The Spent Arrow The Spoken Word, and the Lost Opportunity Are Gone Forever St. Paul

The Spent Arrow The Spoken Word,

and the Lost Opportunity Are Gone Forever

St. Paul

You Can’t Step In The Same River

Twice

Heraclitus

How many psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb?

Stephen D. Aloia, Ph.D.California State University, Fullerton

“Home of the Mighty Titans”

“The Passionate State of Mind”

If I’m not fired with enthusiasm, I should be fired with enthusiasm

I’ve Always Been A Green Kind of Guy…I’m Irish, I Love Kermit The Frog, and

My favorite color is U.S. Currency Green

If we could shrink the earth’s population to a village of

precisely 100 people, with all existing human ratios

remaining the same, it would look something like the

following:

57 Asians21 Europeans

8 Africans14 From the Western

Hemisphere

52 Would Be Female48 Would Be Male

30 Would Be White70 Would Be Nonwhite

30 Would Be Christian70 Would Be Non-Christian

80 Would Live In Substandard Housing

70 Would Be Unable To Read

50 Would Suffer From Malnutrition

1 Would Be Near Death1 Would Be Near Birth

1 Would Have A College Education

1 Would Own A Computer

6 People Would Possess 59% of the World’s Wealth

And All Six Would Be From The United States

If you have a refrigerator, clothes on your back,

a roof overhead and a place to sleep,you are richer than 75%

of this world.If you have money in the bank,

in your wallet, and spare change,you are among the top 8% of the

world’s wealthy.

Makes You Think Appreciate

WonderContemplate…

The words Think and Thank come from the same stem.“Thoughtful people are

thankful”

I am a teacherSimply that!

The Emperor’s Club

Teacher Theme SongsOnly you can make …

We will, we will ….We are the champions …

Teacher Mottos

Dudo ergo sum…Cogito ergo sum…Teacho ergo sum…

The Matrix

Neo, You Are The One

PoetsThe Teacher As PoetThe Movie “Contact”

Jodi Foster “They should have

sent a poet”

Nothing Happens By Chance

I believe I am here for a very specific and important reason

We are here for a reason

My Heroes

QuixoteLombardi & Wooden

King ArthurSister Philomena 8th Grade

I must give my kids faith and hope in the future, the skills to be successful and

pride in who they are

Aristotle

A Best Friend Looks Out For Your Moral Welfare

Best Vitamin

Allow Others To Give

Maslow

The Safe & Secure Classroom

My Classroom - My Choice Always A Heaven …

Never A …

All children want to be loved

and feel lovable

Every Child Deserves To Be Loved

and Feel Lovable

Every Child Wants To Learn

Every Child Wants To Shine

Every Child Wants To Be Challenged

Go With Their StrengthsPiaget

The Moment You Step in the Right Direction,

Providence Steps With You…Goethe

It is an insult to catch a fish without knowing how to fish...

(A River Runs Through It)

It is an insult to teach without knowing how to teach…

He who cannot focus…Cannot enjoy life…

St. Ambrose

I must teach self-discipline

Don’t Let Schoolin’ Get in the Way of Your Education

Mark Twain

“The most deadly of all possible sins is the mutilation

of a child’s spirit”

Erik Erickson

Learning Is Intrinsically Motivating

Maria Montessori

“The Purpose of Education is To Make Men Good”

Plato The Republic

What will your contribution be?

How will the world remember you?

Successive Approximations?

We sow a thought and reap an actWe sow an act and reap a habit

We sow a habit and reap a characterWe sow a character and reap a

destiny

Thackeray

I am a Teacher-Preacher-Parent-Coach

Confucius vs. AristotleConfucius taught by proverbsAristotle taught by analysis Both gave us a guide to the

“Good Life”

Enobelize My ClassroomRichard The Lion Hearted

Mary The MagnificentElaine The Faire

A Class NameA Class MottoA Class Flower

A Class FlagA Class Song

A Monthly ThemeA Monthly Goal

Maxims for LifeNever Give Up – Never SurrenderTo The Pure All Things Are Pure

Actions Speak Louder Than WordsIt’s Better to Give Than To Receive

Where There’s A Will There’s A WayThe Best Is Yet To Come

Chance Favors the Prepared MindHonesty is the Best Policy

Axioms & AphorismsHealth is Wealth

Perfect Practice Makes PerfectPaddle Your Own CanoeCourtesy Costs Nothing

This Too Shall PassOne Lie Makes Many

A Thing of Beauty is A Joy Forever

Now…The Change Matrix

But first…The Past ≠ The Future

I can change the future…

Scrooge“Are these the shadows of the things that will be

Or are they the shadows of things that may only be?Men’s courses will foreshadow certain ends, to which, if

persevered in, they must lead, said Scrooge.

“But if the courses be departed from, the ends will change.Say it is thus with what you show me!

Assure me that I yet may change these shadows you have shown me by an altered life?

I will honor Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year.

I will live in the past, the present, and the future.The spirits of all three shall strive within me.

I shall not shut out the lessons that they teach.”

Change Matrix(Jacqueline Thousand – CSU San Marcos)

Goals Skills Incentives Resources Action Plan Change

ClearRealistic

ChallengingDesired

ApplicationAnalysisSynthesis

Evaluation

MeaningfulPurposeIntrinsicExtrinsic

CommitmentTime

SupportOpportunity

LogicalSystematicProceduralPrincipled

Success




ClearRealistic

ChallengingDesired


Evaluation

MeaningfulHave Purpose

IntrinsicExtrinsic

TimeOpportunity

SupportCommitment


Success

Goals Skills Incentives Resources Action Plan Anxiety



ClearRealistic

ChallengingDesired


Evaluation


IntrinsicExtrinsic

TimeOpportunity

SupportCommitment


Success

Goals Skills Incentives Resources Action Plan Frustration



ClearRealistic

ChallengingDesired


Evaluation


IntrinsicExtrinsic

TimeOpportunity

SupportCommitment


Success

Goals Skills Incentives Resources Action Plan Anger



ClearRealistic

ChallengingDesired


Evaluation


IntrinsicExtrinsic

TimeOpportunity

SupportCommitment


Success

Goals Skills Incentives Resources Action Plan False Start




ClearRealistic

ChallengingDesired


Evaluation


IntrinsicExtrinsic

TimeOpportunity

SupportCommitment


Success

Willingness to ChangeX

Desire To Learn

Four Stages of Change

Unconscious IncompetenceConscious IncompetenceConscious Competence

Unconscious Incompetence

The Metaphors ofThe

Teaching - LearningDynamic

Great Model for ChangeBut…

We are creatures who typically seek stability and resist change

“Fight or Flight”

Unless you get …“An offer you can’t refuse”

Change will only be as successful as your desire to change.

For example:Getting in shape

We all know…

Rest - Exercise - Diet

Knowledge isn’t the answer…

You Need LeverageYou Need Motivation

You Need Attitude

But Still….What is it about some people

that makes them more willing and open to change?

Pain vs. Pleasure Approach – Avoidance

Psychology

The Pain – Pleasure Matrix

If You Do It Now If You Don’t Do It NowPain

Pleasure

The Power Of A Good Question

It focuses your attentionIt helps eliminate extraneous It draws upon your resources

People who are positive are not intimidated by change.

They Focus on the PositiveThey Count Their Blessings

They See The Glass as Half FullThey See Themselves As Part of

A Greater CauseThey Believe They Can Make A

DifferenceThey Are Grateful for Life

In sum…

They see a purpose in their lives…Their world is meaningful…

Its not simply personality…

Research ShowsIt is a learned behavior…

Its All About “An Attitude of Gratitude”

Martin SeligmanMihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Edward DenierSonja Lyubomirsky

Robert EmmonsPositive Psychologists

If that doesn’t do it…Let’s see if we can have a

paradigm shift by viewing our role somewhat metaphorically.

Try to imagine yourself as…

The Teacher

As Conductor

Our Children As …

The Teacher

As Composer

Our Children As…

The Teacher

As Coach

Our Children As…

The Teacher As

ArchitectRichard MeierAlbert Kahn

Renzo Piano Kenzo Tange

Ieoh Ming Pei

Gottfried Boehm

Alvarzo Siza

Frank Owen Gehry

Frank Lloyd Wright

Our Children

As …

The Teacher

As Gardner

Our Children As…

The Teacher

As Artist

Our Children As …

The Teacher

As Travel Agent

If all that doesn’t enhance your capacity for change,

I don’t know what will…

In closing let me offer the following…

Anne of Green GablesAnne Shirley

“Thank you, Miss Stacey, for giving us the chance to make

something of ourselves”

The Village BlacksmithHenry Wadsworth Longfellow

“Thanks, thanks to thee my worthy friend,For the lessons thou hast taught!Thus, at the flaming forge of lifeOur fortunes must be wrought;

Thus, on its sounding anvil shapedEach burning deed and thought!”

“After you understand all about the sun, the stars, and the rotation of the earth, you may

still miss the radiance of a sunset.”Alfred North Whitehead

“Our goal is to stimulate the kind of educational environment that nourishes not only your skills, but also your capacity for awareness, empathy, communication with

your fellow human beings, and an appreciation of a sunset…”

Harold Lyons

Taylor MaliWhat do I make? My Salary?

As a teacher?I make children wonder, question, criticize,

apologize and mean it, take responsibility for their actions, write and write and write, show all their math work, and I make them realize that if

they use the gifts they were given, work hard, and follow their hearts, they can succeed.

You want to know what I make? I make a difference!

The EndFinis

Your 3 X 5 CardGender

Age Group 20s 30s, 40s 50s 60sCurrent Position

Years experience in education

Gandhi Once Cautioned …

There are seven forms of passive violence…

1. Wealth Without Work

2. Pleasure Without Conscience

3. Knowledge Without Character

4. Politics Without Principles

5. Commerce Without Morality

6. Science Without Humanity

7. Worship Without Sacrifice

Wealth Without Work Pleasure Without Conscience

Knowledge Without CharacterPolitics Without Principles

Commerce Without MoralityScience Without HumanityWorship Without Sacrifice

The Answer To All of These Concerns Is

Education

Every Morning Ask Yourself

How can I make this a good day for:

My familyMy co-workers

Myself

P Q F A PPurpose

QuestionsFocus

AttitudePerformance

Getting Rid Of Bad ExperiencesAnthony Robbins Swish Technique

Create the Negative You Attach the Positive You

With Rubber Bands and Pull Back and Let the Positive You Smash Into the Negative You

Martin SeligmanUniversity of Pennsylvania

“Almost every person feels happier when they are with other people.”

“Gratitude Visits” Write a testimonial thanking a

teacher, pastor or grandparent – visiting and read it to him or her.

(Three Month Turbo-Charge)

Words of GratitudeRobert A. Emmons & Joanna Hill

“We have learned from the research that grateful people elicit more

support from others. They cope better, have better health,

and are more socially adaptable.”

Martin SeligmanUniversity of Pennsylvania

“It is in giving that we receive…”“Giving Connects You To Others”

They Give More To Others…“Generosity, humor, gratitude, zest,

and kindness,” are better than “curiosity, love, and learning,” when it comes to establishing a

positive attitude.”

Sonja LyubomirskyUniversity of California, Riverside

Positive People…Count their blessings

Practice acts of kindnessSavor life’s joysThank a mentorLearn to forgive

Invest time and energy in friends and familyTake care of their body

Develop strategies for dealing with stress and hardships(One liners work well) Sonja recommends a

“Count Your Blessings Daily Journal”

Words of GratitudeRobert A. Emmons & Joanna Hill

“There are five places where people all over the world commonly seek purpose”

Work Family

Community The Natural World

Faith

This is all so nifty….

How do I get leverage on myself to make myself a better person?

As Teachers grateful peoplelove their work,

feel fulfilled, enjoy being a teacher,

realize they are needed and wanted…

The Past ≠ The Future“Are these the shadows of the things

that will be?Or are they the shadows of things that

may only be?Men’s courses will foreshadow

certain ends, to which, if persevered in,

they must lead, said Scrooge.”A Christmas Carol

Charles Dickens

Edward DenierUniversity of Illinois

What are your major sources of happiness?

Your Children 77%Your friendships 76%

Contributing to others 75%Your spouse or your love life 73%

Your degree of control over your life 66%Your leisure time 64%

Your relationship with your parents 63%Your religious or spiritual life 62%

Holiday periods such as Christmas and New Years 50%

As A Man ThinkethJames Allen - 1902

“Man is made or unmade by himself. In the armory of thought he forges the weapons by which

he destroys himself. He also fashions the tools with which he builds for himself heavenly

mansions of joy, strength, and peace. By the right choice and true application of thought man ascends to

Divine perfection.By the abuse of and wrong application of thought

he descends below the level of the beast. Between these two are all the grades of character

and man is their maker and master.Of all the beautiful truths pertaining to the soul, none is more gladdening

or fruitful of Divine Promise and confidence than this: That man is the master of thought and the maker and shaper of

condition, environment and destiny.”

“We ask God for all things that we might enjoy life…

And we are given life that we might enjoy all things”

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The Spent Arrow The Spoken Word, and the Lost Opportunity Are Gone Forever St. Paul