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TEMPLE BETH ISRAEL

SWEET AS HONEY

HIGH HOLY DAY PROGRAMTHE ART OF APOLOGISING

WISHING YOU AND YOUR FAMILY A SWEET NEW YEAR

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TBI STAFF

Tammy Cohen B’NEI MITZVAH COORDINATOR

ext 815 [email protected]

Max Einsohn EDUCATION & ENGAGEMENT COORDINATOR ext 808 [email protected]

RABBI Kim Ettlinger [email protected]

Chris Gounis FINANCE COORDINATOR ext 807 [email protected]

CANTOR Michel Laloum [email protected]

RABBI Gersh Lazarow [email protected]

Rhonda Nirens ADMIN ASSISTANT - COMMUNAL LIFE

ext 802 [email protected]

Nina Reicher COMMUNICATIONS OFFICER ext 811 [email protected]

Jenny Schulman EXECUTIVE ASSISTANT ext 803 [email protected]

Dani Silver ADMIN ASSISTANT -

RELIGIOUS LIFE AND EDUCATION ext 801 [email protected]

Fiona Zlotnik MEMBERSHIP AND EVENTS ext 809 [email protected]

BOARD MEMBERS

Dr Robert Sward PRESIDENT [email protected]

Rebecca Silk VICE PRESIDENT [email protected]

Judi Cohen VICE PRESIDENT [email protected]

Joanne Loewy Irons SECRETARY [email protected]

Alla Medownick TREASURER [email protected]

Alain Grossbard CHAIR [email protected]

Dorothy Graff [email protected]

Victor Kay [email protected]

Rysia Rozen OAM [email protected]

Joshua Fast [email protected]

Evgeny Vizelman [email protected]

Helen Shardey [email protected]

CO-OPTED

Gary Lewis [email protected]

Sue Silberberg [email protected]

David Freedman [email protected]

IMMEDIATE PAST PRESIDENT

Robert Hershan [email protected]

EX-OFFICIO

Rabbi Gersh Lazarow (Senior Rabbi) [email protected]

Rabbi Kim Ettlinger (Rabbi) [email protected]

Cantor Michel Laloum (Cantor) [email protected]

Sam Sharman [email protected]

Jenny Schulman (Exec. Assistant) [email protected]

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Publication of any/all material is at the discretion of the editor. Articles express the views of the author, not the Temple Beth Israel Board

of Governance. Articles in Kol Yisrael may be reprinted but please acknowledge your source.

TBI acknowledges that we are assembled on land whose traditional custodians are the people of the Kulin Nation.

TBI is proud to be affiliated with the Union for Progressive Judaism and Progressive Judaism Victoria.

EDITOR Rachel Wundheiler

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04 PRESIDENT’S REPORT Celebrations and

new programs

06 SWEET AS HONEY Rabbi Gersh

Lazarow’s reflections

07 MITZVAH DAY 2016 Ellen Frajman, Joanne Loewy Irons and Amy Dascal

08 FINDING MEANING IN THE MONTH OF ELUL AND BEYOND

Rabbi Kim Ettlinger

09 A SAFE AND SECURE NEW YEAR

Safety over the High Holy Days

10 THE ART OF APOLOGISING

Cantor Michel Laloum

12 WE DIDN’T CHOOSE CAMBODIA, CAMBODIA CHOSE US... Volunteer Update

14 BOOK REVIEW: “MY WORLD” BY RON TAFT

Richard Freadman

15 STAFFING UPDATE

16 NOURISH UPDATE

17 SMACHOT

18 B’NEI MITZVAH

20 LIMMUD

21 COMMUNITY EVENTS

21 MEMBERSHIP Welcome new members

22 COMMUNITY CELEBRATIONS

24 BEREAVEMENTS

26 THANK YOU

28 TBI VENUE HIRE Hire TBI for your next

function

17ON THE COVERWishing you and your family a sweet new year.

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High Holy Day tickets will be posted in early September to those who have paid their membership fees or made arrangements to do so.

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HIGH HOLY DAY TICKETSS’lichotSaturday 24 September S’lichot Service and Program 9pm

Sunday 25 September PJV Memorial Service 11am

Rosh HaShanah

Sunday 2 October Maariv 6pm

Monday 3 October Tot Service 9am

Shacharit – 1st Day 10am

Family Service

10.30am

Maariv – 2nd Day

6pm

Tuesday 4 October Shacharit – 2nd Day 10am

Tashlich (Elwood Life Saving Club) 1.30pm

Friday 7 October Kabbalat Shabbat Shuvah 6.15pm

Saturday 8 October Shacharit Shabbat Shuvah 10am

Yom Kippur

Tuesday 11 October Fast begins 7.15pm

Kol Nidre

7.15pm

Wednesday 12 October Tot Service 9am

Shacharit

10am

Family Service

10.30am

Study Session

1.30pm

Minchah

2.30pm

Healing Service

4.30pm

Yizkor

5.30pm

N’ilah

7pm

Fast concludes

8.14pm

SukkotSunday 16 October Sukkot Family Activities 4pm

Maariv

6.15pm

Monday 17 October Shacharit 10am

Friday 21 October Kabbalat Shabbat Sukkot 6.15pm

Saturday 22 October Shacharit Shabbat Sukkot 10am

Simchat Torah

Sunday 23 October Simchat Torah Family Activities 4pm

Maariv

6.15pm

Monday 24 October Shacharit Sh’mini Atzeret 10am

Yizkor

11am

High Holy Day Program 2016

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As my first year as President of TBI slips away, I remain delighted by the many high quality programs, services and events on offer. Our multi-talented rabbinic team continue to deliver an incredible number of lifecycle events every week and support our members and families in so many different ways and we can be very proud of the

wonderful work they do.

The year has had many highlights, including Pesach with our annual Second Night Community Seder and also our first TBI Women’s Seder. Shavuot featured a superbly organised and well-attended family afternoon and I was thrilled to see so many children and their families participating in the activities with Netzer happily helping out.

Until May this year we were very fortunate to have Tammy Cohen and Charlie Kramer as our musical TBI Fellows. While still singing in services, Tammy has transitioned to a new role as Coordinator of our B’nei Mitzvah program. Charlie has returned home to the US to pursue a career in leading and writing Jewish songs.

The 2016 Pesach Appeal, L’Dor Va’Dor – from Generation to Generation, focused on raising funds for Jewish life and learning through our education programs. Thanks to the generosity of our members we were able to raise most of the funds required to create a new position. Max Einsohn was appointed to this role as Education and Engagement Coordinator, which supersedes the TBI Fellows program. Max will arrive in Melbourne for an initial orientation period with us in September and I look forward to his return in November when he takes up this new important and exciting role.

TBI could not be such a vibrant community without our amazing teams of volunteers who support and deliver so many programs. The nature and extent of our programs is truly impressive and equally impressive are the ways in which we reach beyond TBI to the wider Melbourne community with initiatives such as nourish, where we provide meals for the disadvantaged every Monday evening, come rain, hail or shine.

It’s really pleasing to see the success of the extensive kitchen renovation. We now have a state-of-the-art design with large working spaces and sparkling new appliances to delight our volunteers and caterers. While the renovation program took longer than expected due to significant engineering work, this was necessary so we could remove sections of structural wall and provide an open-plan design which will serve us well into the future. The generosity of donors ensured we had sufficient funds to match a Victorian Government grant to enable the completion of this valuable project. Thank you to all those who helped to make it a reality.

Our many programs and events come at a significant financial cost and TBI relies on members to support our appeals and fundraising efforts, as membership fees alone simply do not cover the cost of all our operations.

Our 2016 Kol Nidre Appeal will refocus on our need to continue to strengthen our security. Your generosity

last year assisted us to more adequately safeguard our congregation and staff and we have achieved a lot. We now staff our entrance gate with professional guards during the week, we have established a Shul Protection Team and we have initiated physical works to better secure our building.

Sadly, as we observe the evolving nature of security threats locally and around the world, we realise there is still much to do and more funds

required to ensure optimal security for our community. During the coming High Holy Days I will be seeking your continued generosity and support as I launch the 2016 Kol Nidre Appeal.

As we move into this special period of our year, I sincerely wish you and all those near and dear to you a happy, healthy, safe and sweet New Year, and well over the fast.

PRESIDENT’S REPORTDR ROBERT SWARD

TBI could not be such a vibrant community without our amazing teams of volunteers who support

and deliver so many programs throughout our community.

The nature and extent of our programs is truly impressive...

More information about our programs and the TBI team can be viewed online.

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Experience Develop a connection with your individually tailored program

[email protected] 9510 1488 Make an appointment with the Rabbi and book ahead

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FEEDING COMMUNITY SPIRIT

Keynote Speaker: Helen Kapalos Chairperson of the Victorian Multicultural Commission

Guest Speaker: Father Bob Maguire AM

Tuesday 6 September 12pm

TBI LUNCH

Bookings: tbi.org.au Table: $800 Friend of TBI: $100Funds raised from this event will go towards expanding and improving the nourish program, undertaken in partnership with the FR Bob Maguire Foundation. tbi.org.au

Date: Sunday 4 December 2016

Time: 10am Welcome morning tea 10.30am Annual General Meeting

Venue: Main Sanctuary, 76-82 Alma Road St Kilda 3182

Community participation is encouraged. Board papers will be placed on tbi.org.au by 4 November. Please forward any questions you’d like raised to Jenny Schulman by 24 November on 03 9510 1488 (ext 803) or [email protected]

INVITATION TO REFLECT AND CELEBRATE

TBI Annual General Meeting

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In Hassidic communities, the formal education of children begins at the age of three. For boys, this is signified

by the first haircut, cutting the hair while leaving the youngster’s peiyot (side locks). Another custom is that girls begin to light a solitary candle on Friday Shabbat evening as a mark of their entry into the world of Jewish education.

Later, when these children embark on their lifelong pursuit of Torah, their first official encounter with our texts and traditions is also customary at this auspicious age. Yet the Torah that children study at this time does not involve books; there is no grappling with difficult texts, no exploring lofty ideas. Instead, children are offered an aleph-shaped biscuit. As they successfully identify the Hebrew letter, it is then dipped in honey and the children joyfully partake of this sugary treat. Thus the children are blessed in the hope that their study

of Torah should always be as sweet as honey.

Borrowing from this Hassidic tradition, we introduced a ‘Honey Ceremony’ at the start of our TBI Tamid school year in the hope that our children’s encounters with Torah will be equally engaging and alluring. At The King David School they have taken this tradition one step further by incorporating it into their daily liturgy. Students begin each day by singing a version of blessing for the study of Torah that finishes with the aspirational words: “Sweet as honey, sweet as honey, sweet as honey on our tongue. Let us soak it up, and let it all sink in, sweet words of Torah.”

The combination of tradition, metaphor and ritual works wonderfully with children but is it the ideal for Jewish adult life? Should we seek sweetness whenever we delve into our texts?

One Hassidic master felt that enjoying Torah study was not the ideal. Rabbi Yitzhak Danziger (1853-1910) quotes his father, Rabbi Yehiel (d. 1894), as deploring those who seek pleasurable Torah study. True Torah research can only be accomplished through struggle; toiling over texts while probing the depths of our traditions. Anything less is an act done for the pleasure of the individual, not out of devotion to the Almighty or commitment to our heritage. Thus, according to Rabbi Danziger, the honey-dipped letters are a childish experience that preferably should not be echoed in adulthood.

A contemporaneous Polish Hassidic master, responding to this notion, decried the ideal of not enjoying Torah study. Rabbi Avraham Borenstein (1839-1910) held that the epitome of Torah study is a pleasurable encounter with the tradition. He felt that it is only through such an idyllic experience that Torah can enter our bloodstream, becoming part of our essential nature and infusing us with life.

RABBI GERSH LAZAROW’S REFLECTIONS

SWEET AS HONEY

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TBI will once again be participating with Jewish communities around Australia for Mitzvah Day on Sunday 27 November. More details will follow closer to the date, as will an online sign-up sheet. A new addition to TBI’s Mitzvah Day weekend is a Bark Mitzvah on Saturday 26 November in the afternoon. Stay tuned for more details of this fun family activity.

While we are excited about our continuing participation in Mitzvah Day, we are equally excited about the fact that we are creating many more opportunities for our members to perform mitzvot throughout the year.

Since last Mitzvah Day many of our volunteers have returned to Ronald McDonald House and St Kilda Mums. We have also established nourish, our partnership with the Father Bob Maguire Foundation to provide hot meals every Monday night in Alma Park. A new partnership with Make-A-Wish Australia and Make-A-Wish Israel is giving our “millennials” a

chance to work together to raise funds to grant the wishes of terminally-ill children.

The recently created ‘Tikkun Project’ is a social action group for young Jewish teens who have a deep passion for hands-on social justice. It provides participants with an understanding of Jewish values (middot), tzedakah and our responsibility to the greater community.

We also have many well-established programs that are in need of more volunteers. These programs include archiving, library, shammashim, Friendship Club, Caring Community, Drop In and Chat, and the Shul Protection Team.

ELLEN FRAJMAN, JOANNE LOEWY IRONS AND AMY DASCAL - MITZVAH DAY ORGANISERS

This notion - that the apex of Torah study is an enjoyable experience - seems to be based on the words of our sages that have been canonised in our daily prayers.

In the Talmudic discussion of the blessings over Torah study, one sage believes that the benediction should include the words: “Now sweeten, Adonai, our God, the words of Your Torah in our mouths and in the mouths of Your nation, the House of Israel” (B. Berachot 11b).

So why is Jewish tradition so concerned that the study of Torah be enjoyable?

In my mind the answer is clear, because it recognises that both

children and adults will quickly tire of the authoritarian rhetoric of the Rabbi Danzigers of the world. Moreover, I would even go so far as to say that Jewish tradition has always understood that in many ways we are all in a sense “Jews by choice.” Living in a free and open world, we are able to make a personal choice: whether to embrace and connect with our Jewish self, or to set it aside and decide not to pass this gift to our children.

This premise, the fundamental idea that our primary responsibility as a community of meaning is to engage and inspire future generations, defines everything we do at Temple Beth Israel. That does not mean we

aspire only to serve the needs of our youngest members, but it does mean that if we want our children and grandchildren to love Torah and the traditions that flow from it, then we have to love it ourselves and choose to share it with them.

In selecting honey to be our symbol for these High Holy Days, we wish you and your family a year of sweetness. We are also inviting you to join us in a year of learning and growing, as we collectively recommit to being a community of meaning and a house of study.

Shana Tova U’metuka

For more information about Mitzvah Day or any of our other volunteer activities, please contact Ellen Frajman on 9510 1488 or [email protected]

Mark your calendars for Mitzvah Day 2016!

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When the month of Elul is announced from the bimah on Shabbat, my heart skips a beat as it means that Rosh HaShanah is approaching. Elul is the month preceding the High Holy Days, the Yamim Noraim. So many things happen that month. Logistically around the shul we have Cantor

Laloum in full swing with High Holy Day choir rehearsals, and we rabbis contemplating our sermons and working on the services and children’s activities.

Logistics aside, how do we prepare our n’shamot, our souls? It is virtually impossible to step into the shul on Erev Rosh HaShanah and expect to get the most out of the prayers, the sermon, the music and then ten days later emerge from Yom Kippur having reached our full potential.

So how do we use the month of Elul to spiritually and physically prepare for the Yamim Noraim? There are some customs that we adhere to. It is traditional, from the 2nd to the 28th day of Elul, to blow the shofar after morning services every weekday. If one is not in the habit of praying every day, then one can still blow the shofar. It certainly is a beautiful and unique sound that reverberates through the body and the soul.

During the month of Elul we may ask forgiveness for wrongs done to other people. Jewish tradition teaches that God cannot forgive us for sins we committed against another person until we have first obtained forgiveness from the person we have wronged.

Another tradition is the S’lichot service, which is held on the Shabbat before Rosh HaShanah, unless Rosh HaShanah falls on Sunday night, in which case it is held eight days (on the Saturday night) prior. At the service the Torah mantles are changed from their regular year-round colours to white. We begin to hear the melodies that will become so familiar to us over Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur. We feel the awe and grandeur of the services are upon us already. The excitement begins to grow from within.

The four Hebrew letters of the word Elul (aleph-lamed-vav-lamed) are the first letters of the four words Ani l’dodi v’dodi li – “I am to my Beloved and my Beloved is to me”, which are beautiful words taken from the Song of Songs (6:3). On a theological level these words sum up the relationship between God and us, the people of Israel. Others who read the book understand it to mean the love that exists between two people. When we enter this period, re-examining our faith with God and our relationship with our Judaism, it is also an important opportunity to reconnect with our families and friends.

Elul gives us the opportunity to reflect on where we stand in all four realms: our religion, culture, relationship with our family members and with our friends. It is an opportunity to examine where we succeeded and where we could have done better. If we start examining ourselves during the month of Elul, then when we sit in our seats on Rosh HaShanah and then again on Yom Kippur we will have had a head start on understanding our goals, our selves, and our place in the world.

RABBI KIM ETTLINGER

FINDING MEANING IN THE MONTH OF ELUL AND BEYOND

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The theme of Elul doesn’t end when Tishri begins, at Rosh HaShanah. While Elul is only thirty days long, this time of reflection continues into N’ilah, the last service on Yom Kippur, when the gates of heaven close after a total of forty days.

We draw the analogy to when Moses climbed Mount Sinai. A midrash (rabbinic story) teaches us that on the first of Elul Moses climbed Mount Sinai, and 40 days later, on Yom Kippur, he returned to the people with the ten commandments. For us as well the month of Elul

begins a 40-day period that culminates in our holiest day, Yom Kippur. Forty is a number that signifies cleansing and purification. Noah’s flood rains lasted 40 days, and the mikveh, the ritual purification bath, contains 40 measures of water.

Elul is an enormous opportunity to take account of our souls, to perform a cheshbon hanefesh. This year, let us take advantage of the month of Elul and find meaning in its days.

Shana Tova U’metuka

A SAFE AND SECURE NEW YEAR

• High Holy Day tickets are required to gain entry

• Paid members will receive tickets in the mail in early September

• Guest tickets ($375) must be pre-purchased by contacting [email protected] or 9510 1488 and will be available from the second week in September

• Tickets must be presented at the security check point for entry

• Bags will be checked prior to entry

• For your safety, security personnel may ask you questions or request photo identification

• For all Tot and Family Services we will require all guests to register attendance online and sign in on the day

We ask for your patience while tickets are checked and other security procedures are undertaken.

Services begin on time so please leave enough time to find parking in the surrounding area if you are not taking public transport or walking. Parking is not available on the premises. For those who require assistance with mobility there is a drop-off zone outside the Shul.

We look forward to sharing the chagim with you and hope you feel reassured that we are taking your safety seriously.

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Enrol now for 2017MACHZORIM NEEDEDThe machzorim we use over the High Holy Days are being updated, so we are no longer selling the current edition.

Please donate any spare copies

you have at home for others to use.

Thank you.

Every day of the year TBI partners with CSG (Community Security Group) and ESS (Executive Security Service) to secure our premises.

This year we are taking further measures over the High Holy Days to protect you and your family in the following ways:

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Leviticus 16 verse 29 instructs us that Yom Kippur is the day when we should “afflict our souls”. Yet what is this affliction? How do we go about it, and what is redeemed through this “affliction of the soul”?

If children are immature and adults are mature, why do adults bear

grudges while children forgive? A child who is slighted in the playground forgives quickly and ends up playing with the other child soon thereafter, yet how many of us “adults” hold grudges over weeks, months, years and decades?! A child gets angry with a parent but within hours all is forgiven, while families hold rancour even after the source of conflict is forgotten.

Children choose being happy over being “right”, while adults choose being “right” over being happy. Yet what is this “right” that we consistently choose, and why is it that we allow it to compromise our happiness? Would we truly prefer to be miserable so that we can continue to feel “self right-eous”?

From the Torah’s directive to afflict our souls, through the Mishnah and Talmud (the tractate Yoma), the concepts of error and “sin”, along with their counterparts of forgiveness and redemption, feature throughout the Jewish canon and liturgy. Primarily we take note of the vidui and ashamnu prayers during the period of S’lichot or “forgiveness”, and especially on Yom Kippur. Yet our daily liturgy contains elements of the same confession (to God) and penitentiary prayers that feature so prominently throughout Yom Kippur. These repetitions make clear that recognition of responsibility and asking for forgiveness is not a matter for a single day in the year!

The twelfth-century sage Maimonides said that true repentance requires humility, remorse, forbearance and reparation. Where forgiveness is concerned, not much has changed since the twelfth century, nor even since biblical times! Basically you have to take ownership of the offence, even if it makes you uncomfortable. Name your sin, even if (and perhaps especially because) the very act of naming and owning it is the most uncomfortable of psychological and spiritual processes.

Maimonides, in his seminal work Mishneh Torah, describes the steps for doing t’shuvah: There has to be admission and regret over the misdeed. The individual must first

fully recognise the error, regret it, apologise to those hurt (whether physically, financially or emotionally), make reparations, and only then may the individual ask God for forgiveness. The most important elements are regret and the resolve never to do it again.

Only when the aggrieved party receives an apology in which the perpetrator articulates both regret and demonstrates recognition that they were wrong will there be the possibility of true forgiveness.

Further, the apology has to be sincere and contrite, not accompanied by a litany of excuses that attempt to justify or rationalise the behaviour. We’re all familiar with conditional apologies such as: “If anyone has been hurt by my actions, I am sorry,” or “I am sorry you feel this way,” or “I didn’t do it on purpose. I had a hard day and I didn’t realise what I was doing. And why are you so sensitive about this, anyway?” These do not indicate genuine remorse and therefore do not truly heal.

Bad apologies are cagey, ungenerous, grudging attempts to avoid taking full responsibility for whatever someone is putatively apologising for. Good apologies are about stepping up, and sometimes that means apologising even if you feel you’re the wronged party. It’s an opportunity to acknowledge that there was shared responsibility and an attempt to create shalom bayit (peace in the home).

Many of us do not apologise because we are afraid of being seen as weak. A true apology, however, indicates strength. An apology is a magnanimous act, for it involves taking a bold and difficult step, perhaps at great emotional cost. Regret and remorse are key to an apology; remorse without an apology denies the parties the opportunity to heal. An apology without remorse is disingenuous. A sincere apology allows both parties to move on, stronger than they would otherwise have been.

“Who is mighty?” asks the Midrash. “One who converts an enemy into a friend.” It takes great courage to say, “I am sorry for what I did and I regret it. Please forgive me.”

As we come toward the month of Elul, the period of S’lichot, Rosh HaShanah and most especially Yom Kippur, we should have the courage and the confidence to do what is necessary to create bridges of peace between us and our loved ones, and then, ultimately, also with God.

THE DAY OF ATONEMENT AND THE ART OF APOLOGISING

CANTOR MICHEL LALOUM

Yom Kippur

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4PM - SUNDAY 23 OCTOBERCelebrate the Torah with dancing, decorating

and a pizza party.

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4PM - SUNDAY 16 OCTOBER

Bring children, grandchildren, family and friends to decorate, celebrate and

enjoy a BBQ in the TBI Sukkah. tbi.org.au

FRIDAY 21 - SATURDAY 22 OCTOBER• Friday night service • Movies • Dinner

RSVP: [email protected] tbi.org.au

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CHOOSE CAMBODIA,

CAMBODIA

CHOSE US...BY AVIV PALTI

Seven years ago our daughter Steph, then fourteen, was devastated that she missed out on a school trip to build houses for poor families in rural Cambodia.

Undeterred, we decided to take on the mission as a family, and eight weeks later the six of us from three generations were volunteering for two weeks at a school in the Cambodian countryside. Our days started at 6.30am, with 60 kids in the classroom eager to learn. We finished at 7.30pm, leaving the school by torchlight, surrounded by scores of students eagerly wanting to continue to engage with us. Those two weeks changed our lives.

Over the next two years we returned and volunteered several times and then decided to register and set up our own NGO (Non-Government Organisation) in Cambodia, the Cambodia Rural School Trust, with the mission of breaking the poverty cycle through education.

Five years on, our NGO now supports 48 students at high school and university and we run a vocational training centre in the countryside. We provide our students with the best

private high-school and university education, a monthly living allowance, daily lunches and dinners for our previously malnourished high-school students, daily English and computer classes and full health and dental care. In return our students have to apply themselves to their studies and contribute back to society. We teach them that they are the lucky ones that have an NGO to support them and that they must share their learnings and experience with their community.

Our high school students volunteer two Sundays each month running a youth club at another NGO, and for the first two years of their university studies our students volunteer for two hours each day at the local children’s hospital, schools and other not-for-profit organisations. Once a month all our students get together for a full day Community Service activity in the countryside, helping the very communities that they come from. Over the years we have built dozens of houses, planted thousands of trees, repaired countless country roads and painted many rural schools.

Our NGO is also unique because it’s managed by our students. We have taught them that an NGO is like a

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government (they had no concept of business in the early days), with a Prime Minister and several ministries. Our NGO manager position, as well as Education, Volunteering, Community Service, Sport and Health portfolios are all held by our senior students on a rotation basis. Our philosophy is to teach our students to have the confidence to be self-reliant, while giving them the skills and support they need.

Last year we opened a self-serve frozen yogurt store in Siem Reap as an educational-social enterprise, to mentor our university students on how to manage a profitable business, with the profits remaining in the NGO to sponsor more students. Our students hold roles in the Sales, Marketing, Finance, Product, HR and Operations departments for six months, and then rotate to another department. After three years they will have experienced all six major business departments and will be highly employable on graduation from university.

To encourage them to think about creating jobs when they graduate we also hold a Business School

program with visiting overseas business professionals. Our business volunteers share their knowledge over a week of invaluable exchanges and learnings.

To qualify to join our NGO, students have to be bright, motivated to study, come from poor rural families and have their families’ blessing to move to study in Siem Reap. In June this year we had almost 300 students take the test to join our NGO, including 71 students encouraged by World Vision. Our student-managers then travelled to rural provinces throughout Cambodia to interview the families of those who passed the tests to fill the fifteen places for new students.

While the Cambodia Rural School Trust is largely funded by our family, we are fortunate to have sponsors for the tuition of 22 of our

students. This year we plan to open another enterprise in Cambodia. Our vision is to make our NGO as self-sustaining as possible in supporting 100 students, providing students from poor rural families with the opportunities for the best education possible, and to inspire and empower them out of poverty and into a productive life for themselves, their families, and society.

Volunteering changes lives. Through the constant volunteering activities of our NGO family, over the past five years we are blessed to have touched the lives of thousands of some of the poorest people on the planet. We had no idea what the universe had in store for us when we set out on the path to volunteer seven years ago, when Cambodia chose us.

To learn more about the Cambodia Rural School Trust NGO and the Project Y Frozen Yogurt educational-social enterprise:

Cambodia Rural School Trust - cambodiaruralschooltrust.org

YouTube - youtu.be/jDD0eIvABTE

Project Y - facebook.com/projectyfroyo/

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One of the perils of autobiographical writing is the tendency for the author’s ego to get in the way. Ron Taft’s My World is as free from such ego-interference as such books can be. Whilst chronicling a highly successful professional career and an equally rewarding personal life, Taft strives constantly to understand and present himself as part of something much larger than his own individual story. The ‘world’ that shapes him is Jewish, domestic, intellectual, Australian, and international. Having had nine decades on the planet to process all of this (and much else) Taft writes with seasoned discernment and perspective. It comes as no surprise to read that one of his central interests as a Professor of Psychology was and continues to be the multifaceted nature of personal identity.

All of this equips him particularly well for one of the book’s main undertakings: the chronicling of his Eastern European and other forebears. My World joins many Jewish memoirs and autobiographies, here and abroad, in seeking to preserve and reconstruct the world of Eastern European Jewry. It is rare, as is the case here, for an author to be able to trace his Russian forebears all the way back to the early 1800s.

Taft writes with such deft solicitude about these people that his ‘family tree’ reads less like a diagram than a living narrative. This ability to make the past and those who peopled it come to life is a sure sign of a high-quality memoir.

The book is better described as memoir than autobiography in the sense that autobiography tends to focus very heavily upon the authorial self and its inner complexities. One of the great pleasures of My World is the experience of spending 200 pages in the company of someone who is essentially comfortable in his own skin. This, an aspect of what the philosopher David Hume called ‘proper pride’, is a very different thing from vanity or narcissism. Taft admits to areas in which he would like to have done better, but on the whole he comes across as a decent man of his generation who writes with relaxed frankness about himself.

The book has an innovative and highly successful narrative structure whereby it follows a clear chronological thread but loops back to detailed portraits of key people in his life, especially Ellen, his beloved wife of 62 years who died in 2005. With typical deftness Taft is able to convey the experience of a long

and happy marriage in which the mutual respect for boundaries was a key ingredient in an enduring love. Another highly effective feature of the book’s narrative structure is its use of vivid narrative vignettes.

Taft has a delightfully urbane but slightly wicked sense of humour. This is how he ‘pops the question’ to Ellen: ‘Will you dampen my bathmat?’

I loved reading about Ron Taft’s generation of Australian Jews: my father, Paul Freadman, his great friend Zelman Cowen, and many others. Taft takes us back to this ‘world’ with typically affectionate discernment. On this score as on many others, My World deserves a wide readership in and beyond the Melbourne Jewish community.

RICHARD FREADMAN, Emeritus Professor of English at La Trobe University and former Director of its Unit for Studies in Biography and Autobiography. Author of This Crazy Thing a Life: Australian Jewish Autobiography (2007).

BOOK REVIEW:

My World is available from the Lamm Jewish Library, 304 Hawthorn Rd, Caulfield South

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hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end. I’m not really sure about the last part of the statement (I’m not even sure that “gorgeous” is a sincere or worthy aspiration), but three years into my tenure as Senior Rabbi at TBI I can certainly affirm that change is both hard and, unfortunately, sometimes messy.

I recently sat down with the Board to look at what we have done over the last few years and found myself incredibly proud of the physical, cultural and programmatic changes that we have achieved.

Our renewed spaces, our bustling synagogue, our engaging family programs, our enhanced communication and our renewed commitment to give back to our community all help to affirm that we are well on the way to ensuring a future as bright and bold as our founders envisioned.

A significant part of our shared success has been the incredible support that Rabbi Ettlinger, Cantor Laloum and I receive from the amazing team in our

office, and the creative dynamism of our Jewish Life Fellows (JLF).

Regrettably, however, our last JLF, Charlie Kramer, recently accepted an opportunity in his native Southern California.

Over the last three years, as Community Relations Manager, Rachel Wundheiler improved our branding and our Kol Yisrael magazine. Rachel is moving on to greater opportunities within the Jewish community and will be missed.

In thanking both Charlie and Rachel and wishing them well for the future, it is important to acknowledge that their departures have provided us with both a challenge and an opportunity.

Together with the Executive, we completed a full review of our staffing needs and in that process reaffirmed our commitment to innovation, education and engagement. As a result we have been able to realign a number of duties and responsibilities while introducing new technologies to improve productivity. Ultimately this has allowed us to reduce the size of our operational team while investing

in two new positions to ensure that we continue to serve the growing and changing needs of our community.

To this end I am pleased that Tammy Cohen has settled into her new position as B’nei Mitzvah Coordinator, supporting the rapid and continued expansion of our B’nei Mitzvah program and ensuring that both students and families are supported throughout the process.

Having successfully used the JLF Program to seed experiential and educational change throughout our community, I am also pleased to announce the appointment of Max Einsohn as our new Education and Engagement Coordinator. Max will be arriving in the coming weeks and will not only be picking up where the fellows left off, but also rolling out a series of new engagement experiences and opportunities designed to strengthen our community and the bonds we share.

For a full list of staff and positions please see the inside cover of this magazine.

STAFFING UPDATE

WELCOME MAX EINSOHN EDUCATION AND ENGAGEMENT COORDINATORMax graduated from HUC-JIR in New York in May with a Masters of Jewish Education, and is excited to bring new ideas and energy to our community.

Max is an accomplished musician, songwriter and performer who has honed his teaching skills at innovative educational institutions such as Temple Israel of New York and Temple Emanu-El of Dallas. He also brings unique experiences including having worked with the Adventure Rabbi in Colorado and being part of ‘Raising the Bar,’ the dynamic B’nei Mitzvah initiative at the LabShul in New York.

Max is dedicated to social justice and community action, and looks forward to helping empower members and friends to stand up and act for causes they believe in.

In accepting the position at TBI, Max says that he is “committed to building strong relationships within the Australian Jewish community and looks forward to using music as a tool to build a community of learners, prayers and change-makers”.

We look forward to welcoming Max to our community.

BY RABBI GERSH LAZAROW

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UPDATEHaving survived a cold Melbourne winter, we can now say that nourish is truly established. Each week we regularly serve more than 25 people in Alma Park, with old and new faces enjoying the food and company each Monday from 6.15pm. Besides serving a hot meal, we also distribute bread, knitted beanies, gloves and blankets.

We could not continue this vital work feeding the disadvantaged in our community without the hard work and support of so many.

Thank you to our group of over 90 volunteers who show up week after week, regardless of the weather. Those of you who have made financial donations ensure that

we can serve tasty, nutritious meals and guarantee the viability of the program. With the weekly donation of artisan bread, Phillippa’s Bakery provides a wonderful accompaniment to a hearty meal.

ELLEN FRAJMAN NOURISH COORDINATOR

Fill a Mazon Bag to support nourish and the Father Bob Maguire Foundation

The Father Bob Maguire Foundation was established by the irrepressible Father Bob Maguire AM in 2003, one of the many community initiatives he has inspired to uphold the dignity and social rights of the masses.

The role of the Foundation is to realise Father Bob’s vision of ending homelessness, giving all kids a fair start in life and feeding those who aren’t guaranteed a meal.

TBI has partnered with the Father Bob Maguire Foundation to establish the nourish program to provide meals to the community each week in Alma Park.

Your Mazon Bag donation will be used to prepare meals for nourish and stock the food pantry at Father Bob’s Outreach Headquarters, where they hand out food hampers to the vulnerable and homeless.

SHOPPING LIST:

• Tinned food (tomatoes, kidney beans,

lentils, tuna, soup, chick peas, etc.)

• Dry pasta

• Bottled pasta sauce

• Brown rice

• Corn tortillas

• Cereal

• Sugar

• Instant coffee

• Tea• Milo

• Long-life milk

Mazon bags are available for collection

after Rosh HaShanah and should be returned

to TBI by Simchat Torah on 23 October.

FATHER BOB MAGUIRE

FOUNDATION

If you would like to be involved or make a tax-deductible donation, please contact [email protected]

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EDUCATIONAL PROGRAM AUGUST TO DECEMBER 2016

Hebrew Classes

ALEPH ISN’T TOUGH Ten-week beginner’s Hebrew course. The aim is to learn and recognise all letters, and have a basic understanding of Hebrew word structures and an elementary vocabulary of key prayer terms.

ALEPH ISN’T ENOUGH - INTERMEDIATE HEBREWNine-week course with the focus on building solid translation skills and acquiring key vocabulary and roots, while continuing to work towards reading proficiency.

These courses are run twice a year. Cost $180 per course. For the next intakes, please contact Dani Silver 9510 1488

On Tuesdays

INTRODUCTION TO JUDAISM 7.30PMIntroduction to Judaism is run by Progressive Judaism Victoria, and is a two-semester course covering Jewish literature, history, customs and Jewish life. The course is aimed at students with little to no formal learning in Jewish tradition who are interested in becoming Jewish by choice, or just wish to learn more about Judaism.

The course is hosted by TBI, and there are two intake points each year, in late January and late July.

PARASHAT HASHAVUA 7.30PMJoin one of the Rabbis to explore the Parashah of the week and its connection to the world we live in. No Hebrew or biblical knowledge required.

On Thursdays

TASTE OF JEWISH HISTORY 4, 11, 18, 25 August 7.30 – 9pm PRESENTER: Rabbi Gersh Lazarow

1. Yavneh and the Palestinian Talmud2. Babel and the Babylonian Talmud3. Crescent to the Golden Age of Spain4. Haskalah – The Age of Enlightenment

PREPARING FOR THE HIGH HOLY DAYS THROUGH ELUL1, 8, 15, 22 September 7.30 – 9pm PRESENTER: Cantor Michel Laloum

EVOLUTION OF GENDER IN RITUAL AND PRAYER3, 10, 17, 24 November 7.30 – 9pm PRESENTER: Rabbi Kim Ettlinger and Guests This course over four sessions will look at the roles of both men and women in the home, the synagogue and the community. We will look at how these roles have changed and potentially remained the same. In what ways have men and women challenged the status quo, challenged modernity and pushed the boundaries of home life and religious life within the synagogue and Jewish communal life?

Lunch ’n’ Learn 4th Saturday of every month

AUGUSTWANDERING PEOPLE? JEWS AND POLITICS IN 2016 PRESENTER: Nick Dyrenfurth

In the aftermath of the Australian federal election and the running of the American presidential race, join Dr Nick Dyrenfurth for a discussion of the politics of 2016. Nick will discuss the implications for Jewry in light of recent political events in Australia, the United States and Britain.

SEPTEMBER STORIES CAN FIX THE WORLD PRESENTER: Howard Goldenberg

Howard Goldenberg is a writer, doctor, endurance runner, author of five books, co-author of three children and grateful Saba of seven grandchildren. He is made of stories, and believes stories, together with memories and melodies, are the cords binding community, family, continuity.

Howard will read from his newest book, A Threefold Cord, a story of adventure, humour, love, loyalty and courage, in which three Australian kids encounter evil and great danger, and save themselves, and the world, through the intervention of an Aboriginal elder. The book is a tale for children of 8 to 12 and for all who know or love or ever were 8 to 12 years old.

NOVEMBER“ONCE UPON A TIME…” – HOW I WRITE MY STORIESPRESENTER: Uri Palti

Uri Palti was born close to the first third of the last century in Palestine, Israel, and came to Melbourne in 1975. He has been a broadcaster both in Australia and for the Voice of Israel, and a journalist and author for most of his life. Uri has published six books, with a new book nearly ready for print. He is the recipient of two of Australia Day Media Awards for his SBS Radio broadcasts, as well as B’nai B’rith and other awards.

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DROP IN AND CHAT / KNITTING CIRCLE

Wednesday 10 & 24 August, 14 & 28 September, 9 & 23 November, 14 December 10.30amJoin fellow seniors for schmoozing, word games and (optional) knitting in a very low-key, relaxed atmosphere. Entry $2, includes refreshments. Newcomers are always welcome.

TBI FRIENDSHIP CLUB

Wednesday 3 August, 7 September, 2 November, 7 December 11am Chat, listen to music and enjoy a meal with other seniors. $10 entry includes lunch at 12pm, entertainment and a raffle ticket.

LIVING WITH DEMENTIA SUPPORT GROUP

Thursday 8 September, 24 November 7.30pm A Jewish support group for family and carers of people with dementia. Information, helpful strategies and an opportunity to discuss any topics or questions.

MEN’S GROUP

3rd Sunday of the month 8pm This group studies texts and discusses social issues and Israel in a friendly and welcoming environment. Meetings are held in private homes. Contact Albert Bentata 9528 4242.

ROSH CHODESH WOMEN’S GROUP

Sunday 7 August, 4 September, 6 November, 4 December 7.30pm Led by Rabbi Kim Ettlinger. A warm invitation to all women to join to chat, learn, and celebrate Rosh Chodesh, the new moon. Call 9510 1488 for location.

TBI BOOK CLUB

Wednesday 3 August, 7 September, 5 October, 2 November, 7 December 7.30pm The TBI Book Club is a diverse group of people who love to read an eclectic choice of books and schmooze. Contact Con Skyllas [email protected] or 9510 1488.

RUACH COMMUNITY CHOIR

1st Shabbat of the month Friday 6.15pm and Saturday 10am Everyone is welcome, regardless of singing ability. Contact Cantor Michel Laloum 9510 1488.

TBI CHOIR

4th Shabbat of the month If you would like to express yourself vocally contact Cantor Michel Laloum 9510 1488.

GESHER SERVICE

2nd and 5th Saturdays of the month 10am An intimate service led by lay members.

TOT SHABBAT

3rd Saturday of the month 9.30amFor babies to five-year-olds and their families. Join us for a relaxed, interactive and fun celebration, with challah plaiting, songs and stories.

FAMILY SHABBAT

1st Friday of the month 5.30pm Activities 6.15pm Service Bake, make and celebrate Shabbat with your family. This hands-on Shabbat experience is perfect for primary-school-aged and pre- and post-b’nei mitzvah students and their families.

TBI COMMUNITY DINNER

1st Friday of the month 7.15pm Join us with your family and friends. Please bring a vegetarian dish to share.

TBI FILM CLUB

Sunday 21 August, 18 September, 20 November, 18 December 6.30pm entry for 7pm start

To join the TBI Film Club and receive alerts for upcoming films, contact Ginny Klooger [email protected] or 9510 1488. Free entry.

YOUNG TBI

Sunday 7 August 10am St Kilda Mums volunteering; Friday 9 September 7.30pm Shabbat Dinner; Thursday 20 October 7.30pm Sushi in the SukkahYoung TBI is a social group for those aged 25-40. It holds monthly events, including drinks at local bars, Shabbat dinners and special events. To keep up to date, join their Facebook group - Young TBI.

COMMUNITY EVENTS

For more information on events, please contact the TBI office 9510 1488

OFFSITE

FRIEDLANDER SYNAGOGUE AND CULTURAL CENTRE

MAIN SYNAGOGUE

SLOME HALL

ADMIN AREA

EVENT LOCATION KEY:

Supported by

Neil Lewis Cowen • Rosemary Cowen • Nathaniel Cowen • Joshua Cowen • Dana Davey • Julian Davey • Giselle Davey • Clinton Dean • Dora Guslitser • John Hand • Barbara Hand • Roman Korolik • MarinaKorolik • Benjamin Korolik • Isabella

Korolik • Tanya Krause • Jeremy Reuben Krause • Abigail Hannah Krause • Joel Aron Krause • Inna Lysy • Patrick Prunster • Aviv Samuel • Roelof Vogel • CatherineAnn Vogel • Julia Henrietta • Eliot Reuben Vogel • Anita Woods

WELCOME NEW MEMBERS

Welcome to our community. Please introduce yourself to a board member (those wearing a TBI badge). We want to make you feel at home.

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COMMUNITY CELEBRATIONSBinah Graduation

Drop In and Chat / Knitting CircleVolunteering at St Kilda Mums

nourish in new kitchen

Opposite page:TBI Tamid and Holy Cow Shavuot

Sacred Music ConcertPhotos courtesy of Peter Haskin, Joe Lewit and volunteer members of our community

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ANDREW ADES Husband of Francis, father of Robert, Leah and David

ROGER BANCROFT Father of Nicholas, Danielle and Georgina

ULA BOWDEN Wife of Barry

OTTAVIO CAVALLARO Husband of Ruth, father of Adina and Anthony

HEDY COHEN Wife of Ami, mother of Karen and Rebecca

MERVYN COHEN Husband of Leila, father of Michelle, Perry and Rodney, brother of Leon, father-in-law of Gil and Yetta, brother-in-law of Gaby

ANN DAVID Mother of Colin, Joe and Phil

WINSTON DAVIS Uncle of Jenny and Michael Schoenfeld and Mark and Debra Perlow

BIANCA ECKHAUS Wife of Daniel, mother of Poppy, daughter of David and Chana Neuhof, daughter-in-law of Barbara Jacob

HERTA GILBERT Mother of Ron, mother-in-law of Sue Fisher

YAPHA GREENFIELD Mother of Sue, Rhonda, Leon and Leo

PETER GRODECK Father of Anton, Damien and Kate

ANNA HENDEL Mother and mother-in-law of David, Irene and Eva

PHILIP HEYMAN Brother and brother-in-law of Ian and Lynette

RUTH INWALD Mother of Frank and Denise

SADY KATZ Mother of Frances Kaplonyi

ROSE KELLER Aunt of David, Nathan and Wally Black

ROBERT WALTER KINGSLEY Uncle of Phillipa Cooper and Binky Kingsley

MARGIT KORN Stepmother of Lynette and Michelle, stepmother-in-law of Jeffrey Meyer

LAZAR KRUM Husband of Diana, father of Reuben, Sam and Kiara, father-in-law of Ahmed

ADAM LUBLINER Husband of Teresa, father of Mark and Nicole

PAUL MARSHALL Husband of Stella, father of Ben and Nathan

DANIEL MARTON Son of John and Rochelle, brother of Joshua and Nicole

ETTA MAVER Mother of Ross, John and Peter

REGINA MATTE-BANK Mother of Gerard

JACK MENDLESON Husband of Myra, father of Judy, Barbara and Nicola

SUSIE MOSCOVITCH Wife of Leon, mother of Anna and Jackie

RUTH MOTE Mother of Dennis and Ron Liner

HARRY NATHAN Father of Ann and Ivor

MANUEL NEEDLEMAN Husband of Elizabeth, father of Gillian and Adam

HENRY ROGELBERG Husband of Alice, father of Vadim

BERTHA ROSE Wife of Richard, mother of Martyn

SAUL SAME Father of Harvey, Vivienne and David

SOLOMON SEGAL Husband of Eva, father of Tamara Mote, Alida Segal and Ilana Weizman

ALBERT SHVARTSMAN Husband of Maryna, father of Gabrielle and Mark

OSCAR SOKOLSKI Friend of TBI

ROSE STAR Daughter of Debra Star, granddaughter of Goldie and David Alexander

DIANA STRAUSS Wife of Alex Wolowski, mother of Daniel

LESIELI TAUELANGI Mother and mother-in-law of Tevita and Barbara Tauelangi

VERA VARKONYI Mother and mother-in-law of Gary and Vivien Lewis, grandmother of Gabrielle and Sabrina

ESTHER PHOEBE WEINSTOCK Wife of Abe, mother of Joan and Peter

TRUDE WIEDER Aunt of Raffi and Rachel Adler

GRETHA ZEELANDER Stepmother of Julia

TZVIA ZIMRING Wife of Mikki, mother of Yinon

BEREAVEMENTSFEBRUARY 2016 - JUNE 2016

Bet Olam Jewish Funerals has served the Victorian community for over 20 years. Our sensitivity and care are well known and our staff derive great satisfaction from this sacred work.

We invite applications from committed, Jewish women and men interested in training to join the salaried professional team, responding to bereaved families. Includes at least one weekend per month.

PART-TIME POSITION

For further information and application details please contact Rhonda Nirens on 9883 6237 or [email protected]

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Family Prayer Services

Tot Service (up to 5 years)

For young children and their families. Begin a lifelong love of our services and traditions with the Rabbi and song leader through music and activities in the Main Synagogue.

Family Service (Prep – Year 7)

In our warm, relaxed upstairs space join the rabbi and song leader for an interactive, fun, musical prayer experience. Traditions and prayers are explained, and parents and children are invited to play a meaningful part in the service.

Break Time

Crèche for preschool children over 18 months. Children in care of the childcare professionals must be signed in and out. Parents are encouraged to provide a nut-free lunch and must remain on TBI’s premises.

Break-out Lounge for adults and children to rest, read and relax in the Friedlander Synagogue. Activity packs provided for kids.

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Rosh HaShanah Tot Service*

9am

Rosh HaShanah Family Service*

10.30am

Crèche for preschoolers after Tot Service

12October

Yom Kippur Tot Service* 9am

Yom Kippur Family Service*

10.30am

Crèche for preschoolers after Tot Service

16 October Sukkah Build Up (families)

4pm

21 October Sukkah Sleep Out (yrs 6-8)

6pm

23 October Simchat Torah (families)

4pm

High Holy Day Family ActivitiesTBI’s High Holy Day program is packed full of musical,craft and learning activities for kids and their families.

*Guests must register attendance online and sign in on the day

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audio visual system

• Brand new fully-equipped catering kitchen

• Enclosed courtyard

• Classrooms for small groups

• Three halls for large groups

• Seating for up to 2000

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Stage your event at TBI

Contact: [email protected] or call 9510 1488

• corporate functions

• workshops

• meetings

• weddings

• b’nei mitzvah

• cocktails

• concerts

• parties