Stronger Relationships

Men’s Staff Retreat

Welcome

Exercise 1: Retreat Check In___________________________________ 1. Greatest personal accomplishment this past year?

2. One thing you’d like to learn in this session on strengthening relationships.

Background andResearch

POSITIVE ATTITUDE

Your Attitude is more important than your aptitude.

(“Hired and fired…”)

at·ti·tude ˈatiˌt(y)o͞od/ noun   1. a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior.

“But be doers of the word, and not hearers only…”

- James 1:22

pos·i·tive ˈpäzətiv/ noun  1. a good, affirmative, or constructive

quality or attribute..

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. - Philippians 4:8

What does it look like?What does it sound like?

1. Nonverbal Communication___________________________________

1. Emotional response determined nonverbally: * Albert Mehrabian Studies: Nonverbal 93% Vocal - 38% Face, Gestures, Body – 55%Verbal 7%

2. Most replication studies vary, but same results:Nonverbal 60%Verbal 40%

3. Face, voice, and body positioning most impact Face (eye contact, smile) Voice (easy pace, caring) Body (open, relaxed)

Exercise 2a Nonverbal Communication___________________________________

Pair Up: A & B How would people know you were a Christian if you could not speak?

Exercise 2b Nonverbal Communication___________________________________

Pair Up: A & B Talk back to backFace to face without talkingTalk face to face without eye contact Talk face to face with eye contactTalk without smiling / smilingTalk standing / sittingImitate voice of partner “B”

Meta-Communicate

2. Verbal Communication___________________________________

Language of Heaven: “Adds & Multiplies”Language of Hell: “Subtracts & Divides”

1. Acknowledge others:Thank you for…I appreciate your…I admire the way you…I remember the time you…You’ve changed the way I…You’re a Godly example of…

Exercise 3: Appreciating Others___________________________________Group Circle UpEach person will receive a statement. Select one of the following for each brother as he prepares to ask:

“May I receive my statement?”

Thank you for…I appreciate your…I admire the way you…I remember the time you…You’ve changed the way I…You’re a Godly example of…

2. Don’t say negative things about people/work Stick up for others during gossip“That doesn’t sound like the Jason I know…”“May I quote you as the source?”“Get thee behind me, Satan.”

3. Reframe negatives: Changing negative interpretations into positive interpretations:“Mark, another way of looking at this is…”

4. Asking for forgiveness: Admit, Apologize, Ask “I was wrong and I’m sorry. Would you forgive me?”

Exercise 4: Life Line Support ___________________________________

Pair Up: A & B Fill out life line handout.

A shares, B supports / increasesB shares, A supports / increases

Meta-Communicate

Exercise 5: Forgiveness ___________________________________

Asking for Forgiveness: AAA Technique

Admit (“I was wrong…”)Apologize (“I’m sorry…”)

Ask (“Would you forgive me?”)

Exercise 6: Dream House ___________________________________

Individual Surprise

Catalyst for Culture

POSITIVE ATTITUDE

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Stronger Relationships

Men’s Staff Retreat