as fixedpersonal “traits” or “factors.” Think of your results as self-descriptions of your current level of personal skills, and focuson your skill strengths. Then consider the skill areas that you want to change and are willing to more fully develop.

The fourteen scales on the Personal Skills Map can be related to five major dimensions important in personal and careereffectiveness. The first eleven scales of the Personal Skills Map are considered personal skills and each scale contributesto the four major skill dimensions. The first major dimension may be thought of as Intrapersonal (by yourself) andincludes the Self-Esteem (SE) score. This skill dimension is related to how you evaluate and accept yourself as a person.Research has demonstrated that self-esteem, as measured by the Personal Skills Map, is related to personal and careereffectiveness.

The second major skill dimension on the Personal Skills Map focuses on Interpersonal (with others) skills and how youtend to communicate in stressful situations. This dimension includes the Personal Skills Map skill scales of InterpersonalAssertion (IA), Interpersonal Awareness (IAw), and Empathy (E).

The third major dimension focuses on skills that are important in effectively managing your daily environment anddemands from your school/work setting. This Career/Life Effectiveness dimension includes the Personal Skills Mapskill scales of Drive Strength/Motivation (DS), Decision Making, (DM), Time Management (TM), SalesOrientation/Leadership (SO), and Commitment Ethic (CE).

The fourth major dimension on the Personal Skills Map is Personal Wellness skills, and includes the Stress Management(SM) and Physical Wellness (PW) scales. This skill dimension is extremely important in both emotional and physicalwell-being.

The fifth dimension is related to problematic behaviors. Personal Skills Map research has clearly indicated that theInterpersonal Aggression (IAg), Interpersonal Deference (ID), and Change Orientation (CO) scales are indicators ofproblematic behaviors that negatively influence personal mental health and career effectiveness.

STRENGTHS AND CHANGE MAPS

Your Personal Skills Map results have indicated your present level of skill development in key areas of personal andprofessional effectiveness. You may have identified skill strengths and skill changes that may serve as a map or guide foryour future development. The acknowledgement, acceptance, and use of skill strengths are necessary to further realizeyour potential for personal growth, interpersonal relationships, and career/life effectiveness.

If skill changes were indicated on your Personal Skills Map profile, you may want to focus and concentrate personalenergy on learning new skills in the areas indicated. You will need to select the areas you need to develop. Each area has acorresponding skill-building unit that you will work on in order to increase your potential effectiveness.

INTERPRETING YOUR PROFILE

In the section that follows, major Personal Skills Map dimensions and scales have been defined, explained, andgenerally interpreted in terms of perceived strengths or change areas. Once you are aware of your skill strengths and haveidentified areas for change, you can develop a personal learning and training plan to improve your personal/careereffectiveness.

A standard score at or beyond the value of 60 (top of profile) may be considered a current skill strength. A standard scorebetween 40 and 60 represents an average or expected level of skill development. A standard score below 40 can bethought of as an awareness of a personal need to make changes and learn and develop new skills in that area.

You will soon have a chance to work on some of those skill areas.

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SKILL DIMENSION I: INTRAPERSONAL SKILLS

SELF-ESTEEM (SE): Self-concept, Self-image: Your score on this scale reflects how positively you viewyour current ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. A high score (skill to enhance) indicates a healthypersonality with a positive sense of self-worth. A low score (skill to develop) indicates a negative evaluation ofself and dissatisfaction with ways of thinking and feeling. How you think, feel, and accept yourself as a personis directly related to the other personal skills you have assessed in completing the Personal Skills Map.

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ACCORDING TO YOUR PERSONAL SKILLS MAP RESULTS, YOU ARE CURRENTLY HERE (check the appropriate box):

❐ SKILL TO DEVELOP ❐ SKILL TO STRENGTHEN ❐ SKILL TO ENHANCE

WHAT THIS MEANS IS (check the appropriate box):


SKILL DIMENSION 2: INTERPERSONAL SKILLS

INTERPERSONAL ASSERTION (IA): Your score on this scale indicates your current assessment of howeffectively you employ direct, honest, and appropriate expression of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in yourdealings with others. A high score (skill to enhance) indicates that you possess assertive communication skillsand have the ability to be direct and honest in communicating with others without violating your rights as aperson or the rights of others. A low score (skill to develop) indicates a lack of assertive skills and a tendencytoward indirect, self-inhibiting, and self-defeating communication styles. Low assertive skills may lead togiving in to others constantly (Deference).

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Frequently experiences self-doubt.Persistent sense of inadequacy andinferiority in relation to the skills andabilities of others. Achievement andperformance inhibited by intense lack ofself-confidence.

Sometimes feels capable and competent.Self-directed appreciation is inconsistent.

Feelings of pride in work and personal lifeendeavors are gratifying but sporadic.

Usually feels confident and capable.Experiences high self-regard. Is frequentlysatisfied with performance level at workand play.

Self-perception characterized by a senseof pride and accomplishment.

Frequently ineffective in communicatingdesires and ideas to others. Usuallyacquiesces to others’ demands andpriorities in decision-making situations.Tends to overreact in stressfulinterpersonal situations and respondsinappropriately.

Will sometimes communicate thoughtsand feelings openly and directly. May notalways defend a stated position. Mayavoid participation when discussionbecomes heated, even when strongconvictions are held.

Has little difficulty communicating andbeing understood. Possesses strongnegotiation skills. Can exercisepersistence in a manner that respects thefeelings and needs of all parties. Is adeptat orchestrating win-win propositions innegotiating situations.

Sometimes, when people put me down, Idon’t stand up for myself. When I amangry or feel very strongly aboutsomething, I often either clam up or saythings I wish I hadn’t. I need to learn howto speak up in an appropriate and effectivemanner.

Sometimes I am direct andstraightforward with others under stress,but often I am not. I am not able, at times,to express my feelings or discuss thingsabout which I have strong feelings. Moreoften than not, I think I reactappropriately.

When I am under stress, I understand myfeelings and communicate them in apositive, direct, and straightforward way. Ican describe my feelings andcommunicate them to someone else. Theother person knows where I stand andunderstands me. He or she knows I havetreated him or her with respect.

There are times when I don’t feel goodabout myself. I’m not always comfortablewith the way I’m thinking and relating toother people. I am not achieving as muchas I think I can.

Sometimes I feel good about who I amand sometimes I really dislike myself.Basically, I like myself and think I amsomebody and that I can make adifference.

I like who I am and feel confident aboutmy ability to succeed. I think I am moreable than the average person. I relate wellto others and can take care of myself inmost situations. I am proud of myself. Ireally like myself and the way I am rightnow and feel that I do make a difference.

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INTERPERSONAL AWARENESS (IAw): Your score on this scale is an indication of your current evaluationof how well you judge appropriate social, emotional, and physical distance in verbal and nonverbalinteractions with others. A high score (skill to enhance) on Interpersonal Awareness indicates an ability toexpress feelings appropriately and spontaneously and to foster mutually comfortable, self-assured, andrelaxed communications with others. A low score (skill to develop) on this scale indicates some difficulty inrelating comfortably to others, manifested by behavior that is either too reticent or too brash.

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EMPATHY (E): Sensitivity: Your Empathy score is an indication of how you view your current skill andability to sense, understand, and accept another person’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Empathy is aprimary characteristic of skilled communicators. Persons with strong Empathy tend to be sociable, outgoingpeople. A high score (skill to enhance) on Empathy indicates skill in understanding and sensing what othersare saying, feeling, and doing. A low score (skill to develop) may indicate a lack of awareness of how othersare trying to communicate their thoughts or emotions.

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Usually ill-at-ease in social situations,especially with strangers. Frequently has asense of being avoided. Has difficultyinitiating conversations. Ruminates overhaving spoken or acted inappropriately.Often feels isolated.

Occasionally enjoys social situations andfeels gratified from participation. Has ageneral sense of social aptitude and isreasonably comfortable in interactionswith others. Usually understands when tointervene or limit interpersonalengagement.

Naturally gregarious. Open, honest, anduninhibited with respect to initiatingconversation, sharing thoughts andfeelings. Skilled collaborator and teamplayer. May exhibit charismatic leadershiptraits.

At times, I am very cautious about makingnew friends. Sometimes this is a difficultprocess for me. I often wait and let othersmake the first move. Sometimes I’m notsure that other people accept me. I need tolearn to be more comfortable with myselfand sure of my ability to make friendseasily.

I do alright with people, whether I knowthem well or not. I’m not at a loss forwords. Being friendly and relating topeople is not my strongest suit, but it doesnot hinder me either.

I make friends easily and others like to bearound me. I am open and trusting ofothers. I am friendly and initiate (start)conversation. I express my feelings withothers in a comfortable, self-assured way.I like being with people–all kinds ofpeople.

Emotionally unconnected to other people.Unable to hear and understand another’sthoughts and feelings. Poor listeningskills. Fails to invite collaboration andtrust in interpersonal relationships.

Is sometimes confided in by others. Lackspatience when others are speaking. Hassome capacity to listen, understand, andgive feedback, but such skills are notadequately developed.

Often considered understanding andsupportive by others. Listensattentively–giving frequent indication ofboth hearing and deeply understanding thesituation being described. Evokes a highlevel of trust and security in interpersonalrelationships.

Sometimes I have a hard time listening toother people. I prefer not to be aroundpeople I don’t like. I tend not to likepeople who are different from me. Ifstrong emotions are involved, I can getdefensive. I need to learn how to listen topeople, how to respect our differences andaccept myself and others as we are.

I’m not the most sensitive person in theworld, but when I work at it I can come tounderstand what most people are sayingand feeling. They seem to know that whenthey get my attention, I am able to listenwell to what they are trying tocommunicate.

I can really understand other people verywell, no matter who they are. I can almostwalk in their shoes. My ability to gainacceptance from a wide variety of peopleis one of my strong suits. And thathappens because people feel understoodand valued by me–even people who aredifferent from me.

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SKILL DIMENSION 3: CAREER/LIFE SKILLS

DRIVE STRENGTH/MOTIVATION (DS): Motivation, Goal Setting: Your score on this skill is an indicationof how you view your ability to marshal your energy and motivation toward the accomplishment of personalgoals. Persons scoring high (skill to enhance) on Drive Strength appear to share and live by many of thevalues of self-actualizing people. High Drive Strength appears to be related to high self-regard and inner-directedness. A low score (skill to develop) may indicate difficulty in setting and accomplishing goals, areluctance to experiment or take risks, and a lack of energy or motivation. Low Drive Strength may lead to anunyielding stance and resistance to a change in direction or an active course of action. An offshoot of lowDrive Strength is often a refusal to accept responsibility for one’s actions.







DECISION MAKING (DM): Your score on the Decision Making scale of The Personal Skills Map indicatesyour perceived skill in formulating and initiating effective problem-solving procedures. Persons scoring high(skill to enhance) on Decision Making tend to be self-actualizing, assertive, and inner-directed. Gooddecision–making skills are an important element in mental health. The ability to make decisions is a keyingredient of self-acceptance and positive self-regard. A low score (skill to develop) on this scale indicates alack of decision-making skills and difficulty in solving problems.

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Lacks energy and enthusiasm. Rarelyinitiates projects or works independently.Fails to set goals and work steadily towardcompletion. Has difficulty completingwork assignments or keepingcommitments.

Can set goals and carry out responsibilitiesunder certain circumstances. Has energybursts where productivity and resolve arehigh, but not consistently. Needs strongexternal motivators to experience fullcommitment to projects.

Possesses strong internal motivators.Effectively directs energy and attention toachieve specific goals and objectives. Canmanage multiple tasks. Willing toexperiment and take risks. Learns from,and is further energized by failure.

Sometimes, I’m not sure where I’m going.I have a tendency to drift without clearlydefined goals or plans. If an opportunitycomes along, I might consider it or Imight not. Sometimes my initiative andenergy are low. I need to look moreclearly at my dreams, establish somegoals, and actively reach for them.

There is a general sense of direction towhere I am going with my life, and I liketo make things happen. My attention isgenerally divided in several directions atonce rather than focused on one or twospecific things. I feel motivated about mywork. I can set goals fairly well.

I have high energy, and there is noshortage of things that excite me. I can setas well as achieve my goals. I have anability to focus on what’s most importantand take action on it. It’s like having aone–track mind at that time. I never feellike I’m spinning my wheels. I knowwhere I am going and that feels good.

Has difficulty weighing alternatives andarriving at conclusions. Agonizes overchoices. Spends an inordinate amount oftime on minor as well as major decisions.Requires constant guidance andreassurance from friends or co-workers.

Has some degree of developed skill indata analysis and problem solving.Usually participates in group decision–making processes. Can anticipate someshort- and long-term consequences inrelation to available choices.

Possesses an advanced capacity tounderstand the overall context in which adecision is needed. Is generally self-assured and can apply focused criticalthinking skills to deal with a wide varietyof situations. Analyzes options and selectsan appropriate course of action quicklyand efficiently.

At times I am a procrastinator. I put offmaking decisions or solving problems.Sometimes other people have found thisfrustrating. It bothers me at times, too. Ineed to learn how to be more direct inmaking decisions and solving problems. Ineed to see that when I procrastinate, Iam, in effect, making a decision to donothing.

Decision making is not easy for me, but Ican usually do it well enough to get what Iwant. Sometimes I can solve problemseffectively and at other times I don’t do aswell. I’m not very good at analyzinginformation, but I seem to know the bestthing to do in many situations.

When I get into a bind, I can readilyassess the situation and get out of it. Ihave a process for solving problems that Iturn to when necessary. Whether bymyself or in groups, I can usually get ahandle on options and select from them anaction that generally improves things. Iam confident in my ability to analyzeinformation and then make a decision.

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TIME MANAGEMENT (TM): This scale is an assessment of your ability to organize and use time to furtherindividual and career goals. A high score (skill to enhance) on Time Management is related to high self-regard, a sensitivity to one’s own needs, and perseverance in completing tasks. A low score (skill to develop)may indicate a lack of skill or inability to organize time, difficulty in completing daily tasks, and a tendencyto let events control one’s actions rather than take charge and fulfill self-imposed commitments.

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SALES ORIENTATION/LEADERSHIP (SO): Leadership, Interpersonal Impact, Persuasiveness: This scorereflects your assessment of how well you can influence people and have a positive impact on them. A highscore (skill to enhance) indicates self-assured behavior and assertiveness in one’s relationships with others.Persons scoring high on this scale may assume leadership of a group and demonstrate enthusiasm, energy, andwarmth. A low score (skill to develop) may indicate a perceived inability to have an impact on others or a lackof skill in influencing others. Persons scoring low on this scale may be unable to see themselves as having apositive influence on others and may be uncomfortable or timorous in their approach to others.

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Does not utilize organizational tools andprocedures. Prone to procrastination.Work area may be cluttered and in aconstant state of disarray. Is unable toprioritize work, exercise focus, andaccomplish tasks systematically.

Usually meets deadlines by doing 80% ofthe work in the last 20% of available time.Practices some proven time-managementstrategies. Experiences frustration when itis necessary to progress on several taskssimultaneously.

Plans effectively for use of time.Prioritizes work, manages interruptions,and stays on task without neglecting on-going responsibilities. Regularly appliesnew techniques and technologies toincrease efficiency and performance.

It seems that I never have enough time toget everything done. I spend a lot of timeworrying about this. I can work a lot ofhours, but somehow, a million differentinterruptions prevent me from getting theimportant stuff done. There often seem tobe too many loose ends. I need to learnhow to plan my time more effectively sothat the things that are truly important tome get done.

Usually, I am on top of what I have to do.At least the important things get done.When I’m hassled, I work a little harder atbeing organized and pull through it okay.I’m not a super-organized person, but Ican be when absolutely necessary. I don’twant to spend more than so much energyworrying about unfinished projects.

When I have a lot to do, I draw up a planfor myself and follow it. When people tryto interrupt, I politely tell them to wait. Iuse my time effectively, and I feel well-organized most of the time. I do not feelpulled apart in all directions. I avoidprocrastinating as much as possible. Ischedule my time for learning, thinking,planning, and doing. I continually look forways to improve my organizational skills.

Has difficulty getting ideas across. Rarelymakes a lasting impression on people inthe work environment or otherorganizational settings. Unable to guide orinfluence decision-making processes.Frequently changes position on issues.Often caught in contradiction.

Occasionally emerges as the lead figure ingroup and team activities. Has someinfluence over decisions and actions thatimpact the work of others. Can sometimesarticulate purpose in a way that fosterscommitment from others. Usually behavesin accordance with a consistent set ofvalues and beliefs.

Frequently functions in a leadership role.Regularly viewed by others as a rolemodel and standard setter. Facilitatesstrong commitments through clear andconsistent sharing of vision, mission, andvalues. Leads by example. Encouragesand supports others to succeed. Perceivedas highly trustworthy.

Sometimes I feel I don’t have any say onthe way things should go. Often, peopledon’t listen to my good ideas. At times Ifeel ignored. I need to learn how todevelop my ability to influence otherpeople.

In groups, my ideas are usually listened toand sometimes they are followed. I am notalways the leader, but I don’t feel like I’malways the follower either. I have about asmuch influence on others as I want. Ifrequently get the things I really want andtry for.

I am usually acting in a leadershipcapacity. I am almost always a leader ifand when I want to be. I know that I havea lot of influence on other people–on howthey think and act. I am told that I ampersuasive. Groups tend to go in thedirection I suggest. Even when othershave better ideas, my ideas are followed.

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COMMITMENT ETHIC (CE): Task Completion: Your score on this scale indicates your perceived skill inyour ability to complete projects and job assignments dependably and successfully. Persons scoring high (skillto enhance) on Commitment Ethic tend to be inner-directed and persevering in completing projects regardlessof difficulties encountered. These persons trust themselves and are usually perceived by others as beingdependable and committed. A low score (skill to develop) indicates a perceived inability or lack of skill infollowing through to meet responsibilities and commitments. These individuals may have a tendency to takeon projects and then let them lapse because of a lack of commitment.

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SKILL DIMENSION 4: PERSONAL WELLNESS SKILLS

STRESS MANAGEMENT (SM): Your score on this scale reflects your perceived skill in managing stress andanxiety. A high score (skill to enhance) indicates that you have developed skills for managing stress positively.Persons scoring high on Stress Management are competent managers of time, flexible, self-assured, stable,and self-reliant. Good Stress Management skills are essential to creative and healthful living and are a keyelement of a healthy personality. A low score (skill to develop) indicates an inability or lack of skill in dealingwith stress. Extremely low stress management skills may result in negative reactions to life stress withbehavioral patterns and habits that may be psychologically or physically self-destructive. Eating and sleepdisturbances and physical symptoms such as persistent headaches, digestive problems, and hypertension arenegative reactions to life stress and the results of stress skill deficits.

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Rarely stays with a task or project frombeginning to end. Has limited sense ofconnection to organizational goals andpurpose. Has difficulty relating immediatetasks to long term benefits. Experiences fewinternal or external motivational factors.

Has some sense of involvement and feelsthat work is important and appreciated byothers. Usually sticks with tasks andprojects to completion. Understandspersonal role in organizational mission.

Can always be relied upon to completework, even when setbacks are encountered.Is internally rewarded when commitmentsare met. Works effectively under pressure.Has strong sense of belonging and strivesfor quality as well as quantity.

I often find myself feeling tired in themiddle of a project. If the project becomesmore difficult, I just feel that much moreexhausted. I would like to deliver betterthan I do. I tend to leave things until it’stoo late. I need to learn how to keep myenergy flowing in the middle of anydifficult task so that I can finish it in themost effective and efficient manner.

In general, I am dependable. I can becounted on even though I am not amarathon person. Sometimes I jump fromone thing to the next and afterwards wish Ihad stayed to the end to get the reward Ihad worked for. If something is important,I finish it; but on other things, Iprocrastinate.

I complete projects no matter what andmy word is good. If I say, “I’ll do it’, I’lldo it, no matter what. I’m durable, andI’m there for the duration. It may not beperfect, but it’ll be done, even if I have towork all night to finish it. Mycommitment has no exceptions.

Often experiences physiological symptomssuch as anxiety, hypertension, headaches,digestive problems, and insomnia. Life styleincludes few opportunities for relaxation.Does not enjoy work. Behaviors reflectimpatience towards others.

Is usually comfortable and easy goingaround classmates/co-workers. Has non-destructive outlets for revitalizing self andrelief of tension. Confronts pressure withreasonable stability. Experiences limitedinstances of irritability and tension.

Consistently enjoys a healthy andproductive life style. Incorporates a widearray of self-nurturing and growth activities.Experiences few physical problems. Viewedas steadfast and calm in crisis situations.Always approachable by others.

Sometimes, I feel overwhelmed and not incontrol. This creates stress which onlyincreases my feelings of anxiety in the face ofeverything that needs to get done. I just don’tsee when I’m going to get time to relax. Ineed to learn how to relax in the middle of allthe anxiety. I need to learn how to use thetension creatively to boost my energy so that Ican accomplish whatever comes my way.

I have a lot of stress right now, but I can’t sayit gets me down. I usually am on top of it. Ireserve some stress-free moments to refreshmyself. I could manage myself better than Ido, but I’m not doing badly either.

I manage my life well. I work hard, but don’tfeel under more stress than I want. I feelsatisfied and in charge of myself. I enjoysome tension, and it never gets me down. Ihave learned to relax and do it. Whenstressful situations occur, I know they willend. In fact, some stress keeps me sharp.

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SKILL DIMENSION 4: PERSONAL WELLNESS SKILLS

PHYSICAL WELLNESS (PW): Your score on this Personal Skills Map scale reflects the extent to whichyou have currently developed healthy attitudes and living patterns that are important to your physical healthand well being. Physical Wellness is closely related to positive stress management and self-esteem asmeasured by the Personal Skills Map. A high score (skill to enhance) on this scale indicates that you seeyourself as a person who has developed healthy self-control of potentially harmful behavior patterns and who iscurrently physically healthy. A low score (skill to develop) indicates perceived problematic behaviors and theawareness of a personal need to further develop life skills that are important to physical and emotional health.

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SKILL DIMENSION 5: PROBLEMATIC BEHAVIOR

YOUR INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION MAP: How effectively you communicate with others is animportant element in effective interpersonal relationships. The communication styles of InterpersonalAssertion (IA), Aggression (IAg), and Deference (ID) identify your primary and secondary communicationstyles. Interpersonal Assertion is manifested in direct, honest, and appropriate communication of thoughts andfeeling to others. Note: The score for Interpersonal Assertion is found in SKILL DIMENSION II:INTERPERSONAL SKILLS . Interpersonal Aggression and Interpersonal Deference are negatively correlatedto the other skills on the Personal Map. High scores on these skills may indicate self-defeating communicationstyles.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR COMMUNICATION STYLE: Most persons use all three communication styles(assertion, aggression, and deference) to some extent in all their communications with others. Your highestscore on these three scales indicates your primary communication style, and the next highest score indicatesyour secondary style.

If your highest score is in Assertion, that is your primary interpersonal communication style. That is, youemploy direct, honest, and appropriate expression of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in communication withothers. A high (primary) score on either Aggression or Deference my indicate a lack of communication skillsor the need to adjust them. An effective assertion style is important for a healthy personality. An excess ofeither aggression or deference in interpersonal communication negatively impacts on all the other personalskills and gives rise to self-defeating behaviors.

Lacks appreciation and understanding ofthe importance of taking care of thephysical self. Never exercises, possessesproblematic behaviors related tomaintaining a healthy life style. Possessesno control over self-destructive behaviors.

Sometimes demonstrates a healthy attitudetoward taking care of the physical self.Can demonstrate some self-control overself-destructive behaviors. Sometimesexercises.

Demonstrates a healthy attitude towardtaking care of the physical self. Exercisesregularly. Possesses self-control ofpotentially harmful behavior patterns. Hascontrol over personal emotions and isphysically healthy.

I do not take care of myself. At times, Ifeel that it is hopeless,and don’t reallycare what happens to me. I have littlecontrol over my self-destructive behavior.I know that for a person my age I am notin great shape. I need to learn to takebetter care of myself.

I can sometimes do the things that arenecessary to maintain my health. At timesI see myself as leading a good and healthylife. I am also aware that at times I justdon’t care to take care of myself. I know Ican do better, but I’m doing OK for now.

I take care of my physical self every day. Iexercise daily, I eat the right foods and getplenty of rest. I can easily avoidpotentially harmful behaviors all the time.I am in control of my emotions and myphysical health.

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INTERPERSONAL AGGRESSION (IAg): A measurement of the degree to which an individual employs apersonal communication style that violates, overpowers, dominates, or discredits the other person’s rights,thoughts, feelings, or behaviors. A high score on this scale may indicate insensitivity toward others and lowself-acceptance expressed by hostile and attacking behaviors in interpersonal exchanges. High InterpersonalAggression is related to the personality characteristics of rebelliousness, resentment, and oversensitiveresponse to real or imagined affronts.

INTERPERSONAL AGGRESSION


❐ LOW ❐ NORMAL ❐ HIGH




INTERPERSONAL DEFERENCE (ID): A measurement of the degree to which an individual employs apersonal communication style that is indirect, self-inhibiting, self-denying, and ineffectual for the accurateexpression of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. A high score on this scale may indicate a lack of skill ininterpersonal dealings and difficulty in standing up to others. High Interpersonal Deference is related to thepersonality characteristics of apprehensiveness, shyness, and over-sensitivity to threat or conflict.

INTERPERSONAL DEFERENCE





Communication style is positive andforthright. Rarely displays ill-temper oraggressiveness when interacting withothers. Experiences positive self-regardand is open and comfortable.

Consistently demonstrates self-control inmost interpersonal transactions. Toleratesand accommodates diverse perspectiveseven in an atmosphere of heatedcontroversy.

Communicates in an offensive mannerthat violates, discredits, and/or dominatesanother’s thoughts and feelings. Activelyavoided by others. Frequently defensiveand uncompromising in group processes.

I know how to control my temper. When Ido get angry, I control my thoughts andwords and do not violate the rights ofothers. When someone is angry with me, Ican defuse the situation and calm thatperson down. I don’t come on too strongin social situations. I accept others’ views.

I sometimes come on a little too strong,but for the most part I can control mystatements. I can tolerate and accept otherpeoples’ views most of the time. In orderto get my point across, I sometimes get alittle pushy. I do try to respect otherpeoples’ views and feelings.

I always get what I want no matter whatthe cost to other people. I force my wayinto conversations and interrupt people. Ido not respect the rights of other people. Iam often defensive and uncompromisingwith others.

Predominantly self-assured, confident,and direct in interpersonal transactions.Has little difficulty defending positions onissues and adhering to personal principlesand values.

Comfortable and forthright in mostinteractions with individuals and groups.Usually assertive and persistent in arespectful and professional manner. Willgenerally strive to find mutuallyacceptable solutions in conflictivesituations.

Frequently apprehensive and timid indealings with others. Unable to articulatea position and usually concedes defeatwhen interests conflict. Self-denying andoverly sensitive.

I can defend my positions easily. I do notlet people walk over me. I feelcomfortable in initiating conversationswith others. I feel comfortable imposingon others when I need to. When someoneasks me to do something I don’t want to, Ifeel comfortable saying “no” to them.When someone is angry with me, I cancalmly state my reasons for my actions.

Sometimes I can defend my positions.When I am angry with someone, I amusually calm and relaxed and expressmyself. Most of the time I feelcomfortable in initiating conversationswith others. Most of the time I can getwhat I want without having to back downon my demands.

I can never defend my position. I oftenfeel apprehensive, shy, and timid indealing with others. When in an argument,I usually back down and let the otherperson win. I often become overlysensitive to others’ comments. I usually letothers get their way.

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Your Personal Map and Interpersonal Communication Map chart your current assessment of eleven personalskills and indicate what you perceive as your primary and secondary communication styles. The score on yourPersonal Change Orientation is an indication of the magnitude of change you perceive as desirable fordeveloping your personal and professional effectiveness.

Research has demonstrated that self-assessed change areas (high scores) on the Interpersonal Aggression(IAg), Interpersonal Deference (ID), and Change Orientation (CO) scales may reflect self-defeatingbehaviors. Three or more low scores (skills to develop) on any of the eleven Personal Skills Map skillsscales, a primary communication style of either Interpersonal Aggression (IAg) or Deference (D), and a highscore on Change Orientation (CO), present a definite awareness and recognition of the need for specifictraining in skill enhancements in order to expand personal skills, improve interpersonal relationships, andpromote career/life effectiveness.

CHANGE ORIENTATION (CO): Your score on this scale indicates the degree to which you are motivatedand ready for change in the skills measured by the Personal Skills Map. Change Orientation is negativelycorrelated to all personal skill scales except Interpersonal Aggression and Interpersonal Deference. A highscore on Change Orientation indicates dissatisfaction with current skills and a strong conviction of the need tomake personal changes.

Persons scoring high on this Personal Skills Map scale manifest an awareness and a need for personal change.Feelings of stress, anxiety, and tension regarding current behavior may be characteristic of persons scoring highon this scale. Low scores on Change Orientation indicate satisfaction with current skills and behavior.






Highly satisfied with existing skill levelsand behavioral conduct. Confident, self-accepting and possessive of a profoundinternal sense of personal strength andcompetence across a wide range ofindicators.

Generally satisfied with current level ofability and strength in most critical areas.Aware of and actively addressing skilldevelopment needs.

Intensely conscious of skill deficiency in anumber of areas crucial for personalsuccess. Frequently ruminates andexperiences anxiety over inability tofunction effectively in many settings.Thoughts and feelings dominated bypessimism.

I am satisfied with myself. I don’t see theneed to make many changes in mybehavior because things are going well asthey are. I feel comfortable with myself,and I know I am a very competent personwho has a lot to give. I am satisfied in theway I perform my work. I am successfulat work and in life in general.

I know I need to improve in some areas,but for the most part I feel pretty goodabout myself. I see the need to make a fewminor adjustments in my behaviors. I feelpretty good about my ability to handleproblems in conflictive situations. I needjust a little more work in a few areas, andI will be very successful.

I know I need to make a lot of changes inmy life if I am going to be a successfulperson. My outlook is poor unless I makethe necessary changes.

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