The Problem of Cultural Marriages Marriage is, by definition, a union of two individuals committing to love each other forever. Unfortunately, in many

places throughout the world, this is not at all what marriage is in practice. Cultural marriages often have little to no

free will element in them, so people feel sucked into and stuck in the most important relationship of their lives. I’m

not even talking about forced marriages or other human rights violations; I’m talking about marriages that people

enter into because they feel it’s the “right” and “expected” thing to do, and later realize that they don’t even know

what caused them to make a decision that they ended up deeply regretting.

People make choices for several reasons. Some of these reasons reside deep in the subconscious. Ask anyone who is

entering into a traditional cultural marriage soon, and they may not say that any of these factors play a part, but

they probably are actually central to the decision:

Fear of criticism and judgment

Fear of taking full responsibility for one’s life

The need to please others

The fear of what one’s family will think of one

The feeling of being responsible for the happiness of others.

These emotional programs keep people from being able to make their own healthy decisions about their lives. They

lead them to marry controlling, needy people who suck the life out of them. Many people who marry for these

reasons find themselves married to spouses who are themselves stuck in negative patterns of low self-esteem and

low self-worth. Such spouses often exhibit some or all of the following behaviors:

The fear of being alone

The need for others to constantly text, call, or email

Overpowering feelings of jealousy

The fear of making decisions and taking responsibility

The need to possess one’s partner

Temper tantrums

A controlling personality

The need to please others

Attention-seeking behavior

Self-aggrandizing behavior

The need to be taken care of by others

The feeling of being a child in an adult body

Low self-esteem, low self-worth, and low self-confidence

The feeling of being empty inside

The feeling that there is something wrong with one

The feeling of being unattractive

The need for validation and acceptance from others.

Spouses who suffer from these limiting thoughts and beliefs often:

Have few of their own interests or hobbies

Are afraid of rejection

Are afraid of abandonment

Are shy

Are unsure of themselves

Repeatedly make bad relationship choices

Are rejected repeatedly

Are self-sacrificing

Need to be rescued.

These behaviors have one common thread: neediness. Neediness is a problem that will plague your relationship and

your life if you let it.

The items listed above happen when people come from families with dysfunctional relationships. The memories of

these relationships are stored in the subconscious mind, even if the conscious mind is no longer aware of them.

These memories create programming, or conditioning, which determines one’s self-confidence, sense of adequacy,

feelings of attractiveness, and total self-worth throughout adulthood.

When we have negative memories in our childhood, this creates a deep emptiness that we seek to fill by gathering

others around us. The problem is that when we are needy, other people become overwhelmed and leave. This

reinforces our feelings of not being good enough. Everyone just wants to be loved, wanted, validated, and

appreciated, deep down.

The part that is difficult to understand is that we will never get these needs met from other people outside of us.

Only we can meet these needs, and only from sources of strength that we have within.

The Source

So where is the source of this strength?

Over a decade ago, a group of scientists discovered that negative memories cause these feelings of worthlessness

and emptiness. This emptiness happens when our Life Force Energy becomes depleted. The good news is that this

process can be halted and even reversed. When we erase our negative memories, these memories stop weighing on

our Life Force Energy. Our energy returns and our mind/body are once again reintegrated. We feel whole, complete,

attractive, confident, capable, strong, and resilient. We are able to succeed in life and have good relationships from

our own free will.

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