7/28/2019 The Metamorphosis of a Modern Child
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The Metamorphosis of a Modern Child
Marlon Rey Anacleto, RN, MAN (Major in Psychiatry)
It is easy to blame a child for not doing well in school but
have we really wondered WHY?
We blamed the new generation, the tv influence, internet
addiction, peer pressure and many
more theoretical assumptions but the TRUTH is too far away from
what YOU believe.
There are at least 27 percent of filipinos kids with absentee
parents. Most of these parents
are abroad and mostly are women. These kids experience
separation at early age as months
old. With the frequencies of meetings as rare as comets, these
kids suffer traumatic
experiences unbeknownst to us. So traumatic that it created an
impact in every personality of
a child, which determines her/his everyday decision.
The theory of Freud on the basis of stages of sexuality
accentuates the importance of trust
and independence. In concomitant application with Eriksonian
theory, we can, in detail,understand the dynamics of personality
formation. Along the process, when a child
approaches adolescence it looks for a role model on where it
could mold its pattern
according to the experential influence. The absence of it,
leaves a void and a dilemma how
to compensate for it. Our mind is an adaptable organism that
cohabits with the body and is
capable of psychological modifications just to satisfy the id
and thus adjustments are purely
compensation in behavior.
The absence of role models creates a vicious cycle
sociologically. This is a cycle incremental
in nature on the perspective of relationship disaster. This is
the ultimate family wrecker! The
absence also deprives the person from proceeding with the next
developmental task,creating a stunted emotional growth progress.
The earliest the separation, the greater the
stunting of the emotional progress. That void inadvertently
created a need, a need to be
indentified as another identity. Nonetheless, that need
progressed disastrously to levels
where a person could no longer find some coherence in their
identity or a decrementing loss
in self-confidence.
That depreciating confidence attains orgasmic proportions, which
influences the ego and
decides to terminate the organism within. The outcome culminates
where one could no
longer identify a stress or a problem. It becomes numb! It
refuses to identify reality and seeks
an alternative option only on acceptable limits. He now becomes
stress-free, happy andinsane!
The percentage of children, whose maladaptive familial
environment is growing everyday
because man wants to be mobile, away from their own children if
not treat their kids like
things subject to their own domain as if they are not parents.
We have a scenario of social
disaster in waiting. Its a time bomb without a boom but it will
left mankind gasping and
grasping; trying to look for some plausible solutions that might
perhaps alleviate this social
disaster.
People will be totally confused with their own identity, parents
will be treated as mere
variables applied in theoretical proposals.
Retroactive circumspection might be beneficial for now! It might
perhaps aggravate our
sensitivities and unalienable desire to be resolute in modifying
the present-day social
environment and avert future crises! Awareness is our first
prerogative to address the
